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my bestfriends sister boyfriend is hitting on me
My best friends sister boyfriend keeps hitting on me , asking me for kisses and stuff idk what to do should I tell my best friend but she'll tell her sister & shes just gonna argue with him then take him back then Ima be uncomfortable going to her house being around him , what should I do ?
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I told this to someone a while ago. You need to lay down the law and let this boyfriend know that he needs to STOP hitting on you. If he continues, then you tell your best friend's sister.
WHO CARES IF THEY ARGUE AND SHE TAKES HIM BACK? This is something that is bothering you, so you need to say something for YOU. You can't worry about what people might say or do.
So tell him to stop and if that doesn't work, you go to his girlfriend and you let her know everything and that you don't like being hit on by her boyfriend.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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I agree you should tell the best friend and her sister but first,if you haven't actually told him to stop, you haven't given him a chance to comply...so say something if you haven't. Silently trying to pretend you didn't hear, or ignore a person like that doesn't work well because it sends a subtle message to the offender that the person they are picking on is confused, not sure what to do, and can probably be pressured to do something they don't want cus they are too meek, quiet or wimpy. Even saying a gentle "Please stop." while feeling uncomfortable or awkward may not help.
You need to be sure in your mind that his behavior is very WRONG and have no doubt about it because you are going to tell him so, in your own words.
If the bestfriends sister decided to break up with him tomorrow, would you want to date him? If you would date him...then theres the problem...you send out vibes that you like the bad boy type. There's enough girls who do who get taken advantage of sexually, or forced against their will (raped) and pregnant as a teen. If its settled in your mind that this kind of guy is a douche bag and not worth a moment of any girls time ever then then its time to tell him so. Be firm, raise your voice and sound angry, you should be, he wants kisses to start with but end result, he is one of those young teen boys whose raging hormones he is not willing to control but just satisfy all his sexual wants. He doesnt really care about any particular girl just date long enough to get her pressured enough to give him what he wants, to get in her pants. Plus, a guy who would date one girl while going after another is also a cheater, is lying and dishonest to her and the list goes on. Guys who get away with this may grow up to continue to do the same with adult women. An odd one or two may even become rapists. If it was me the guy was coming after, In a firm voice I'd say loud enough for anyone else in the house to hear if they were near, "How dare you ask me to kiss you and let you touch my boobs! You are dating Shelly and she thinks you are interested in her. Well, Mr. Scumbag, you have shown your true colors. You are a dishonest, cheating, teen boy who isn't willing to exercise a little self control like the rest, and wants instead to pressure teen girls into giving you sex. This is sexual harassment. I will be telling my friend and her sister. Whether they believe me is up to them. However, if you ever dare even look at me as if you are undressing me or even ask such a thing again, I will tell my Dad (if no dad, an uncle or older brother) and my Mom and they will be coming after you for sexually harassing me.
That should put him in his place and hopefully he'll avoid you like the plague. If he does dare to test to see if you mean it, girl...you better do it or he'll see you as someone who can be controlled, talks big but doesnt really mean it and won't expose him for what he is. So it will take some guts if he tests you to complain to some adults. No female should ever have to put up with that, not even teen girls.
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Go tell your best friend. It's fine if she tells her sister. Her sister does have a right to know what her boyfriend is doing.
If you really think they'd just argue then she'd take him back, you really have nothing to lose. You have more to gain actually. At most she might realize that he's not that great of a guy.
Aren't you already uncomfortable going to her house and being around him?
So just talk to her about it.
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Well doesn't going over there already make you feel uncomfortable? I say you should let your best friend know first and talk to her about it than the sister might want to talk to you about it.
But even if they argue and get back together at least you were honest right? If you keep silencing and the situation gets worse when you are finally ready to tell they may not believe you because you didn't say anything from the beginning
Say something right now and avoid a more serious hassle later.
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