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Hi. A few days back a man sent me a question in my inbox. He called himself, "Kissing the Bullet Goodbye". It was a rather long question, and I really didn't want to answer it, considering I didn't know enough about the issues at hand to give a correct answer/advice. I told him to send his question to you considering you are a more experienced advice giver. In his feedback, he said he did and I was just wondering if you got the question. I've been a bit worried about him, and was somewhat afraid about what was going on. The question is here in case you need to be refreshed on what question i'm talking about:
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Thanks, and please let me know what's going on.
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Hi stillbreaking
I did answer him as best I could. It didn't really sound as if he wanted help to be honest. If he is unwilling to get help from a doctor I wonder what will happen to him.
The only thing I know is that he didn't respond to my advice at all. Didn't even rate it. Hopefully he is seeking help and that is why we haven't heard anything. He has not submitted any questions since then. He has not answered any. I really hate that.
I will ask DN what he thinks about us Emailing him
and see if he answers. I doubt he will but it is worth a shot maybe. If I hear ANYTHING, I will sure let you know. :)
I added link to my answer in case you are interested.
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=454802
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Iam 15 and i wantto have sex with my boyfiend but i am scared and i have stretchmarks, what should i do ? i am afriad of what he will think (link)
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Just be sure you read all you can on birth control and disease and all that good stuff. Stretch marks are just a part of growing and nothing to worry about. He probably has a few himself. He probably won't even notice. :)
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I am almost 24. My husband is 31. We were married just under 18 months ago, and we haven't had sex in that time. Not just sex.... We haven't been intimate at ALL. He will still hug and kiss me, but it's like he just isn't attracted to me. He swears up and down that it's not that, and that his equipment is "broken".
Problem is, he doesn't seem to have any problem going to adult sites.... he denies it, but I've seen his internet history, and I know he's INTENTIONALLY going to these sites. I've walked in on him before.
What can I do? I want to be intimate with him, but whenever I try to approach him, I get pushed away. I'm beginning to feel like a roommate and not a wife, and my friends are wondering how I've stayed faithful. How do you spice up your marriage when your husband won't even get STARTED? (link)
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My guess is he either has a medical condition keeping his equipment from working or he has a mental problem and porn is the only way for him.
Either way you need to insist he see a doctor if he wants to continue being married to you. You may love
him and he you but sex is an important part of marriage. It isn't the ONLY thing by a long shot, but you can't be expected to live life like that.
I honestly don't think there is anything you can do to spice it up. It isn't you it is him. His behavior is not at all normal. Make him get help, or find someone else. Life is to short. :)
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I know this isn't the right catagory but its the only one I could think of.
So anyway im a 14/f,
I masturbate every now and then, and I've looked at porn once or twice. Well my question is that if I get turned on by girls who doing sexual things with eachother does that make me a lesbian or bi or something? I have crushes on guys and I have a boyfriend and I've never had feelings for a girl, but I get turned on by girls doing stuff like that. Is this normal? Thank you so much for the help! (link)
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You are normal. You have hormones galore and any kind of sex gets you wound up! You are just a normal teen and not odd at all. :)
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well i need some help. im 14 and may be pregnate bc of the stupid pull out method. anyways i need some help on how to tell my parents. (link)
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Can you get a home pregnancy test? If so then take one of those and be sure before you say anything. You may just be late or skipping for some reason.
If you can't afford it, or you already know, just tell your mom you think you might be pregnant. Let her tell dad.
I know you are scared. I had to do it myself and the best way is just tell her quickly and be done with it. Hopefully she will be like my mom was and won't take it near as badly as you imagine she will.
Good luck to you and let me know if I can help with anything else. Get it over with and you will feel much better just getting it out. :)
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I've liked my best friend for 2 years. I accually liked her before I was friends with her and then we became really good friends (I'm a 14 year old guy and she's a 14 year old girl). So anyway she knows that I liked her in the past but she thinks I'm over it. The problem is that I'm not. I liked her for a year and then in the summer we didn't talk everyday like we used to. She started to like me but I was out of state and couldn't see her. When I came back for the new school year, she had a new boyfriend who was older than her. I didn't want her to do anything with him because I would be very jealous. She did do something with him (she went to 3) and her other friend told me. I was very sad but then she told me that she didnt want to do it and that she was pressured so I felt better. The problem is that she has a new boyfriend who is in our grade. But he has gone all the way. My friend thinks it's disgusting to do it at 14 but she goes to alot of house parties and she might drink something and not have good judgement. She's been my best friend for two years and I think I love her but the only time she liked me was at a time where I couldnt see her! I tried to get over her and just try to be friends with her but I can't do it. Everytime I come close to getting over her, I start liking her again! Time can't fix this because I see her everyday and she's my best friend. What should I do. (link)
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I can understand your worry even though she seems to
have a pretty good head on her shoulders. Keep encouraging her to use her head and, if you attend any of those parties keep an eye on what she gets up to while there.
It may take her a little while to realize that the best guy in the world to date is the one who is your friend. Your best friend. These are the guys you want to keep. Don't let it get you down that she is dating other guys right now. You guys are only 14. I know you get sick of hearing that but when she wants to settle down to a long term commitment...you may be THAT guy. If that is true then you may be waiting a while.
