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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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Would it wrong to take a nap with your boyfriend or girlfriend? on the sofa or something?

I dont know, for some reason, I dont think my mom would agree. I'm just wondering too, I'm curious, what most parents would think of this? (link)
I don't think your mom would agree with it either.

I suppose if she allowed you to lie around together when you are awake in full view of other family members there would be nothing wrong with it.

Most moms aren't going to go for that either. :)


What is the name of the country with the flag that has a hook tilted to the right with some kind of tool going through it to the left. I've looked all over google, and I can't find it ANYWHERE.

http://i13.tinypic.com/4c2brjl.gif

That's like a mini drawing that I made of the symbol that I saw. Only answer if you know. Please & Thank you. :]] (link)
Russia. :)

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Image:Flag_%D0%90%D0%B7%D0%A1%D0%A1%D0%A0.svg


This is my 3rd and hopefully final sick question.
Okay, so Tuesday I left school around 9 because I felt sick. I didn't get sick but I started to feel much better around 11ish. Around 5ish I went to Target to pick up some ginger ale and to get some fresh air. Probably a bad move on my part. I got a stomach ache, but not a bad one. The following morning I felt sick, stayed home from school, got sick around 7:45 was fine by 8"30. Lost the sick feeling by 11ish again. I had one last thing to pick up so I went to target again but this time around 4. I returned home around 5. Ate some crackers and the queasy feeling came back. Why am I giving you these details? My question is - how come from waking up-11ish I feel like crap, but after that I start to feel fine. And I'm sure the reason I get queasy later is because I've gone out.
I don't think I'm contagious because I've been around people and none of them have gotten sick (then again, you never know). So right now I'm wondering, is there any reason why this may be happening. I know it's probably just your assumptions, but it's nice to know. I know that vomiting/fever/runny nose etc is going around and when my mom had it monday night-tuesday afternoon she had talked to her doctor and the doctor said to let it run its course. But I'm kind of weirded out that between 11-probably 4ish I feel fine but any other time I feel icky. Also that when I sleep I don't wake up until my sisters alarm clock goes off around 5:30.

So does anyone have any ideas why this is going on. Or is this something that only a doctor can answer. I'm looking for experiences or something, not necessarily why, but possibilities.

Also, I know I'll probably end up vomiting it up, but I'm REALLY thirsty. So I've been drinking some ginger ale and at this point I don't care if it comes back up. Is that a bad thing? And once the ginger ale is gone (I have about half a water bottle full) Is water the next best thing?

I know this is my 3rd question on the subject, but it's really starting to weird me out. Thanks to those who answer and who have answered the previous 2. (link)
I have my 5 grand kids over and it has affected them the same way. I think it is just the nature of this particular bug.

They threw up. Then an hour later were acting like hooligans again. Then they would say they felt bad again. Threw up, and were back at it in a couple of hours like nothing was wrong at all.

They drank lots of water and picked at their food the first day. After that they were fine.

I got sick myself and threw up a couple of times. I drank 7 up and didn't eat much. Slept the day away and was OK the next morning.

So it is a strange one. Drink all you can and eat what you can tolerate. Hopefully it will be gone for good in the morning at latest. If not call the
Doc. :)


Someone threatened me that he'd beat up my boyfriend if I don't make out with him. My boyfriend is tough and could've put up a good fight, but I didn't want any trouble... so I just did it. It is NOT OUT OF ANY SEXUAL DESIRE!!
So I did... but my boyfriend caught me. At the time I didn't know, but then I saw him kissing his ex girlfriend. I asked him what he was doing and he asked me what I wass doing when I was snogging that other guy. i told him what happened, and he pushed his ex away and started apologizing to me. He's like, "I'm sorry, Hannah, I didn't know..."
I started crying and running away. He tried to call me and everything, but I''m really sensitive and I just didn't know what to do. I really don't feel like forgiving him, but should I? The guy that forced me to kiss him asked me out, should I go with him? Should I go with neither?? This is getting really crazy... I can't handle it! (link)
You are seriously considering going out with someone who threatened you? Have you lost your mind?

I'm sorry but that is not a good idea. Don't even consider him. Good grief if he is threatening you now he will probably threaten you throughout your relationship. Then when you have finally had enough he will threaten you some more. Regardless of what else happens here, do not get into an abusive relationship.

As for the current boyfriend, immature mistake. You don't solve problems by making more. That is a lesson you should both take away from this.

Should you forgive him? I think so. Doesn't mean you should stay in the relationship if you don't want to but, you could have easily told him of this other guys threats or taken it to a teacher or even the police. So what you did was really not a whole lot better than what he did.

The decision is yours to make. Think it over seriously and don't be bullied by anyone. :)


I had sex with my gf with a condom, there were no splits or breaks in the condom at all, there was no slip at all and there was semen in the condom.

