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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo."i refuse to sink."
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Female - age: 16
I'm in quite a dilemma.
First off, I have an amazing boyfriend and he's really great. But...I don't really love him anymore. I can't see myself spending the rest of my life with him.
I'm in love with this other guy who is absolutely perfect. He's just a friend but I really want to be more and I could actually picture myself being with him forever. I feel stronger about this other guy than my own boyfriend.
What should I do?
How should I tell my boyfriend this without completely breaking his heart?
How do I tell this other guy what I feel?
Help!!!
that's life :/
you fall out of love, you fall in love.. theres not much you can do about it, yuh know ? you just have to go with the flow and do whats right for you because you're the only one who lives your life, no one else does.
I think what you should do is up to you, but by the way you are talking about this new guy in your life.. i think youd be happier and better off with him. staying with people you dont feel the same way about anymore will hurt them more in the long run and will be worse in the end, for both of you.
theres no easy way to break up with someone, if you both cared for eachother, its going to hurt no matter what. but, you can make it hurt a little less by being gentle and nice about it. not blunt like, "i met a new guy, and hes 20 times better than you. we're over, if you want to keep talking to me or be friends, then okay. bye." you could say something more like.. "i never wanted this to happen, but i just think we'd be better off as friends. you know you mean alot to me, and youll always have a place in my heart, but i met a guy and i just dont want to hurt you, its not fair because you deserve someone who loves you with their whole heart. ill understand if you dont want to talk to me right now, but i hope we can manage to be friends later on, or whenever you want to be. im so sorry and i know youll find a great girl because youre a great guy." ... see the difference ? saying something along those lines is going to hurt ALOT less then the first option.
and telling the other guy how you feel.. well, you could just be straight up with him and tell him that you like him. or you could wait a little, flirt with him MAJORLY and invite him to go hang out with you somewhere alone.. and then either tell him when youre hanging out that you have feelings for him.. or the next day or whenever you feel like it and just tell him that you think youre developing feelings for him and you just wanted him to know. he'll get the hint if you break up with your boyfriend and then flirt with him alot. but id suggest waiting a little bit to tell him or he'll think that hes just your rebound.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] and dont worry, it will all be okay. xxo.
I am friends with this guy for about 6 years now. Im just wondering, how can I tell if he likes me? He is very sweet and im falling for him hard.
Please help f/15
awww :] 6 years ? thats cute. ive known my current boyfriend for 12 years :] :] you can tell if a guy likes you by..
1. he would always flirt with me. he'd say things like how i had good taste in music and that he thought i looked pretty that day and would always text me.
2. he always talks to you.. even infront of his friends. and when he sees you, he always smiles and says hi. or he blushes alot and looks you in your eyes when talking to you, and then at your lips. [then back and forth..etc]
3. he invites you places or tells you/asks you to hang out with him. maybe at his house, but if he asks you to the movies. and if you go anywhere, he pays for you.
4. he tries to get close to you by maybe touching his hand against yours, or knocking into you "by accident" ;] or sitting close to you, maybe even so close so your shoulders are touching.
5. he'll tease you.. playfuly of course :] maybe call you names or tease you about something you say. but in a cute way, no being mean or anything.
6. he'll compliment you too and tell you that he believes in you.. but not just that, he will FLIRT. like thats the biggest thing.
hope i helped :] good luck and i hope things work out for you ! if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.
15/f
I've been going out with this guy for a little over 2 months. We were friends before that. His ex was one of my friends. She cheated on him a few times and all that. He deserved better. But now she claims she loves him, but she also likes another guy. She's not making any sense. She said she loved him but she also hates him, for asking me out and so on. But the thing is, she said she's totally fine with me, she only feels bad for me cause I'm dating him. I know I shouldn't let this stuff get to me. But it does, and you can't really help it.
