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major heartache no clue how to deal
my boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me monday because i had no time for him and he thinks i like someone else (which i dont) and im going on a diet and he thinks its taking up my time he said our relationship was sh*t and it was a waste of our time in his words he sincereley wanted OUT. then yesterday i found out he had another girlfriend with none other than a friend that we both have. im pissed beyond belief and i dont know what to do. i still talk to the girl but its really hard to be interested in what shes saying and i want nothing to do with my ex right now. i dont want to hear about their freakin relationship at all. i want him to hurt soo bad i know its not nice but i cant help it. and im starting to cry about it now. how do i make the hurt go away? what should i say to him if he talks to me first? since i know i'll break down and respond back so don't say don't talk to him. he said he was her friend first but does that really matter?
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wow.
i give you SO much credit for still tolerating that girl. i wouldnt be able to do that, so good for you., major props.
and double wow.
that was such an a-hole move your ex pulled.. after 2 years, youd think hed be nicer about it and not make lame excuses.
I'm not even in your situation and im becoming pissed off at him.. and her.
my advice is this.. if he or she starts talking about their relationship dont listen and ask them to stop. too much information, yuh know ? you dont need to be apart of that, thats like another low blow. and oh man, i KNOW how much you want him to hurt right now. i was in a similar situation to yours a few months ago. i didnt know what to do with myself. id go from raging anger to depressing sadness back to about to rip someones face off. but let me tell you, do NOT do anything bad to either of them, even though it is THE most tempting thing in the world. if you do, youll get a reputation and youll hurt more if they start giving you the reputation as the "crazy ex girlfriend" yuh know ?
and im not going to tell you to not talk to him. i say TALK to him. go for it. give him a piece of your mind, let him HAVE it. what i suggest doing is writing out everything you want to say to him in the bluntest way possible.. and then when youre done, read it over. after reading what youve written, take a deep breath and let it out. dont give him what you wrote.. unless you really really want to. but do talk to him. yell at him even. but just let him know that he hurt you and that youre pissed off. dont keep your feelings inside. the only way youll get over the hurt is if you tell him how you feel and get it off your chest. thats the only thing that helped me. sure, movie nights and long venting sessions filled with ben and jerrys icecream with my best friends helped too, but just telling him how i felt really set me free.
you should also try to keep yourself busy. give yourself alot to do and do it. also, listen to alot of music, but stay away from the taylor swift.. go for more "im strong and independent" songs and "he didnt break me" songs. because you are independent, strong, and the broken parts of you will heal and another boy will come along and fix them. also, what helped me was iw rote alot. i wrote about my feelings in a journal and i wrote poems and stories and all of that. it seriously helped.
the best way to get back at him is to move on and get on with your life. find another guy who DESERVES you and one who wont screw you over for another girl. he knows that youre miserable, and he wants you to be. so dont give him what he wants. be happy. go out there and show him what youre made of. just live :] there are plenty of other fish in the sea.. hes just the clownfish.
good luck ! this shouldnt have happened to you. but youll get through it. i know you will, and i promise you will. i hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] keep me posted ! xxo.
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Aw girl that stinks. Don't hurt him. I know how you feel. You want to get him back, but hurting him isn't gonna make you happy. I know you might not want a new boy, but try to find a new one. It doesn't have to be a boyfriend, just find one you think is cute and get to know him. It will get your mind off your ex and maybe something will happen. Keep your head up and don't talk to him or your friend. Your mind will tell you where to go. If you want to be friends with either of them again, you'll know. For now, try not to think about it and give it time.
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