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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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Laura!




--Jack

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Okay, so, my friend really likes this boy. He's really sweet to her and she just felt really happy because she got over her ex and found this new guy. Well, she finds out that he has a girlfriend..
"He has a girlfriend, but he tells me I changed his feelings. If I did that then why is he still with here?! I like him a lot, but I think I should stop talking to him because it doesn't seem like he's gonna break up with her anytime soon, so it seems like the best thing, but idk HELP!"
Any takers?

--Gabs.

She is absolutely right; she needs to stop talking to him, because she's probably confusing him and making him question his feelings for his girlfriend, which isn't fair to either of them. Does she want to be known as the girl that broke up their relationship? Probably not.

--Jack
(17/m)

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iv beign with my boyfriend for nearly a year now and we've just started doing handjobs and finguring and having sex. he said to me that im the only girl he's beign with that dont shave their vagina, so i got really paranoid and shaved it, now it stings and itch's and has red spots on it. but my mate told me to use shaving foam because i used soap last time. what do i do? coz i dont like the way it looks but my boyfriend does.

Don't change yourself for your boyfriend. Ok, so he likes if you're shaved. Do YOU like if you're shaved? If the answer is no, then don't do it. Your boyfriend shouldn't be the judge of what you do with YOUR body. Tell him too bad.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Well I know this guy and I really like him. But I don't think he likes me at all! I try to talk to him every day but it's almost like he ignores me but he's popular and a lot of girls like him...i dont know what im going to do...Do you have any idea what i can do? I heard this saying once..."Just because it doesn't seem like he likes you, he might just be afraid to show it" or something like that...Please try to help me.

Signed,
Hopeless Lover

Some guys like the chase, so playing hard to get might work, but for others, like me, I HATE that, and it would just totally turn me off to the girl.

Here are some ways you can see if he might like you:

1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.

2. They make an effort to hug you. They might high-5 instead, but it really depends on the guy in question.

3. They DO find any reason to touch you in some way. Mostly it ISN'T in a sexual way. Its more of just an excuse to remember what you feel like, I guess. Its hard to explain...

4. He is always smiling around you. If you're feeling bad and he's around- he'll be smiling because he knows that he's there to help you- and that's like brownie points for a guy if they can help a girl out. That, like the above, is hard to explain.

5. He'll tell you things about himself that he normally wouldn't tell everyone. He opens up to you. Guys don't get a chance to do that when pressured to "be manly".

6. If you have a feeling that a guy likes you- you're probably right. Guys aren't the best at hiding it- and girls are even better at figuring these type of things out.



If none apply, then it's best to move on.


--Jack
(17/m)

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Ok, so I'm in 6th grade. I'm a girl. I just got my first boyfriend and I like him a lot. I kiss him a lot and he seems to enjoy it and everything, but I'm totally scared that if I frenched him (my first time and his) I would be really bad. I know guys care about how good their girlfriend kisses and it's really awkward whenever he tries and I just break into it and say "Let's not rush into that yet" and he completely respects it, but is still wanting to. How do I break the fear? Does it just come naturally when you're ready or what?

I've had my share of girlfriends, and trust me, kissing is not even that great. It's... awkward.. especially if you haven't been dating for very long.

Don't rush into making out, because once you do it with him, it's going to give him the green light to do it all the time, and it will probably start to make you uncomfortable if you're not ready.

I've had pushy girlfriends, especially when it came to making out, and I felt pressured into doing it, and it just.. didn't feel right.

So, my advice to you is to not do it until you are sure that you're ready.

--Jack
(17/m)

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there is this girl at my school that is a total bitch to everyone including me. she is really rude to me and my friends and says bad things about them to me. it bothers me alot but i just keep my mouth shut. i want to stick up for myself but i want to be the bigger person and blow up on her. should i keep quiet or say something?

If you blow up, it's going to give her the satisfaction she wants. If you stay quiet, she's going to know she can get away with it.

I like what Laura said below. Be firm. Tell her you won't take her crap anymore, and that it's really lame how she has to stoop to the level of being a bitch to make her life interesting. Then, walk away, and don't talk to her unless she decides to be nice.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I hope you can help me. I can never get enough of sex. Women break up with me because I want to have sex ALL the time. Morning, noon and night!