So he is the sweetest guy to me and I know he cares about me. He was my first kiss but now its like weird. Only because it's not like a normal fast kiss anymore. He's more into it. I don't have a problem with it but I just don't like it at school. I don't know if that is normal or weird. At first it was weird with hugging so much at school. I didn't find it that bad but the kissing is just so different. I don't really know what I should about it. Like when we hang out outside of school, its totally fine, but I don't know why its bugging me in school. What should I do?
hey :]
so i've been in a few relationships, but with my boyfriend now, i consider him my first kiss too. it's just something you have to get used to, its a new experience for you, and its perfectly normal for you to feel weirded out about this.
everyone is different.
what seems normal and comfortable for someone else may feel abnormal and uncomfortable for you. if you dont want to kiss him that intensley in school, then dont. i mean, i dont blame you.. its school, your surrounded by people you know and teachers.. so its definitely okay.
if i were you, i would either just hug him, and not kiss him.. or talk to him about it. communication is key. if you feel uncomfortable with whats going on, the only way it'll get better is if you tell him straight up that you dont want to be that intimate in school, but its okay if its just a quick kiss.
although, if youre not even comfortable with that, tell him you need to get used to it and youd like to call the shots with this. or something along those lines. just talk to him and i promise you, things will be more comfortable for you.
and for your friend trying to make you feel bad.. she's immature and obviosuly a little jealous that her ex wants you. so let it go, its your life not hers.
good luck ! hope i helped :] and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.
Do most guys like belly button rings? im 17 and i want a belly button ring but one of my guy friends said theyre trashy. im still getting it, i just want opinions haha. Thankss =]
im 17 too and im getting one ! theyre not trashy unless you make it trashy, yuh know ? i cant wait until i get mine. yours will look good, they all turn out good :] plus, most guys think theyre attractive.
have fun ! xxo.
if you have a mean teacher who picks on you because of your race what should you do?
people can be so lame. im sorry this teacher picks on you, its not right or okay.
heres a few things you can do..
1. let it go. if he/she does it, dont let it bother you. the teacher is obviously just immature and an a-hole.
2. tell your parents or someone who takes care of you, and they may deal with it themselves or give you their own advice [maybe even some personal experiences] to help you out.
3. go to a counselor in school, or another teacher, the principle, someone of higher superiority in the school who can take immediate action.
4. switch classes.. or at least try to get into a different class with a different teacher. but to do this, youd have to get your parents permission and talk to the school about it and tell them what has been going on.
when i got picked on by my teacher in my math class, because im not very smart in math and everyone else was, i told my parents and they helped me take action. then when that didnt help, i took matters into my own hands and went to my guidance counselor in my school, and she made it stop. teachers arent allowed to pick on you for anything.. they are TEACHERS and there are boundaries and a certain level of respect that NEEDS to go both ways. trust me, tell someone in your school [and your parents] what is happening and action will be taken to set this teacher back in their place.
good luck and i hope your teacher gets the punishment he/she deserves. hope i helped, tell me how it goes :] and if you need anything else, im here for youu. xxo.
I am 19, female. I go to college in a pretty big city. I am currently looking for a job, and I have applied at so many places, but no one seems to be hiring. I am looking for ways to make some money, all legal of course. Does any one have any suggestions?
i agree with the advice below me, but you could also try selling food or something ? I know my cousins make bracelets and sell them to people around campus. its becoming a big thing and they make a lot of money from it. start getting creative. maybe clean peoples rooms for money ? or something along the lines of that.
good luck ! and youll figure something out, dont worry :] xxo.
I'm a Christian but I love translating my dreams. Do you think translating dreams would be against God's word or that he wouldn't like that?
Thanks :)
you're perfectly fine, if you want to translate your dreams.. go ahead :] its not going against anything considering God entered people's lives through dreams too.
There is nothing wrong with what you want to do, i interpret my dreams all of the time. a lot of people say they dont mean anything, but i beg a differ because alot of mine had meaning and/or came true [parts of it] do what you waant !
dream on.
