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Marriage without sex?
I am almost 24. My husband is 31. We were married just under 18 months ago, and we haven't had sex in that time. Not just sex.... We haven't been intimate at ALL. He will still hug and kiss me, but it's like he just isn't attracted to me. He swears up and down that it's not that, and that his equipment is "broken".
Problem is, he doesn't seem to have any problem going to adult sites.... he denies it, but I've seen his internet history, and I know he's INTENTIONALLY going to these sites. I've walked in on him before.
What can I do? I want to be intimate with him, but whenever I try to approach him, I get pushed away. I'm beginning to feel like a roommate and not a wife, and my friends are wondering how I've stayed faithful. How do you spice up your marriage when your husband won't even get STARTED?
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counseling, and fast. I can't believe you've made it this long! If you want your marriage to be anything it's going to take some kind of professional help, sorry to say it, but there's something your husband isn't telling you and if won't open up he needs to talk to someone who can help with that.
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he doesn't sound very healthy.
i agree with the other person's advice, just make him get help. i know it may be hard for you to do, but seriously. if he really wants to be intimate, he'll make this effort.
its not your fault, it's his.
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My guess is he either has a medical condition keeping his equipment from working or he has a mental problem and porn is the only way for him.
Either way you need to insist he see a doctor if he wants to continue being married to you. You may love
him and he you but sex is an important part of marriage. It isn't the ONLY thing by a long shot, but you can't be expected to live life like that.
I honestly don't think there is anything you can do to spice it up. It isn't you it is him. His behavior is not at all normal. Make him get help, or find someone else. Life is to short. :)
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