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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo."i refuse to sink."
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Hey guys I'm looking to get an inner wrist tattoo. Since it's going to be on my wrist it of course has to be small. I'm looking for really unique short sayings/phrases/words. I'm a girl too if that helps. Thanks!!
- be true
- fly high free bird
- be true to yourself
- no lies, just love
- freebird
- carpe diem [sieze the day]
- believe
- dream
- the past is practice
- break free
- forever young
- free spirit
- exist
- never look back
- live for today
- define yourself
- infinite
- regrets are worthless
- imagine
- its all make believe, isnt it?
- live for today
- wings of an angel
- today i dare to win
- today i dare to live
- dare to dream
- no day but today
- live in the now
- over the rainbow
you can also plug any words you like in one of these into a thesaurus and get other words that might appeal to you more, and mean the same thing. or you can translate it into latin or something. i hope i helped ! and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo. good luck girl !
Hi, I'm a 17 year old girl and I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 6 months now. We love each other very much and we've been talking about giving oral to each other, I know it should be based on if we're comfortable with each other but I just want to know what other people think, am I too young? thank you for you're time, your response really means a lot to me.
i agree with the advice given below me, but i just thought id add my two cents in :]
.. 6 months may not seem like a long time, but its 1/2 a year and if you love eachother and you trust eachother, those are good indicators that you're both ready to take it to the next level. and even if he is ready, it doesnt mean that you HAVE to be. [or vice versa] this is a mutual decision, which means whether or not YOU want to do it is just as important as if he wants to do it. yuh know ?
and its good that youre talking to eachother about this, but you should talk more about if you both think you should wait longer. see what his thoughts are on that :] communication is key !
but in my opinion, youre 17.. youve waited a good amount of time, and if it doesnt go against any of your morals or wreck your comfort zone, the go for it. but you have to really think for yourself right now.. do YOU think that youre too young ? because it doesnt matter what we say on here, its what you believe. and what i care about is whats in YOUR mind, because youre going to be the one going through with this.
but, i have major respect for you that you even waited this long, most people dont. so good for you :] but no one will think anything less of you if you did give eachother oral at this age. i dont think its too young.. given your circumstances too. youre committed to eachother, and you love eachother.. youre just taking it to the next step. but never feel pressured into doing it.. if that was ever the case, id say no, dont do it. bu since its not.. i dont see anything wrong with it. :]
good luck ! and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] and remember, this is YOUR choice, and its a very personal choice. but youll be fine :] be safe. xxo.
sooo on wednesday was mine and his anneversary and that was the last time i texted him. i still havent gotten anything from him! and tomorrwo is almost a week since we have talked and broken up or whatever.
so im finally done. i havent texted him in two days and ive beeen verry happy (: i honeslty havent thought about it and him very much lately and i like it.
i thought i would just inform youu (:
thanks for everything!
awww, no problem :] im very happy to hear that youre finally free of the past ! good for you, and keep it up !
be happy, you deserve it girl !
good luck, and live it upp ;] xxo.
so for chem, we have to think up a name for the unit of measure, the mole. and we are going to sew fabric together to make it look like the mole animal. the thing is I cant think of any cool names for mine! any help? here are some examples:
mole-ina (ballerina mole)
wack-a-mole (mole with a sledge hammer toy)
mole-tte (mole with a mollete hair)
poke-mole (a pokemon mole)
i was thinking of molley ball as in a mole dressed up as a volleyball player.
aah ! i did this a few weeks ago ! hahaa. heres some ideas..
- stop, drop, and mole. [you can make it like a firefighter.]
- mole buster [ghost buster]
- guaco-mole [the dip.. hahaa. thatd be kinda hard but you could try maybe dress him up with a hat and poncho witgh a bowl of guacomole]
- mole-zilla [like godzilla haha]
- you know in chem how there are mortars and pestals ? you could try doing mole-ar and pestal.
- mole-key way hahaha [like a milky way]
- you could give the mole oversized clothes on and call it.. too smole
- mole-ten lava [you could decorate the mole around a volcano or reddish orange construction paper]
- mole slaw [like cole slaw haha, thatd be hard though..]