In the mean time you shouldn't just sit and wait.
Find a nice girl to go places with until she sees what she has right under her nose. As a matter of fact, I wouldn't be surprised if she didn't get a little jealous.
Be good too her though. Treat her special. Pretty soon she may just see that your pretty special.
Good luck! :)
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hey y'all, ive been downoading ALOT lately, and i have around 2100 song, and 12 movies, and a bunch of grey's anatomy episodes + a bunch of pictures, noe my computer is running pretty slow and im afraid it will crash soon or something, so is there any smart waysto store all thes things so they take less space or something??
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If I had to venture a guess I'd say you need to get the movies and TV shows moved to a disc and then removed from your computer. I don't know how much space the songs take, I doubt they are a big problem. The pictures could be moved to disc also.
If you are using windows XP just go to my pictures...or anywhere else you have things stored.
Right click on the folder and on the right side of
your screen there will be a "copy to cd" choice.
Easy as pie. You can watch them anytime and you have free space on your computer.
When you are done run your disc cleanup and defragment your drive. Found under "start", "all programs", accessories, system tools. :)
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Okay.
So, I've realized I have a fishy smell "down there"
What caused it?
How can I get rid of it?
Um...like you can get rid of it right? Its not gonna smell like this forever??
PLEASE HELP! I'm worried.
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You can't get rid of it. It is your natural smell and it is here to stay. Stop worrying about it, every girl you know has it and I'll bet you don't even notice it. Yours is the same to others. :)
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What are the chances of being pregnant but still having your normal menstrual cycle? (link)
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You wouldn't have a "regular period". It is possible you might have some small amount of bleeding, like a very light period the first month but even that isn't real common. :)
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I really like this friend, and i'm sure he knows. We are both in relationships. He kissed me one day(at a party) and we haven't seen each other since. We still chat sometimes by emails, but never talked about why he kissed me that night.
I'm going to see him in couple days for a mutul friend's event, and I know he will ignore me(from how I understand/know him), and then I know i will fell so upset about it. HOWEVER, I really want to see him. What should I do to make myself feel better if he ignore me? (link)
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I don't know why he acts like nothing happened. Maybe he is embarrassed for some reason. Its hard to say.
I don't think you need be ignored though. Why let him? Just go right over to him and start talking as if nothing happened. See how he reacts. Maybe he thought you didn't like the kiss or something. :)
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my b/f and i had "sex" about two weeks ago but he pulled out before he 'went off'. i was supposed to get my period on sunday or monday of this week. could i be preg?
i sure as hell hope not. :\
thank you,
lazy_one (link)
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It is possible. I wouldn't panic yet though. Give it another week and if you don't get your period get a home test. :)
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im not trying to sound disgusting but i really need some advice..
for several weeks or so, maybe a month, sometimes it hurts when i got #2. if hurts painfully, like-- i dont know how to explain it! but when im done, i see that i bled! and the blood isnt coming from my vagina, im not on my period. is there a possibilty i ripped myself? (link)
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It is possible you have a hemorrhoid.
http://www.answers.com/topic/hemorrhoid
They can be painful and they can also bleed. Most of the time they will heal on their own in about a week. If they get very painful though, see your doctor.
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This may take awhile but you have to know the detail to get it.One of me bestfriends[jessica] went out with this kid named jon.She went out with him for about 5 months and they broke up. A day after they broke up jon got a new girlfriend. Him and my bestfriend still had a little spark,but not much.He went to her house and they kissed and made out, while he was going out with his new girlfriend.So one night they were having a fight,and my bestfriend got so mad that she threatened him to tell his new girlfriend that he cheated on her, and she told her. When jon found out he was pretty pissed,he made almost everyone she was friends with against her.He use to 'prank phone call' her, with things saying that hes going to cut her throut and things like that. Now its been about 5 months since they broke up and hes still prank phone calling her. Its gotten so bad that whenever the call comes on private shes afraid of answering her phone. For example one night he called her 26 times in a half hour. He hasnt called in awhile since then.But just recently she went out with this kid. They went out for 2 weeks, just before he broke up with her a new girl came into the picture.The new girl who came into the picture and ruined their relationship,and that wasnt helping that she isnt liked by my group of friends because of reasons, and that she is one of jessicas enimies.Now its been about 3 weeks since her ex and enemy is going out,and jon has been calling her again,but this time I think its really getting to her. He stille threatens her and tells her how ugly she is, but he only does it in prank phone call and not in person/to her face. Her parents didnt know they were going out so she cant really tell them, so what im asking is, what can we do to make him stop? He just started calling again,I think its because her recent ex is going out with jons bestfriend...
In my opinion fighting physical will stop him, but i think its just me thinking that and no one else.I appreciate you reading this. (link)
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This works. Used it once myself. :)
Tell her to get a really loud whistle. When he calls blow that thing into the phone. You know how much that hurts to have it blowed right in the ear? Ouch.
Give it a couple of times and he will stop.
