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Ok, well heres the thing...I still like my ex boy friend, I think...see I am not sure if I like him...or I just liked making out with him...lol I know it sounds childish but when I am in his arms I feel safe, and it feels like nothing in the world matters anymore...I dont know what to do because we dated for 3 days and then broke up for about a week and then we dated for another 4 days and then broke up and it has almost been a week, both of the times we broke up it was because he was flirting with another girl and had told his best friend that he liked her more then me, and his best friend proved it to me both times...I dono what to do...i want him back, I think...PLease help me I dont know what to do...I feel so good when I am in his arms and when we are kissing but I dont know if i just like the fact of feeling that way, or feeling that way "WITH HIM"....if you know please tell me!!! I need to figure this out because it is driving me crazy!!

The problem is that he doesn't know how serious you are about being with him.

To the average person, dating for 3 days, breaking up for a week, dating again, and repeating that cycle means that you're not very serious about the relationship.

You need to tell him otherwise.

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I'm a freshman and i think i'm workin myself too hard. I come home exhausted almost everyday and i take a nap. Then when i wake up, it takes me a few hours to do my homework and i'm really tired. I play a sport year-round and i think i might have to give up 1 or 2 of those sports. What should do? Am i working myself too hard?

You're most definitely putting too much pressure on yourself.

I was like that last year also. Taking a nap is so very tempting but it just slows down your ability to work after you wake up -- you really don't work efficiently for some time after you sleep.

I'm not sure how your schedule goes, doing homework ad lunch is always a good idea. If you have any other free periods, don't slack off during them, do some work if you can.

If you have teachers who give you homework sheets which list all the HW for a few weeks or so in advance, or one who assigns HW due in 3 or 4 days take advantage of it! It can be tempting to socialize, but you may have to cut time away from fun for work, because that's high school, and it sucks.

If none of that can work for you, or if you just want everything to be easier without doing work in school/in advance, you may want to drop one of the sports.

I had to drop playing baseball when I got to high school, it took up too much time. It was bad at first, but in the end you're making a good decision.

Whatever you do, make sure you always leave some time for sports, once a week, once every two weeks, just don't stop -- because you CAN forget/get rusty at them, and you'll regret it.

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I wake up every morning at least two hours earlier than my first class. I get up, take my dog for a walk, take a shower and get ready. You would think that all of that would wake me up enough to stay awake during my classes wouldn't you?

No luck for me. My hardest class is at 9 mondays and 9:30 wednesdays - Mammalian Anatomy and Physiology- and I am constantly falling asleep durring it. I try to take notes and sit next to the open windows, but it doesn't work. Coffee never seems to help me stay awake, and it gives me an upset stomach even if it did. Does anyone know of anything else that I could do to get myself awake and alert during this class? I don't want to just get a good grade, I actually want to learn everything and remember it all for my job in the future And this means actually paying attention in class.

How much sleep are you getting? If you're not getting enough, then a two-hour morning routine is too long, get the extra sleep and cut it down by 45 minutes or an hour if you can; or try other methods to get to sleep earlier.

If you're getting the recommended amount for someone your age, then you want to take the Mountain Dew path as MFS suggested, BUT Jones Soda (http://www.jonessoda.com/files/locator.html) is actually better for it, more caffeine, and it doesn't taste bad, as Mt. Dew does; and comes in many different flavors. That link is to a store locator, because not everyone sells them.

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OK here's the deal. I smoke cigarettes .. yes I know all the bad stuff about it already and I know I shouldn't do it, blah blah blah. My best friend doesn't know tho. Shes my best friend in the entire world and I hate keeping this from her. A couple of people who she doesnt like know I smoke. She doesnt even know i talk to them. I hate keeping it from her. I dont want to quit. She thinks smoking is really stupid. How can I tell her about it ?

She's a true friend; if you just tell her she'll respect your decision.

She'll most probably try and get you to quit... don't dismiss her points, that will be as bad as blowing smoke in her face.

She'll accept it, you'll still be friends, all will be well.

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Hi well see I met this guy from Paris, France, well he is sweet and everything , but my boyfriend dosnt like him , he said if I talked to him that he would break up with me , what do I do?Plz
help

A lot of men are insecure about their girlfriend or wife talking to another man, even if it's entirely platonic or even work/business.

Before you break off contact with the French man, sit down and talk with your boyfriend about it: About why he doesn't want you talking to him...don't let him give you some BS angry answer, let him give you an honest and straight one.

If he makes some good points, then break off contact with the French person.

If he doesn't, well, how long have you been together?

If you truely value your relationship with your boyfriend, then don't talk to the French person.

But do make a note of it, if it happens to often you have something to seriously think about.

Good luck!

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