- snow mole-bile [snow mobile]
- mole-bile cell [mobile cell]
- rock n mole [rock n roll haha, thatd be cute. like a punk rock mole.. hawk and all.]
- miss mole-meica [miss america]
- cinder-mole-a [cinderella]
- mer-mole [mermaid]
- moller-cycle [motorcycle]
- mol-itary [military]
okay well i hope i gave you some inspiraton haha, good luck and have fun ! :] xxo
i dont usually ask questions like this but i cant seem to get an accurate answer...is it possible to trade in games for games at gamestop?
yes.
if they cost the same amount, then you can trade. they just have to accept your trade.. people do it all of the time.
xxo.
so i recently let my bf finger me... idk ive done this before and i really liked it but i dont feel right about it... was it a bad choice or not?? idk please help any advice will be great. thanks.
do you mean that you dont feel right about it because you feel guilty.. kind of like youre doing something wrong ? if thats the case, then you should talk to him about it. be open with him, tell him everything because he can help you with the "not right" feelings. because if you feel like youre going too fast or you should wait a longer to get that intimate, then you should let him know, he'll understand.
but if it doesnt feel right because it doesnt feel good, then obviously stop doing it until youre totally comfortable with the situation. you should talk to him about that too, if thats how you feel.
but you could also feel like somethings not right if you wer ebrought up a certain way.. like if your parents found out, would they dissaprove ? sometimes, thoughts like these make you second guess yourself and feel guilty or just like something off and not so right. if thats the case then either stop what youre doing and wait longer, or just try to push it to the back of your mind because its your life. yuh know ? live it how you want to.
i dont think it was a bad choice if you dont. i mean, hes your boyfriend, and things like that tend to happen in relationships at some point. sometimes faster than others, or slower than others. it doesnt matter, but all that matters is if youre completley comfrotable with the situation and that youre sure its what you want to do. if youre having doubts, stop and talk to your boyfriend. he will understand and listen and reassure you. sometimes all you need is some reassurance. but if you think it was a bad choice, it was a lesson learned and you can just not do it anymore. no big deal. youll be okay :]
good luck and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, hope i helped ! xxo.
thankyou sooo muchh.
i kinda such at this whole not talking thing so ive been texting him like two texts a day trying to get him to talk to me. and i always get my hopes up thinking i will get a text back but of course i get nothing.
i honestly think he is never going to talk to me again.
and the thought of that makes me soooo sad :[
ive said every possible thing to say to him to try and get him to talk to me but he wont.
i want to call him but im scared he will have "his new girl" answer or that he wont even answer or that he will answer and tell me to stop effing calling him.
idk what to do anymore girl. this is killing me :[
no problem :] anytime girl.
and i know, i mean.. i did too.. i would always want to text him, but itd be one text.. not everyday though, yuh know ? if you get your hopes up high enough, the harder you fall.
like i said before though, if you try to get him to talk to you, and you practically beg him to.. then thats just going to boost his e-go and his drive to AVOID talking to you. because right now, youre doing exactly what he wants you to do.. and that is, chasing after him. he wants to feel like you cant go on without him, that he is getting to you and that youre not the only one who is capable of hurting him; that he can hurt you.
does that make sense ?
how else can i put this.. uhm, hmm.. its like this. say you wanted to buy a house thats 1 million dollars, and no one wants to pay that much for the house, so there has been no bids. but you go to the real etsate agents and make a bid for half of a million dollars on the house.. and the owners are DESPERATE to sell it, but the real estate agents want to get you to give a higher amount of money. so they tell you that there are alot of high bids and yours just wont cut it. well, if you keep begging them to give you the house and tell them youll pay more.. thats what they WANT you to do, and theyll make you squirm and youll keep on increasing the amount youre willing to pay until they get what they want. but if you just gave up and let whatever happened happen, without begging them for the house and raising the amount youd be willing to pay, then its going to make the real estate agents squirm because you were the only person who placed a bid, and now they lost you.. well then theyre going to come to you and give you what YOU want.. the house, for half a million dollars.. your only bid.
get it ? hahaa, i hope you do. i mean. what im trying to say is.. you have to find it in yourself to just walk away for now and let it go until he realizes youre not going to chase him. youre not going to do what he wants. youre just going to let it go until he wants to do something about it and fix it. let HIM be the one whos squirming.. not you.
