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I'm Jessie. I've been on here on and off for about 7 years. I'm 22 :) I am currently in my final year of college studying English and new media I'm from Ireland I dye my hair way too much. I've been blonde,brown,brown with blonde,black,red,and blonde again!I love helping people I found advicenators when I was just 15 and didn't understand the world! I feel I have matured with this site. The people on here are amazing and I love coming on here in my spare time to be there for people in need. I won't tell you what you want to hear because that's not advice it's just fooling yourself. I try to help in whatever way I can I try not to judge and try to relate to a situation if I can. :) If you don't like honesty then you won't like my advice.
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So, here's the thing. I'm a lesbian- 16 years old. Me and my ex were together for 11 months and 3 weeks. We were absolutely perfect together, and completely in love. She was my first like everything, and after we broke up, we were on and off or about 6 months, but now, I've noticed how much she's changed, and I realize that's she's not my type anymore. She used to be so amazing and monogamous, now she has a new girlfriend, and she likes like 10 other people as well. THAT is NOT my type. And yeah, I still cry over it at night when I think of how great everything used to be. But that was so long ago, and there's been too drastic a change for me to want to date her anymore. So, I think i'm finally getting over her.
Now, her and her new girl have been together for almost a month. And I just met her a few days ago, and I saw her again today. I think i'm crushing. Here's the weird part: The way I met my ex was because the girlfriend I had at the time (we dated for 9 months) broke up with me FOR HER. So basically I took her from my other ex. I'm such a mess, and I feel horrible, because me and my ex are supposed to be friends, but I don't know what to do. I'm thinking about messaging her on myspace and telling her to text me or something...But it just feels so wrong.
What should i do?
- TheHopelessRomantic
Hey there,
Okay what you need to do is distance yourself from them both for a while,because the way your crushing on her current girlfriend isnt good.
its just going to make things complicated and messy,and people are going to get hurt mostly you.
you don't want to become that girl known as the girlfriend stealer,theres no harm in befriending your ex's new gf without any intention of anything more but as of now it seems like you do so its not good to get involved yet like i said distance yourself for a while.
you say your ex likes 10 other people as well and she has a gf,that shows the classic signs of a relationship breakdown, honestly how can she like that many people and have a gf?it looks to me like it won't last very long anyway if thats the case,wait a while and see if things last and if they are both serious about each other,you might just be having false feelings just wait to see if they deepen or fade away if you find them deepening and they are still togethet don't go after her,like It doesnt seem likely to last,then its safe to befriend her.
I hope I helped and made some sense!
Good luck
Much
this will be long, but i will return the favor to anyone who is generous enough to read(:
alright lets get the facts straight:
i just turned 19, the guy i like his name is joe, just turned 18. me and joe have been friends for about 6 years now. joe has been dating his girlfriend for 3 straight years.
the thing is, im IN love with joe. i've been in love with him but he loves his girlfriend. i cant get over him, we use to be best friends. we use to hangout ALL THE TIME, before his girlfriend came along.
i can't keep joe off my mind, seriously he's on my mind 24/7 im not kidding, i even dream about him (weird...) even when i was on vacation i thought about him. when im with my friends i think about him. when i'm at work, i think about him. when i'm with another guy, i think about him more. no matter what i'm doing or where i am, i think about him.
the HORRIBLE thing is, i can't get away from the situation. one of my best friends, is my cousin and guess what? joe is my cousins NEXT DOOR neighbor so everytime i'm at my cousins i get to see joe's girlfriends car over there and it kills every single time.
i'm SO vulnerable when i'm with joe. when we hangout alone, which is like hmm, once every FOUR months he always tries getting with me. i've never done anything with him but god i want to so bad. even though its so wrong because he has a girlfriend ive never been so comfortable with any other guy.
i tell joe alot, he's always there for me. when i cry, he holds me and tells me everythings going to be okay. when i laugh, he smiles. when i look sad he always knows and asks "whats wrong, cheer up" and even when i say "nothing's wrong..." he always knows there is.
i'm not happy unless i'm with joe. i see him probably once a month because hes with his girlfriend 24/7. she sleeps over at his house, he's been to her cabin, she's been on trips with his family and that hurts soooo bad. his brothers and sisters adore me, everytime i see them they scream my name and come give me a hug.
i've never told him i've had feelings for him but i know he knows by how i talk to him, how i flirt with him. but what good is it doing? i'm obviously not good enough for him to break up with his girlfriend. and i dont want things to be awkward between us.
i love how so many girls think hes hot, but no matter how many girls throw themselves at him he will never act different around me. his current girlfriend, has been his only girlfriend. the things he does sexual, hes only done with one girl, and thats his girlfriend.
i rememeber about two years ago this guy i was interested in broke my heart and all i could say is "i need joe, i need to talk to him" because he truly makes me happy.
i honestly don't know what to do. my friends say, move on. you deserve better than him. but its not that easy! i've tried, i cant just let someone whose been in my life for six years just go away like that.
we barely text anymore because of his girlfriend. his girlfriend is the ONLY person who makes me cry because i know that she has him, and hes the only thing i want.
any suggestions? i'm so lost. i seriously realized i love this boy. my heart is broken. it breaks everyday when i wake up and realize he's still with her. i've tried meeting new guys, it doesnt work.
anything will help!
