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Everyone LOVES my best friend!
So I love my best friend to death. and actually everybody does. Shes got the type of personality to always get attention, in a positive friendly way, talks to everybody, etc. I am like that too I like talking to people and being friendly, but whenever I am with her I am always considered the quiet girl. Like people call me shy and stuff when they meet both of us at the same time. For some reason I feel like she dominates in a way you know? Well its not that it bothers me and I'm not exactly jealous, I just want to know what I can do to not be labeled the shy girl around her. Whenever we meet people they always take to her and love her, but whenever I meet people on my own they love me so its not like I'm shy or anything. She just has a strong personality. It's the same with guys too. EVERY guy shes ever been with has fallen in love with her and I am not exaggerating. I'm just wondering what it is that shes doing differently. I mean of course I know like shes friendly, nice, approachable, pretty and all that. But I am too, people say it all the time, so i don't know I feel like its something else...any ideas???? (please don't say that I shouldn't be jealous and focus on my own good qualities because I already know that and do that it's not like I am upset over this, I am just wondering why that happens and what to do)
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hey there,
woah.
okay believe it or not we are in the EXACT same situation.
and i understand 100% how you feel i used to be labelled as the shy one out of us becuase its like she just out shone me.
Its extremely frustrating sometimes because you its like you can't understand what it is that makes everyone prefer her over you when youve got just as good qualities as her.
I think what it is,is your personalities are so similar and likeable that they clash and one naturally outshines the other and people only get the oppurtunity to see one of them when your together your friend just has that extra something that gets her the attention. (dont ask me what ive asked my self plenty of times the old question seriously what has she got that i havnt)
Its good that your not jealous about it I think what you should Do and what I did and it seemed to work is to talk to her about it let her know your not jealous but when your together with people and they think your shy it bugs you.
tell her to let up a little bit give you a chance to be the bubbly talkitive person that you are like I said with 2 of you it can be hard for there to be room enough for both so its like your fighting for your chance.
Im sorry if im not offering much advice in this sitaution because im still in it myself! but I can offer complete understanding and relation to it.
lately though people have started to notice that im just as outgoing as her you just have to keep being you,and people will eventually start to notice that your not a bit shy tell your friend to let up and let you get a word in.
another theory is that she could be considered the bad girl type,and you the nice girl type although your both as pretty and outgoing alot of guys go for the cheeky bad girl type,maybe its that. thats what it is in my case. fight for your chance to shine out and dont let her hold you back.
anyway I don't feel as if ive helped you much but I hope I have a bit =)
if you ever need anyone to talk about or just complain about it too lol my inbox is always open
much <3
Jess
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