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OK...muh bf and i are goin good but sometimes i cant take it because hes so immature and i wanna dump him sometimes but then im like i cant hurt him bc jus the other day he told me he loves me..and like i havent said it bakk bc i dont..but what do i do?i wanna break up with him but hes the greatest friend..& i dont wanna loose him

Just tell him what you just told us. Just be like "I know you told me you love me and everything, but I just don't have those kind of feelings like that for you like you do for me. And I don't want to hurt you because you're a great friend. And I want to keep you as a friend, its just I don't think its working out for us because I don't have those kind of feelings anymore and I don't want this to keep going on if I don't have them for you anymore..I'm sorry. But, you're a great friend and I just want to know if you can still be my friend..?" Just say something like that and let him know he's a great person and you still want to have a frienship just not a relationship. Hope this helps and good luck. If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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ok well i have this friend who cuts, but she wont tell me that she does. i found out from someone else. i want her to tell me because i can atleast try to help her stop. i had cut in the past but i stopped and now i want to help her. i dont know how to get her to tell me so i can help her. i can't let her know that i know though. please help if you can.

Just be like "You're one of my best friends, you're always there for me and I just want you to know I'm always going to be here for you too and if you EVER need anything or you ever need to talk about ANYTHING! you know you can come to me...right?" Just say something like that, giving her the hint that she can come to you. And since you have experienced the whole cutting thing, then you know how to help her with that situation. I hope this helps and good luck hun. If you need anything, just post a message in my inbox!

xoxo Kourtney

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What's the difference between Taking a break and breaking up! I always saw taking a break as just an easy way of breaking up with someone...like just a nicer way ya know!

Taking a break is usually when you need to take a break from each other, but you two aren't broken up or anything. You just need time away from each other, or you need to short things out, or whatever it may be, and until everything is okay then you two aren't on a break anymore. But, some people make the whole "I need a break" an easier way of breaking up with the other person. It just really depends on the person who is saying it I guess. Hope this helps you out.

xoxo Kourtney

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y do i get mean questions in my inbox from people on this site...why are people so mean?

I don't why people do that, they might just be jealous of you or something. I would just ignore it, don't worry about it hun. I've had some rude comments in my feedback, like this one girl said I can't get a guy and stuff when I was trying to help her out. But, yea they're mean to a lot of people, but you just have to ignore it because thats all you really can do. They're just jealous, once they know it doesn't bother you, they'll stop, and I'm sure its from the same person! lol. But, just put a smile on your face and keep helping people out like you are =D

xoxo Kourtney

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this is a really stupid question but whatever, i know this guy for a while, hes always telling me that i like him does he like me? thanks a bunch

I think he likes you, boys have weird ways of trying to hint that they do like you. He's probably saying that you like him because he's trying to get you to admit that you do like him, so he doesn't have to be the first person to say "I like you" because you know how guys are stubborn now-a-days, you have to tell them you do like them lol. But, the next time he says "you like me" just be like "yea, I do" and see what he says. Hope this helps and good luck hun! If you need anymore help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Ok..i'm a freshman in high school and i never kissed a girl before, but i have the feeling that this is gonna be the year that i get my first kiss. I'm scared that i'll do it wrong or something and i don't know where to put my hands. Any advice?

Thats really cute. But, really kissing does come naturally. The only thing is don't use your tongue on the first kiss and dont be all sloppy. Just gently kiss her and be soft about it. You can put your hands around her waist or you can put your hand on her cheek or something. Just make it a gentle, soft, cute kiss. That'll be really romantic and cute and she'll melt! lol. Hope this helps and if you need anymore help, just post a message in my inbox!

xoxo Kourtney

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My boyfriend and I have been going out for over a month and we don't really live close to each other like a 40 min. drive to get to his house.. but I can't drive so.. I haven't seen him as much as I have wanted to but we talk on the phone alot.. (except for one night when i got totally blown off so he could go and play card with his friends.. which was deff not cool..) but now one of my guy friends is all like joking about stuff loving me and flirting with me and idk I feel bad cause he's a good friend but I know I like my boyfriend so much more.. yet the less I see of him and the more I see of my guy friend it gets really hard to handle sometimes and it's crossed my mind to dump my boyfriend but really think I might be starting to have stong feelings tords him... how do I get myself out of the situation with my guy friend without ruining our friendship?