Hey there,
Ok firstly I know how horrible this situation is and how hard and hurtful it is its not nice for ANYONE to have to go through & im truely sorry its happening to you,but im going to give you straight honest advice from my point of view it might not be what you want to hear but I think its what you NEED to hear.
you need to ween yourself off joe,the feelings your feeling are not good and your torturing yourself with them really,it looks like youve let them take over your life.. theres so much to live for don't waste your time sitting around moping and depressing yourself over one guy,I know you feel like no one may understand at the moment but trust me I do Ive been there you think about him 24/7 and feel like youl never be able to stop but you can and you will.
you have to because the hard truth is joe is happy with his girlfriend and you just have to do your best and get through it.
you need to talk to him about your feelings and how its eating you up inside you need to get them off your chest to him,and tell him you need distance so you can truely get over him,
also its not fair of him to try get with you espcially when he has a girlfriend and he if you say hes really aware of your feelings towards him!?you say youve tried but have you really?
be hard on yourself dont let yourself think about him every time his name or something about him gets into your mind distract yourself away from it keep busy have fun live your life get out there. youve wasted too much time wishing you were with joe,your still really young think about it,is there any point at this stage?
you dont have to let him go,just let your feelings go,and just be his friend its do-able.
motivate yourself take up new hobbies go out more anything you need to start living again properly.
I hope I helped in anyway and that you do get over joe because it really is the best way.
Much
hey neighbor! so yah my parentals are really trying to make me do football but they arent actually MAKING me. they just keep talkin bout it and saying like if i dont wanna do it, i have to call the coach! ugh! i dont know how to convince them that i dont like football :(. i just wanna do music and stuff so i dont know please if you have any ideas, tell me!
♥
Kyle
Hey there,
Okay honestly what you have to do is just sit down with your parents and explain to them you have no interest in football at all,like you said they arent making you so they probably arent even aware of the fact that you don't like it.
tell them your real interest is with music and you don't want to waste that by putting your efforts into something you feel you have to do.
they should be 100%understanding about this =]
just tell them how you feel and it should work out.
I hope I helped
much
theres this kid i like and he likes me but hes going out with my friend and before that he went out with my other friend. im not sure on what to do because i really like him and likes me, but i dont wanna hurt my friend. this girl is one of my best friends and i dont wanna hurt her if i ever went out with him. now i have a bf but i dont like him and he was one of my good friends and stuff and i wouldve felt bad if i said no to him so i said yeah but i feel huilty making him think i like him (we just started going out today). so now its like one big love square. to make matters worse im still getting over my last relationship which i have no idea why i ended it because i was in love with the kid. but im really mad at my x cause everything i told him (like the stuff when we broke up) he ran to his dad and told him everything! im so confused about this. i hope you can help me
Hey there,
Okay what you need to ask yourself is who is more important to you,your best friend or some guy?
honestly is it worth hurting her for a potential relationship with this guy that might not even last being realistic is it worth loosing a friend?
rememeber the old saying "boyfriends will come and go but best friends are forever" seriously.
you need to ween yourself off this guy,liking him is dangerous.
its not fair for him to be going out with her if he likes you.
and the same goes for you with your boyfriend,you cant keep leading him on like this tell him the truth before it goes on too long and he gets hurt.
if you end it now you can take the easy way out and say look i said yes too quickly id rather be friends im not sure i want a relationship right now im sorry,considering that fact that your also still getting over your ex,you can add that in too.
the choice is yours,your friend her or boyfriend. I personally would not go there it really isnt worth the stress anger and hurt that will explode because of it.
you and her boyfriend need to give each other space and do your best to move on from your feelings for each other.
Try not to rush into relationship after relationship chances are your sitll young you dont need all that stress just enjoy your freedom for a while.give yourself a chance to truly get over someone before going onto the next.
I hope I helped,
Much
I'm 17/female and it may seem mildly out of the ordinary for a site like this, anyway, I have been struggling with falling in love with this guy who is probably gay that I see maybe two or three times a year. I think about him on a daily basis and creep on his facebook and twitter. He's 25.
I know it's probably my naivety shining through, but it has been two years since I first met him and I have had feelings for him every single day.
I haven't had a real relationship - ever, not counting the stupid things I did back in junior high. Guys don't particularly like me, I never make moves at all, and I always end up being friends.
