So, like, I'm this guy. And like, I do stuff...
Chemist, musician, artist, programmer, coach, husband, dad, uncle, etc.
So yeah.
Advice-wise? There are no stupid questions, just stupid people.
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I have piano lessons and I love it. My mom says that im probably going to quit because I dont practice. But i do practice! She just never listens! I really really really dont want to quit Piano! Music is my life! I have an absolute passion for it! I LOVE music!
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Ok... being that you just asked about the voice lessons, you might need to decide where you passion lies. If you've been taking piano lessons for a while, there's no reason why you can't continue playing. So, why not go ahead and switch to voice lessons for a while. In fact, you might want to talk to your piano teacher about it, or ask for their professional input on how best to approach this, especially if you'd like to learn to play and sing at the same time.
I'm mostly self-taught on the instruments I play, and there's no reason why you can't let your passion for music fuel your drive to learn it on your own. Lessons are great for refinement of your skills, and admittedly some find the more disciplined approach of formal lessons to be better for their style of learning... so just give it all some thought and don't be afraid to ask your current instructor for their thoughts on the matter.
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I have liked this guy for ages over a year and nearly all my friends have dated him. I think one still likes him. I have a strict policy not to date guys my friends liked, have liked or have dated. So I ask should I ask him out or stick to my policy?? Ps I am no glamour model
Thanx (link)
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You like him. Screw you policy - why limit yourself like that? That doesn't make any sense - doing that will just make you miserable - if you like they guy, then act on it... ask him out.
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I've been dating my boyfriend for about 9 months now (I'm 15/f) and things have been going great! We love eachother very much but lately he's been getting to protective of me. I'm sure many of you know what a "myspace" is, if not it's a site where you pretty much make/find friends. One of my friends that is a guy commented on almost all of my pictures telling me how beautiful I was and how lucky my boyfriend is to be dating me yadda yadda yadda. My boyfriend sees the comments and gets really mad because he said it's a "dick thing to do" for a guy to call another guys girlfriend "hot" and "sexy" and "beautiful". He said to me "I don't know what goes on in your school and I don't trust the guys there." So, now he's mad at me for not saying anything to the guys who were merely COMPLIMENTING me. I said to him that he should be happy that another guy is telling me that I'm pretty because you're the one that is dating me and you're the one who has my heart. He said that's not the point, he doesn't want other guys saying I'm pretty. He's driving me FREAKING INSANE! I don't know what to say to him! He's never been like this up until a few weeks ago! I can't convince him that there is nothing for him to worry about. What should I do? This is getting out of control. (link)
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Your boyfriend is going to have to understand that you are not "his". The world is full of people. It isn't like your boyfriend has put on blinders so that he is unable to see other girls, and I'm sure it isn't like he's stopped talking to everyone except other guys. He can't control other guys, either. If he's upset that some other guy said that you're attractive, you have to wonder what is really going on inside his head. Why can't he just say, "yup, he's right, you are beautiful and I am lucky to be dating you"... instead of going all psycho about it. He needs to grow up and get over it.
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Last summer I met a guy and we started dating. We broke up three times and I'm still not over him. I really love him and he doesn't feel the same. He changes his girl almost every week and I can't cope with it anymore. I can't get over him, I've tried but I can't. I don't know what to do about it, I love him so much. (link)
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How can you love someone who doesn't love you back? You're enamored with him, you're infatuated with him... and yet this guy just floats from girl to girl - is he really worth your time? Look at how he treats his relationships... he has no respect, he pretty clearly doesn't care.
It sounds like you're in love with the thought of being in love more than you are actually in love with him. It is time to stop paying attetion to him - let it go, he's not worth your time.
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I'm sorry that you didn't like what I had to say to you on this topic. I offered what I did because I've seen it time and time again, and lived it myself. Love IS a two-way street - love is built on trust and communication. You don't have that with him at all... you think you love him... I don't doubt that at all... but he clearly doesn't love you. And that pretty much kills it right there.
