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I am a 29/f that loves to listen and try to help out. I have always been the one people go to for advice.

I will tell you how I feel about it. If you don't like my answer, I'm sorry. However, usually what I say is true, people just can't handle the truth.

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17/f
soo keep in mind this ALWAYS happens to me...

theres this boy, and when i first met him he was cool and stuff and i was with a bunch of friends and we were all crammed in the car. so i was in the back with 3 boys and he was one of them. he tried putting his arm around me and i took it off,and he was like awww rejected that hurts! and i heard he thought i was really cute. well now he's been going out with this girl since october and they say they are in "love" but i know they arent, they fight all the time and me and my friend had a big talk with him saying do you realize all this, you arent in a good relationship and he was like oh my god i thought i was the only one. but hes like i'll talk to her about it. i kinda have a crush on him, so i want him to break up with her cuz i dont like her at all, and that sounds mean but i know they're not gonna! its sucks..what do you think i should do about him? and im not the type to express my feelings ya knoww..so ya

The other advice is true, you didn't want him until you couldn't have him. Now, this may be a jealousy thing or a competition thing. You may feel rejected because he didn't continue to pursue you and went for someone else instead. I am not trying to be mean, but maybe you are seeing things in his relationship because you want it to be true. I think backing off would be a good idea, if he truly has feelings for you, then you could always give it a try after he has split with the other girl. I have always said, what you would do in his/her position? This, is usually a good indication to what is right and wrong. If you wouldn't want someone to take him away from you, then it's not fair to do the same to someone else. Does that make sense?

ok, so i have a problem and i know it. I dont think its huge, but im 14/f and i like looking at porn. i know i shouldnt and i dont understand why i do. i know there is will power, but one thing leads to another and there i am on a porn websight. Ive even tried cyber sex, i know it doesnt have anything to do with porn, but i still did it. I feel horrible for doing this. How do i stop? ive tried saying one look and then be done, but i have to keep looking. And i dont want to go to a doctor or my parents..
Anything will help! and thanks soo much.

ysg is right, you need to distract yourself with more productive hobbies. With that being said, you are in a time of your life, that sex is still exciting and embarrassing for you. Humans are curious by nature, so they seek knowledge. I feel that is what you are doing, curing your curiousity with knowledge. However, it comes to a point where you have to know when you are curious or addicted. I think you are verging on the aspect of addicted. You are not addicted yet. I would suggest to think, what are the consequences if I get caught, by like your parents. Let that be a deciding factor of why not to look anymore. When you get older, and still have this fetish, then seek guidance, but for now, just take yourself out of the situation.

ok so theres this boy and i liked him alott and he told me he liked me too, and he said it to me first so its not like i told him i liked him first and he just agreed because he felt bad. anyways, he told me his wish was to see me and to hook up with me before the winter break ended. and then a day or two later i found out he was giong out with someone. so i asked him what happened to him likeing me and he said "yeah, but she asked me out so i was just like alright" what am i supposed to do? i did, and still do like him a lot.. is there anyway i can find out if he likes me too still, or if he actually even likes his girlfriend. oh and also my friend got into a little fight w/ him after i found out he just got a gf and i think he might be mad at me

please helpp

I don't want to make you mad, however this boy is way to stupid to be in any kind of relationship. I mean come on, who goes and starts dating someone else when he is trying to pursue you? What an idiot. I would suggest if you still want to date him, even after his display of lack of character and respect to you, play hard to get. Ignore him every chance you get, start talking to another boy, and do things around him that do not involve him. Maybe, just maybe, this will be a wake up call for him and he will finally figure it out. When he does come up to you and says he wants you and shouldn't have started dating the other chick, ask, why couldn't you have just asked me out in the first place? We could have saved a lot of trouble.

im turnin 18 soon adn i was thinkin about getttin a butterfly tatoo on my lower back, its only gonna be about 4" wide and about 6" or 7" long adn i was anting color in it too bu thow much wuld a tatoo similar to this cost?

I got a butterfly tattoo on my left hip, it is about 1" x 1" and it cost me $65.00. I got mine Missouri when I got it. It took about 5 minutes to do. So, to answer your question, it depends on where you go to get it done. I would suggest making sure wherever you go has a good track record and they have no complaints with the Health Department. I hope this helps. Good Luck!!