But there was a white fluid in my gf's vagina, it was whiter than normal semen, had a different texture (more like a cream) and smelt of condom lubrication but i wasn't sure what exactly it could be: there isnt that much lubrication on a normal condom, and it couldnt have been semen because the condom was perefectly secure with no breaks or slips.

Could it be a mix of vaginal fluids and condom lubrication? Or is this something i should be worried about? (link)
Shouldn't be anything to worry about. Not if condom
was working right.

Women have natural fluids and if she was aroused she made even more natural lubrication. All normal. :)


im wondering if using chewing tobacco in pouches is any better for the gums then without the pouch and if straight chewing tobacco is better then flavored chewing tobacco (link)
I think they are all about the same. Its not only what it is made of, but the fact that it is just lying there on your gums for an extended period of time. :)


Im sad all the time it feels like. Every single day that goes by i am always so sad and i can never feel happy. I try to be happy but i can't becuase i just feel so alone and it scares me becausei just want to be able to not worry about things and smile. I'm on anti depression medication too. My hole life is falling apart. (link)
Have you been on your medication long?

If not, it takes it a little while to get into your system and start working for you. Once you have taken it a while it should help you feel better.

If you have been taking it a while...lets say longer than 30 days, call your doctor and let them know it isn't working for you. You doctor can change your dose or put you on something else.

whichever situation applies to you contact the doctor if you don't feel better soon. :)


i have been using chewing tobacco for about 10 months and i just looked at my gums in the mirror and on one tooth the gum is alot lower then the other teeth. is this because of the chewing tobacco
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Yes it is. Chewing tobbaco is very hard on the teeth and gums. :)


Okay, I took peoples advice yesterday and stayed home... very good advice. Anyway, since all I ate yesterday were 2 pieces of toast with jam and I drank about 4oz of ginger ale and a few sips of gatorade, there's pretty much nothing for my body to reject and all I've done was dry heave (only twice, but still). Am I better off eating something and vomiting that up, or am I better off with dry heaves (or whatever it's called when nothing actually comes up but you still vomit)? I just wasn't sure if dry heaving is worse for you than actually throwing something up. Oh, and my mouth is dry and I want to drink something. I have 2 eight-ounce cans of ginger ale and I've got gatorade and water. I've always been taught ginger ale is best for the upset stomach. So my 2 questions are, which is worse, dry heaving or vomiting up something, and should I drink something even if I know I'll probably bring it back up? Thanks in advance. (link)
Oh no! You got it!

Drink all you want. Throwing up water is so much easier on you than the dry heaves. That stomach acid really burns the throat.

As far as eating goes, start off with some crackers.
If they stay down then you can probably eat whatever else you want. Sometimes eating after you have been sick makes you feel better. But start with crackers first and see how that goes.

Hope you are feeling better soon. At least you are getting it out of the way BEFORE Christmas this year! :)


I want to improve my internet-searching skills.Does anyone know any good sites or any ways to help find good sites like googling forwards to fing out how your friends got them?How did you find advicenators?If you got it from an other site how did you find that site? (link)
Here is a good site for learning internet searching skills.

http://www.eldis.org/internetguide/pdfversion.htm

I found this site on bored.com My fancy way of searching the web when I am bored is just punching in some random word to see what comes up. :)






ok im almost 18 and when i was younger i experminted i was like 6or7 at the time it was like 10 or more years ago and the kid i experimented with was like 8or9 only like 2 years older than i am and i havent done anything since than nothings been in there fingers or nothing and i want to know can i still consider myself a virgin it happened so long ago and do you think that ill be tight still i dont even remeber if it fully went in or not i mean he was only like 9 how big can it be so will i still be tight like a virgin please help

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You may not "technically" be a virgin but you are in your head. If someone asks you I think you could say you were. Though it is really nobody's business. :)


How do I quit using the computer so much (link)
I have this very problem myself. :)

The best way to keep away is just not to turn it on.
Go do other things for a while. Then when you have a couple of hours, turn it on and use it for a while.


Is it possible to get pregnant when giving someone a blow job. i know you can get stds, but about pregnancy?

I'm not saying that I give them to people. I'm just curious. (link)
No it isn't possible.

Penis and/or sperm in the vagina is the only way to get pregnant. :)


i need a newspaper article from somewhere in the U.S that is recent (only like 2 or 3 days old) i live in new england, so if you live far away from there could you please sent me a newspaper article from your state??? (link)
I don't want to sound mean here because I know you probably really do need an article for school.

We really don't approve of you guys giving out your home addresses to anyone, which you would have to do in order to receive a newspaper article.

I'd like to hope we don't have any weirdos on this site, but the fact of the matter is they are everywhere.

I am wondering if maybe an online copy of the newspaper would work? Is it okay for you to print out an article on your computer?

If so I have several papers in my area.

This is the link to the Topeka Capital Journal, which is the biggest paper in my area. You may have to sign in I am not sure.

http://cjonline.com/local/

This is a smaller newspaper. This Ottawa is in Kansas by the way, and not Canada.

http://www.ottawaherald.com/




What does "Check your attitude at the door" mean? I've heard it lots of times, but never understood it! (link)
I can remember it first being used when celebrities gathered to record the "We are the World" song for
USA for Africa.

