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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

advice

for the past 5 onths i've been dating his great guy named kyle. He gives me everything a girl would want, great gifts, many compliments, my family loves him, he drives me every where, takes me out to nice places, like everything.

but last summer before i even met kyle i really like another guy named chris, one night chris and i ended up ahveing sex and since then i've always had a little thing for him. chris and i stopped talking for a few months then before i was dating kyle he just started talking to me again. i was thrilled.

but anyways after kyle and i had been dating for 3 months i ended up cheating on him by kissing chris. he eventaully found out and was furious. i told him i was sorry and had no feeling left for chirs, but it was a lie.

now kyles 4 hours away from home working for 4 weeks and only is back on the weekends. i ended up heating on him again twice with kris recently.

i do love kyle but chris just gives me an amazing feeling that i don't get with kyle anymore. chris and i decided we'll keep seeing eachother.

so my question is what should i do about this, because i reallly really like chris and love the feeling he gives me but i love kyle, and he's done so much for me.

The reason why you can't have two lovers is because it's deceiving & unfair to the person you're actually with. Honestly, I hope that Kyle finds out again about what you've been doing behind his back & I hope he leaves you. He deserves so much better & it's definitely not you. This kid loves you & you're ruining everything by screwing around with someone else.


Go with Chris, cause you don't deserve Kyle at all.

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Well I am a 17 year old female and have never really done anything with a guy.. not even kissed


well i was laying down with a "friend" watching a movie today and he started fingering me.. how do i react? i just kinda layed there and put my hand on top of his

Should i do anything back? I am comfortable with whatever but tonight was the first night we were more than just friends and my parents were upstairs.
what should i do?

It's all up to you. You can either lay there while he fingers you, or kiss him. Maybe hold his hand or something. I'm pretty sure whatever you're up for, he probably won't mind it.

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i have a pair of pin-stripe pants (like the fancier ones) but they aren't full length, they cut off at my knee.

what kind of shirt would look good with it?

please don't tell me to just go through my wardrobe trying things on- i've tried i'm looking at buying.

Maybe like a cute tank top with lace at the bottom. Make sure it's white or some color that'll go well with your pants.

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i want to cut my bangs. My side swept bangs are getting long and i want to trim them or whatever.I dont know where to start cutting and where to end. im sure other people here have cut their own, so help?

I cut my own bangs all the time, and just did it recently so that I could pin them back & so they wouldn't look lopsided when they were pinned back [in the humpy thing].


Anyways, make sure your hair is wet. You never wanna cut your hair when it's dry because you might be missing some pieces & have to go back. That can cause you to make them unevened & it'll be harder to do things with them. Not only that, but they'll look horrible.


Make sure to cut them at an angle. That way you get the side look you're aiming for & it'll turn out right. When you cut them, use your pointer & your middle finger to line it up where you're going to cut them & then snip them off. You control how short or how long you want them. Just take your time because if you rush they might come out crappy. Good luck.

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im in 8th grade right now, but next year ill be in highschool, and i was just wondering how big of a deal is it, to have sex? like its already starting to happen this year. and i keep getting offers, but im kinda like against it. would i be made fun of if i dont?

It's possible that people will make fun of you. But it's also possible that they won't. Some people are more mature than others & some are just plain stupid.


If people do make fun of you, the most they can say is that you're prude or scared of doing things like that. Prude is when you're not willing to do things like that with someone. [Just in case you didn't know what it was]. If they do make fun of you though, just tell them to fuck themselves. Honestly, you're a good kid by telling people NO and that you're not ready. Don't do anything you don't wanna do, okay? The only thing you need to do is just tell people no, don't do things you don't want to, and stick to what you believe in.

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does "whore" and "hoe" mean the same thing? like, isn't "hoe" a shortened form of "whore?

Yeah, they're basically the same thing.

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kayso i know this question has been asked before but hey watever. I wanna get on myspace at school. what are some websites i can go to thatll let me do that???

My friend gave me one about a week or two ago that was pretty much amazing.


www.pretty-inside.org


It works pretty well but the only bad thing about it is that you can't leave comments [any type] or post bulletins.