AngelofMercy, I am grateful for your advice, but I been there done that. I did construction for over seven years for utility companies, and have 4 years of office and site supervisor experience. My wife is going to school in january to complete her nursing degree and I will follow in another skilled trade. I am on current call for 5 temp to hire services, and no luck. I even went down to general labor and am trying to use my state issued forklift liscense to find something. there's just nothing here. any ideas?? Thank you for helping me the way that u did, by the way. If you can come up with something I haven't thought of, let me know please.

My husband is in the same boat as you are right now. He has fallen on hard times too right now, he tries the best he can, which I am grateful for. I can't work right now due to illnesses, so I can't contribute to our finances. I tried about 2 months ago, but I couldn't follow through. I am so sorry that you are having problems. I only suggested the things I know my husband has tried doing and at some suceeded (sp?). I am not sure if I mentioned putting an ad in the local newspaper offering trade work. Sometimes, a person can get a lot of work this way, especially if it is detailed enough to understand the full capacity in which you can offer services. For instance, computer work, general handy man work, gardening work, anything that you know you can do and make money from. It's just a matter of being resourceful.

I definitely do not want to be to personal here, but I would suggest going to your local DHS office to see if they can help in your desperate time of need. They can offer medical, food stamps, baby formula, schooling help, job placement, monetary means (while going to school). There are all kinds of charitable locations that can help with the needs of your children. If you have a local church, maybe see if they can help out. Maybe, they may be able to help get your name around to do side work and give you some sort of help.

Another option, if your area has garage/yard sales still at this time of year, you can go and see if you can find real inexpensive items that you may think would sell good on e-bay. This may be something you could do for spare money or emergency money.

Also, if your wife has any spare time, she could offer to baby sit someone's children for them while they work, or have a night out. Right now, any extra income will help.

I wish nothing but the best of luck for you. Remember, once you hit bottom, the only place to go from there is up. If you need any more help, advice, or just someone to rant to, I'm here. Good Luck!!

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I went to this website to further investigate your problem and I will suggest this site to you as well. I didn't understand a lot of it, because I was not the one executing the operation to get the error. I hope this helps.

http://support.microsoft.com/kb/890843/en-us

Good Luck!

ok so i salw a comercial for somthing that was exthacly like webkinz but was called somthing diffrent what is it PLEASE HELP

I am not sure if this is the right answer, I haven't seen the commercial before. However, if you are looking for a clean site like webkinz, I would suggest Club Penguin. It is an awesome site that is like it. I hope this helps. Good Luck!!

Right, so the other week i was out with some friends and they introduced me to some guys.
Then, i started hanging round with two of them guys (C and J) who both have gfs.
I took a liking to J and today we were talking for a little bit but we were with other people so we werent alone.
Weve been speaking on msn and myspace quite abit.
And i really like him. But, he has a gf who he's madly in love with.
And i dont WANT to like him, i just do.. And i dont want to tell him i do because it'll be really awkward seeing as we havent known each that long.
I know if i get closer to him then i'll like him even more. But, i want to get closer to him, if that makes sense.

I just really dont know what to do.
Do i just leave it and see where it goes?

I am not trying to be mean, and if I come across as so, I apologize. I want you to do some soul searching. First, if you were dating someone, would you like it if another female were to come into his life and take him away from you? Most people wouldn't. Second, what if she is so deeply in love with him, you take him away, and she goes on a revenge streak?

So, here is what I suggest. Keep him as a friend, at least he is still in your life. Also, if he ever does end it with his girlfriend, you won't feel guilty that it was because of you and that gives you ample opportunity to go for it then. Also, if he would cheat on her with you, would he cheat on you with someone else?

These are the trials that test our morals and see whether or not we pass or fail. The good thing is, you came to someone for advice before acting on impulse which shows you are mature enough to handle this given situation. I wish you nothing but Luck, and patience. If it was meant to be, it will be. Good Luck!!

The guy from house. I forgot his name, but he's like HOUSE. The main guy, HUGH LAURY!!!! The one with the limp. He has a british accent in real life? That's what everyone has tld me. Like, how do you mask like an accent. Oh, and is it true that he really has a british accent?

