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Boyfriend acts immature. -no time for me? -my love is too strong?
Hey Razhie, I am just a bit confused as to what to say or do. My boyfriend of a year and 4 months tends to make very vague plans to skype with me every morning in his emails (we're doing long distance).. and as a result, we end up skyping at 8:00 pm and untill 10, when I should be heading to bed, so I'm not dead tired the next day. In the meanwhile, while he's out, I do my stuff, but I have the urge to write him, call him and wonder where he's at. I supress all those feelings, but I can't stop thinking that it's weird he couldn't be bothered to email me once in a while about something funny he saw or how he thought of me or whatever.- and the fact that he's a boy, is a very bad excuse.
Anyways, and so today I subtly mentioned that maybe he should write a concise time when we'll skype in his morning message to me, but he said no, that that isn't possible. I asked why, considering he doesn't always enjoy hanging with his friends, so coming to me wouldn't be too much of a chore? Also, it's a bit hypocritical, considering that I had to ALWAYS tell him when I'll be home and when we can skype. So first he argued saying, no, he can't give me a concise and earlier skyping time. And now, he said that okay, he'll stay home and wait for me. He won't go out with his friends, he'll wait. Then when I'm home we can skype all day like I want. I told him not to be childish, that that's a very unhappy life to lead, being enslaved to me and my wish. And I mentioned that a compromise would be great.. like him meeting up during the day when I'm busy, but meeting me late afternoon-ish so it's not too late and enough time for us both to have done our business during the day and also, have enough time to talk. But he brushed it off saying NO, he wants to wait on me all day long. I feel like he's being immature. And I told him so, and said that I know what that is like, to wait around all day, and it isn't nice, that I don't want him to do that. ... but he's being stubborn. He insists that he's 'not' teaching me a 'lesson' by acting like my slave. hmmm.. what now?
And yes he loves me and yes he is faithful, just unfortunately, he tends to be very immature and even more unfortunately, he DOES not see it. Most of my friends tell me that when I am sad about what we fought about etc. but when I tell him so, he get's mad at me. eeeks! Also, to what I mentioned earlier, is it just me, or isn't it weird, that when he fights with me, my day just SUCKS and his is OKAY?!?! He can easily sleep and meet with friends and laugh. -he says he is different, but I feel like I DEADLY in love with him, and he just loves me.
What to do?!
Thank you for any help. I appreciate it. I'm kind of stuck now... breaking up is out of question, because I'm too weak, but I know if I hear it often enough, I'll be able to see that there is more out there for me. ... thank you everyone.
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