Help!! :\
hey there,
I agree with cux,the unforunate thing is and you have to face the fact that he is gay,you cant change someones sexuality.
there are millions of other guys out there you have to be brave and put yourself out there dont wait for them to come to you,alot of them are worried about making the first move too.
be fun outgoing and flirty =)
go places with your friends where you can potentialy meet guys,im sure youve got great qualities and guys will like you!
you just have to show them how amazing you are :)
dont stress too much over this gay guy,theres not much you can do only move on youl find a guy right for you concentrate on going out and having fun and thats when youl least expect it one will come along
hope I helped
Much
Hi guys. 17 f
So im new at my job and so is this guy. We met first becuase we had a lunch break together, but then my time changed and now I work in the morning and he works at night. So I get to see him like 2 minutes before I leave when he comes in. And we can't stop and talk becuase he needs to go to his job. Well anyway I had an idea that I should ask him to borrow his phone just to make convo with him. He's really sweet, and nice. He's super nice to me and I don't know if he's into me. Becuase we barely see eachother and never have time to talk. If I tell him about my feelings maybe he will be creeped out becuase we've only spoken like 3 times and he like smiles at me wen he sees me. But that's all. I just saw him right now going into the job and I yelles his name and said hi. And he turned around and asked me if I was doing working and I said yes and he smiled and said bye. I really wish we could talk more but I can't tell him that. He might think im weird or something. Btw we work at CVS and he's 20 im 17 soon 18. Okay thanks soo much. Btw I like him a lot. But I think he's clueless.
hey there,
okay well i think your both attracted to each other anyway like you said hes super nice to you and sweet and he smiles alot at you so those are good signs =]
but yea your right not to tell him your feelings just yet judging by the way you don't really know him
so what I think you should do is,its totally putting yourself out there but its the only way to find out and itl be fun and flirty too and interesting to see
if you do ask him to borrow his fone so you can make a pretend call or something like that,then causually make convo and put your number into it and tell him to text you sometime,its leaving it up to him then so youl see if he texts,and if he does its a sure sign hes interested that way you can get to talking then ask him to hang out sometime or go for lunch or something one day your both off.
i know the idea of putting yourself out there like that is scary but at least youl know then and its better then sitting around wondering =)
it could turn out really well in fact i hope it does,he sounds great so grab the bull by the horn while you have a chance,even if things dont work out exactly how you want them look on the bright side you will have made a new friend at least?,
if you don't want to do the number thing ask him straight out to hang out something sugest somewhere to go =]
hope It works out,and that I helped
much
Okay,so im going to sum up my story into short.
There's this guy that I was "talking" to for about 6 weeks,i liked him alot and he liked me.
He started hanging out with me everyday ,along with my group of friends as well. He then told me he just wanted to be friends ,he didnt have a reason and he claims i didnt do anything wrong.He also at one point liked my best friend and she kinda liked him too. So at that point,we all just agreed that our friendships were more important and that all three of us would be friends.After this agreement,I had a little party and whatnot and got a little drunk and me and my best friend both ended up hooking up with him .I was all over him all night and I wouldn't leave him alone.(which was stupid)The next day,he calls me and tells me that his parents found out about the little party that was at my house and got in trouble and isnt allowed to use his car and whatnot and he told me that he was really annoyed with me that night and he again said that he was going to be friends with me and my best friend and nothing more. Well,recently he has been talking to my best friend more and asking her to hangout "as friends" but he hasn't even talked to me at all or responded to any of my messages.Tonight we are all going to my friends goodbye dinner and he's going to be there.I don't know how I should act or what to do?
Advice please!
Hey there,
okay I think after all thats happend its definately best to just stay friends with this guy and nothing more.
hes made it clear that he just wants to be friends,you got a little drunk and had hooked up,its in the past dont dwell on it move on and dont think anything more of it.
theres 2 possible options of what could be going on here.
Option 1. your guy friend is being sincere when he says he wants to be friends with both you and your other friend and nothing more and if so you should both respect that.
Option 2.judging by his behavour it Is Possible he might be starting to like your friend more?
but you cant read to much into it otherwise you will come off as being the paronied over obsessive type and you very much don't want that.
I doubt this is the case however,I think hes just feeling a little awkward over what happend and needs his space.
tonight just act totally normal like his friend and nothing else,play it cool =)
if this guy and your friend are into each other then they should at least tell you,that way if your hung up on him it will give you a chance to move on ask your bestfriend to honestly tell you if she sees him as anything more and vice versa,
if this happens then all you can do is just do your best to be happy for both and don't get in the way.
theese are all just possible outcomes youl just have to wait and see dont keep badgering your friend give him the space for a while then see how things are,if he continues to ignore you and not speak to you then to be blunt hes not much of a friend and its his loss so just move on.