They use speech trainers to mask an accent. It takes time practice and patients. It is just like training to use an accent as well. The guy's name is Hugh Laurie. He is from Oxford, England. So, yes I am assuming he would have a British accent.
If you are wanting to create yourself as having an accent, I would suggest finding the self help audios that allow you to learn a second language, like French, Spanish, or German. They give you the pronunciation for a given word using their form of dialect. It would also teach you how to use their accents. It may work. Good Luck!!

i've been getting the hiccups a lot lately and i'll have them for like twenty minutes and they're pretty bad and i can't seem to get rid of them no matter what. and it happens a lot. is this normal?

I went to look it up for you, and thought I would just give you a rundown of the information that I found out. LMAO Yeah, right! Who knew there was so much information about hiccups. Well, here is what I suggest. Go to this website and learn about hiccups, some of it is funny as hell, the rest may at least give you some insight.

http://www.emedicine.com/emerg/topic252.htm

Good Luck!!

ive been talking to this guy for about a month. supposedly he has these deep crazy feelings for me, but im just not feelin it. great guy but yeah you know. anyway hes being WAY clingy and im seriously thinking hes just trying to get to me so he can get him some. how should one go about explaining to this person that while hes cool, he needs to LAY OFF and if hes in hopes of getting some, might as well just go pick someone else, without using those words? =]. i need a way to just kind of ease into to it and say it... but without being.. awkward??

Sometimes, there is just no easy way to tell someone backoff without it being ackward. Do you and him have a common friend? If so, a suggestion could be to ask him/her to let him know that he is coming off a bit strong and should calm down. If you don't have someone to do this for you, I would tell him that you are just not wanting a relationship right now. Maybe, he'll get the hint and leave you alone. I am not sure if it will help, but at least then you get to express your feelings in a way that is not so cruel. Good Luck!!

update on your update: I would just straight out be firm and say look backoff, you obviously can't take a hint, so I will say it in plain English so you can understand, I don't want to be with you, get over it. If that doesn't work, go to the guidance counselor and tell her you are feeling harrassed by this individual and see what they can do for you. Good Luck!

okay so im looking for dresses online. i already went to websites like Macys, JCPennys, Sears, Boscovs, Deb, and WetSeal. does anybody know of any other stores/websites that have cute dresses to wear to dances? thnx in advance.

Here are the websites I found that may help.

1- http://www.dresses.com/
2- http://www.edressme.com/
3- http://www.dillards.com/
4- http://www.bloomingdales.com/
5- http://www.kohls.com/kohlsStore/homepage.jsp

Hopefully these will give you some added sites to find something. Good Luck!

I lost my good job in michigan, got married, and had a baby within the last year. I been bouncing from bad job to bad job, running out of money, and I am under so much stress it's taking years off of my life so badly I can feel it. How do I try to take it one step at a time, or at least look to other sources for help? I apply to about 120 jobs a month, but nobody is hiring, and I can't afford to move out of state for work, let alone take my wife, my newborn, and my 2 year old stepdaughter looking for work with me.....PLEASE HELP ME!

There may be a few options for you. First, look to see if you have a local temp to hire agency that will do the job searching for you. This may help eliminate undue stress. Secondly, if you don't mind doing construction work,or know how to do it, you could always drive around looking for companies that are building new houses. If you take your own tools, they may offer you work on the spot. Secondly, can you do computer work or any other specialty work? If so, you could put an ad in the newspaper offering your services. Another thing to consider, going to college. I am currently enrolled in University of Phoenix, and I take all my classes online through their Axia College division. This may help you get a college degree and land a better job. I hope I have helped. Good Luck.