xxo. :]
ok so I am 17 and I have been with the same guy for 10 months he has been there for me thew everthing and has made me really happy he is 18. We got into a big fight on new years about me having guys frineds and I walked down town to get away from him fighting with me and I hung out with a bunch of my girl friends. I walked to the other side of town and on my way back I bumped into one of my sisters old guy friends. We were kinda friends we said hi when we seen each other.He walked me to my boyfriends house where I was staying and I gave him my number because he said I could crash on his couch anytime I needed some where to stay. I went inside my boyfriends and we were just talking then I got a text from that same guy and my boyfriend saw and he flipped. We ended up braking up for about a day and during that day that guy frined told me he has liked me for the 5 years I have known him and to tell the truth I liked him as well. I went to his place and he kissed me I got up and left then me and my boyfriend got back together its been about 2 or 3 weeks since then and I have been there saturdays and some school days and I really like him. Him and his girlfriend broke up because he said he didnt know if he still wanted her. Then she dumped him for that and now he wants to be with me...He told me last night that he wanted to be with me and that I give him feelings he has never had before. He does the same to me. I really really really want to be with him he is 19 and well I just dont know who I want to be with more the friend makes me so happy and makes me smile all the time but my boyfriend has been there for the last 10 months... I dont know what to do I really like him but dont want to hurt my boyfriend..
i disagree with the advice given below me.
put yourself in your boyfriend's shoes.. how would you feel if your girlfriend was texting another guy who she secretly has feelings for ?
your boyfriend's feelings play a big part in this too and even though you think that breaking up with him will hurt him, staying with him and not being committed to him will hurt him MORE in the long run.
i think that if you really want to be with this new guy, then you need to end the realtionship with your boyfriend. yes, you both have been together for 10 months and hes been with you through ups and downs, but just because youve been together for a long time, doesnt mean you "owe" anything to him by staying with him. you also have to think about yourself and whats right for you. maybe down the road you guys can be friends.. but i honestly think that your happiness is also key and if this new guy gives you these feelings, then be with him or youll always be thinking.. "what IF" yuh know ?
and your boyfriend will find happiness again too, so dont worry about that. yeah he'll be hurt, but as i said before, hell be MORE hurt if you stay with him and you dont want to be.
good luck, hope i helped and dont worry, youll make the right decision thats right for YOU. :] if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo.
When I was 14 I was dating an 18 year old. I am now 18 and he is now about to be 23. His mom and my mom were really good friends. We dated for about 7 months. We were so good togther and were deeply in love. Being best friends with my mom I decided to tell her that he was smoking pot she was furious and mad our live miserable! We would constantly argue about my mom. One day he just broke up with me I was so hurt. I had always had a great realationship with his family so when I came across his mom at school over a month ago I was stoked! She asked for my number and we have kept in contact since. I visit her once a week. He no longer lives at home anymore so I haven't seen him since we broke up 4 years ago. He told his mom he still likes me but he always tries to avoid being there if he know I'm there or on my way there. Which is fine cuz I'm there to see his family but it bothers me that he avoids me! Should I just give my hopes up and stop trying to see him and hopefully get back together or should I just be patient. I feel like I'm kissing up to him if I keep trying.
if its been 4 years.. thats been 4 years too long hun. i mean, think about it.. do you want to wait around for something that may never happen or do you want to get out there and find something that has the POTENTIAL to happen that you wont have to wait another 4 years for ?
I know its hard and you love/loved him, but there are plenty of fish in the sea. and as hard as it is and as much as you probably dont want to hear this.. you cant make someone love you or like you if they just dont or if they stopped.
hes moving on, you should too. you deserve someone who wont avoid you and someone who wants to see you every waking moment of every single day. look for that guy, hes out there looking for you too.. but you wont find him unless you let go of your past.. and your ex.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.
To put it bluntly, im scared of having sex, i feel its wrong and i hav this new bf who has done it a few times. He keeps saying stuff 2 me but i just hate the thought of it. i know thats really immature but i do need help
if you feel its wrong, then stick with how you feel. its your life, and your morals. you have to live with yourself and what you do for the rest of your life, your boyfriend and no one else for that matter does.
just because hes had sex a few times, doesnt mean he should EXPECT it from you. if youre not ready, and youre not comfortable with it, and it doesnt feel right.. then dont do it. he'll just have to wait until you bring it up and until YOU are ready.
its not immature at all. and you dont need help, youre fine :] i actually have a lot of respect for you for NOT giving into your boyfriend. if hes pressuring you into having sex with him, you need to sit him down and tell him how you feel and that he has to wait.. and he has to wait PATIENTLY.
