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my boyfriend and I
okay so this is my situation, ALOT of people say i need to brake up with my boyfriend. He does this where he will talk dirty to girls and ask them to give him head and stuff on the computer.. mostly aim and myspace but he never actually goes threw with it he only talks about it and if i bring it up he freaks out and deneys it, i looked at his myspace messages one day i know that as wrong but .. i had a huntch and i was right and i brought it up and he turned it around on me the thing is.. im compleatly in love with this guy so much that i dont even care if he cheats on me.. well i mean i care and all but i wont do anything about it because i love him so much, weve been dating a little over a year and ive gotten pregnant by him but we lost the baby at 10 weeks and i love his family and friends and.. i just love him .. but then i see all these guys who want to date me and its like.. sometimes i wish i could date someone else because i know what my boyfriend does is wrong but i cant help it, im attracked to my last ex who treated me better than any guy before me never argue or anything, my dated for 8 months and i broke up with him because my ex who is my current boyfriend wanted me back.. we dated for 4 months before.. and we argue all the time at least a few times a week.. i dont know what to do if i brake up with him im going to be so deppressed it feels like i could never live without him.. what do i do? or does anyone have any advice for me at all? his sister told me i was over reacting and that he would never actually do it so its not cheating.. am i over reacting?
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this is not a healthy relationship..just coz you love someone doesnt mean that you have to stay with them forever. He is hurting you constantly, lying, and sneking around. This is no good. he is obviously playing games and does not care about your feeling at all. he doesnt care to hurt you or see you hurting. he should not be talking dirty to others girls if he is in a relationship with you. denying what he did was selfish of him. If you see that he doesnt change let him go, this would only get worst!
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Aww I'm sorry you're going through this situation.:(
It's really hard to let go of someone you love even when you know that they aren't treating you the way they should.
I'm not sure if you lost your virginity to this guy, but that usually is something that really attaches two people to eachother. And having a baby with him would attach you even more. I know that it is really hard for you to imagine your life without him, but I don't think that this is the kind of relationship that you want for the rest of your life.
Even if some people don't consider "talking dirty" as cheating, it's just as bad. When someone cheats on you it hurts because it shows that they don't care about your feelings. And "almost" cheating is just as hurtful. I believe you when you say that you are in love with him and love everything about him, but if he is willing to do things to hurt you, it shows that he doesn't respect you.
If you two break up it will definitely hurt for you and you will probably be depressed for a while. But after you start feeling better again you will see that you have the power to free yourself from this situation and choose something better for yourself. You deserve better than this. You are not over reacting at all. In the end this is your decision of whether you want to leave him or not, but my advice to you is that you should do it for your own good.
I really hope you do leave him because you are a nice beautiful young girl and I think that you know deep down that this isn't what you want. Take care. <3
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Hey there,
Okay im going to be honest you,in reading your question I think you have all the answers you need.
no your definately not over reacting in my opinion.
I can understand youve been with your boyfriend a very long time and you love him but sometimes there comes a time where you Just have to let go and move on,you don't seem to be truely happy espicially if you are thinking about dating other guys and your ex..doesnt that tell you something?
I think your aftaid to let go.
messing around on the computer like that is still incuating that hes going to cheat and its not very considerate of your feelings and he most certainly should NOT be doing it.
you should put up with that kind of behaviour and your should do something about it if he did cheat on you.
I mean why alow yourself to be walked all over like that?you dont deserve that you deserve so much better. dont be like push over girl that every guy thinks he can treat how he likes,at the end of the day someone who loves you would never do that or consider it or even talk about it!
the trust seems to have faded in this relationship and its so important.
honestly in my opinion its time to move on sure its extremely hard but we all have to face it and you can do it.
If you truely feel in your heart 100% that you want to give him a chance and try work things out sit down and talk to him about how your feeling.
but the fact that your having doubts doesnt show that.
Please do what feels right to you dont stay stuck if your not really happy!
I hope I helped in anyway and sorry if this wasnt exactly what you wanted to hear but Thats my take on thins =)
good luck with everything
much <3
Jess
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