You need to move on, for the sake of your emotional health. You've the only one who can make that decision. There isn't really a magic techinque you can use to let you. It has to be a consious decision by you to realize that it is over and that you have to move on. Don't dwell on the past... don't reminisce of your relationship with him... think instead about the future and what possibilities it might hold.
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what do you do as a parent about your young teenage daughter who cannot control their mouths or do what you ask of them..and all they ever want is to shop wat is up with that? (link)
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You are making me sooooo grateful that I only have 2.5 boys... (so far, anyway)
The teenage years... man, I was waaay to easy on my parents... I did not prepare them for my brother or sister. ;)
The inability to control her mouth is all about asserting herself - rebelling for the sake of rebelling to try to be in a state of control. Also, it can be to try to put on airs of superiority or to have continual attention. As for how best to deal with it? gah... no clue... Ignoring it is one possibility, punishment is another - it is going to really depend on the girl's personality and how she responds to such forms of feedback.
As far as shoppig goes - if she has no money, she can't shop. Make her grateful for what she has, make her understand how to separate what she needs from what she wants.
man... now I fear what my kids are going to become in about 7 years or so...
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Hello. I was reading over some of you work, I must say I'm a tad bit dissapointed. If someone doesn't like your advice, you don't need to go edit your answer and call them a moron and stupid and lazy, because hunny, that makes you look immature, not her. (link)
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Thank you for the wonderfully insightful comment.
I edit often because they either totally missed my point, or I needed to add something. I'm not a fan of vindictive ratings on here, and I'm not a fan of abuse. Often, when I respond with something negative, it is because they said something really, really stupid to me in the feedback. I have no issue feeding back what they dish out.
I've been on this site since the get-go. I'm not here to make people happy and feel giddy with delight. I give the best advice that I am able to, usually on topics that I feel I'm quilified to give it.
I find it interesting that you've only concentrated on the negative aspects of things I've posted, since they are the VAST minority of things I've had to do here. People who feel the need to scrutinize things like that... well, I just won't comment because I don't need to, do I?
Not only do I answer questions on here, but I approve many of them, and also deal with abuse reports and people who continually harass other members. I do most of my work with this site behind the scenes, assisting the site administrator, as she and I know each other "in real life".
So with that, I bid you good day.
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ok well let me explain it a little better. I HAVE NO DRIVE!!! lol its not that we are not open, because well we know each others bodies well. he bloves sex and yes so do i, but i wanna be the one to jump on him!! for once.understand??? not only is it frustrating for him, but me as well. i get to the point of should i find him a girlfriend?? (link)
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In that case, have you seriously considered talking to a doctor about it? Hormonal imbalances are well documented for causing changes in sex drive. Otherwise, step back and examine the situation - why do you have a lack of drive? What is causing you to feel unenthusiastic about sex? I can't answer that, and really, neither can anyone else - you need to examine yourself, your relationship, etc... a little introspection to try to understand what is failing where.
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ok im new to this here, but i am getting frustrated with getting only crap for advice. im 24 and i dont really have much of a drive. i mean i have my times but you might as well put it on the calander, its not that often. anyway my bf- fiance thinks that hes not doing it for me, but i tell him its cuz he beats me to it. when i am in the mood its great, and even when im not, he still makes it wonderful. i dont know what to do.. please i need real people to help with this. (link)
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Well... sex is something that two people have to learn about together - so part of this sounds like the two of you need to try to openly talk more about how things are working and suggest what each do and do not like, and ask what you and he could try to improve the experience... I mean, for one, that gives you more excuses to practice... and it establishes an element of trust and support for each other through your sexuality, which that kind of intimacy becomes a cornerstone of a solid relationship. If he's "beating you to it", it sounds like he needs to be less attuned to himself during the act and pay more attention to you - and you need to be able to make sure he remebers this, even during the act.
