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Am I a WHORE?
I'm 16, turning 17 in a few days. I have a 1yr old. and I believe I'm addicted to sex. I started when I was 15. I didn't start having actually sex til after my daughter. I have had sex with around 15 guys. I have never had sex with more then one guy at a time but some say they ran a "train" on me. which never happened. I have had sex with a set of brothers but at SEPARATE times, I REGRET IT ! I have had one night stands and regret that also! alot of the dudes I've had sex with were my regrets!! Sex makes me happy, but not all the time. Am I a whore for this??
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I don't think you are a whore at all. Only a young woman trying to find herself. I am answering this since I had similar things happen to me when I was young. I would have sex with different boys/men and I never felt guilty or remorse for what I had done. Then rumours (true) were flying around within my circle of friends. I found out later, too bad it wasn't sooner. I was in my late 20's when I started seeking professional help. Found out it had alot to do with abuse by men and family members that had me doing this. Plus no father growing up. I was looking for fatherly love. All that sex never made me happy. For the moment the closeness was all I needed. But that was it. You need to respect yourself and maybe seek some councelling to get to the bigger issues in your life. You have a right to feel good about yourself and to hopefully find one person that you can share yourself with. I too thought I was addicted to sex, but sitting down and talking to someone who is a professional may help. Sure its embarrasing but belive me they heard it all. All the best to you.
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Having a lot of sex does not make you a whore. By your self-description you may very well be someone addicted to sex. This is an addiction that is curable.
Being addicted to sex is not good. It forces you to make bed choices in life. While I'm sure, if you kept your baby, you love the child. Being a mom at 15 is hard for you and will only get harder.
One way to cure your addiction to sex is similar to how alcoholics are cured by going to alcoholics anonymous. Here is a link to their website [Link](Mouse over link to see full location). The other way is seeing a psychiatrist or psychologist possibly both for individual therapy.
What is most important is you most want help or neither SA or therapy will not work for you. You say sex makes you happy. I do not believe that is totally true or you would not have written to us. I believe you are ready for help just maybe not convinced in total or not sure where to turn to for help and afraid maybe to come right out and ask.
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Having sex doesn't make you a whore, neither does having a lot of sex.
Really, every body has their own personal preference.
But this doesn't make you happy. This seems like it's bothering you and you think you might be addicted to sex so you need to go seek help. Go talk to a counselor and they'll help you find better ways to cope with whatever it is you're going through and get to the root of the problem.
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You mentioned believing you are addicted to sex. There is such a thing as sexual addiction and it follows a downward spiral much like any other addiction, drugs, alcohol, gambling....
Here is a link for you to look over and decide if you fit the profile. If so, and you want help to overcome the addiction, then go for it.
I remember reading a study of teen girls who were doing the same as you, guy after guy and the study tried to determine what was compelling all of them to do this, if there was anything they all had in common. It turns out, it wasn't as much the sex that they were going after rather than trying to experience love and attention from a male. They were all trying to compensate in some way for growing up without a father, a father figure, or having a dad who did not make himself available to spend time with the kids, so they did not have much of a relationship even though there was a father.
Having a father around is a very important step for teen girls. When they first go through puberty and learning to become aware of their femininity, they first end up craving the approval of their father, a male who can honestly tell them that they are a very beautiful daughter and that she will turn the heads of all the young guys. A teens self image suffers from insecurity easily so positive input from dad is important, along with his love and hugs. I remember as a teen needing more hugs from my dad than my mom.
I don't know if this is the case for you. You wouldn't be consciously aware that it affected you is the situation is yours, but it can be affecting your subconscious mind.
The question is, are you happy and content with being this way or would you prefer to find a man that instead of giving you sex for a night wants to make love with you for the rest of both your lives because of how deeply in love with you he is.
Depending on where you're at, is whether you keep on doing the same or look to make changes and you will need input and possibly professional advice.
Keep in mind that you have a child that should be the top priority now in your life. Whatever you do will affect her. Too much time spent with guys away from her, and she sees too little of you. or worse, you could catch a disease, or hiv and she could lose you. You're at an age where you still need the help of adults as sounding boards, and guiding help in your life. Begin to reach out to those who are closest in your life or know you best if you want help. Good luck.
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It is a common misconception that women who enjoy sex are sluts/whores. Women have just as much right to enjoy sex as men as long as you are responsible and careful especially as you have a child and try and protect him/her from your more adult life-style.
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I think that you're unhappy, and you use sex to fill that void, but that happiness from sex doesn't last forever which is why you have more sex. IT'S LIKE A DRUG.
I'm not a therapist and I don't know what's going on in your life, but there is a reason why you crave sex all the time. Or maybe you are just addicted to sex. I think you should talk to a professional about what you've been going through.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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