Just sit you guy friend down and tell him something like "You keep telling me you love me and stuff, but you have to understand I have a boyfriend I really like and I don't want us to ruin mine and yours' friendship, I just don't see you like that..." Just say something like that and that you really like your boyfriend and you don't want that to get ruined. And you don't want you and your guy friends relationship to get ruined either. Hope this helps and good luck, if you need anymore help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Ok i have been away for about 3 weeks and my boyfriend has been hanging out with all these different girls.. I am kinda jelous and worried because I am moving in about 5 months but we wanted to keep it strong until i go. I feel that with him being with these different girls is going ot make him loose interest in me.. should I feel this way?

It's normal to get jealous when you have a boyfriend. Thats the bad part of a relationship huh? lol. I hate being jealous, but it just takes over us sometimes. But, I think you should try talking to him and telling him how you feel. He should understand. Just be like "I know I've been away for about 3 weeks and that I'm moving in about 5 months, but I thought we promised we were going to make this relationship strong til I move, but you've been hanging out with girls and its getting me really jealous..." Just say something like that and how you feel about this situation. Hope this helps!

xoxo Kourtney

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thanks for ur advice, i really like the guy. And im definatly not afraid to tell him. But hes asked me a few times to come over and hang out and i saw him last night at the movies. And he gave me a hug and stopped talking to his friends to come say hey! So what do u think?

You're welcome!! I think he likes you!! Thats soooo cute! He pretty muched ditched his friends just to see YOU!! and say hi. I think he likes you, go for it girl. Just be like "I'm starting to like you and I just want to know if you like me too..." Just say something like that and see what he says. Hope this works and good luck hun. If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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there is this guy I know his name will be Fred okay so I sorta like Fred but today I was talking to him and he kept telling me how he wanted to go all the way with me but I have been telling him that Im not ready for that and the farthest I will go with him is making out but he won't leave it alone help me please

Don't do something you don't want to do. No one can pressure you into doing something. When you're ready, then you'll know. Just tell him "I'm not ready to go all the way and if you like me that much then you can wait for me, I don't want to get used and I'm just not ready yet..." Just say something like that. He shouldn't pressure you into doing something you don't want to do and if he does, then he's not the right guy for you and you could do better. If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox, hope this helps!

xoxo Kourtney

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ok, i like this guy. and he knows i like him too. but he wont go for it! is there something i should do to like...give him a push to asking me out or something? please help!!!

He may be shy too, some guys are like that. Maybe if you make him more comfortable so he can ask you out, then he'll go for it. Just be like "You know I like you and you say you like me too, do you think there is a chance between me and you?" Or maybe you can always ask him out and make it easier on him. Its okay if girls ask guys are out. Just be like "I really like you and I just want to know if you would like to go out with me.." Just say something like that. Hope this helps and good luck!! If you need anything else just post a message in my inbox!

xoxo Kourtney

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If I have a crush on this guy, or like him, what is the best way to tell him and do i know if he likes me back?

If he flirts with you, hanging around you alot, always by you, etc. Then there may be a chance he likes you. But, you can always just tell him by saying something like "I've started to like you and I just want to know how you feel about me" Say something like that. Something simple and right to the point. Hope this helps and good luck hun. If you need any more help, just post a message in my inbox!

xoxo Kourtney

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heya im going to be a freshmen this year so its my first time in a public school. i was wondering if most people use backpacks or binders or w.e cause i heard that most people dont and i dont want to look outta place.. any comments would be helpfull and i rate well
~thnx~

Hey! Well at my high school, SOME people use backpacks, but most people don't. And a lot of people bring there binders, I just have one, I put all my classes in one binder. And, you'll get a locker, so you can use that to put stuff in (like if you carry more than one binder and your books if you have any). Hope this helps and have fun in High school hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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Heyy...i want to wear a lil makeup its lite but im in 7th grade and my mom wont let me wear it out of the house.....should i just not wear it ask her or just wear a lil lipstick?

