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So im not sure if you remember this but i talked to you before about my boyfriend whi broke up with me for about 3 months. Then we got back together in january and for 3 months we were fine. Almost everytime we got to see each other in person, we always did something sexual together not reaching the point to sex though. We had teo times where we hung out and actually talked and had fun just talking. I made him laugh multiple times and he did the same towards me. But last tuesday he broke up with me. Ir started with a fight on sunday about how i was so depressed and hurt from the rejection to my favorte colleges and he did not comfort me through it. Then i ifnored him for two days when he told me that i should get over it aince im the one making myself feel this pain. Then on tuesday he told me that he couldnt handle it anymore. That we havent been working out if i havent noticed and that he feels like hes falling out if love with me everyday but he still convinces himself that he still is in love with me. He talked to his friends baout the things we do and his friends told him that we wouldnt work out since the reason he got back with me wasnt strong enough. Then he told me that he feels like hes with me for my happiness not his. I believe that he made this decision under his friends influences and that he shoul have talked to be about this problem of not bonding. I talked to him on te phone however and when i ask him aboit if he had fun the two times we actually hung out he never answers and when i ask him for his reason to get back with me he says that it was because he thought we could work out. And recently yesterday i messaged him if we could talk things out a bit in person so i can see his true emotions. Then he said that hes a pushover when he sees desperate people in front of him. And then he told me "How about no. You already have begun to "clear off all the bs on the walls" so i'm beginning to clear off the bs in my life. Leave me alone with that shit. Theres no chance anymore so get over it. " and his quotes are from a snapchat that i added onto my story so i know that he is still looking at my things because i didnt send that snapchat to him specificallly. Well i dont know what I should ddo. Please help tell me ahat i should di and confirm my theories also. (link)
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I don't like how he talks to you.
I'm not gonna lie, I was in the same situation with my boyfriend last month. We were together for over two years and then he broke up with me because he "didn't feel the same".
I learned that people don't really "fall out of love" when they actually loved the person. Love is unconditional and can't be washed around.
When something goes wrong and he does something that bothers you, you don't start a fight with him. Guys will give up if you fight. No guy really wants to be in a relationship where there is fighting. Fighting means unhappiness. So if you have a problem with him not comforting you when you're sad, maybe write him a note saying so. Don't point fingers at him or blame him, he'll just see it as you attacking him and he'll just defend himself.
Anyways, he's pretty much saying that he didn't get back together with you for the right reasons. Maybe he did, maybe he didn't. But he's still talking about your relationship with his friends and he doesn't have good communication with you. I'm pretty sure he thinks that if he talks to you in person, you'll pressure him to get back together.
I was in your exact situation a month ago. He's talking to me now and told me he misses me a couple days ago. What I did was stop talking to him for awhile. I moved on..kinda. I started seeing someone else. He ended up telling me that he still does have feelings for me, he didn't mean that he fell out of love with me, he just thought the relationship was unhealthy.
Fighting is a part of being in an unhealthy relationship. You do not want it. If he really isn't feeling the same about you, there's nothing you can really do. Maybe don't push him, don't cry, don't be mean or blame him for things he didn't do. Just leave it for now.
If he doesn't want to be with you and he's just gonna keep getting back together with you then breaking up, it's not worth it. It's going to keep breaking your heart.
My advice is to give it time. Give this time to cool off then message him in a couple weeks, only if you're ready. You have to be ready to accept if he really is done with the relationship. If you can't accept it, don't go see him.
If you can handle it, write him a note explaining how you'd like your relationship to be. That you'd like to work on yourself and how you handle situations and you really care about him. But if he is truly done, then you won't pressure him.
That's probably the best way to go about it.
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My best friends sister boyfriend keeps hitting on me , asking me for kisses and stuff idk what to do should I tell my best friend but she'll tell her sister & shes just gonna argue with him then take him back then Ima be uncomfortable going to her house being around him , what should I do ? (link)
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Go tell your best friend. It's fine if she tells her sister. Her sister does have a right to know what her boyfriend is doing.
If you really think they'd just argue then she'd take him back, you really have nothing to lose. You have more to gain actually. At most she might realize that he's not that great of a guy.
Aren't you already uncomfortable going to her house and being around him?
So just talk to her about it.
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So I started chatting with a stranger on a chat website (non-dating) and we're the same age and have a ton in common, and we've been chatting back and forth for the past few weeks... however, he recently uploaded a picture of himself (first one I've ever seen) and (NOT saying he's ugly) he's really not my type, looks-wise. He said, after he uploaded it, that he understands if I want to break contact whenever. How do I non-chalantly and politely... ditch him?
