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My boyfriend is wayy to protective.
I've been dating my boyfriend for about 9 months now (I'm 15/f) and things have been going great! We love eachother very much but lately he's been getting to protective of me. I'm sure many of you know what a "myspace" is, if not it's a site where you pretty much make/find friends. One of my friends that is a guy commented on almost all of my pictures telling me how beautiful I was and how lucky my boyfriend is to be dating me yadda yadda yadda. My boyfriend sees the comments and gets really mad because he said it's a "dick thing to do" for a guy to call another guys girlfriend "hot" and "sexy" and "beautiful". He said to me "I don't know what goes on in your school and I don't trust the guys there." So, now he's mad at me for not saying anything to the guys who were merely COMPLIMENTING me. I said to him that he should be happy that another guy is telling me that I'm pretty because you're the one that is dating me and you're the one who has my heart. He said that's not the point, he doesn't want other guys saying I'm pretty. He's driving me FREAKING INSANE! I don't know what to say to him! He's never been like this up until a few weeks ago! I can't convince him that there is nothing for him to worry about. What should I do? This is getting out of control.
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omg wow. Talk to your boyfriend about being overprotective! He hopefully will understand. The only reason is because his ex-girlfriend cheated on him with a guy that told her that she was beautiful and he thinks your going to end up doing that.
Be careful around him. Quit myspace, but tell him you did so it will make him feel better
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haha well, be happy that he loves you so much.
my boyfriend acctually kicked the shit out of this kid that was all up on me, and it was funny. but i think you should be happy he loves you.
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Aww hun, my boyfriend is just the same!
Reassure him that you love him and that you won't leave him. Remind him of the wonderful 9 months you've been together, and just say sweet things to him. That's really the only thing I can think of!
But the reason why he could be acting this way is because we women get flattered when people compliment us, and he might be afraid that a little flattery might lead to something more. Especially since he has already experienced it before with his ex, he just doesn't want to lose you!
Try to tolerate it for the most part, he's just showing that he cares. But if he takes it to the point where you can't even talk to other people or hang out with your guy friends, have a talk with him and tell him how you feel. I'm not sure if you let him hang out with is girl friends (if he has any), but if you do, tell him that you don't restrict him so he shouldn't do the same to you. Also, by him being so overprotective, his behavior ENFORCES the feeling of you wanting to disobey him. That's why a lot of girls leave guys who act that way.
Sorry I kinda rambled on, but I hope this helps.
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Simply ask him, "Would you be mad and say something rude back if a girl told you you were hot?" That's all there is to it. And if he said he would, he's lyinq. And if he's lying, get one of you=r friends to tell him he's hot and show how he reacts to it. But after that you don't want him getting mad so just remind him again, that it doesn't matter to you what other guys think of you or even what other girls think of him.. it's him you love.
He'll eventually understand, x0x Jordy|♥
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You need to tell this boyfriend of yours that it is YOU he is supposed to be trusting.Who cares what other guys say.
I wouldn't accuse him or anything but maybe this stems from a guilty conscious on his part? I'd ask some questions about HIS behaviour.
The whole thing in a nutshell sweetie is if he doesn't trust you (and vice versa) your relationship is not going to go anywhere anyway.
Tell him to shape up or you're gonna move on.
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Your boyfriend is going to have to understand that you are not "his". The world is full of people. It isn't like your boyfriend has put on blinders so that he is unable to see other girls, and I'm sure it isn't like he's stopped talking to everyone except other guys. He can't control other guys, either. If he's upset that some other guy said that you're attractive, you have to wonder what is really going on inside his head. Why can't he just say, "yup, he's right, you are beautiful and I am lucky to be dating you"... instead of going all psycho about it. He needs to grow up and get over it.
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He thinks you're his property. This is very common, I see girls in this situation all the time. They think it's "so sweet" that he gets jealous, but this is NOT a sign he cares. He wants to control you and doesn't want you to have any freedom, break up with him before it gets worse. And it will get worse, believe me. Best of luck! : )
In response to your comment: yes, I understand that, usually when a guy wants to control you that is how it starts, with him getting jealous when guys compliment you. Stay with him and it will get worse.
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