hope I helped =)
much
okay so this is my situation, ALOT of people say i need to brake up with my boyfriend. He does this where he will talk dirty to girls and ask them to give him head and stuff on the computer.. mostly aim and myspace but he never actually goes threw with it he only talks about it and if i bring it up he freaks out and deneys it, i looked at his myspace messages one day i know that as wrong but .. i had a huntch and i was right and i brought it up and he turned it around on me the thing is.. im compleatly in love with this guy so much that i dont even care if he cheats on me.. well i mean i care and all but i wont do anything about it because i love him so much, weve been dating a little over a year and ive gotten pregnant by him but we lost the baby at 10 weeks and i love his family and friends and.. i just love him .. but then i see all these guys who want to date me and its like.. sometimes i wish i could date someone else because i know what my boyfriend does is wrong but i cant help it, im attracked to my last ex who treated me better than any guy before me never argue or anything, my dated for 8 months and i broke up with him because my ex who is my current boyfriend wanted me back.. we dated for 4 months before.. and we argue all the time at least a few times a week.. i dont know what to do if i brake up with him im going to be so deppressed it feels like i could never live without him.. what do i do? or does anyone have any advice for me at all? his sister told me i was over reacting and that he would never actually do it so its not cheating.. am i over reacting?
Hey there,
Okay im going to be honest you,in reading your question I think you have all the answers you need.
no your definately not over reacting in my opinion.
I can understand youve been with your boyfriend a very long time and you love him but sometimes there comes a time where you Just have to let go and move on,you don't seem to be truely happy espicially if you are thinking about dating other guys and your ex..doesnt that tell you something?
I think your aftaid to let go.
messing around on the computer like that is still incuating that hes going to cheat and its not very considerate of your feelings and he most certainly should NOT be doing it.
you should put up with that kind of behaviour and your should do something about it if he did cheat on you.
I mean why alow yourself to be walked all over like that?you dont deserve that you deserve so much better. dont be like push over girl that every guy thinks he can treat how he likes,at the end of the day someone who loves you would never do that or consider it or even talk about it!
the trust seems to have faded in this relationship and its so important.
honestly in my opinion its time to move on sure its extremely hard but we all have to face it and you can do it.
If you truely feel in your heart 100% that you want to give him a chance and try work things out sit down and talk to him about how your feeling.
but the fact that your having doubts doesnt show that.
Please do what feels right to you dont stay stuck if your not really happy!
I hope I helped in anyway and sorry if this wasnt exactly what you wanted to hear but Thats my take on thins =)
good luck with everything
much
my name i desi and i am 16 and i live with my mom but i want to move with my boyfriend we been together for a year and 5 mths and i ask my mom all the time if i can move with him. i dont go to school im getting my ged and i turn 17 on feb. 2 and my mom wants to send me off because i stay at my boyfriends house all of the time and i never want to go home because i have an aunt that lives with us an she gets drunk all of the time and my mom makes me put up with it what can i do
Hey there,
Okay well its not fair for you to put up with your aunts drunken habbits.
your mom shouldnt put up with it either not in her house.
sit your mom down and explain how you don't know how much more of it you can take and you shouldnt be expected to live with that your moms probably just trying to look out for you and is worried about you moving in with your bf,but what she doesnt realise is being at home in this situation isnt doing you much good either.
tell your mom to either get your aunt to straighten up and stop drinking or else move out of the house,or else you will end up at your boyfriends house full time.
be mature about it let her no your serious and concerned and are not rebelling as such.
are you 100% sure you are ready to go with your bf though?if so then do this.
but if not its an entirely different story. make sure your not just doing it to run away from your moms and auntys problems,thats not going to turn out good in the end running from the situations only makes them worse deal with them head on,call a social worker about your aunty if things get so bad are your mom won't see reason.
your only 16 you should not have to deal with this.
ask for some outside help if things dont get better,theese people are there for it.
hope I helped
and things get better,please feel free to inbox me again if youve any more questions or I misunterstood any aspect of this =)
Much
Do you usually use Maxi Pads or Tampons? And do you know any kinds that work good?
hey there, well It depends. I use both,but when I first started my period I only wore pads for the first year until I thought I was ready to use tampons.
It all depends on which you prefer yourself,you have to try both to decide everyones different some girls might then pads work best others tampons.
tampons are the better option if your going swimming or going out to a party or anything like that. =)
but yea i mostly use the pads unless i have to wear tampons for reasons like that
hope I helped,anymore questions please ask!
much
Hehe thanks a lot!
But if he is going to go, for sure we will end it bcz we will far for so long and its not easy to go and come so 3 years away so for sure we break up, unfortunately. well he is going to move to Galway at the Gmit university, if he gets accepted. do u know how much the university is there per year for a non- EU student? are the poeple nice there?
thanks so much!!!
xxx
hey again its no prob =]
aw thats unfortunate but for the best it would be extremely hard.
well as far as know,there was never such thing as college tuition fees or anything like that over here,but because of all the economy problems and stuff now they are bringing them back in and I think. Im not sure if they were always there for non Eu members they probably were I dont know much when it comes to that but this might help
http://www.educationireland.ie
people are actually really friendly here =] whenever i go away to like england or the us people are always like omg your irish when i was there everyone was so bubly and welcoming =)
so ive heard! haha
anyway hope i helped again!