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Why can't you just be friends with a guy?
I mean you guys started talking on a non dating website. So if you guys are just talking as friends and nothing more I don't see why it's a big deal.
You said you guys have a ton in common so it seems like it would be a good friendship.
But if for some reason you can't be friends with a guy unless you're expecting more or something then go ahead and stop talking to him.
Although I don't think there is a way to do it non-nonchalant or politely. Maybe slowly and slowly start talking less and less?
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hi dear
im a male 27 years and my friend he was divorced for his 1st marriage then he married a woman who is 5 years elder to him she is 32 with a baby boy from her 1st marriage and she is having crush on me once was invited for a dinner at her place she told me she is not sexually satisfied with my friend and she moved his hand directly to my cock under the table and said wow what a long thing you have between your legs and now she wants me to have sex with her and i also liked her when she grabbed my cock in her soft hands but Im very much confused what should i do is it ok to have sex with a lady who is 5 years elder to me ? plz help me out thank you.
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It's not the fact that it's not ok to have sex with a lady who is 5 years older than you. It's wrong to have sex with a lady who is married to your friend. It's wrong to have sex with any lady who is married period.
Find a different woman to have sex with. Don't do it with your friends wife or any wife. Don't get involved with a married woman. It'll ruin your friendships and it'll ruin families.
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Can i get pregnant if the hymen have not break yet.
Will i get pregnant if my hymen is not broken? please help me (link)
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The hymen doesn't break, it stretches.
If you have sex, there's always the possibility of getting pregnant.
If you continue to have sex, you should educate yourself more about it. Use birth control and condoms and you'll be less likely to get pregnant.
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There's this boy in my school who is 16. We are close friends and he says I'm like his little sister. Yesterday I split up with my boyfriend and he started talking to me he said he was fat and I said prove it (we always say it joking around) so he sent me a picture of him with no top on and in his boxers and he told me to prove I'm not fat so he convinced me to send him a picture of my belly. Then he said he's sad because my picture wasn't like his and I said I can't take my top off to take a pic of my belly and he put you can. I said no and he was trying to convince me for half an hour before he finally said okay and I don't know what to do? Wether to tell someone? But the hardest part is he has told me he likes me and.. I might like him to ?.. I don't know wether to carry on talking to him or notv someone tell me what I should do? Much appreciated
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You like a guy who's pressuring you into sending him dirty pictures? Why? That's totally disrespectful.
Bottom line is that he's using you. He doesn't really like you, he just wants to see your body.
Besides that, it's illegal to send dirty pics. Both of you can get in trouble for that.
Also, he's a teenage boy so he'll end up showing his friends to brag or worse.
Stop talking to him and wait to find a guy who is more respectful.
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There is a boy I really like so I asked him out to the dance and he said no because his family was going to whisler and he wasn't allowed, then I heard from one of my friends that he is going to the dance. My friend later that day told me he woulnd't go out with me because I was to FAT!!!!!
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If all that is true, then he's kinda an idiot and I have no idea why you'd want to go out with him.
Boys your age are very shallow. Let me tell you that you should not be after a guy who is like that. Weight shouldn't be the deciding factor of whether you want to date somebody or not. That's stupid.
So I doubt you're actually fat. If you were overweight, then like adviceman said go see a doctor and they'll help you out and tell you what you need to do. Don't do this for a guy, do it for your health.
Anyways, wait to find a guy who actually cares about you as a person and likes everything about you rather than blowing you off because of appearance.
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I'm 15 and my friends(a little older than me) have been dating all that stuff.
I'm homechooled,and I live in a really small town so I don't really know any guys, and I really don't have much of a desire to date.
My family is Christian(I even live across the street from my church) and conservative.
I was wondering about when I have a boyfriend. I would have no idea what to do since I've never dated before, And considering that my freinds have already done sexual things, I'm worried he'd pressure me.
I would much rather wait to lose my virginity(preferably till marrage),I don't want a relationship to be all about sex and making out and stuff, I want it to be like we're best friends and all I really need is a guy who is nice, has a sense of humor, and treats me well.
I don't know...I guess I'm just afraid that when I do get a boyfriend he'll try to pressure me to do stuff I'm not ready for and I might not be able to say no... I'm really shy and I just don't know how to talk to guys either... (link)
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Well obviously you don't want to date a guy who pushes your boundaries. You don't want somebody who doesn't respect you and how you feel about things.
What I do when I start dating a guy, I'll tell them my boundaries. If they push me to go any further than I'm comfortable, I'm done with them. A lot of guys like a girl who has respect for herself and wouldn't cave to do absolutely anything.