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okay,
big mistake, i know.
im pregnant, i have been for 72 days.
i took extacey.
just once.
is my unborn baby going to die?
i didnt know that could happen, my friends told me it could, and if so is there anyway to save it?
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It won't die. It may cause it to have some kind of birth defect however. It is probably something you need to let your doctor know about. Since it was only one time, hopefully you will be lucky and all will be well. Just don't do it again, of course. Drinking can cause birth defects as well. Be careful. :)
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Everyone tells me that I'm not fat but I feel like I am...I'm between 5'2 and 5'3 and I'm 110 pounds. Is this overweight? My mom says that I'm really not fat and that I see a distorted image of myself. But does anyone know of average weights for someone of my height? Thanks, all answers are appreciated! (link)
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Average weight for someone of your height is 120 lbs. So mom is right, you are far from being fat. :)
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13/m ok im wondering, for your first gf would you want somebody you really care about. or wuld you want someone who you like just not at that high of a level just to see what its like first so you dont mess up with the one you really really care about, but first letting her know. for the record im not some kind of player that wants alot of girls just to have them. (link)
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I think all your relationships should be with someone you care for. It might not last forever as
far as dating goes, but you might make a long time friend. :)
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i don't want to hear any more complaints. how can i just convince my mother that he's a great guy???????????????? (link)
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Well you can't convince her. She needs to discover it for herself. Best way to do that is get them together so he can make a good impression. Why not have him over for dinner some evening and hang around so mom can get to know him.
If she doesn't want to do that, she has no reason to complain about him. She has to give him a chance before she can do that. :)
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Well lets see.. where do i start.. k, i am 14. birthday is may 16... and my boyfriend just turned 17 and his birthday is sept. 4... when he turns 18 i will be 15... is it illegal even if both our parents are fine with it and stuff?? and as long as we arent having sex? yeah i know my parents or someone could get a restraining order... but if my parents were cool with it and so were his...?? you get what im trying to ask?
well yeah i know i have a ways to worry about it because he just turned 17 about 2 months ago.
please give me some info. (link)
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If your parents are OK with it, if there is no sex,
then you are good to go. Dating isn't the problem
having sex with a minor is. I don't think I would worry to much about it. You will be fine. :)
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I was always against abortion. I am 16 years old and pregnant. I have a boyfriend for 5 monghs now and we never had sex. The problem is that on a night out with a friend of mine "girl" I got raped. Somebody must have sleeped me that ruffy cause I do not remember anything and woke up the next day feeling like my head is going to explode. That happen over 45 days ago.
My parents now, we told them its my boyfriends and it is my fault cuase my parents have been through a lot and I really dont want them to know. I consider myself mature enough to battle with my own problems and mistakes. I consider it to be my fault since I was not carefull enough. Plus, them knowing would change a lot.
I definately do not want to keep that baby, I definately am not ready to become a mother especially on such an occasion and already too many people know. My parents want me to keep it even though we are not wealthy at all.
I know that after 3 months you can now longer have an abortion so I am running out of time. How do I convince my parents to let me do it? And...if they dont allow me to, I ll do it myself. What could change then? How will I be able to make them, accept my choice. My boyfriend has been really understanding with the hole situation and really helpfull. He is the one willing to give the money for such an...act.
I am ready to do anything it takes not to have that baby, If I have to punch myself in the stomach, I ll do it.
People from my church also know. They will never take me back after such a thing. My boyfriend sais he could move far away with me were we will work and go to school at the same time. (link)
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First of all what happened to you is NOT your fault.
A crime was committed against you. A couple of crimes. Your drink was spiked and you were raped.
NEVER believe that anything that happened was your fault. I think you need to tell the truth so that people will be more understanding of your situation.
I don't know that you can talk your parents into allowing an abortion. The child is half yours and their grandchild. Knowing the truth of the situation could possibly help.
Please don't do anything stupid regardless. It isn't the babies fault any more than it is yours.
And the baby is more yours than the guy who hurts yous.
Good luck with it all. Tell mom and dad the truth.
That may help them at least to understand your feelings on things. :)
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im 16, and my boyfriend is weird lol. ive been thinkin about gettin teal or navy blue streaks on the kinda underneath layers in my [blonde] hair for the past year or so, and i think i may do it [semi-permanent cuz my mom wont let me get permanent, ha]. well, his friend has a pic on her myspace of her when she put hot pink streaks all over in her hair, and he left a comment on it sayin somethin about its so awesome or so pimp or somethin like that and she should do it again. then his ex has a pic on her myspace where she temporarily colored her bangs and stuff pink.. and again he commented about how it was so badass or w/e. but when i mention that with my hair hes like just like "uhh.. ok??" like its weird, or else he'll just be like "whatever. its your hair do what you want". i wish he'd give me more of a reaction about what he'd think.. since he does with his friend and his ex... whats up with this ? (link)
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It could be one of two things. Most guys just aren't in to hair styles and all the other things us girls like. That could be a reason. He isn't against it but its just not a big deal to him.
He may also think you are trying to be like his friend. He may find that a little strange.
I think it is probably the first thing though.
My husband is 48 and he is still weird. I think its a guy thing. :)
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