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I dated this guy for a month.
He's a nice guy, but have bad temper. There're so much differences between us. HOwever, we also have the same option on the overall view of life. We fighted a lot (2 out of 3 times when we went out)considered the period of time we dated.

Now, he doesn't talk to me at all. No emails, no txt, no calls. I know we couldn't work out as couple, but I'd like still be friend, but he obviously doesn't want to...what do I do?

Ignore him. He obviously doesn't wanna be your friend so why should you put in the effort? Fuck him.

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okay,i'm a female and i'm 14 years old and i'm a muslim. I did something really really wrong, and i don't have a clue why i did it, but i just did. Last year, i was in this school where i used to flirt with guys and allow them to touch me and stuff , just to gain popularity. But soon, my mom found out and she made me go to this girl's only school. And there, somehow i thought that to make friends i should like make stories up to win their sympathy and have them beside me all the time. So i told practically half the school that i had sex so many times before, and that i had once even become pregnant and had an abortion, and that i still do all that shit. I even stole one of my best freind's boyfriends and used to have sex conversations with him on the phone(but that one is for real), But then i felt guilty and told her what i did with her boyfreind, and so now she hates me and so does everyone else. And everyone just thinks of me as a bitch. But the thing is that i feel so disgusted of myself and all that i faked and made up. And i am dying to tell all those who i lied to the truth. But then they'd just see me as a twisted freak who needs medical help, and i honestly think i do need help. I have no idea what to do. I am sick of all the shit and trouble and lying to my parents and people who could have been really good freinds to me. And i keep thinking about all this, but the only solution i come up with is to lock myself up at home where i'd be away from everyone and everything, because i don't trust myself anymore, and i keep getting all those fucked up thoughts, and i masterbute continuously and date any boy to talk about sex with him and to see his penis and touch it because that turns me on. Oh my god!!!! i am just so fucked up and i have no idea what the fuck am i to do. but i'm seriously considering telling all those people i lied to that i never really did all that shit i said and faked.

So you made a mistake or two? Everyone fucks up. It's a way of life & the only thing you can do -- accept it & learn from it. Forgive yourself & others but never forget. Mistakes are mistakes & you shouldn't let them get you down. EVERYONE makes them, it's alright! So don't discourage yourself.


What you need to do however; is tell everyone the truth. Tell your parents the truth. Tell your old friends the truth, and tell them how sorry you are. If they don't wanna accept your apology or become your friends again, then you need to accept it & move on. You cannot make them be your friend & you cannot make them forgive you. Just give them a sincere apology, and respect & things should be fine.


You don't need to lock yourself at home -- you just need to think before you speak. I mean, you obviously have been. But think of the truth, think of the positive! Don't try to make up stories to make yourself seem cooler because when people find out -- you're not so cool. Just be honest with everyone -- including yourself. Learn from your mistakes & accept the things you've done. There's nothing more you can do.

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14/f
My mom recently got divorced like 2 years ago. She's been dating other men recently and I really haven't had any problems with it...but suddenly she's been dating this one guy she's really interested in (lets call this guy Joe).
I actually like Joe and I don't have a problem with him. But I'm starting to get jealous of the time my mom is spending with him. My mom is always very busy with schoolwork and "paying bills" she says, so she doesn't have a lot of time to do things with me. Now she's with Joe a lot...he comes over a lot...she's on the phone with him a lot...and it upsets me she always tells me she's busy yet she has so much time to be with him. Not only that, but the time my mom and I ARE together, she's in a bad mood.
So I thought the only thing i could do was talk to her about it. I really didn't want to, because I know this man makes my mom happy and I want her to be happy, and I was scared she'd stop seeing him if i told her. But it was bothering me so much, so i talked to her...and she didn't take it so well. She said I was being unreasonable. But she also said she's going to stop seeing him if I really feel this way, and I didn't want that to happen! So now, she's going to dump him because of me even though i begged her not to. I literally told her i would get over it and it's okay, but she simply wouldn't listen and now she's not seeing him anymore. And I feel AWFUL!
All i wanted was for her to spend more time with me. But she thinks she already does, so i'm assuming in her opinion she thinks doing things once a month with me is enough.
So now I don't know what to do...I feel so bad, because this guy she's seeing is a nice guy, and he shouldn't be dumped. And my mom deserves him and deserves to be happy. Now she's all depressed and even moody-er than ever...she was so happy. And I screwed it all up. What should I do???