So if you feel like you can't stand up for yourself or express how you feel, then that means you're not ready for a relationship any time soon. You'll just be miserable with the guy you're dating. So wait it out until you know that you can stand up for what you want and don't want.
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my friends wife wants to have sex with me because she is not sexually satisfied with her husband what should i do please help me. (link)
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Well obviously don't sleep with her.
You should talk to her and tell her that they should try new things or go seek professional help in that area.
Just don't get involved in their marriage.
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I'm 16, turning 17 in a few days. I have a 1yr old. and I believe I'm addicted to sex. I started when I was 15. I didn't start having actually sex til after my daughter. I have had sex with around 15 guys. I have never had sex with more then one guy at a time but some say they ran a "train" on me. which never happened. I have had sex with a set of brothers but at SEPARATE times, I REGRET IT ! I have had one night stands and regret that also! alot of the dudes I've had sex with were my regrets!! Sex makes me happy, but not all the time. Am I a whore for this?? (link)
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Having sex doesn't make you a whore, neither does having a lot of sex.
Really, every body has their own personal preference.
But this doesn't make you happy. This seems like it's bothering you and you think you might be addicted to sex so you need to go seek help. Go talk to a counselor and they'll help you find better ways to cope with whatever it is you're going through and get to the root of the problem.
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I'm 16 , I hate young dudes . what would be my age limit to date an older dude ? (link)
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17, maybe 18.
Since you're 16, you don't wanna get into any legal trouble.
I wouldn't focus on age though. Some older guys can be ten times more immature than a guy around your age.
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First off I eat healthy(my moms a doctor so I KNOW what healthy is) and exercise and I don't have a thigh gap. My friend on the other hand, all she eats is junk food. She's pretty and thin and could be a model. I thought eating healthy would make you thin??????????? Help (link)
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It's because every person is different. She probably just has a higher metabolism than you.
Some people can't even get a thigh gap because some people are naturally big boned.
As long as you keep yourself healthy, then you should be fine. Plus it'll be good for you when you get older and don't have as many health problems as she does.
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please someone tell me the easiest painless way to die.. i hate pain but i need to do this. (link)
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We're not allowed to give advice on how to commit suicide. The only advice we give is how to solve problems.
So like everyone else said, you shouldn't commit suicide. There is no painless way to die. Just a heads up, you're taking away a life, it will be very, very painful unless you're old and pass in your sleep.
So there are suicide hotline numbers to call. You should talk to a counselor and have them help you sort out and work through what problems you have going on. You're not the only one going through this and you can get through this and be happy again.
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Here’s the thing …
I’m in a distance relationship for almost three months , he’s amazing and just what I wanted and waited for along time, we have so much in common and I’ve never met anyone like him before, I never saw him but I’m so excited that I will ,and the good news is that in August I’m moving to his country ..my previous relations was nothing but a disappointments ,,that’s why i have commitment and trust issues ,but he’s damaged as I am ,it’s not his fault nor mine ,we both fucked up emotionally ,maybe that’s why it’s working this time ,and our fights are usually on this matter ,for example he’s still wearing this band that his ex gave it to him ,and he keep saying it’s just a reminder to him to not be that fool again ,it really pisses me off ..and then he lied about it and told me that he took it off when I saw it on Facebook that he actually didn’t ,I told him and he said it wasn’t a big deal and I’m overreacting ,and making a big deal out of it ,I said I don’t want to talk to him anymore and to leave me alone, he said hope you find someone that treats you better than me ..but I didn’t want that it was something I said without thinking…for a week we didn’t talk ,then he wrote tellin me that he doesn’t want to lose me and this distance is destroying us ,being so close to each other and far away is destroying what we have ,so his solution was that we should keep It simple till I’m with him ,that he doesn’t want to risk what we have ,and he’s doing this just to have me in the end coz if we keep doing this we’re gonna lose each other and I should understand him.
It was just some stupid fight I don’t want this “let’s keep it simple” situation ,I want things to go back the way they were ,or does he have a point? I mean do you think maybe 1 % what he’s saying is making any sense ? should I agree? But I want him and I’m afraid that these five months will change things and then I’ll be losing him forever ..plzz just tell me what to do..
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It seems like he cares about you. If you truly want things to go back to what they used to, that's fine but you both will have to work on it. Long distance is ten times more hard because you're not there in person and you only know what he tells you.
I think you're over reacting a little about the shirt. I still wear the boots and other clothes my ex bought for me and he still wears a jacket and shoes I got him. It wasn't something sentimental, just a gift. If it was jewelry or something, then I could understand but I don't think a band shirt is a big deal. That's just my own opinion and if you don't want him to wear it for whatever reason, then that's your choice and if he chooses not to wear it, then cool. If not, then you can't make him and you need to accept that. If you're not comfortable dating someone who still keeps some of the things their ex got for them, then don't date him and do your best to move on and find someone you're more compatible with.
