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ive dug myself a hole, now i dont know what to do
ive been talking to this guy for about a month. supposedly he has these deep crazy feelings for me, but im just not feelin it. great guy but yeah you know. anyway hes being WAY clingy and im seriously thinking hes just trying to get to me so he can get him some. how should one go about explaining to this person that while hes cool, he needs to LAY OFF and if hes in hopes of getting some, might as well just go pick someone else, without using those words? =]. i need a way to just kind of ease into to it and say it... but without being.. awkward??
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i think the best thing to do is be straight. dont hide. just tell him the truth. if he loves u he'll lay off. i know the feeling so i'd assume u take the advice
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well since he just aint listenin to ur polite explanations youre gonna have to be mean about it adn like totally cut him off if he stilldont understand that you aitn wantin a relationship wiht him.
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Sometimes, there is just no easy way to tell someone backoff without it being ackward. Do you and him have a common friend? If so, a suggestion could be to ask him/her to let him know that he is coming off a bit strong and should calm down. If you don't have someone to do this for you, I would tell him that you are just not wanting a relationship right now. Maybe, he'll get the hint and leave you alone. I am not sure if it will help, but at least then you get to express your feelings in a way that is not so cruel. Good Luck!!
update on your update: I would just straight out be firm and say look backoff, you obviously can't take a hint, so I will say it in plain English so you can understand, I don't want to be with you, get over it. If that doesn't work, go to the guidance counselor and tell her you are feeling harrassed by this individual and see what they can do for you. Good Luck!
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