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Is it possible to find a tanning bed at a yard/garage sale, or would it be stupid for someone to sell one? I'm just wondering if I should be on the look out for one...but would someone sell a tanning bed? I'm just trying to see what are some other ways for getting one besides ordering one full price. Can you help me? (link)
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Even if you did find one for sale like that, I'd be hesitant... how old would it be? Does it meet current safety and health standards? How often was it cleaned? How much is its cost of upkeep? How much will its use raise your electric bill? While those questions I've posed might seem stupid, if you pay $500 for a tanning bed, only to find out that the bulbs alone cost twice that to replace, you'll regret it.
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What stocks should I buy? (link)
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cheap ones that will gain value over time...
To answer that question, you have to ask yourself this: how much risk are you willing to take? Are you looking for short-term gains, or long-term gains? All that matters with how you'd pick stocks. And by playing the market, you also have to be willing to lose.
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Ok, I have an 85 Daihatsu Charade.. It has done 180k kms. Recently (during night only) it's been shutting itself down, the mechanic says its because the oil fumes are going through the engine and it doesn't like breathing it. So I was wondering what are some easy, fast ways to reduce or eliminate these fumes?(FYI It's only during the night that I have this problem)
Also, My alternator is only putting 13ish Volts to the battery (No where near enough). How can I get it pumping out more voltage? thanks. (link)
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I will admit upfront that I'm not a car expert... but since you said oil fumes, and it only happens at night...
...being the chemist that I am, I immediately thought this: at night, the air is cooler, so in general, your car is cooler, the air going through your car is cooler, thus cooling the engine more effectively. Oil fumes are still oil, just vaporized, so what is likely happening is that the oil could well be condensing in the engine at night, mucking things up. So either the engine needs to be vented differently, or a filter needs placed to remove the oil from the air to keep it from forming a condensate.
If anything, I'm curious to see if I'm on the right track with my guess - hopefully someone will see your question that really knows cars and be able to tell me if I'm full of it, and also give you more concrete advice. ;)
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Hey ! I'm taking Christian Counseling in college and i need to write a paper on alcoholism how it affects the family from the smallest child to the middle child to the oldest and the mom and dad and neighbors and everything like what happens and what are words to describe it i have searched the internet but can't find anything ! Does anyone know of any sites or could tell me about because you have been through it ! I rate high ! THANKS! (link)
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If you're saying that you can't find anything, I would have to ask exactly how you performed your search, because putting in "alcoholism family social issues" into google brings up about a billion references.
Also, you're in college - doesn't your school have a library... filled with books and journals? Books and journals will be a far more reliable resource than internet websites. If your school has a psychology department, sociology department, social work, health, or any other department that has anything to do with research and understanding alcoholism and alcoholics, that means you have about a billion more resources at your fingertips, just waiting to be taken advantage of.
Better yet, if you know of anyone who's life has been effected by alcoholics, you could see if they'd give you brief interviews to talk about the subject.
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If you are alergic to penecilin would you also be alergic to zithromax? (link)
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no - penicyllin is a betalactam, azithromycin is a macrolide. They are not chemically related at all.
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This may sound odd but I would really like to know: after a pregnancy (after the baby is born) how long does it take for the woman's periods to come back? Is it instant, or in (roughly) a month, or depending on when her last period before the pregnancy was, or what? And also, will her periods be irregular like when they first started or go back to her normal cycle?
Thank you! (link)
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After the birth, the woman generally experiecnes bleeding for about a month as everything slowly returns to "normal". It might take a while for her period to get back on cycle, some find that they need hormone therapy to try to bring it back to some semblance of normalcy.
Also, breastfeeding postpones menstration from happening.
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My brother and I are nine years apart but we get along great and I love him to death. Over the years my brother has been with a few girls and I've always got along with them. But his new girlfriend (he live with her at her moms house because we moved and there was no room) but anyways we dont get along I mean I try to like her but shes a bitch to me and my friends. My best friend shes like my sister she considers mty bro her bro and my bros girlfriend is always a bitch when shes around. She is very stuck up and im afraid my brother is going to be with her for a long time.......What should I do I want to like her but I cant.