follow your heart, and instinct. stand your ground. and by the way.. everyone gets scared or nervous :] so its okay. but, i hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! good luck :]
i scar easily and have a cut on my face, that is really a scratch, but its about 6 inches long and i really don't want it to scar.
it wont scar if you dont try to pick it off. you have to let it scab over.. but put neosporin on it everyday. then when the scab falls off, there should be no mark. but if there is a mark, which there wont be if you just keep putting neosporin on it and dont touch it alot.. or take the scab off, then buy mederma [its a scar cream] and put it on the scar for 1 week, then it will either fade or dissapear.
but honestly, dont worry, it wont scar. [and when you put the neosporin on it, make sure theres a bandaid on it too.. if you go to school and stuff and dont want to have a bandaid on your face either get a clear one, or just put the neosporin on it, and then when you get home, put another dab of neosporin on it with a bandaid]
youll be fine and scar free :] good luck ! hope i helped, if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo. :]
My girlfriend is the best girlfriend in the entire world and I want her to know that. I'm her first boyfriend but I've had lots of girlfriends before her so I know she's the best. I really can see myself spending the rest of my life with her. What are some nice ways to let her know that I love her? Like, some creative things to say to your girlfriend so she knows that you love her? Any ideas are good ones!
THANKS
I agree with the advice below me.. say whatever you feel that comes from your heart.. but i get it :] sometimes guys arent so good with words haha. no worries, I have some ideas. [some stolen from what my boyfriend has said to me..]
you could tell her that a song reminds her of you.. like my boyfriend was watching the titanic one night and randomly texted me and said that the song by celine dion reminded him of me. it was cute :] just like, little random reminders like that make her realize how much she means to you. he always tells me songs and things that remind me of him.
something else you could do is randomly call her when you're thinking about her.. maybe really early in the morning, at like 2 or 3.. call her, and if she doesnt pick up, leave her a voicemail saying that you were just thinking about her and missed her voice. she'll melt.. i can guarentee it haha. or you could randomly send her a long text, e-mail.. whatever you have about how you lover so much and that everything she does makes you smile.
things you could say to her would be..
- you might not realize it or believe it, but you are the best thing that has ever happened to me, and im going to love you and be with you for a long time, unless you decide you want to throw me in the trash, which i dont ever want to happen because i want you to be my last love for the rest of my life.
- i woke up in the morning and looked at the empty space next to me on my bed and thought that you would fit perfectly right there, because id love to wake up to you every morning and fall asleep next to you every night, youre beautiful.
- i cant focus, youre always on my mind, youre making me crazy.. but i love it :]
.. alright, hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] good luck ! xxo.
If you had to pick one thing that bothers you about your relationship that you feel needs to change so that the relationship can be successful what would that be? Please elaborate...
cool question :] but anyways..
I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 7 months.. and we've been through ALOT, but personally, there is nothing that bothers me about my relationship.. anymore.
I used to feel that he took me for granted, and i didnt trust him with other girls and i didnt feel that he stook up for me when need be.. I mean, I would always tell him how i felt, so I dont believe that there was a lack of communication. I just think there was a lack of understanding where the other person was coming from. or what they had been through that made them the way that they were.
so i think if anything, every relationship needs a common ground where there is a mutual understanding and once you get that understanding, everything falls into place because now that we undertsand eachother, and the differences between our past relationships, everything is great :] like, it couldnt be better. i mean, theres always room for improvement in every relationship, because no one is perfect, but also.. every relationship is different. some need more communication, some need understanding, or even space or more love/caring. it all depends.
well, i hope i helped ! if you need anything else, feel free to ask me :] good luck, xxo.