much
14/f
I am the girl, who you gave advice on July 27th about how my families are split and I most likey will be moving. You did a really good job on giving me advice, however I do not have to choose. I am dependent on my mom, I can tell her everything. I love my dad just as much, but since he is a guy, he can't hear my girl needs or does he want to. haha. If I move, I will go with my mom. I don't want to leave my dad, but I know that I might have to. If I do though, I don't know how to tell him that I am moving. I hate being told what to do, I am not one to rebel or talk back to my dad, my dad runs a respectable household. He has raised me very well, so has my mom, but I know that he raised to follow God and put 100% of my faith in him. I'm not afriad of the idea of leaving my high school, or moving my house. My only fear is hurting my dad. I wouldn't leave for awhile, but I know that it might hurt him knowing that only 10 miles away (distance between my mom and dad's house) packing boxes. My dad hasn't talked to me about Georgia yet, I think he knows that its a hard topic for me. Wehever it is brought up I start crying, I hate crying in front of them because I feel like I am being immature when I am. But I get so angry ( I hold back my anger) when my step sister and step mom ask me questions about me possibly moving but when I tell them the truth, they get mad and tell me that I can't leave my dad. Do they really think that I can leave my mom or are they just angry? Then yesterday at my birthday party, my step sister asked me about what would happen if my step dad accepted the job. I told her that my step dad would move there intill my house is sold then my mom and I can join him. SHe got defensive and told me that I cant leave. I asked why not. She told me because my dad lives here in Ohio. I told her that my step dad couldn't be unemplyed, and that he is doing the best he can in finding another job to stay here, he doesn't want to move either, but we have to face reality. It got quiet after my step sisters fight, and I went to the bathroom. I don't know if they know this, but when I go to the bathroom I usually cry in there. I don't know what to do about my step sister and step mom. Can you help me, again?
Hey there,
im glad I could be of some help =)
Sorry I seemed to have misunderstood a bit.
of course your going to be worried about hurting your dad,and im not going to lie and say he won't be a little upset andd hurt he will be,but he wont punish you or judge you for it.
he as your father should respect your reasons for wanting to go with your mom and not try convince you otherwise,it will be tough but over time it will get easier and things will fall into place again in no time once you all ajust to it.
if it turns out you do have to move you have to sit down and talk to your dad,is the problem that he will try and stop you?
&& that your mom and step sister are telling you to stay with your dad?
if this is the case then you need to explain to them all calmly what you want.
tell them they are being insensitive to your feelings and they should hear you out and your reasons.
your mom and step sister don;t seem to understand have you talked to her about it?tried to make her see this from your perspective,they cant make you stay.its not fair.
they should want you to be happy.
you are not being immature everyone needs a good cry once and a while and espicially in this situation.
I honestly can't understand why they say you can't leave your dad doesnt what you want matter in all of this?
have you said that to them?
honestly I think the only solution to this now is,if you find out your moving sit down and have a talk about all your options witohut it being turned into a row.
make your voice reasons and opinions heard dont let anyone make them for you okay?
I do hope It doesnt come to the stage where you have to move,and I hope I understood corectly and helped some more this time!
please dont hesitate to inbox me again if i have gotten any aspect of this wrong or you need more help ( I have the flu so Im not functioning well haha.)
anyway best of luck
much
alright, so, My ex who lives in america, broke my heart really bad by doing numerous things, he went to a wedding and told me he saw a hot blonde who looked like me, he asked a girl what her answer would be if he was single(whilst he was with me) and numerous other things as well. I realsize now it was stupid of me to think a long distance relationship like this would actually work, he hurt me real bad
Now, a close friend of mine, who is like a sister has recently told me she has a crush on him. The guy and i broke up three weeks before she told me this. She says she likes him but wants to tell him she likes him, point is im worried that he's going to do exactly what he did to me to her. and She is much more vulnerable than me in that shes a very emotional person, also its going to upset me alot if she dates my ex. As i'll have a constant reminder of him in my life, which i really dont want.
So what im asking is what should i do to make the situation good on both parts? i dont want to loose her...but i also am really against this relationship. He doesnt like her in that way but i dont want her to be hurt becuase of him.
female 15
hey there
believe it or not i was in the exact same situation..
all you can really do is talk to your friend,give her a warning let her know your just looking out for her and make it clear its not because you have feelings for him or being selfish or anything like that its just your worried he will hurt her like he did to you.
explain to her how hes no good and she can definately do better and how you really don't want him in your life after what he did.
if she doesnt listen to you and goes ahead and does it anyway well shes going to have to learn from her own mistakes,you tried to warn her theres mot much you can do then youve done what a good friend should do all you can do then is be there for her when the same thing happens,and don't be like I told you so.