I would rather be with one woman but I'm not sure if it's going to work. What should I do? Are you involve with anyone?

Christina below me has the right idea.

You have to find a woman who is as in love with sex as you are. There's gotta be one out there, trust me.

For now, use Christina's suggestion in her last sentence.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I have so much acne!! I am on six different kinds of medication, I went to a doctor, and STILL I have pimples! My face looks like a pizza!! I want to be asked out at a school dance, but no boy will ask me cause my face has acne!!! I am ugly!!!

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=507367

Try that. It's my answer to a question very similar to yours.

--Jack
(17/m)

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kay so this guys asked me who i liked on aim then he went away and his away message was all lovey. do you think he likes me?

Laura below me stole my answer, but that's ok, she's my friend.

Anyway, if a guy asks you who you like, it's usually so that he can find out if you like him, even though girls usually say no one or some random guy they don't like, especially if they like the guy asking them.

Does that make sense?

--Jack
(17/m)

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i love it when boys compliment my boobs, i enjoy boys playing with my boobs and i always get my tits out for the boys. does this make me slutty ?

Hate to break it to you, but yeah, I would.

I mean, like Christina said, you're not sleeping around, but you're still using your body to get attention. It's kind of a slutty thing to do.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Let me just start out by saying that I am in a comitted relationship with my boyfriend and I trully love him a lot. But there's this other guy that I met at my new job and he sortve developed a crush on me. Now I'm not the type to cheat on anyone so that's out of the question. My boyfriend has no idea of this because if I tell him he'll flip out and possibly end it =(.. But this other guy he's really fun to hang out with he's funny and outgoingg and I just have a good time with him ..I just don't know what to do. I don't wanna leave my boyfriend for this guy because that's like leaving the one you love for the one you like..but then again I enjoy being with this guy ? What can I do ?

I agree with Laura below me.

If you honestly loved your boyfriend, there would be no doubt in your mind what to do, and you probably wouldn't have even thought twice about whether or not to end it with your boyfriend.

So, I think you have issues with your boyfriend that you need to work out with him. In the mean time, stay away from this "new guy", because it's just asking for trouble.

--Jack
(17/m)

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13/m
is there a kind of a set of stages type thing of what a girl will do when their angry at you because i was going out with this girl for about a week but then she got angry and dumped me because she said i was ignoring her and not paying enough attention and not making her feel special like i should and that is somewhat true but i was always afraid if she would get too creeped out by me telling her that she was beautiful and stuff like that so i hardly ever did now its been about a week and shes still angry at me
but for the first few days she was angry and telling me what i should of done to/for her that would make her feel special and stuff now shes starting to ignore me because i saw her at the movies as i was walking past it to go into the shops and i waved at her and her friend who was with her who is my friend also and she turned around and saw me then just looked away and that completely ruined my day so is there like stuff that she will keep doing for a certain amount of time until she forgives me and ive told her im sorry but she told her friend to tell me that she said im a dick head so im like getting unhappy cause she means alot but i cant keep going on with her being like this
sorry its so long
thanks

The first columnist took the words right out of my mouth. This girl is a needy bitch, and you don't deserve that whatsoever.

You freaking dated for a week, and she's acting like this? She's obviously doing it for the drama and to torment you.

Ignore her; she definitely isn't worth it.

--Jack
(17/m)

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alot of girls are asking me out and i like some of them but i dont wanna go out with them...dunno why..ive never had a gf but 13 ppl have asked me out this year, why dont i want a gf??am i afraid?

also, what do u do when your REALLY bored at home?

It's alright to not want a girlfriend, no matter what the reasons are. Girls are just more trouble than they're worth, sometimes.

Honestly, dating isn't something you HAVE to do just yet. Wait for a special girl that you see yourself really liking, because just dating for a month, breaking up, dating for two months with someone else, breaking up, and then repeating that cycle with girl after girl is just a stupid idea and it's not worth the emotional pain.

--Jack
(17/m)

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um well i have started school and there is this guy in my chem class who likes me well that what i think he feels like a stalker he asks me to many personal question he says that he sees me the hallways but i never see him he even messaged me and asked if im a outt or a inn ! i dont know how to tell him to leave me alone my friends say imtoo nice thats how i got a stalker! what should i do?