Alright then... This is gonna be long but, main topic: sex. Here's whats up. When me and my girlies were like ten haha we made this dinky little pact/promise that we would wait for marriage to have sex. And since then thats what Ive always wanted. I am a pretty strict catholic so not only is that like a big rule in the church, Ive just wanted it done that way. I wanted my first time to be with that special guy that Ive waited my life for, and will spend the rest of it with him. I'm a sucker for that romantic stuff hahah. Plus to me (tooootally not passing judgement here) Ive always found it kind of trashy to have sex in highschool. Not that I look down on anyone or think any differently of those who have, thats just what Ive always thought for myself, if that makes sense. Then again, when I made that pact and when I thought those things, I didn't have a boyfriend, I had never even kissed a boy. Those same girls have been my buds since pre-k and were still tight. I know they still want to wait... There are four of us girls k? Ones had two relationships, both wierd and awkward and not very physical, and the other has had a realllllly fast moving relationship and I'm not quite sure how far they went, could be third base, I don't know. And the last has only kissed. (Were fourteen/fifteen; freshmen by the way). Well I've been dating this awesome guy for like four months (Ive been friends and known him for much much longer) and we haven't gone past second base, skimmed third... kinda... hahaha. Anyway. The thing is, I find myself wanting to have sex with him. Badly. Maybe its just lust and its all stupid and dumb but I want to. Guys have tried to have sex with me before, and I wasn't ready. And when I started dating my current boyfriend (who is sixteen; sophomore) I let him know that I am not ready for sex. And he's totally cool with that. He's amazing, hasn't pressured or pushed it AT ALL, this is all me here. But I want to do it. But I don't know... there are certain things that make me not. The fact that its going against my religion, I KNOW my friends would totally not be cool with it, and I don't know, I'd feel dirty. But I want to. I want to so much. I love him and I think I'm ready. Maybe I need a reality check. So give it to me guys. Talk me out of it. Do something cuz I don't know what to do...
You gotta remember that at this age, you are very hormonal and you're very young.
Im 17, I have a boyfriend and we havent had sex. Im still a virgin and I think that I'm waaaay too young to have sex, and if you have sex, theres always that chance that you could get pregnant. and I always think to myself, "I have my ENTIRE life ahead of me, i dont want to screw it up by one act on an impulse."
I know it seems tempting now, and you really want to do it.. but trust your instincts. just because you want to doesnt mean its right. you have to figure that out for yourself. are you going to regret it after you do it ? do you think its with the right guy ?
There are so many questions you need to ask yourself. If I were you, id make a pros and cons list. and really, I know you made a pact, but pacts can be broken, just like promises.. when you promised yourself you wouldnt have sex until marraige. im not passing judgement on anyone, or you. if you feel its right, then its right. but dont let anyone change your mind, espeially your friends. do what YOU want for YOU and no one else because youre going to be the one who lives with it for the rest of your life, not them.
Bottom line: this is your life, live it how you want. I cant tell you what to do, in the end, its your decision. but just remember, whatever you do, practice safe sex. condoms are gonna be your best friends :] hahaa, and maybe start going on birth control ? ask your mom, but if you dont want to tell her you want them because youre becoming sexually active, ask her if you can get them to regulate your period.
and by the way, you sad you THINK that you are ready.. dont do it until you KNOW you are. i know you love him :] but you cant think youre ready, you have to know.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo.
Why do vampires need to have their hair down?
(Like in teh baseball scene of the first movie they try to disguise bella by telling her to put her hair down)
THanks!
Vampires dont ALWAYS have to have their hairdown, they just do.
But when edward told bella to put down her hair it was because he was trying to hid her neck and the scent that she was human. It was also because he was trying to cover her face more, so the vampires wouldnt realize that she wasnt as pale as them, and so that her neck would be covered so that it wouldnt be an easy target if the nomads decided to come after her.
hope i helped ! xxo.
My best friend of 6 years. Really did me wrong last night. She wrong on her statis on facebook. "mynamehere,Is a dirty slut & a liar"
Then all my friends started attacking it and writeing on it and curseing her out. but then she got mad, nd wrote all over my wall,4 paragraphs.On everything sexual ive done,My weight,nd alot of other stuff.I got so mad.Like so mad. Then for some reason my mother got in it.And started curseing on it. And all this 15 years olds didnt like it.So they were telling my mom to square up & what not.When i read all of this today.I was like how stupied can people be?