I hope I helped =]
Much
hey there, i want to ask u specifically bcz ur from Ireland. My boyfriend of 2 years MIGHT move to Ireland for university.we discussed it and i know he wants to go but there's a chance he wont due to financial things. should i be worried if he goes? i guess we'll break up bcz Ireland is too far away from where we live now. how are the girls there in general?
please answer!
thankss xxx
hey there =]
awh sorry hes movin so far well it depends if he goes it will be really hard but if you two are together for so long and are commited to making a long distance relaitionship it could work.
girls here are pretty much like the girls youl get anywhere haha no different so theres nothing to worry about there,if you and your boyfriend stay together and say a girl is interested and he says he has a gf at home she will back off were not the type to go after guys who are taken if thats what your worried about but then again i cant speak for every girl in the country there are going to be those bitchy ones but if you trust your bf it should be fine =]
but I wouldnt worry about anything until its definate that he will go,if youve any questions about the colleges and courses over here il be happy to answer :) hope i helped good luck to your bf and you
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hi!
i'm planning to attend the University of Arkansas. i would like to major in psycology and become a psycologist ( shrink ). i've been on the webiste to see what kind of classes i would have to take and stuff..and i really just wanna know if i would have to only take a few medical classes..or if i would have to go to medical school..but i cant find anything on the website.
can anyone help me?
Hey there,
im interested in going into the same field too when I leave school,but seeing as I don't live in the states its a completely different system over here but as far as I know whether or not you have to take a medical class or go to med school is depending completely on the type of psycology you would like to do,
there are many types for instance clinical psycology: (definition)
Clinical psychologists apply psychology, the scientific study of behaviour, to help people with a wide range of mental and physical health problems. They assist people experiencing mental or emotional disorientation and help them regain their mental well-being.
if this is the kind your interested in then id say yes you would need some aspect of medicine.
but there are many different types,i would say look around for different websites that will excplain more to you or if you had a career guidence counsellor at school go back to talk to him/her or visit the university and ask for yourself research around about it =]
hope I helped some how
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My parents are divorced. I've learned to accept that years ago. They have been divorced for almost ten years. Both of them are remarried and I love my step parents. I am very close to my mom, I think every girl is. I am also close to ny dad. I see him Wednesdays, Thrsdays, and I live with him every other weekend. I like how things are. However something has come up. You guys seem to get that I am close to both parents. They don't talk much, but when they do they are very responsible, respectful and they don't fight. My step dad works at NCR and his busnuiness is moving to Georgia. In two days we will get a letter saying if he is asked to move to Georgia. He has been looking for a job for about two months now. Since of the economy it is really hard to find a good job. He can't take a bigpay cut and he gets paid good. My step sister has asked me what would happen if he gets asked to go. I wasn't about to lie so I told her the truth, that he would move down there and my mom and I would stay in Ohio intill the house gets sold. When I told her that she got defensive, she said that I was NOT allowed to move sincemy dad lives here. I told her that my step dad couldn't go unemplyed and he is trying all he can to provide for my mom and I. I do not want to movie, but I know that we have to do whatever we have to do. All of my family lives up here. But I am trying to stay strong in all of this. A few weeks ago I was listening to my step mom on the phone to my dad's mom and she said that there was nothing to worry about because I wasn't allowed to move. Based on the law, I technically don't have to go to my dad's anymore since I am passed 13 years old. I turn fifteen in four days, I think that I am almost depressed. I cry everyday just thinking about this. I'm going through a hard time by myself, let only the fact that they don't support me. It's hard to stay strong when people tear you down. I am a christian and my moto is to live by gods will. I know that everything happens for a reason, so why can't they support me. Im going through a really hard time and it's hard to think that I might be moving away from my dad. I don't know what to do. My mom has told me that we would drive up here a lot, and I would get a job to pay for a car to drive myself and plane tickets. We may not even have to move, we will find out in two days. Whenever I talk to my step mom or step sister about it I go to the bathroom and cry. What should I do? I know they don't want me to leave, but I am old enough to not to be selfish and I relize that my step dad would have to make sacrifices too. My mom told me that I have the option to stay with my dad, I love my dad, but I couldn't leave my mom. I really need help. How do I talk to my step family and dad about somethng that makes me cry, and I know it makes them sad too, but to face the truth I may move. It wouldn't even be intill late 2010. That is over a year. I really need to talk to someone. My friends don't understand, please help. I'm sorry that this is long. But I needed to tell my side of the story.
hey there,
first off let me say how your being so brave strong and understanding throughout all this.
most 14 year olds would kick up a fuss about moving and act completely imaature and not know how to handle it but your being so mature I know I wouldnt be able to take all of this and Im nearly 16.
Your mom step sister and step dad,are only thinking of you I know it might seem like they don't support you by wanting you to stay where you are but I don't think its entirely that I think they are Just letting you know that they arent going to force you to move and thats good.
because in most situations sometimes the person isnt given an option and has to go.
try stay positive youve got two families who love you and just want the best for you and to see you happy. there fore you have the choice.
some people have no familes look at the glass half full.