Basically what it means is you may be a big deal (as celebrities sometimes believe themselves to be) but,
when you come in here you are no better than anybody else in the room. No special favors, no special treatment. :)


I have a project due on friday for my geometry class. I need to come up with a math bumper sticker. I don't know what should be on it! I have seen funny ones like "there are three kinds of people in this world. ones that can count and ones that can't." But my teacher can't take a joke so does anyone know a math saying I could use that isn't humerous?
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Try these for some inspiration. :)

http://www.pen.k12.va.us/Div/Winchester/jhhs/math/quotes.html

http://www.quotegarden.com/math.html

http://thinkexist.com/quotes/with/keyword/math/


14/f. i hang out with guys alot and now girls think im a slut. does that seem slutty to hangout with mostly guy? im just friends with them, and i still hang out with girls too. this is really bothering mee. (link)
Unless you are having sex with them all you are not a slut. Just hanging out with boys doesn't make you one. They are just jealous. Please don't let it bother you. :)


me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost a year but i have had a crush on a guy i have known for about 2 years, now the other guy has told me that he also have feeling for me, i do not know how to decide between the two because although i do love my boyfriend we are fighting allot recently and also have been talking about breaking up, i really like this other guy and truly believe that me and this other guy could fall in love and have some great times. PLEASE HELP ME ! (link)
I think if you have any doubts about your current relationship you should break up and move on.

The fact that you are crushing on this other guy so bad is probably having an affect on your current relationship. If you think its worth a shot, then give it a try with the crush. :)


When you file abuse reports can other people read them? Like basic level 1 mods?

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Nope. Only Level 2 and above. Nobody will know if you file a report on them.:)


I'm really sorry about the lenght but I tend to include details (hopefully not unnecessary ones)

First I'd like to say that I know none of you are doctors (unless you actually are) and that I don't want to be prescribed anything or to be told what's wrong with me. I want your opinion on what YOU would do in this situation or anything that your parents have you do when you're in this situation. So don't tell me "well I'm not a doctor and you should see one..." Mainly because whatever is wrong with me isn't bad enough to see a doctor.

Today at school I didn't feel good and came home, that was around 9ish. I never actually threw up, I burped a bunch and I had to use the restroom a lot. I took a few walks outside to get some fresh air, not going too far because I felt a little faint. Anyway, my question is - I'm kind of hungry. I figure that if I eat I may get sick and I wanted to know that if my stomach is growling it means I want food right? (all I had to eat today was chick fil a hasbrowns and less than half that come in the box). So do you think I'd be able to eat, maybe just some crackers. I'm also thirsty - well, my mouth is really dry. I've been swishing with water and spitting it out because I know it's not good to drink water when you're sick. I have gatorade in the house and heard that was okay to drink, do you know? I would drink ginger ale but we don't have any in the house. We have milk, gatorade, capri-sun, sunny D, water, I could make hot tea/cold tea... any suggestions?

There's one other question where the "I know you're not a doctor" comes in. My mom is also home because she's REALLY sick. She has a doctors appointment tomorrow but talked to the doctor today. The doctor said it was going around and A LOT of people I know have gotten it. She came home last night after not feeling well. She got sick on the car ride home and pretty much only stopped throwing up an hour ago.
I know what she has is contagious (since it's going around) my question second question is, do you think that I'll be okay, or that I'll catch it. I get sick around Christmas time EVERY year and I was wondering if you guys thought that maybe what I have now is what my mom has, minus the throwing up. (I still feel light-headed a little bit and tired and pretty much everything she does minus the vomit) or if you guys think I may still have a chance of getting what she has. I ask this because tomorrow I have a really good extra credit opportunity if I stay after school in history to watch a movie and take notes so I'll be at school until 4:30 (getting home around 4:40ish) and I'm hoping I'll be okay to go because I REALLY need the extra credit. I know I can talk to my teacher and work out a way to get extra credit without staying after because he's really nice. But I thought that if I don't throw up at all past 7 tonight I'll probably be okay to go. Do you all think that that's logical thinking?

Again I'm sorry about the length but sometimes when I answer questions I feel I don't have enough details so I try to supply enough without supplying too many. Though I probably did give too many. Thankyou in advance! (link)
If you are hungry by all means eat something. If your stomach is rolling and you're going to get sick, you probably won't feel very hungry. So eat!

When you are sick you want to drink plenty of fluids. Don't want to get dehydrated. If you aren't vomiting you can drink about anything. If you do, and for mom right now stick with the ginger ale and Gatorade.

I just got over the bug going around. It is basically a 24 hour thing and after throwing up you don't feel real bad. Worst of it is feeling a little dizzy. Lie down and sleep it off and you will be okay. Might just get lucky and not get it
but you could. :)





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