on thursday.. call him. dont be afraid, his "new girl" wont pick up. i DOUBT that he even has a "new girl" or you would have heard about it, because he would rub it in your face. she wont pick up, so dont worry about that. and yeah, he might not pick up.. but thats what voicemails are for :] [so if you think you might get his voicemail, plan out what youll say before then, so youre prepared and not just stuttering] but if he picks up and tells you to leave him alone, tell him no. not until he talks to you. and if he says he doesnt want to talk, then tell him fine, but that youll be here whenever he wants to grow up and talk to you.
but after thursday, i suggest you let it go until hes the one calling you and texting you. and im not saying that hes going to do that after a couple of days with no contact with you.. all im saying is that in the future, he will chase after you.. because too many things were left unsaid and i know that he doesnt want to REALLY hurt you, but he wants to right now because hes hurt. you have to PROMISE me and yourself that after thursday.. no more. move on with your life. and then see where life leads you once you stop chasing after him.. and who knows, maybe youll end up in another guys arms.. a better guy who wants to hold you for the rest of your life.. :] anything is possible. you just have to let the possible BECOME possible.
i really hope i helped, and i really want to help you, so if you need anything at all, im always here for you. good luck and i know you can find it in yourself to not contact him, i KNOW you can :] xxo.
i got my period when i was 11. i'm 17 now and just barely 5'4", do you think i'm done growing?
im 17 and my doctor told me that i'll probably stop growing when i hit 18.. so you might have some growth left in you, but everyone is different. i think if you got your period that early, you're most likely done growing.. but just keep measuring your height and keeping track of your weight so you can be sure :]
good luck ! hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.
Well, I've had my period for a couple years but I've never used a tampon before.
Anyways, all my mom has are Super ones or whatever. Well I was wondering if this would be to big? Or if it would hurt.
14/f
do nottt use super for your first time using tampons.. thats just asking for pain haha.
get the smallest one you can find.. theres like super small.. and try those first. then when you get used to that and it doesnt feel uncomfortable.. move up a size to regular and then keep increasing, [if you want, but you dont have to] and youll have no pain. but super is definetly not the way to go for your first attempt at using tampons.
good luck ! and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.
girl. he still hasnt talked to me.
im going crazy. but im honestly doing sooo much better then i thought i would be doing.
im extremly happy lately but something just missing and im trying to not let it bother me and im trying to not think about him but its hard :/
ive been talking to this one guy for awhile just as friends i finally met him yesterday. i got sooooooo lost going there and i had to call him a million times and his friend was really nice to tell me where to go haha and we met up at a pool hall where he was and his friend and his friends gf. it was funn. he taught me how to play pool and stuff and when i was leaving he walked me to my car and he gave me a really good, big hug and i liked it. he said it was really nice to finally meet me and stuff. since i got lost going there he texted me awhile after i left and asked me if i got home safe and stuff and i said yeah and hes like good and we texted the whole night and he told me that hes horny and stuff and that i should send him pictures haha but i told him knoww. and he asked me what i thought of him and stuff and he asked me what i would do with him and i said anything really. and hes like ok well im just letting you know im not looking for a relationship. and im like alrighttt? btw hes 21 with a baby and im 17. i know thats kinda a big age difference and plus he has a kid :/ but i feel like im going down the road of trouble. do you think hes just using me to have sex?
girl youre my hero btw haha. you keeep me sain!
he still hasnt ? well dont give up.. thursday will come soon enough and then you can talk to him yourself. dont bet on hi talking to you first, because if he's stubborn, then obviously hes not going to back down until you do. yuh know ? and i know how hard it is to not think about someone.. the more you tell yourself NOT to think about him, the more you do. its so frustrating, but you have to keep yourself busy. you're doing good though, most people wouldnt be as positive as you are being right now, and thats totally awesome. like im not gonna lie to you, im gonna be straight up.. you're doing GREAT under the circumstances, so just keep it up, that little thing that's missing wont be gone for long. i promise you wont feel empty for long.