ok well im 15 and i have had a lot of tragic things in my life. but i finally stoped dwelling on the past when i realized that there r other people who have it way worse.all the things that have happened to me just made me appreciate life more. i am a very strong, caring, and determined person. so my for my question.... well when i turn on the t.v. theres allways charitys going on for cancer and make a wish foundations and people all around the world who are barley surviving and how we as a generation are destoring the world...ect. well all these things touch my heart and i just wanna have the power to change the world for the good... but being that im not evan old enough to have a job i am unfortunitly unable of evan donating... well i finally came up with an idea... i want to creat a.. an organizatoin were people can donate to what ever charity that touches them the most.. were 100% of all money is donated to the cause. i want to make something that is huge that every one knows about. like websites and marathons and t.v. broadcasting. i know that it will take a great deal of time before it reaches that point but i am willing to dedicate my life to this. Two of my most favorite things about life is helping and persuading people to do good. so i figure why not put these together. im not wanting to do this for any profit except to see the world around me a better place. the only thing is i dont have a clue where to start. i was thinking of starting with a petion. no money just names at first. once i reach a certian amount i want to give it to someone who can help... but i dont know who. i'm stuck in a box and i need advise from someone with more knowledge. i dont care how many people who tell me i cant do it because if there is a will there is a way and i have so much determination that i am ready for what ever it takes. can you give me advice on how to get started? all i need is a nudge in the right direction. if you think there is somthing wrong can you give my some insight of how to fix it? love
?rhonda?

You are a very noble person for wanting to do good in the world. My suggestion for you would to be, start small. I know it doesn't seem like it would do much good, but as you grow and get more experience, then you will be able to do more. There are places all over that can use a good volunteer to help out with charitable orginazations. A local hospital could be looking for someone to come and talk to the lonely patients or read to them, or even play games. I would make sure to talk to the person in charge first so you don't interrupt some of the more sickly patients that can't be involved. There are also local Veteran's Hospitals that you could do the same. Another thing, there are hospices that could use help organizing or distributing items to the sick. Homeless shelters may need volunteer help as well. If you just think of all the places that are contributing to a good cause, you could always go and see if they need help. At least this way, you are getting your foot in the door and seeing where you can go from there. It would be a wonderful experience for you. Good Luck!

i received a call yesterday from this girl that i didnt know.She was trying to get my ex bf's number.I found out that i knew her bf but she wanted to know if i knew anybody that would know my ex's number.I told her that i dont give out my friends number to people i dont know.Then she asked me if i couldd ask her bf if he was planning on breaking up with her.At first i sad no because im not about to get into somebody else's relationship but then i made a deal with her.She wouldnt give out the name of the girl who gave her my number so i made a deal with her so that she would.i told her i would ask her bf if she told me who gave her my number because i really dont appreiate somebody going around giving out my number.well it ended up being a friend of mine that wasnt that close but was really a sweet girl.the girl begged me not to tell her she told me.My question is should i confront that girl for giving out my number because that really does piss me off.Also i still dont plan on asking her bf the questions she wanted me to but should i?I try my hardest to stay out of any kind of drama but is that a way that would put me into any kind of unwanted drama.I think it might be but i would like others opinions.thanx!!!

To elaborate more on Volley's response, if she asks why you didn't ask more, tell her you were only to ask if he was planning on breaking up with her, that was the deal that you two had made, and you didn't have to pursue it any further. I would also tell her, next time, she needs to deal with her own relationship woes, on her own. You don't like being involved with other peoples' business.

For the girl that gave your number out, I would tell her that you don't appreciate it that she gave your number, next time could she give you a call and ask for permission first.

I have no idea what i want to do in life. I have 3 years left in highschool and i want to do so many things and still live in florida. but i keep hearing my dad talk about how i wont be able to afford it. so i was thinking about moving to mexico or puerto rico. but the jobs i would want to be dont pay well in those places. For example i want to do something with kids. (daycare, nursing, etc) or I want to work for a magazine (editor, writer, etc). Also i've thought about working as a hotel manager. But i dont like the "benefits." Im not exactly sure what the question is i am asking. I just need a little advice on something im talking about. sorry if im confusing. but i am confused and im trying to explain this as easy es possible.

First, the thing you need to think about is what college you want to go too. Then, it seems like you have a common theme with the choices you do like, so I would start with going for your Associates in Communications. You have time to find out your ultimate dream job, heck, you may even decide to pursue more than one avenue and that's okay too. I would think about taking one of those test that will tell you what job would be best for you determined by the answers you give on the test. I took one in High School. Maybe, if you ask your Guidance Counsellor for more information on all the fields you are considering, the schools you are contemplating, and the job skill test, you will get a better understanding of what you want to do in life. Just remember you are still young and have a whole life of decisions you will have to make, the more you research your decisions the better you will feel about making the right decision. Good Luck!