The first advice you received was pretty terrible, I'm afraid.

Anyway, if you honestly feel he's a stalker, and not just being an odd person with good intentions, I would talk to a teacher or a parent about it, and see what they can do.

Sometimes the mature thing to do is to go to an adult for help.

--Jack
(17/m)

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okay there is this guy named Marcus in my math class that i like.i really want to ask him out,but i dont want him to tell all my friends and make me a huge loser.and yes he is a little geeky.he has friends like him, he's not a loner. how do i ask him out? plz respond
-kelly,13 f tx

I'm sorry, but you're really shallow.

You want to date him, but you're afraid of what your friends might think? Wow, that's pretty lame.

Ask him out, and don't give a crap what other people think. If you like him, none of that should matter. And, the label of a geek was completely unnecessary.

--Jack
(17/m)

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What would you rather have as a kid, a boy or girl? And why?

A boy, but I'm hoping to have both.

I want a boy, then a girl, and then another boy in that order.

Why? Well because boys don't have a lot of the stupid drama that girls have.

--Jack
(17/m)

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17/f: I think being with my boyfriend has caused me to lose my sense of identity and independence. We've been together for 9 months, so many of our friends simply refer to us as "they" or "them" rather than by our names. And now I feel like I'm growing too dependent on him and our relationship. A day doesn't feel complete until I talk to him. My parents are strict about hanging out too much, so I've spent all my free time with him and I haven't seen any of my other friends in a while. The worst part is that this is all too familiar. I was like this with my first boyfriend too, except it was much worse. I didn't realize I was distancing from my friends and family away until it was too late. When we broke up, I felt so alone because I had made him the center of my world. I learned from it and didn't let it happen with this boyfriend, but now I feel like it's inevitably starting again. What can I do to "find" myself again? Thanks!

Thanks for inboxing me. In a way, I feel the same way when I date. But I always end the relationship before it gets too bad, I guess.

Anyway, if you want to keep your identity, first try spending less time with him, not like.. to ditch him, but try spending more time with your friends. And talk to him about it; let him know you need to see your friends, too.

If he gets upset about it, well, he shouldn't be. But if he does, he's probably not a mature person, and it's probably not worth it to stay with him. A guy should realize that girlfriends have friends, and a girl should realize that boyfriends have friends.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I was referred to as an "amazon lady" by someone recently and I don't exactly know what that means. I am a tall woman- 5'9"ish and I think it is a reference to my size but I don't know. I am just curious as to whether or not it is an insult? Thanks!

It was probably meant as an insult, but honestly, you have no control over your height, so I wouldn't worry about it.

An "Amazon" is a girl who is tall and of large build.

But, honestly, back in the day, those type of women were looked upon as the most desirable. =]

--Jack
(17/m)

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So I was just thinking, and I'm getting kinda worried... Is it true that when you enroll for school, they give out locker numbers out in order? Do you know what I mean? (I'm a freshman in high school by the way.) Like if one person enrolls and gets locker #387, would the person right after them get locker #388? Is it true that if you enroll before or after (or on the same day) with your friend(s) you'll have lockers close to them or right by them? Maybe it depends on the school, but I'm just curious. I think I'm enrolling on the last day possible and this is not giving me a good feeling. I really don't want a 'bad' locker or anything. Can anyone give me any info on this? Sorry if this was confusing!

It's alphabetical order at my school, and new people are put at the end.

So, your school is probably similar.

--Jack
(17/m)

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i like these 2 guys. aaron and ryan. they are both
soooo sweet and nice to me. but i dont know which one to pick. i need advice on which guy to pick.

Choose Aaron. No, choose Ryan.

I DON'T KNOW!

Here's who you choose:

Choose the guy that you see yourself with. Or, choose Aaron, because you put his name down first.

--Jack
(17/m)

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i am 13 and i am trying to find a job that pays pretty good money. i live in pa. any ideas of places like restaurants that you can think of?

You can't work at your age. Unfortunately, you're going to have to search for things like mowing lawns and babysitting and walking dogs or doing chores.

Sorry.

--Jack
(17/m)

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