and since im an honest person, im going to tell you right now that i think youre most definitley right.. youre going down the road of trouble. from what youve told me, i can tell that he is not someone that is going to stick around.. and even he said it himself, hes not looking for a relationship and he most definitley doesnt want one. and when he asked you for pictures, immediatley after you boht met eachother.. thats the number one warning sign. [and good for you for not giving him the pictures. that gets around. and you dont know how many people he would send it to and how many people they would send it to.. yuh know ? i have so much respect for you for deciding to make a good decision :)] and another BIG warning sign was when he said, "what would you do with me?" like.. you have to remember, you might have been talking to him before this as friends but now that youve actually met, THE FIRST DAY, hes going to think youre easy and willing to do whatever. you're not just a hook up, you know that youre better than that, you deserve more. this guy knocked up another girl, probably because he was being careless, and is now wanting to have sex with you.. plus its illegal because youre 17 and hes 21, even though, to me, age is just a number.. unless youre like 10 and 21 hahaa, i hope you get what im saying. and i know you might not want to hear it, but im gonna tell you anyways because i do care about what happens to you.. this guy definetly is just using you for sex. first hes nice to you and charming.. then he goes in for the kill, thinking that he swept you off your feet enough to get you in his bed. typical scenario.. pretty classic. if i were you, i would just keep it friends with him.. or nothing at all, because we both know youre worth more. its obvious.
if youre worried about finding a guy.. you will, but youll find someone thats worth your time and not just here for a one night stand. yuh know ? and who knows what will happen with your ex.. your future is YOUR future and i cant tell you what to do.. but i can tell you what i think will help you when it comes to your future.
and aww, hahaa. im glad. i just try to help. i can tell youre really chill and just keep being you.. and listen to your instinct, you cant lose if you listen to your heart.
im always here if you need me :] [duh] keep me postedd, i really hope things work out the way you want them to ! good luck ! hope i helped girl. and dont sweat it, whats meant to be will be. xxo.
my boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me monday because i had no time for him and he thinks i like someone else (which i dont) and im going on a diet and he thinks its taking up my time he said our relationship was sh*t and it was a waste of our time in his words he sincereley wanted OUT. then yesterday i found out he had another girlfriend with none other than a friend that we both have. im pissed beyond belief and i dont know what to do. i still talk to the girl but its really hard to be interested in what shes saying and i want nothing to do with my ex right now. i dont want to hear about their freakin relationship at all. i want him to hurt soo bad i know its not nice but i cant help it. and im starting to cry about it now. how do i make the hurt go away? what should i say to him if he talks to me first? since i know i'll break down and respond back so don't say don't talk to him. he said he was her friend first but does that really matter?
wow.
i give you SO much credit for still tolerating that girl. i wouldnt be able to do that, so good for you., major props.
and double wow.
that was such an a-hole move your ex pulled.. after 2 years, youd think hed be nicer about it and not make lame excuses.
I'm not even in your situation and im becoming pissed off at him.. and her.
my advice is this.. if he or she starts talking about their relationship dont listen and ask them to stop. too much information, yuh know ? you dont need to be apart of that, thats like another low blow. and oh man, i KNOW how much you want him to hurt right now. i was in a similar situation to yours a few months ago. i didnt know what to do with myself. id go from raging anger to depressing sadness back to about to rip someones face off. but let me tell you, do NOT do anything bad to either of them, even though it is THE most tempting thing in the world. if you do, youll get a reputation and youll hurt more if they start giving you the reputation as the "crazy ex girlfriend" yuh know ?
and im not going to tell you to not talk to him. i say TALK to him. go for it. give him a piece of your mind, let him HAVE it. what i suggest doing is writing out everything you want to say to him in the bluntest way possible.. and then when youre done, read it over. after reading what youve written, take a deep breath and let it out. dont give him what you wrote.. unless you really really want to. but do talk to him. yell at him even. but just let him know that he hurt you and that youre pissed off. dont keep your feelings inside. the only way youll get over the hurt is if you tell him how you feel and get it off your chest. thats the only thing that helped me. sure, movie nights and long venting sessions filled with ben and jerrys icecream with my best friends helped too, but just telling him how i felt really set me free.
