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Right, so the other week i was out with some friends and they introduced me to some guys.
Then, i started hanging round with two of them guys (C and J) who both have gfs.
I took a liking to J and today we were talking for a little bit but we were with other people so we werent alone.
Weve been speaking on msn and myspace quite abit.
And i really like him. But, he has a gf who he's madly in love with.
And i dont WANT to like him, i just do.. And i dont want to tell him i do because it'll be really awkward seeing as we havent known each that long.
I know if i get closer to him then i'll like him even more. But, i want to get closer to him, if that makes sense.
I just really dont know what to do.
Do i just leave it and see where it goes?
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stay around. if he needs a friend. you'll be there. if something happens with his girlfriend, you'll be there. and you WONT be the rebound. because he'll know you. but DONT let him use you. if he asks you out after his ex finds a new bf. then dont go out with him. if he asks you out right after him and his ex break up. dont go out with him.. dont get played. because if you do that. you'll be hurt even more. trust me... but what im trying to say is.. be there for him. you never know if he's gunna need a person to talk to.. hope i helped...
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well i think you should stick around. he might have taking aliking to you as well. i know you said he is in love with his gf but who knows maybe thier will be trouble in paradise. you should not push your self to not like him your feelings are your feelings. you know a friend of mine was in a position like yours. she found out that even though he had a gf he was liking her too. so you might wanna see where the wind takes you.
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Okay. First I want you to know that I have been in this position before. It was actually with my first love. I was single and he had a girlfriend; lets just use her first initial, B. She was a senior and he was a junior; I was little freshman, you do the math and see who will probably get him. They were pretty happy and always together and he seemed so happy. I liked him a lot but I didn't want to get inbetween them. It would have been selfish. So let me tell you this. Don't ruin anything. You seem like you can handle it. Leave it be and see where everything goes. You might actually get a chance, you never know. Don't think of your needs but others first. He might be happy where he is. Maybe he will realize he likes you and wants to give it a shot so just see where things go. It will take patience but I think you can do it =].
Good Luck, Corbie♪
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Hmm that's a toughy, I say you should maybe tell him how you feel, just to get it out there. I mean you're not asking him to break up with his girlfriend, are you? He'd be flattered I'm sure and besides what have you got to loose, because either way, being around him will feel awkward and that's okay, if you tell him you'll see if he's truly a good friend or not, if he's flattered and still wants to be friends than that's great, but if he's weirded out by the whole situation than he's not that great of a friend. Because I know for a fact that after I told one of my friends that I really liked him, it only made our friendship stronger, even if he didn't share the same feelings for me, he respected me for having told him the truth.
Always here,
<Guidance Girl>
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I am not trying to be mean, and if I come across as so, I apologize. I want you to do some soul searching. First, if you were dating someone, would you like it if another female were to come into his life and take him away from you? Most people wouldn't. Second, what if she is so deeply in love with him, you take him away, and she goes on a revenge streak?
So, here is what I suggest. Keep him as a friend, at least he is still in your life. Also, if he ever does end it with his girlfriend, you won't feel guilty that it was because of you and that gives you ample opportunity to go for it then. Also, if he would cheat on her with you, would he cheat on you with someone else?
These are the trials that test our morals and see whether or not we pass or fail. The good thing is, you came to someone for advice before acting on impulse which shows you are mature enough to handle this given situation. I wish you nothing but Luck, and patience. If it was meant to be, it will be. Good Luck!!
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