But any way.I really don't know what to do.i did talk to her cause her mom called the school and tryed to say that i started it when i had to proof she did.So were not friends anymore.BUt i kinda want to get back at her.Or will that let me down to her leval.What should i do?
I know it is SO tempting to get back at these girls, and your one friend in particular, but dont do it. I have had a lot of bad things done to me on facebook, Ive been harassed, people have drawn pictures of me and put it on facebook, [mean pictures] people commented on it, had their statuses about me, made wall to walls about me. made horrible and mean videos to me on my wall, made groups about me.. shoved me in school.. it was really bad and it was all because my boyfriend dumped his ex girlfriend and then we got together. lame.
At one point, I did start to stoop to their level and reply to everything that they were doing to me. i was hated for doing NOTHING. and it drove me insane. they brought my family into it, and I cried for days. I tried to ignore them, but it was hard.. you want to defend yourself and fight back, right? I know, but.. well, dont. be the bigger person. I promise that you will feel better later on.
However, if you want to confront these girls, then NICELY [well, in the nicest way possible] tell them that what they did was wrong, but you're over it and it stops now.. then go ahead. but dont curse them out or start another war, just let them know that you're not putting up with it and that you're going to ignore it.
But i suggest blocking them all from your facebook, so you dont have to see what they write, and so that you're not tempted to do something you might regret later on. delete everything they did, but save it on your computer, in case you might ever need it again in the future. but try to forget about it for now. I'm so sorry this happened to you. girls are cruel. this shouldnt have happened to you.
good luck ! if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! and dont let these girls bring you down, just stay awesome :] xxo.
17/F
How much sleep should I be getting?
8-10 hours of sleep.. but many people only get 6-7.. or less.
good luck ! xxo. :]
what would be the best? playstation 3 or xbox 360?
definetely xbox 360. my brother has it, and LOVES it. the graphics are pretty rad too, so thats a plus. I've played it a couple times, and it has a variety of games, not just action, like the ps3 mostly has. so my vote is for the xbox 360.
good luck ! game onnn ;] xxo.
Well, I'm getting braces in about a month (the metal) and I'm not sure what color to start with. I'd change the color every 2 weeks when I meet with my dentist, so it doesn't need to be a perfect shade. I don't have the whitest teeth, & I heard that dark colors like black make your teeth look whiter. Other than that I like aqua blue & pale pink. What do you think??
-Katleeo
I disagree with the advice given below me..
youre right. the darker colors will make your teeth look brighter. I had braces for the longest time, so i would know. hahaa. but you barely see your teeth, its really just the metal and color thats most apparent.
but I would say go with red, dark green [stay away from yellow and white and orange] dark pink matched with pale pink.. aqua blue and a dark blue [like a navy blue] there are SO many colors, so when you go to the dentist, just check the dark ones, and never get the glow in the dark ones hahaa. :]
good luck ! hope i helped ! and theyll look good ;] xxo.
so im a 13 year old girl and i feel left out and i was wonder what are ways to get a good boyfriend but i mean really whats wrong with me beacuse iv been trying hard but really i just dont know what to do
hey :] so heres the deal, if you try too hard, and youre too forward, you might scare guys off. yuh know? like.. you can flirt and stuff, but up to a point. definetly play hard to get ;]
but really, there is nothing wrong with you. youre 13, and that whole thing about "girls mature faster than guys" is totally true. at 13, some guys arent really looking for relationships, some guys still think girls have cooties at that age. haha. immature? i know. but you just have to wait for them to catch up to you.
Just be yourself, and stop trying. I promise that when you stop TRYING to get a guy, then it will happen and guys will come to you. you are perfectly normal, so dont worry about that at all. you can have crushes and stuff :] duh, but dont force yourself onto guys.. if theyre interested, theyll make a point to come to you. so just be your rad self and have CONFIDENCE :] guys love girls with confidence. and flirt ;] but not OVERLY just a little bit. make sure you become friends with guys and make a point to hang out with them during school.. the more guy friends you have, the more options you have :]
and dont feel left out, there are ALOT of girls who feel exactly like you. you'll find that guy, just be patient and give it time :] good luck. hope i helped ! if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.