what are some great songs that are really motivating and stuff like that my school is hosting a triatholon for the little kids and im incharge of picking the music we play so what do you guys think

There is this CD that is called stadium music. It's the type of music they play during half time during games like hockey and football. I found a copy at my local Wal-Mart. I hope this helps. Good Luck.

ok so for christmas i got this bare minerals starer kit thing and i really don't know how to put it on or like where on my face to put everything. Could you guys help me out? for any of you guys that have this makeup the kit came with 2 shades of the spf 15 the light and fairly light and then this warmth stuff, and glee, andddd mineral veil. THANKS : )

I would start with using either the light or fairly light first depending on your skin color. You apply it just like you would a regular powder (it's considered a powder foundation). After that, you would use the "warmth stuff" around your forehead, chin, cheeks, and nose, this will give you a sunkissed effect, again putting it on like powder. Do not get to carried away with that stuff, it could tend to make you look a fake dark color. Then the mineral veil, is just like your powder that you put on after you have applied all the make-up. It works the same way as the others. Good Luck.

where can i watch videos online besides youtube and google and veoh? peekvid never works i dontknow why ... i clck on what i wanna watch but it never shows!

i need to watch season ten of friends and i dont know where online no i cant rent it

please help me!!! im sooooo desperate

Here is a website that I found where you have numerous options to find online movie or tv watching. http://www.cucirca.com/2007/02/21/13-places-to-watch-tv-online-for-free/ I hope this helps.

14/f

At the moment my love life is really confusing me.

At the beginning of this month, me and my then-boyfriend of 3 and a half months, G, split up. I had just had enough of the relationship, and I know it sounds bad, but I'd just got bored of it to be honest. Ever since then he's been telling friends (we have the same friend group) how in love with me he is, and saying that he's falling more and more in love with me all the time. When we were dating we acted more like friends than lovers.

A while ago my best friend D was dating this guy - R. I'd always liked R a little bit, but when they split up (about a month before me and G split up), R told some people he liked me, which made me like him more. Towards the end of my relationship with G, me and R were flirting quite a lot. When me and G split up, R told me he liked me, but we both agreed we couldn't do anything about it, seeing as I'd just split up with G, and R's my best friend's ex.

Somehow, everyone found out, and now G and R pretty much hate each other.

At a recent party, me and R ended up making out and spending the night together, but somehow it didn't feel right. At this same party, one of my friends F (who is always messing people around when it comes to relationships) made a move on G, and rumours about the two of them started going round. It really upset me, and at that point, I knew I couldn't deny that I still have feelings for G.

Recently, R has told people he's in love with me, and he's been saying really intense things to me, I've tried telling him I don't want to be in a relationship, but he doesn't seem to understand.

G has also said that he's still in love with me, and I know nothing's going on between him and F, although she's told me she likes him.

Recently, me and G have been getting on better, and my feelings for him are getting stronger again. But he has said on his myspace and livejournal that he loves me and will never be with me again, so he's going to try and move on and get on with his life. And if he wants to move on and get on with his life, I don't want to get in the way of it by telling him I still have feelings for him. Although one of our friends told me he doesn't want to get over me, but he thinks he has to.

So at the moment, I'm talking to both R and G, and I'm worried that I'm starting to mess them about. I don't want to give them hope, and I don't know which of them I'd rather be with, or if I even want to be in a relationship at all. I think I need some time on my own, but I really miss G, and I do like R, the problem is; they're both obviously a lot more serious about me than I am about them. I'm starting to feel like I'm leading them on =/

I also have a friend, C, who asked me out recently (I said no) and told one of my friends he's in love with me, so I don't want to hurt him by suddenly being in a relationship.

I just want to know what you think and what you think I should do?

Thanks, xxx

Wow, what a pickle you are in. I would tell R, G, and C, that you are not wanting to be involved with anyone, until you are sure you are making the right decision. Take some time to think it out and find the right decision for yourself. If they move on in that time, then they weren't meant for you to begin with. The old saying, "if you love something let it go, if it comes back to you, then it was yours to begin with" comes to mind. If you do some soul searching you can figure out which one you like best, without any influence from all three of them, who knows, you may decide you don't really like any of them. If they are true friends of yours, they will respect your decision and give you room. Good Luck!

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