Dont say im jelous or protective of my bro because no matter what ill be happy for him. HELP!! (link)
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A few people have already said this, but I'll add to the masses: Sit your brother down and try to talk to him about it. Just keep in mind that he might get defensive over it, trying to stand up for his girlfriend - but if you present your case carefully and logically, without trying to attack her, you might drive the message home, and maybe your brother will be able to deliver that message to her. For all we know, the girlfriend's attitude might be her defense mechanism for feeling like she's not accepted - hard to say.
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Hey i am 14 and my dad doesnt trust me AT ALL! Is there a way for parents to read what you wrote to other people on aim? If there is, how do I turn it off, or make it so my dad cant read what i am saying? Also, how do i get him to trust me more?? Thanx, eX 0h (link)
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There is software that allows people to record everything that takes place - from your reports, to email to IMing people. This software can be installed either directly on your computer, or if you're on a network, on another system that can monitor all your activity. You will never know it is running.
As far as gaining more trust, well... do things that prove you're trustworthy. Ok, yeah... that's an oversimplification, but I don't know your dad, so I don't know what he thinks - it could just be general parent-of-a-teen paranoia, or he could have other motives... I really don't know... but you're best off proving that you're dependable and responsible with what you choose to do and how you do it.
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I have one of these, and it's great, except for the pressure sensitivity thing. When I'm trying to digitally ink a drawing, the sensitivity creates wavy, inconsitant lines. Is there a way to switch it off? (link)
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There should be a control panel setting for the tablet that allows you to tweak the sensitivity of the tablet. Poking around on Wacom's UK site (as the US version was down at the time), it indicates that pressure sensitivity is handled through a driver, and that driver should have an interface to change its settings - so there should be something in the control panel.
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I recently signed up for an online DVD rental membership. The envelope seals have been opened on the past 5 DVDs I have recived. Should I contact the rental company, or should I contact to post office, or try to catch my mailman. It's just too much of a coincidence that they have all comed opened. But I am not sure who to talk to. Is someone looking at the movies? I have a locked mailbox. (link)
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Check with your post office. It might be that the packages are actually getting inspected... yay for the Patriot Act! (your DVDs could be terrorists, you know...) I've had several pieces of mail "inspected" for god only knows what reason (pictures from my grandmother were susptected terrorists...)
Seriously, contact the local post office and inform them of the conditions you've found your packages - they might have an explanation, or be able to see if the packages are arriving at their locale already apparently tampered with - they could then forward your concerns to the originating post office location.
It is probably not a bad idea to let the DVD rental place know as well, but as it seems nothing has been stolen, they probably won't care, but it can't hurt to inform them. In fact, they may have received other comments about similar handling from other members.
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my mom said she would buy me birth control pills and to just tell her if me and my boyfriend are gonna ahve sex because she knows him and she likes him and weve been together for a while...were thinkin about it but i just wanted to know how effective against pregnancy is a birth control pill?? is it safe to use a condom AND birth control at the same time? and should i just tell my mom or just do it behind her back because i heard you have to go to the doctor to get the pills...thats embarassing (link)
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The effectiveness of birth control ranges from about 95 to 99% effective, depending on the excact brand/formula. Using dual forms of protection (pill and condom) is always inherently safer. Not wanting to go to the doctor due to embarassment should not outweigh the risks of getting pregnant.
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if a woman is about 2 months or 1 month pregnant and not showing at all...and she went on an amusement park ride that had a sign that said no expectant mothers posted on it...what would happen to the baby? would it cause a miscarriage?? (link)
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At that early, the fetus would probably be fine. My wife was diving all over the volleyball court (hard court, not sand) while early in pregnancy once - went full term, no complications. Very early in pregnancy, the fetus is so small, sudden shifts in momentum and impacts are almost not felt by it - as the fetus gets larger, there's more of a risk for it becoming dislodged from the uterine wall, causing miscarriage.
That said, if someone KNOWS that she is pregnant, and purposefully takes such risks, that is still stupid.
When in doubt, she should ALWAYS ask her OB/GYN. The ones around here are even able to tell a woman exactly what rides at the local amusement park she is able to ride at which stages of pregnancy. ;)
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