so i recently let my bf finger me... idk ive done this before and i really liked it but i dont feel right about it... was it a bad choice or not?? idk please help any advice will be great. thanks.
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? itdependsonyoux3 answered Tuesday January 26 2010, 10:02 pm: do you mean that you dont feel right about it because you feel guilty.. kind of like youre doing something wrong ? if thats the case, then you should talk to him about it. be open with him, tell him everything because he can help you with the "not right" feelings. because if you feel like youre going too fast or you should wait a longer to get that intimate, then you should let him know, he'll understand.
but if it doesnt feel right because it doesnt feel good, then obviously stop doing it until youre totally comfortable with the situation. you should talk to him about that too, if thats how you feel.
but you could also feel like somethings not right if you wer ebrought up a certain way.. like if your parents found out, would they dissaprove ? sometimes, thoughts like these make you second guess yourself and feel guilty or just like something off and not so right. if thats the case then either stop what youre doing and wait longer, or just try to push it to the back of your mind because its your life. yuh know ? live it how you want to.
i dont think it was a bad choice if you dont. i mean, hes your boyfriend, and things like that tend to happen in relationships at some point. sometimes faster than others, or slower than others. it doesnt matter, but all that matters is if youre completley comfrotable with the situation and that youre sure its what you want to do. if youre having doubts, stop and talk to your boyfriend. he will understand and listen and reassure you. sometimes all you need is some reassurance. but if you think it was a bad choice, it was a lesson learned and you can just not do it anymore. no big deal. youll be okay :]
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