I know its an extremely hard choice to make but whether you decide to go or stay you will still see your other other family like your mom said you can visit etc,I know it wont be the same but its better then nothing.
try not to worry or stress out too much until you know for sure if you actually have to move.
your only 14 you shouldnt have to deal with this stuff,like you said you wont even be moving until late 2010 so I would advice you for the time being to relax and do your best to take your mind off it and think about your decision nearer the time weigh out your options.
Ihope ive made the correct understanding in all of this,sorry If i have gotten it wrong!
I do hope Ive helped you some how,and i wish I could help make your decision for you or that you werent even in this position at all.
its good that you have a close relationship with god,keep praying hes always one to listen if no one else wont =]
if you need to talk my inbox is always open
Again I hope I helped and good luck
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I'm 16, 5'5" and currently about 135 pounds. I try my hardest to feel confident with the body I have but I just can't. I want to be 115 pounds by the end of the summer at the latest but I'd like to lose it as fast as possible. I'm a pollitarian (the only meat I eat is chicken) and I love vegetables (most anyway). A lot of the time I have my food grilled with very little dressing or sauce so it has some flavor. I used to drink large amounts of soda but recenetly, I haven't been drinking any and I stick with iced tea, juice or water. I work out at home here and there but I'm joining a gym within the next few weeks (money's tight right now due to vacation soon).
I need a plan that will deffinetly get me to lose the weight I want to lose! Please help me out!
Hey there, =]
well to be honest you are doing everything right,and that you need to do to loose weight.
your eating right,exercising also you don't need to worry if you keep this up youl see results soon I promise.
I definately would NOT recommend those ridiculous crash diets like atkins,or slimfast or anything along those lines because they confuse your metabilsm and are unhealthy more then anything else.
if money is tight try exercises at home,like sit ups go for walks runs with your ipod even those work out dance dvds are super for burning calories,the wii fit believe it or not if you have the wii is brilliant and fun to do aswell =)
trust me your doing it 100% the right way be paitient and your efforts will show when you get the reuslts you want
hope I helped
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Hello.... My name is Sara. Im 22 F.....I guess my question story is this.... I was in a relationship with my ex for five years. We were highschool sweethearts...It had been a rocky road for us and we had our breaks and break ups...but we always got better and ended up with eachother in the end. I loved him in every way I could...with everything I had. A few years ago, while I was living in another city (only 2 hours away) for college, he confessed to me that he had sent graphic nude, and explicit images of himself to his then 13 year old step sister....and she had sent them back. He was 21.
I had never cried so hard in my life, and even though it was probably stupid of me, I loved him, and took him back. its been almost 3 years since then. And over this valentines day, he proposed. I said yes. Life was amazing ya know? well...3 months into the engagement, I came across some old emails between his step sister and him that just were "off"....and it lead me to question him. Well, as it turns out, while we were on a break, he had sent and recieved pictures from her again, used them as pornography, and talked to her about how badly he wanted to be physical with her. this was when she was 15...he was 22. He was trying to hide it from me and never planned on telling me what he had done with her agian. And 2 months before our wedding, i had found out.....
Funny thing is, I wanted to go to counciling. I wanted to hold off on the wedding and work on us. He showed nearly no remorse for what he did. Never really talked to me when I was crying, never really held me...not the way you should when you see the person you are saposed to love that hurt. and you are the one who hurt them....and he left.
Its been a couple months...I am seeing an AMAZING man, who treats me so well, and in all fairness to him does know EVERYTHING, and is helping me get through this. But I recently found out that my ex is now dating his step sister. living in the same house with her and their whole family...the family is ok with it....she is 16 he is 23....and it is disgusting. I cant just cut off all ties with him because he is in the same click of friends that I am...his best friends are my best friends....and I am having en extremely hard time coming to terms with this. He has cussed me out for telling him I think he is disgusting, and finally coming clean with our friends as to the REAL reason our marriage failed, as to what lies he was telling them, and has told me he hopes I die...he has called me an F'ing Bitch, a chicken shit and F'ing puss(because I would ignore his multiple calls)and the C word. I cant take this. and I dont know how to handel it. Do does anyone have advice?? ANyone know of any support groups for such a thing? Or even just someone to talk to, or has been through something similar. Im drowning in my own hate...and I am not this girl.....I am falling for the man I am with, but he deserves more than to put up with this bullshit. Im not selfish like that. any advice???
Hey there,
first off let me say how much I admire you for everything you have put up with and gone through.
so were so right to leave that man and reading half way through I was praying that you had.
he is disgusting down right pathetic excuse for a man. I try not to judge but in this case i feel the need to express my disgust over what he did. this man seems like a pervert and I cannot believe the family consents this "relationship"
its obvious all he wants.
you were 100% right to inform your friends of the real actions don't listen to his insults and cussing he is severly immature to do that to you,dont let them get to you.
as for your friends,do they still want anything to do with him after that?if so thats truely shocking.