If you don't want to "keep it simple" then tell him. Tell him you'll work on your trust issues and you don't want to lose him either.
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I like this guy and he likes me. But he always is busy with work or school. We have talked and agreed that we don't want a relationship, but want each other to be there. is it wise to get physical with someone like this. He is sexually active beyond what I am. And want to have sex. I do too, but I get scared, and nervous to do it. (link)
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When getting physical with someone, it's best to make sure that's really all you want. If you have feelings for him, it's better not to get involved that way because that's pretty much all it'll ever be. Like why date when he's getting it already? You'll be skipping the steps and going straight for sex so make sure you're ok with that.
As long as you keep your feelings in order and realize you two are not going to ever have a real relationship and it is just sex, then go for it.
If you don't feel comfortable with it or feel too nervous or scared, then it's probably best to wait.
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15F.. Hii! So I'm crazy inlove with this guy. And he told one of "̮м̣̣̣̥γ̥"̮ friends he like me to but he has a gf.. Their dating almost about 2-3 weeks! I don't know what to do? (link)
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Where do I start. I really hope you're not planning on getting with a guy who has a girlfriend. If he likes you, he shouldn't be with her, you realize that right?
Anyways, if he really does like you, he wouldn't stay with her. I mean that's really not fair to the girl he's dating. If he stays with her but still talks about being with you, then I'd question him altogether. I mean you don't want to get with a guy who will end up liking someone else 2 or 3 weeks into your relationship.
So be careful. Don't date him until his relationship is over and don't get involved or flirty with him until it really is done.
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My boyfriend and i planning to have sex but i'm afraid that it will be painfull. We both are virgin and i don't know what should i do.
I am from india
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Sex will be painful for you since you're only 16 and your body is still growing.
Besides that, make sure you're ready. If you really do plan on going through with this, make sure you actually want to lose your virginity to him.
Make sure you're on birth control and using condoms. You don't want to get pregnant so use protection.
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I have a crush on this guy, but I don't know what he thinks. Signs point to: he has a crush on me. But he's the hottest guy in school so girls are always kissing his butt, and he's always playing “hard to get" I admit I'm a hopeless romantic. I know that heart breakers get the guy all the time. How do you become one without spending much money? Or being “fake?" (link)
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You said yourself you're a hopeless romantic. You said you don't want to be fake. Pretending to be something you're not is fake.
Life isn't TV. That's not how it works. Nobody really wants to be with someone who breaks hearts. Why would you want to do that to people anyways? Peoples feelings matter and breaking hearts isn't nice. You don't want to even come off as someone like that.
If you want the guy, be yourself. You don't need to kiss his butt or anything, just be yourself. More guys will go towards the girl who is comfortable with herself and won't be fake to get a guy.
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14/f Hi, I'm in the 9th grade and since high school has started, my friends from elementary school are becoming distant and I don't talk to them as much anymore because quite frankly I don't like the way they isolate me... But anyways, I've made a few friends so far but they've never quite stuck with me because I'm shy... How do I continue to make more friends if I'm shy? (link)
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It's possible to make friends when you're shy. I was the same way in high school. I hated public speaking, I'd wait to get up in class to turn in a paper until someone else got up. I just hated attention pretty much.
You need to find people who appreciate you. Maybe go a little out of your comfort zone. I mean if you don't let people in, then they won't want to hang around you. But people like you and me take time so hopefully you'll meet some patient people. As long as you make the effort, it'll be fine. It'll be harder than it is for people who are naturally social butterflies but you'll get there.
You should also join clubs. It'll be easier to talk to people who have the same interest as you, it gives you something to talk about anyways.
Just work on your confidence. There's nothing necessarily wrong with being shy, but you don't want to hang out by yourself or with people who don't really act like they want to be around you.
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14/f Hi,ever since starting high school, I've become very quiet, insecure and not as talkative as I once was.... I'm not happy anymore and my life is really boring because I barely talk to anyone anymore so, how do I become sociable again? (link)
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I was the same way, I was very quiet in high school but I always had friends and had a good time. Drewb13 said it best, that's how I made my friends. I had a couple friends and would meet their friends and became friends with them. Eventually I ended up knowing a lot of people just by having a couple friends.
I also think joining clubs and doing things you like would help. I mean it's so much more fun to hang out with people who like to do the same things as you do and it also gives you guys more things to talk about.
So start trying new things, make new friends and enjoy your high school experience.
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