you should also try to keep yourself busy. give yourself alot to do and do it. also, listen to alot of music, but stay away from the taylor swift.. go for more "im strong and independent" songs and "he didnt break me" songs. because you are independent, strong, and the broken parts of you will heal and another boy will come along and fix them. also, what helped me was iw rote alot. i wrote about my feelings in a journal and i wrote poems and stories and all of that. it seriously helped.
the best way to get back at him is to move on and get on with your life. find another guy who DESERVES you and one who wont screw you over for another girl. he knows that youre miserable, and he wants you to be. so dont give him what he wants. be happy. go out there and show him what youre made of. just live :] there are plenty of other fish in the sea.. hes just the clownfish.
good luck ! this shouldnt have happened to you. but youll get through it. i know you will, and i promise you will. i hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] keep me posted ! xxo.
what should i do.. there is this girl that i became a friend and then we fell for each other.. we open up our feelings and we have the same, she said that she loves me and i love her too but all of a sudden she has change and said that she is not yet ready for a relationship..
i was that girl once :/ and it wasnt on purpose. you can love a person with all of your heart and STILL not be ready to commit. the thing is.. she just needs time and she needs to be the one whos ready. if you try to force her into a relationship with you when shes not ready, things will go down the drain.. and quickly.
so you should keep talking to her, let her know that youll wait for her until shes ready to be in a relationship and that she can take her time. love is a very complicated process. it could have been her first time actually loving someone and her first time saying it.. then she freaked herself out. there are so many reasons as to why she said this and then told you shes not ready for anything serious. maybe try talking to her about it..
but if i were you, id just let it go for now.. let it play itself out and let her call the shots. she loves you, and thats probably a big step for her. so just support her in her decision to not be in a relationship yet. but dont give up.. youre both in love :]
good luck ! if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, hope i helped :] xxo.
I hope that looks don't matter because i am still VERY traditional with my dating, and i'm not very pretty.
14/f
do i still have a chance?
of course you still have a chance !
what one person is looking for in a person isnt going to be the same as every other person's in the world.
dont put yourself down by think that you are not very pretty. and dont compare yourself to other people or other relationships, youll just set yourself up for hurt, and you dont deserve that.
I used to think that i was never good enough and not pretty enough.. [and i still do sometimes] but you have to let go of your insecurities and be confident in yourself and the choices you make.
you have all the chance in the world hun :] good luck, hope i helped, and believe it. ;] if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.
youre soo good at giving advice (:
i have another question though.
if i leave him alone till like thursday what if he doesnt talk to me then either?
what could i say to him that would make him talk to me or something?
im the really jealous type and what he said about that other girl has got me going crazy. hes like were done leave me alone. im gonna go talk to this girl kate who's 18 and she likes me and i told her no before but now i just texted her so leave me alone bye.
like the way he said it was really weird. idk why he had to tell me her name or her age? it was just weird.
im sure she does like him but i dont understand him. like why did he have to tell me that? becuase if he really cared he would still talk to me and stuff ya know?
ahh idk what to dooo!
we're so alike hahaa. im like that too :]
okay, so for your first question.. if he doesnt want to talk to you.. make him.
give him options, turn the tables and make him realize that if he doesnt talk to you that YOURE the one whos gone and there will be nothing he can do about it because when you leave, you leave for good. if hes trying to make you jealous and mad, you're going to have to send it right back at him.
or..
you could just tell him that he has no choice and that youre both going to have to talk about it sooner or later and it would be better to get it over with now because you care about and him and youre not going to stop until you both can talk about it because he might be "done" but youre not.
or...
you could just tell him that youll wait for him to talk to you, but youre not going to wait FOR him and youre going to get on with your life, just like he is.
i think that with your boyfriend, first you have to be sympathetic with him and very apologetic to get him to think about things.. but if he still hasnt caved and talked to you, then you have to be rough and tough with him. stand your ground. he'll panic if he thinks that youre the one whos officially done.. because now he'll take you seriously when you tell him that youre gone and he lost you. [not the other way around] you gotta kind of either scare him into talk to you, guilt him into talking to you, or anger him to get him to talk to you. but somehow, someway, he WILL talk to you. hes not over it, and youre not either. believe me, he has alot to say, and i know you do too, so itll happen. i know it sucks, but you gotta be patient.