What you should do is talk to your friends and say you would really rather not be around them while hes there,so if it all possible arrange to meet up and do stuff together without him being there,they should totally understand and respect that as friends. how dare he call you a chicken shit and he is the one who wouldnt come clean and man up to all his foolish mistakes.
If your friends cant understand that you cant be with them while hes there then i think its time to find new friends,to be blunt. because things are never going to get better with this man around.
I'm not aware of any specific support groups but there is always the samaratians?,or just google specialised support groups and maybe something will come up.
this new guy seems really nice and understanding hang on to him,I can see why you don't want to be this person full of hate around him and its good you want help letting go of that you should see a one on one counseller maybee?
My inbox is always open if you need anything else or want to talk I really hope I helped
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ok this is disgusting but i think i may have picked up head lice from some where ... i work in a department store so is it possible that i picked it up from a customer or co-worker there?
And what are some easy ({and discreet)) ways to get rid of it. I am very grossed out by it and i want to get rid of them ASAP!!!
I thought it was dandruff becuase i do have dandruff so i thought the itch was just my dandruff but about two days ago i found a bug in my hair. i looked at a pic of lice and it looks like thats whats going on. I am VERY disgusted by it ... i wash my hair every day (3 times a week i use ant-dandruff shampoo) so it's not becuase im dirty or anything.
Please ... discreet and easy, fast and effective ways to get rid of them!!! (my hair is to my shoulder blades if that makes a difference)
Hey there =)
okay first off you have absolutely nothing to be disgusted about,ok well headlice are creepy but honestly EVERYONE gets them at least once in a lifetime.
when I was in elementrary school i remember getting them like 3times off this one girl who had them its no big deal its a common thing.
believe it or not lice are more attracted to clean hair! (this doesnt mean you should let your hair go dirty lol) but im saying it doesnt mean your hair is dirty at all.
okay now onto getting rid of the pests,you should get a special head lice shampoo theres one my mum used on me "lyclear" I think its a common enough brand there are heaps out there anyway,the lyclear one you leave in for 10minutes then wash out. the unfortunate part is you have to comb the dead lice out with a fine tooth comb. you can get all theese in your nearest chemist dont be embarassed about going in its a common thing and they are used to it, they will not think your not clean or dirty etc. i gauruntee.
you can also get a headlice repelent spray that you spray in your hair to protect agaisnt them it doesnt smell bad either,
anyway I hope I helped :)
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So I love my best friend to death. and actually everybody does. Shes got the type of personality to always get attention, in a positive friendly way, talks to everybody, etc. I am like that too I like talking to people and being friendly, but whenever I am with her I am always considered the quiet girl. Like people call me shy and stuff when they meet both of us at the same time. For some reason I feel like she dominates in a way you know? Well its not that it bothers me and I'm not exactly jealous, I just want to know what I can do to not be labeled the shy girl around her. Whenever we meet people they always take to her and love her, but whenever I meet people on my own they love me so its not like I'm shy or anything. She just has a strong personality. It's the same with guys too. EVERY guy shes ever been with has fallen in love with her and I am not exaggerating. I'm just wondering what it is that shes doing differently. I mean of course I know like shes friendly, nice, approachable, pretty and all that. But I am too, people say it all the time, so i don't know I feel like its something else...any ideas???? (please don't say that I shouldn't be jealous and focus on my own good qualities because I already know that and do that it's not like I am upset over this, I am just wondering why that happens and what to do)
hey there,
woah.
okay believe it or not we are in the EXACT same situation.
and i understand 100% how you feel i used to be labelled as the shy one out of us becuase its like she just out shone me.
Its extremely frustrating sometimes because you its like you can't understand what it is that makes everyone prefer her over you when youve got just as good qualities as her.
I think what it is,is your personalities are so similar and likeable that they clash and one naturally outshines the other and people only get the oppurtunity to see one of them when your together your friend just has that extra something that gets her the attention. (dont ask me what ive asked my self plenty of times the old question seriously what has she got that i havnt)
Its good that your not jealous about it I think what you should Do and what I did and it seemed to work is to talk to her about it let her know your not jealous but when your together with people and they think your shy it bugs you.
tell her to let up a little bit give you a chance to be the bubbly talkitive person that you are like I said with 2 of you it can be hard for there to be room enough for both so its like your fighting for your chance.
Im sorry if im not offering much advice in this sitaution because im still in it myself! but I can offer complete understanding and relation to it.
lately though people have started to notice that im just as outgoing as her you just have to keep being you,and people will eventually start to notice that your not a bit shy tell your friend to let up and let you get a word in.
another theory is that she could be considered the bad girl type,and you the nice girl type although your both as pretty and outgoing alot of guys go for the cheeky bad girl type,maybe its that. thats what it is in my case. fight for your chance to shine out and dont let her hold you back.
anyway I don't feel as if ive helped you much but I hope I have a bit =)
if you ever need anyone to talk about or just complain about it too lol my inbox is always open
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