In a way, you shouldn't feel bad. Your mom was spending no time with you whatsoever because she was always busy doing other things or spending her time with Joe. You're her daughter, you're always going to be there. Joe isn't. I'm trying not to say you're more important, but you technically are. I mean, you're always going to be her daughter & Joe isn't always going to be her boyfriend. Things happen.


Anyways, it seems like you have to have another talk with your mom. Tell her that you didn't mean for her to break up with Joe; you just thought you guys should spend a little bit more time with her. Tell her you want her to be happy & that she deserves happiness & if Joe makes her happy then she should be with him. Maybe see if you, your mom & Joe can all hang out together? That way, your mom can spend time with you & Joe at the same time & you can spend time with your mom. If she still doesn't bother to give him a chance, then I would be adult & take matters into your own hands & call Joe & explain things.

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Hey. I'm 13/f and my bestfriend is 41/f. The other day, I went uptown with her and her other friend, and we went in the woods and they smoked pot. Don't get me wrong, I mean if they want to try it, go ahead, it's their lives. The third friend, we'll call her friend 2, is a pretty bad pot head, although we're still good friends. I'm just afraid that whenever friend 1 is with friend 2, friend 1 will smoke pot and get addicted to it. I have no problem confronting her with my concern, becuase she confronts me about cutting all the time. The issue is, I don't know what to say without coming off like I'm trying to run her life. PLEASE HELP ME?!

I rate..


Sorry it's so long..

The only way pot is addicting is psychologically. Your mind makes you think you need it, but physically, you're not addicted. Anyways:


If your friend is smoking pot, say something to her about it. I mean, you can't change her & you know that, but just tell her that there's better things to do with her time than drugs & they could potentionally fuck her up. If she doesn't seem to change, then accept the fact that you tried to help.


In order to make it sound like you're not trying to run her life just tell her that you know it's her life but she could do better things than drugs for a release. Drugs are not cool & will in no way make her cool. Neither will alcohol. The best thing for her to do would be to stop or not give in to peer pressure. Just tell her you can't change her mind about it, but you're concerned & you care about her just the same as she does for you.

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O.k., so I'm hispanic, 15 years old and I'm a softmore in highschool. The girls in New Jersey are the farthest from civilized and nice I have ever come to meet. Now, for some reason, they all seem to hate me, and they show it very clearly. Talking about me behind my back, bumping into me, or even speaking about me outloud but indirectly, just so I know its about me. I mean, seriously, we'll be in college soon! So, I know its no one's issue, but I am THE nicest of people (to a certain extent, of course), and not bitchy (though a bit conceited) or confrontal at all, so I really can't bring myself to ever stand up to them...I dont know what I should do, because any place I go here, I end up hating...so if anyone could give me some great advice and please help. Thanx.

Honestly, girls will be girls. They'll find a tiny little reason to hate you & then act on it. It's dumb, of course -- but everyone does it. Everyone dislikes someone to a certain extent, there's no hiding it.


They obviously aren't mature & that's fine. Ignore them. They're not worth your time & you can tell that their not friend material. Even though you're not confrontal, just go ask them why they dislike you. There could be a ton of reasons. Maybe they're racist, maybe they're stupid, or maybe they're judgemental. Either way, you probably can't change their minds but you can ignore them & continue with life. They don't matter.


And it doesn't matter how nice you are -- people will always try to find a flaw & hate you for it. Lots of people are going to hate you & you can't stop that. I'm just like you. Hispanic, 16 & a sophmore. People at my school hate me for no reason. Most of them haven't gotten to know me, and I accept that. I mean, if they don't like me, who cares? I can't change them & I don't really want to. If they're that ignorant, why should I give a damn what they think & why should I try to change their minds? I shouldn't. Either way, chances are I don't like them either, so just ignore what people say & accept it.