you were together for 6 months.. he knows you. and he knows that if hes telling you about this girl, it will make you jealous. and im assuming this girl is either older than you or younger than you .. so he definetly thinks that age she is will make you even more jealous because he probably thinks that age = experience and it also means he thinks itll make you assume that she'll be more willing to do things with him since he said "no" to her before and now hes like giving her what she wants so she'll be all for it. thats basically why he told you that information.. to make you jealous and to make it seem like that he is most definetly hooking up with someone. which is probably not true, hes just trying to get back at you.
and i get how you think that if he still cared he would still talk to you and stuff, but that is gonna be hard for him since talking to you would remind him 24/7 that he lost you and that its HIS fault that he lost you and that now other guys can have you. it will also hurt him because he feels like you betrayed him, because obviously when he broke up with you, he didnt actaully want to.. but he realized that too late.. and it took you hooking up with another guy for him to realize that. he does care about you. if he didnt, he wouldnt be trying to hurt you like you apparently hurt him.
i know you dont know what to do, but just relax and take a few deep breaths. hang out with friends, vent.. but keep your mind off him. [i know, sounds impossible, right?] its not though. just turn your phone off.. i know that its tempting to constantly check it to see if hes texted or called you, but leave it in like a box soewhere in your room for a couple of hours. go cook or something. just hold off until thursday, and then see what happens. and if he does talk to you before then, dont reply back instantly like you were sitting by the phone waiting for him to contact you.. that'll give him cocky-ness. he WANTS you to be going out of your mind right now, so dont give him the satisfaction.. make him go out of his mind wondering if you finally gave up. then he'll talk to you.
good luck and you can do it; stay strong girl. everything will be okay :] hope i helped and im always here if you need anything at alll. keep me posted :] xxo.
hey. thanks soo much for the advice.
i was being reallly annoying to him yesterday on trying to get him to talk to me but hes wayyy to stubborn and stronger then i am so of course he ignored me :[
i already texted him twice this morning. ahhh i just want him back and i dont want things to be like this.
i really wish i could go back to yesterday and redo everything i said. we just got back on good terms and we were going to get back together sooner or later and my stupid self told him that and then he just blew up on me.
one thing that really upset me is hes like leave me alone its over so just drop it. and then im like wow whatever why did you even say you love me becuase obviously that was a huge lie and hes like yup so leave me alone.
that really hurt. this whole 6 months in our relationship he has been a jerk and ive put up with it. becuase when things are good, they are really good, but when there bad there bad. and he told me he could never trust me again. and i dont understand why. we werent together. he broke up with me. i was single. i could do whatever i want.
this wednesday is our 7 month and im reallly sad about that :[
when do you think is a goood time to try and talk to him? even thhough i dont think he will ever talk to me again..
no problem girl :] thats what i am here for.
and trust me, i know how you feel with the whole.. when things are good, theyre really good, but when things are bad, theyre really bad. thats exactly how its like in my relationship. and i know how you feel when you say you put up with it.. i did too.
it sucks, i so wish there was a rewind and fast forward button in life. but theres not :[ you just have to go with the flow and live with no regrets; just lessons learned. thats the motto i live by.
and i know that you really want to talk to him, but i say wait until maybe wednesday or thursday to contact him again. he needs a few days to cool off because if he doesnt want to talk to you.. he wont. and since hes stubborn hes going to need a few days to clear his mind. [my boyfriend is stubborn too]
but you have to remember, that he WAS hurt, thats where his anger is coming from. its easier for guys to be angry than upset. boys REALLY dont like to be upset, they view it as a weakness, and anger just helps them hide what they truly feel. so just know that he is UPSET inside, hes just hiding it behind a mask of anger. when he told you to leave it alone, drop it, its over.. he knew that would hurt you alot. then when you said the whole him loving you was a lie thing, he said yup it was because hes pissed.
but i think hes pissed more at himself than he is at you because he let you go and you actually let it go. like i said before, you didnt wait around for him and sit crying watching sad movies. sure, maybe getting drunk and making out with another guy was a mistake you didnt want to make, but he shouldnt have let you go if he didnt want that to happen.. since it would eventually happen. he knows that, and i dont think he wants to realize it because then this whole thing would be his fault. guys hate taking the blame for things. and he overreacted. you guys ARENT together. none of this is your fault.. even if you thought there was a chance you would both get back together, youd never know the exact time that would be, and good for you for not waiting around.
