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internet 'break-off'
So I started chatting with a stranger on a chat website (non-dating) and we're the same age and have a ton in common, and we've been chatting back and forth for the past few weeks... however, he recently uploaded a picture of himself (first one I've ever seen) and (NOT saying he's ugly) he's really not my type, looks-wise. He said, after he uploaded it, that he understands if I want to break contact whenever. How do I non-chalantly and politely... ditch him?
14/f
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Why can't you just be friends with a guy?
I mean you guys started talking on a non dating website. So if you guys are just talking as friends and nothing more I don't see why it's a big deal.
You said you guys have a ton in common so it seems like it would be a good friendship.
But if for some reason you can't be friends with a guy unless you're expecting more or something then go ahead and stop talking to him.
Although I don't think there is a way to do it non-nonchalant or politely. Maybe slowly and slowly start talking less and less?
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You sort of can't. You can ditch him, sure, but it's not going to be nonchalant and it's not going to be polite.
If the truth is that you'd just prefer to spend your time chatting online to total strangers who you are also physically attracted too, well, that's sort of shallow. Why not be his friend? He's just a stranger online, it's not like this was likely to turn into a real relationship anyways. You said your communication so far was just a friendship, and not dating, so what is the problem? Do you think it's a waste of your time to be friends with a guy, if there is no chance of romance? That's weird. I enjoy friendships with people I don't find physically attractive.
Fortunately for you, this guy has already given you an out. So he is probably not going to make it too awkward for you if you do the real rude and total obvious ditching you want to do.
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This really doesn't say anything positive about your character. If it were your picture a person saw and they decided to no longer like you because of it what would you feel like? Beauty is only skin deep.
Don't judge him by his looks but rather who he is. You don't have to want to date him but you should not cast aside a potential friend or someone you like talking to.
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