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I have a boyfriend but I'm in love with another guy.
Female - age: 16
I'm in quite a dilemma.
First off, I have an amazing boyfriend and he's really great. But...I don't really love him anymore. I can't see myself spending the rest of my life with him.
I'm in love with this other guy who is absolutely perfect. He's just a friend but I really want to be more and I could actually picture myself being with him forever. I feel stronger about this other guy than my own boyfriend.
What should I do?
How should I tell my boyfriend this without completely breaking his heart?
How do I tell this other guy what I feel?
Help!!!
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Fisrt off your 16 the last thing you need to be thinking about is spending the rest of your life with anyone. Your young have fun. If your really not in love with your boyfriend. You need to tell him. Just tell him you both are young and you need to see what else is out there, and tell him it is not him. Now my question to you is: If this other guy was not in the picture would you still feel the same about your boyfriend? Or would you still want to be with your boyfriend?
If the reason you want to break things off with your boyfriend is JUST because of this other guy. Then your doing it for all the wrong reasons.
With dealing with this other guy AFTER you end things with your boyfriend ask him to hang out and feel out the situation before you say anything to him. If he does not feel the same and you two are friends then it may make the friendship end. Guys have a way of letting you know that they like you without saying a word. You can even say I know you like me someone told me, and see what he says! If he says no I don't I never said that to anyone. You can always say ok that is cool it must be someone starting trouble and I will tell them to stop talking trash!!! You never know he may say "yeah" and then there you go and you can always tell him your woman's intuition told you. Hope it all works out for you.
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that's life :/
you fall out of love, you fall in love.. theres not much you can do about it, yuh know ? you just have to go with the flow and do whats right for you because you're the only one who lives your life, no one else does.
I think what you should do is up to you, but by the way you are talking about this new guy in your life.. i think youd be happier and better off with him. staying with people you dont feel the same way about anymore will hurt them more in the long run and will be worse in the end, for both of you.
theres no easy way to break up with someone, if you both cared for eachother, its going to hurt no matter what. but, you can make it hurt a little less by being gentle and nice about it. not blunt like, "i met a new guy, and hes 20 times better than you. we're over, if you want to keep talking to me or be friends, then okay. bye." you could say something more like.. "i never wanted this to happen, but i just think we'd be better off as friends. you know you mean alot to me, and youll always have a place in my heart, but i met a guy and i just dont want to hurt you, its not fair because you deserve someone who loves you with their whole heart. ill understand if you dont want to talk to me right now, but i hope we can manage to be friends later on, or whenever you want to be. im so sorry and i know youll find a great girl because youre a great guy." ... see the difference ? saying something along those lines is going to hurt ALOT less then the first option.
and telling the other guy how you feel.. well, you could just be straight up with him and tell him that you like him. or you could wait a little, flirt with him MAJORLY and invite him to go hang out with you somewhere alone.. and then either tell him when youre hanging out that you have feelings for him.. or the next day or whenever you feel like it and just tell him that you think youre developing feelings for him and you just wanted him to know. he'll get the hint if you break up with your boyfriend and then flirt with him alot. but id suggest waiting a little bit to tell him or he'll think that hes just your rebound.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] and dont worry, it will all be okay. xxo.
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