this is WHY beyonce made that song single ladies haha :] it fits your situation so well. you should look up the lyrics. for real. it will make you feel better :]
and i promise, he will talk to you again. he wont be silent forever. and neither will you. you're both going to have to talk it out sometime. but he just needs some space right now.. and just a little reminder.. youre still single. and until youre no longer single.. you can do what you want, its not a crime.
good luck ! tell me how it goes, i really hope things go your way and i hope i helped :] you can always send me an inbox if you need to talk or anything :] xxo.
What traits, to you, does the PERFECT GUY possess?? State all the traits you think would make up the perfect, possibly unattainable guy...
I need this for my online project :) xxx Thanks in advance
Please help! And don't leave anything out!!
people say theres no such thing as perfect.. ;]
but anyways, the perfect guys, in my opinion, would include..
1. he can make you laugh.
2. hes a good listener.
3. he has a god personality.
4. hes fun.
5. he isnt a player or a guy who thinks hes the hottest crap in the world.
6. hes not arrogant.
7. looks play a part, because he has to be atractive.
8. he has to be genuine and honest.
9. he has to be intelligent.
10. gotta be natural.. no fake tans or steroid induced muscles hahaa.
11. he has a good smile and good eyes.
12. he can make you smile.
13. dresses nicely [not sloppy and gross]
14. hes considerate.
15. athletic or involved in some kind of activity.. maybe clubs; hardworking.
i think that about sums it up hahaa. good luck with your project ! have fun and i hope i helped :] xxo.
okay im 13 and im a girl and im in the middle scool i kissed a guy at our basket ball game in the bleachers about every where now i like him but i dont no if he likes me how do i know he like me and how could i make him go out with me give me advice please!
aww :] well, youd know if he likes you if he is the first one to kiss you.. so dont be the first one to go in for the kiss and wait to see if he kisses you first. youll also know he likes you if he tells you.. or if you ask him.. or if you tell him that you like him and see what he says back. i mean, you deserve to know ;] thats the most obvious one.. but you could also know that he likes you if he blushes around you, or always wants to be around you; if he tries to make you laugh :] but hes also going to smile alot and look you in your eyes when hes talking to you. he'll also compliment you alot and flirt :] but kissing is a good sign hahaa.
anyways, you cant MAKE a guy go out with you, it either just kinda happens, or you ask him out yourself. you could get him to want to ask you out by flirting and hanging out with him a lot. but what you have to do is ask him yourself if he doesnt ask you himself. boys like it when you take control of a situation, it gives you conifdence :]
good luck ! hope i helped :] if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.
me and my ex have been broken up for about a week and a half.
i was realllly sad about it so i decided to go out to a party wtih my friend and one thing led to another and i made out with a guy becuase i was drunk. but im not using that as an excuse because thats no reason to.
so we started talking a couple days ago and i felt really bad so i told him and he blew up on me. he has no right to be mad right? we werent together. so he told me we are done ( even though we already were ) i think he meant done tlaking. and im like begging him and he told me hes gonna go talk to this girl that likes him and im reallly upset and i dont know what to do. im begging him and hes telling me to leave him alone that were done for good. and im like then why the hell did you eversay you love me. you obviously dont if you could say were done just like that and hes like yyup so leave me alone.
i seriously dont know what to do. i thought i was doing hte right thing by telling him. we wernet even together so i dont know why hes so angry.
what should i say to him. i want him back ! :[
and everyone says that us girls are more complicated, pshh, boys are JUST as complicated.
i know right now you probably want everything to go back to the way it was and you're also probably driving yourself insane by thinking about all the things you could have done and all the things you "should" have left unsaid to avoid this situation.. but you did the right thing. dont ever let him make you think that you didnt because youre right and hes wrong.. all you did was have a little fun [which your ALLOWED to do] and live life as a single girl.