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why is it that when a girl has sex with a few guys she known as a whore but a guy can have sex with like 50 different girls and not even be thought as a whore but to other guys a hero?

I honestly don't know. I'm pretty sure it's always been this way though & there's no changing it. But you're right, it's wrong & it's not fair. They contradict themselves & make us feel bad about ourselves.


Honestly, just know that as long as you use protection & aren't sleeping with just anyone that you should be okay.

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I need your help deciding what the ideal menu for a public dinner would be.

Not knowing what would be the best dishes to serve is making this an impossible task.

If you will tell me your favorite foods, or point me to your favorite recipes, it would really help a lot.

You can list as many things as you like. They don't have to be fancy things at all. I am all about the comfort food baby! :)

This will be a mixed group of people so I would like to have something for everyone.

Cooking for a banquet is not as hard as trying to figure out WHAT to cook!

Everyone will receive feedback.

Thank you!

P.S. If all that was a lot to digest, pun intended, here is a summary: Please list all your favorite foods.

My food life consists of:
- McDonald's/fast food alltogether.
- Mozz sticks.
- French fries.
- Burgers.
- Pierogies.
- Chicken.
- Cereal.
- Granola/Granola Bars.
- Popcorn.
- Chips.
- Apples.
- Pizza.
- Junk, basically.
- Ramen Noodles.
- Mac & Cheese.
- Fetticune Alfredo [sp?].
- Rice.
- Cake!
- Ice cream.
- Bagels.
- Hamburger Helper.
- Mashed Potatoes.
- Corn.
- Peas.
- Grapples. [I'm not sure they have this anywhere else, but at a grocery store where I live, they genetically combined apples & grapes. So the apples taste like grapes instead of what they should. They're amazing.]
- Bread.
- Bologna.
- Ham.
- Lasagna.
- Biscuits.

I probably forgot a lot of stuff, but I'm trying to think of a lot of stuff off the top of my head, and I'm just not that special. Haha.

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my friend Jon is so stupid. he thinks it'll be easy to be a girl and he thinks he can handle a period. WHAT A F@$#ING ASS! I tell him that imgane that you have really bad head ache, craps, stomch flue ect for a week every month. but he said it wont be bad. so how can i show him or make him understand that having a period is not fun or easy. i want to punch him in the face but he is my friend. (a very dum one!)

Bash his head into a locker, kick him in the balls & punch him in the stomach. And give him clothes that don't fit.

Then he'll know how it feels.

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where can i find add & message buttons.
like these?

http://i163.photobucket.com/albums/t284/xk_k/add.png

and

http://i163.photobucket.com/albums/t284/xk_k/message.png

I use this:

http://www.freecodesource.com/index.php?page=myspacegenerators/index

It has every generator you can think of for MySpace.

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okay so this guy at my school made this video for the seniors. there was this really good song in it but i can't find the name of it or who sings it. all i remember are the words "i remember when.." then something about laughing. the band sounds like hinder. anyone know what song that is?

PLEASE don't tell me to google it. already tried.

It could be Photograph by Nickelback.

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i just had a "lesbian" experiance..... i saw some pictures of girls in yano... n it turned me on i went furthur and masterbating... i was think of both girls && boys but it was the girl tht turned me on most.... am i lesbian?
im only 14
thanks X

Nope. You may just be bi-curious. You probably won't know your sexuality for a while & until you do, just say you're bi-curious. You don't wanna call yourself something you're not.

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how come guys think it's 'hot' when 2 girls make out?

To what the first girl said, they don't have to be lesbians to make out. They could be bi, they could be straight. They could be wasted. You don't have to be a certain way to do something.

Anyways, it's a guy thing. Just like it's a girl thing that guys with nice bodies are hot or whatever, ya know?

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f/16
me and my bf have had sex more then once already! but i can't bring myself to giving him a blow job! even though i really want too! someone please help me boost my confidence! what are some pointers? how do i know when it's the right time to do it? please GIVE ME ANY ADVICE YOU CAN! thanks soooo much!

If you don't want to do it or just can't for personal reasons, then don't. Nobody is forcing you to give him head. If he cannot accept your decision then he's dumber than life & you shouldn't be with him.

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