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why can't i just have two lovers.
for the past 5 onths i've been dating his great guy named kyle. He gives me everything a girl would want, great gifts, many compliments, my family loves him, he drives me every where, takes me out to nice places, like everything.
but last summer before i even met kyle i really like another guy named chris, one night chris and i ended up ahveing sex and since then i've always had a little thing for him. chris and i stopped talking for a few months then before i was dating kyle he just started talking to me again. i was thrilled.
but anyways after kyle and i had been dating for 3 months i ended up cheating on him by kissing chris. he eventaully found out and was furious. i told him i was sorry and had no feeling left for chirs, but it was a lie.
now kyles 4 hours away from home working for 4 weeks and only is back on the weekends. i ended up heating on him again twice with kris recently.
i do love kyle but chris just gives me an amazing feeling that i don't get with kyle anymore. chris and i decided we'll keep seeing eachother.
so my question is what should i do about this, because i reallly really like chris and love the feeling he gives me but i love kyle, and he's done so much for me.
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Well I can honestly tell you that if you do want two lovers, Kyle isn't going to be one of them. And if he is, the moment he finds out you're cheating on you, he'll probably leave you.
Now of course, I understand you love both of them ,and your heart is torn between them. If you're in your early 20's and not looking for anything serious, I'd recommend you stay with chris. But if you're getting older and would like to find someone to get serious with, Kyle would probably be your best bet.
Whatever the case, you can't have the both of them. No matter how much you want to. Evne if you could, it would be selfish and "morally" wrong.
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The reason why you can't have two lovers is because it's deceiving & unfair to the person you're actually with. Honestly, I hope that Kyle finds out again about what you've been doing behind his back & I hope he leaves you. He deserves so much better & it's definitely not you. This kid loves you & you're ruining everything by screwing around with someone else.
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Go with Chris, cause you don't deserve Kyle at all.
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Why can't you have two lovers? Why not twelve? You can have as many as you want if you are honest about it and accept that your lovers have other lovers. Don't like that scenario? Me neither. It is the hypocracy of human nature to want more from others than we are willing to give of ourselves. If you are with someone whom you expect to be faithful, then it needs to be a mutual commitment. If you are not ready to commit to one guy, that is okay...as long as you are honest about it and open to the guys having no commitment to you either. We can't have it both ways without someone or everyone getting hurt. Those amazing feelings come and go in any and every relationship. The sparks you feel while cheating may be as much or more from the cheating itself, than the guy you are unfaithful with. If you started going out with only Chris, you would probably lose that thrill and want Kyle back. What do you think?
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well since kyle is so sweet you [can't] do this to him, it's not right. no matter how much you want to be with him, you need to think. you know you can't have both as terrible as it is. in my opinion i'd go for the one you love. tell kyle you're sorry. you need to tell him what happend. if he doesn't take you back then that's his loss. tell chris you like him, and it's been great but you have your love out there waiting and you need to be with him. i don't know. if you don't want to do any of this, fine. i'm just trying to help.
good luck? (:
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