... because you ARE single. you both broke up, which means there are no ruled.. no "dos" and "donts"; but the emotional aspect of it is still there. if it had been a week and a 1/2 after you both broke up, the feelings are still raw, and he's just hurt because he was most likely thinking that you'd be laying in your bed, crying yourself to sleep, eating buckets of icecream and wanting him back. he thought you were going to be miserable, but then you wet out and tried to move on and forget about him.. to cheer yourself up and not let this get you down in the dumps.. then you told him what happened when you went out and partied, and it probably took him by surprise.. it also made him very jealous.
i can tell you 100% that he is most definetely jealous because he tried to get back at you and hurt you by telling you that hes going to go talk to a girl that likes him.
right now, what you have to do if you want to get back on good terms again is to let him cool down and not talk to him for a little bit. by constantly trying to get in contact with him will make him even more angry [trust me] he just has to calm down and then you both can clear your heads and CALMLY work it out. and when you do wait a little, maybe a few days or so.. then just tell him the truth. tell him that you never wanted to hurt him and that if you knew doing wht you did would get him so angry, you wouldnt have done it because you both were broken up so you didnt think it was going to have such a negative impact on him and that you wish you could take it back but you cant and that you're sorry and youd like for him to keep talking to you because you miss him and you miss having him in your life and that him being angry with you and breaking up with you is hurting you more than anything.
just make it clear that you miss him. and if this doesnt work.. then just dont talk to him untl he makes the effort to talk to you. because all you can do is apologize and explain yourself, yuh know, then its up to him to decide what hes gonna do.
good luck, and dont worry, itll be okay. im sorry this is happening to you :[ hope i helped ! and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.
ok so i just got my braces put on yesterday, and may i say i am in PAIN!!! they didnt hurt the first day i got them but now my teeth are so sore and my lips are all cut. the wax has helped my lips from getting cut my teeth still hurt real bad. how long is it going to take for the pain to go away???
oh mann, braces were the worst. i know how you feel :/
the pain will vary from person to person, but it usually stays sore for about 2-4 days, and then you get used to it. but trust me, take advil or tylenol and youll feel soo much better.
good luck, and feel better soon ! xxo.
So i like this guy, and he likes me. We text pretty much all day pretty much everyday. We know eachother from a class we had together, well we dont have that class anymore. When we had the class together we were just friends and did nothing more than casual flirting because he has a crazy ex girlfriend. Well the other day we talked for the first time in person and it was kind of awkward. I dont know if it was because all these friends of mine kept coming up to me and hugging me or if it was my friends always coming up to me or people continually saying hi.
How can i make it not awkward?
oh man, i know how that feels. with one of my ex boyfriends, we basically had a text messaging relationship. it was THE most awkward thing in the world. when i would see him in person, it was the definition of awkward, and my friends didnt really help the situation when they came up to me when i was trying to talk to him in person.. and being all, "hiii lovebirdsss" and stuff like that. ha, bad times.
but yeah, your friends doing those things definetely make it ore awkward, especially if its kinda the first time youve both talked in person in a long time. it just takes some getting used to, yuh know ?
well, you can make it not awkward by laughing it off and making jokes about the situation youre in like.. "our talking skills are soo much better over texting, i say we change that right now ;]" .. something along those lines, he'll laugh. it's kind of like an icebreaker, but youre flirting at the same time. it'd also be less awkward if you guys were talking alone, with none of your friends. so you guys could hang out ad just talk withut people racing around distracting you or interrupting you.
and another thing ive learned the hard way.. its only awkward if you make it awkward. and NEVER say, "this is awkwarddd" because it makes everything even more awkward than it originally was. the bottom line is, if you dont think about it too much, and just not make it a big deal by talking to this guy.. then it wont be awkward. im sure he feels the same way as you right now. you could apologize to him and e like, "sorry if this is awkward for you, my friends are very social haha." and just laugh it off, he wont care. his firends would probably do the same thing.
you could talk to him about it, but it just takes some time getting used to. so try to talk less on text, maybe call eachother more frequently.. so you can get used to eachother voices, because talking over text gives you time for a delayed response and you can think about what youre going to say.. which makes talking in person more awkward because youre at a loss for words.
but itll get easier. it just takes practice. it wont be awkward forever :] so, good luck and i hope i helped ! if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.