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Falling ouf if love?
So im not sure if you remember this but i talked to you before about my boyfriend whi broke up with me for about 3 months. Then we got back together in january and for 3 months we were fine. Almost everytime we got to see each other in person, we always did something sexual together not reaching the point to sex though. We had teo times where we hung out and actually talked and had fun just talking. I made him laugh multiple times and he did the same towards me. But last tuesday he broke up with me. Ir started with a fight on sunday about how i was so depressed and hurt from the rejection to my favorte colleges and he did not comfort me through it. Then i ifnored him for two days when he told me that i should get over it aince im the one making myself feel this pain. Then on tuesday he told me that he couldnt handle it anymore. That we havent been working out if i havent noticed and that he feels like hes falling out if love with me everyday but he still convinces himself that he still is in love with me. He talked to his friends baout the things we do and his friends told him that we wouldnt work out since the reason he got back with me wasnt strong enough. Then he told me that he feels like hes with me for my happiness not his. I believe that he made this decision under his friends influences and that he shoul have talked to be about this problem of not bonding. I talked to him on te phone however and when i ask him aboit if he had fun the two times we actually hung out he never answers and when i ask him for his reason to get back with me he says that it was because he thought we could work out. And recently yesterday i messaged him if we could talk things out a bit in person so i can see his true emotions. Then he said that hes a pushover when he sees desperate people in front of him. And then he told me "How about no. You already have begun to "clear off all the bs on the walls" so i'm beginning to clear off the bs in my life. Leave me alone with that shit. Theres no chance anymore so get over it. " and his quotes are from a snapchat that i added onto my story so i know that he is still looking at my things because i didnt send that snapchat to him specificallly. Well i dont know what I should ddo. Please help tell me ahat i should di and confirm my theories also.
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I don't like how he talks to you.
I'm not gonna lie, I was in the same situation with my boyfriend last month. We were together for over two years and then he broke up with me because he "didn't feel the same".
I learned that people don't really "fall out of love" when they actually loved the person. Love is unconditional and can't be washed around.
When something goes wrong and he does something that bothers you, you don't start a fight with him. Guys will give up if you fight. No guy really wants to be in a relationship where there is fighting. Fighting means unhappiness. So if you have a problem with him not comforting you when you're sad, maybe write him a note saying so. Don't point fingers at him or blame him, he'll just see it as you attacking him and he'll just defend himself.
Anyways, he's pretty much saying that he didn't get back together with you for the right reasons. Maybe he did, maybe he didn't. But he's still talking about your relationship with his friends and he doesn't have good communication with you. I'm pretty sure he thinks that if he talks to you in person, you'll pressure him to get back together.
I was in your exact situation a month ago. He's talking to me now and told me he misses me a couple days ago. What I did was stop talking to him for awhile. I moved on..kinda. I started seeing someone else. He ended up telling me that he still does have feelings for me, he didn't mean that he fell out of love with me, he just thought the relationship was unhealthy.
Fighting is a part of being in an unhealthy relationship. You do not want it. If he really isn't feeling the same about you, there's nothing you can really do. Maybe don't push him, don't cry, don't be mean or blame him for things he didn't do. Just leave it for now.
If he doesn't want to be with you and he's just gonna keep getting back together with you then breaking up, it's not worth it. It's going to keep breaking your heart.
My advice is to give it time. Give this time to cool off then message him in a couple weeks, only if you're ready. You have to be ready to accept if he really is done with the relationship. If you can't accept it, don't go see him.
If you can handle it, write him a note explaining how you'd like your relationship to be. That you'd like to work on yourself and how you handle situations and you really care about him. But if he is truly done, then you won't pressure him.
That's probably the best way to go about it.
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