Hey! If you really want to start wearing make-up, just start out light. Like, some glitter on the eyes or some light eyeshadow with lipgloss. Or, if you want just be like "Mom, I really want to start wearing make up and I won't wear it heavy, I mean you can even tell me how much I should wear..." Just say something like that if she still doesn't like it. Put the make up on and show her how much you would wear so she knows you won't wear that much. Hope this helps and good luck hun! If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox!

xoxo Kourtney

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I want to make a new advicenators username but do your answers that you answered from your first username get sent to your new username or do you have to start all over?

Sadly... you have to start ALL over. If you really want a new username, then I guess you'll have to do that, but if not, then you're going to have to stick to your old username =/ SORRY hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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hey i need help. i like this guy, but only as a friend with benifets and i said a joke and it made him mad and now he wont talk to me. please help!!

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Hey! Just talk to him and tell him you were joking around. Just be like "I didn't mean to make you mad, it was just a joke, I'm sorry..." Just say something like that and just appoligize for making him mad and that you didn't mean it, you just ment it as a joke. Hope this helps and good luck hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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First i wanted to tell you that in your pic your really Pritty and my question is that do you now any websits that have really good quotes??

Aww thank you sooo much!! =D Yea, I do go to:
http://www.hellz-angelz.cjb.net/

*They have tons of quotes and they also have other websites you can go to that have more websites for quotes!*

xoxo Kourtney

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ok im 16 and i was best friends with this girl and it always seemed like she liked every guy i liked.. i really liked this kid and of course she liked him too and he liked me but he didnt think i liked him so he asked her out instead.. she started to ignore all her friends for him and now she has no one but him practically... they have been dating for almost 8 months and he isnt "allowed" to hang out with any other girls because she will get mad but lately he has been hanging out with me again behind her back and he says he likes me and he always talks about "us" (me and him) and when he breaks up with his girlfriend how he wants to be with me.. i like him but i dont know what i should do because i think that it looks really bad on my part... if he breaks up with her should i go out with him or no? whoever he picks- me or her someone will get hurt in the end.. so i just dont know what to do.. please help sorry its so long and confusing

Nah it wasn't confusing and it wasn't too long, I've had longer ones before and way confusing ones before HAH! But aaaaaanyways back to your question now. Well, this is a touch situation to be in. But, you two aren't really friends anymore and she did know that you liked him also. So, I wouldn't really see the big deal. BUT! Don't just go for him right away, because then he'll think he has you like "whooped" or something. You know how boys can be dumb sometimes lol. But, if I was you, I would talk to him first and just be like "Why are you going out with her if you are going to break up with her for me? I mean would you do that to another girl if me and you were going out? Because I really dont want to get hurt. But, I wont be like her and tell you, you can't hang out with other girls or anything." Just say something like that to him and see how he responses. But, I would wait maybe like a week to go out with him or something (if things turns out good). Hope this helps and if you still need help or just want to talk about it, just post a message in my inbox, I'll be glad to help you out!

xoxo Kourtney

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Is 8 months a long time to go out with someone when your 14?

I think thats really good to be going out that long at 14 years old. You must be good at keeping a relationship. Stay in it as long as you want, if you really love him then YAY lol. So, I think its long and good to be going out with someone for 8 months at 14 years old!! =D

xoxo Kourtney

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Everyone in my family married young... I m 16 and my parents r pushin me 2 get wit a guy n stick wit him... what should i do?

WOW geez. That is young. You still have a lot to live for and you need to tell them that. Just sit them down and be like "Mom, dad, I know you guys married young and so did everyone else, but now-a-days you don't get married that young. I'm only 16.. I have A LOT to live for and I still haven't found "the one" for me. I still need to go out and have fun first before I settle down with someone." Just say something like that and how you feel about this situation and stuff and that you're sorry you're not ready, but you're just too young right now. Hope this helps and good luck. If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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