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i dont know how to tell him to leave me alone
um well i have started school and there is this guy in my chem class who likes me well that what i think he feels like a stalker he asks me to many personal question he says that he sees me the hallways but i never see him he even messaged me and asked if im a outt or a inn ! i dont know how to tell him to leave me alone my friends say imtoo nice thats how i got a stalker! what should i do?
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The first advice you received was pretty terrible, I'm afraid.
Anyway, if you honestly feel he's a stalker, and not just being an odd person with good intentions, I would talk to a teacher or a parent about it, and see what they can do.
Sometimes the mature thing to do is to go to an adult for help.
--Jack
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I find that I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you have received and may continue to receive from others.
Since this boy is stalking you at school you have several choices in how to handle this situation. Before I go into the solutions I am going to suggest let me explain why I believe it is important you get this matter resolved quickly. If this matter is not correct immediately this young man will grow up to believe stalking is an appropriate way to show his affection and to get what he desires. As you know stalking is a form of harassment and in many states is a criminal violation anywhere from a misdemeanor to a felony depending on the degree of stalking. So by taking one of the suggestions I am going to make you will not only be teaching him a life lesson you will be saving other young women from harassment by him now and in the future.
Solutions:
1. Talk with your parents about this asks and them to help you in the following.
2. Talk to the school administrators about this young man’s stalking and ask them to; a) take the appropriate disciplinary action and b) to reassign him out of your Chem. class.
3. If the school administration does not take what you parents feel is appropriate action they can always ask the police for assistance.
Stalking is serious; it not only makes you feel uncomfortable but in many instances is considered a criminal offense. This young man may feel that he is only fooling around, the fact that you have asked him to stop is where it changes from fooling to criminal. Talk with your parents. Discuss with them how you feel about this situation and what I am suggesting and then follow their advice or their handling of the problem.
Most important here is that you feel safe in school and are safe.
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i had the same problem... when i started!
i told him that i cant be in a relationship until i was 16. And he basically said oh.. but then he said ill wait till then so O_O......
just say leave me alone you perv if he comes near you scream out RAPE! RAPE! it works like a charm.
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