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thankyouuu!
thankyou sooo muchh.
i kinda such at this whole not talking thing so ive been texting him like two texts a day trying to get him to talk to me. and i always get my hopes up thinking i will get a text back but of course i get nothing.
i honestly think he is never going to talk to me again.
and the thought of that makes me soooo sad :[
ive said every possible thing to say to him to try and get him to talk to me but he wont.
i want to call him but im scared he will have "his new girl" answer or that he wont even answer or that he will answer and tell me to stop effing calling him.
idk what to do anymore girl. this is killing me :[
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no problem :] anytime girl.
and i know, i mean.. i did too.. i would always want to text him, but itd be one text.. not everyday though, yuh know ? if you get your hopes up high enough, the harder you fall.
like i said before though, if you try to get him to talk to you, and you practically beg him to.. then thats just going to boost his e-go and his drive to AVOID talking to you. because right now, youre doing exactly what he wants you to do.. and that is, chasing after him. he wants to feel like you cant go on without him, that he is getting to you and that youre not the only one who is capable of hurting him; that he can hurt you.
does that make sense ?
how else can i put this.. uhm, hmm.. its like this. say you wanted to buy a house thats 1 million dollars, and no one wants to pay that much for the house, so there has been no bids. but you go to the real etsate agents and make a bid for half of a million dollars on the house.. and the owners are DESPERATE to sell it, but the real estate agents want to get you to give a higher amount of money. so they tell you that there are alot of high bids and yours just wont cut it. well, if you keep begging them to give you the house and tell them youll pay more.. thats what they WANT you to do, and theyll make you squirm and youll keep on increasing the amount youre willing to pay until they get what they want. but if you just gave up and let whatever happened happen, without begging them for the house and raising the amount youd be willing to pay, then its going to make the real estate agents squirm because you were the only person who placed a bid, and now they lost you.. well then theyre going to come to you and give you what YOU want.. the house, for half a million dollars.. your only bid.
get it ? hahaa, i hope you do. i mean. what im trying to say is.. you have to find it in yourself to just walk away for now and let it go until he realizes youre not going to chase him. youre not going to do what he wants. youre just going to let it go until he wants to do something about it and fix it. let HIM be the one whos squirming.. not you.
on thursday.. call him. dont be afraid, his "new girl" wont pick up. i DOUBT that he even has a "new girl" or you would have heard about it, because he would rub it in your face. she wont pick up, so dont worry about that. and yeah, he might not pick up.. but thats what voicemails are for :] [so if you think you might get his voicemail, plan out what youll say before then, so youre prepared and not just stuttering] but if he picks up and tells you to leave him alone, tell him no. not until he talks to you. and if he says he doesnt want to talk, then tell him fine, but that youll be here whenever he wants to grow up and talk to you.
but after thursday, i suggest you let it go until hes the one calling you and texting you. and im not saying that hes going to do that after a couple of days with no contact with you.. all im saying is that in the future, he will chase after you.. because too many things were left unsaid and i know that he doesnt want to REALLY hurt you, but he wants to right now because hes hurt. you have to PROMISE me and yourself that after thursday.. no more. move on with your life. and then see where life leads you once you stop chasing after him.. and who knows, maybe youll end up in another guys arms.. a better guy who wants to hold you for the rest of your life.. :] anything is possible. you just have to let the possible BECOME possible.
i really hope i helped, and i really want to help you, so if you need anything at all, im always here for you. good luck and i know you can find it in yourself to not contact him, i KNOW you can :] xxo.
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