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what do you do as a parent about your young teenage daughter who cannot control their mouths or do what you ask of them..and all they ever want is to shop wat is up with that?
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Its normal get used to it its the teenage years we all do it its just somthing you need to to get used to.
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You are making me sooooo grateful that I only have 2.5 boys... (so far, anyway)
The teenage years... man, I was waaay to easy on my parents... I did not prepare them for my brother or sister. ;)
The inability to control her mouth is all about asserting herself - rebelling for the sake of rebelling to try to be in a state of control. Also, it can be to try to put on airs of superiority or to have continual attention. As for how best to deal with it? gah... no clue... Ignoring it is one possibility, punishment is another - it is going to really depend on the girl's personality and how she responds to such forms of feedback.
As far as shoppig goes - if she has no money, she can't shop. Make her grateful for what she has, make her understand how to separate what she needs from what she wants.
man... now I fear what my kids are going to become in about 7 years or so...
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First, I'm not a parent. But I do remember what it was like to be a teenager.
All teens rebel at some point in some way. This is normal. What she is trying to do, perhaps without knowing it, is attempting to establish her own individuality and independence.
During my rebellious faze, I didn't argue with my parents or ever get into any kind of trouble. I did however get a couple of tattoos, pierce my ears, and do a lot of things that I knew I shouldn't. Looking back I realized that by doing these things, I was announcing to the world that I was a separate entity from my parents. I could think for myself, decide for myself, and make my own mistakes.
I'm not making excuses for my behavior, nor am I making excuses for the behavior of your daughter. I could have announced all those things to the world in a better fashion, and some of those mistakes that I wish I hadn't made had some serious consequences. (For example: I am now a smoker. Very, very stupid.) But that's the problem with hindsight.
You're right. Just because your daughter is trying to find herself doesn't excuse her behavior. Acting towards you in a disrespectful manner is both inconsiderate and not very wise. And, she should also respect that when she shops, she is spending you're hard earned cash.
I can only tell you what my parents did. My parents sensed that I was on my journey to become an adult. During this time they tried to understand what I was feeling and thinking. They also tried to accept me for who I was, and allow me to make my own mistakes. They also taught me the value of a dollar.
The fact they tried to understand me made me want to try to understand them. The fact that they accepted me allowed me to accept myself. When they allowed me to get a job, they taught me the value of a dollar. Buying my own clothes not only saved them money, but it made me more independent. In the end, I realized that my bad behavior wasn't necessary. Our relationship isn't perfect, but we've come a long way.
I'm sorry if I'm not a lot of help. I hope that you find the answers that you're looking for and are able to improve the circumstances between you and your daughter. However, I would also like to point out that you might want to try looking elsewhere for advice. Most of the people who frequent this site are still in their teens.
Best wishes ;)
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dont let them shop ne more
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I really dont know because.. well I am a teen and every girl is like obsessed with shopping! Theres nothing wrong with it.. but I guess you could ground her for a week or something.. x0
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punish her. take wat he/she likes best away from her 4 a week. tell her if she stops misbavoring you will give it 2 her back. i hope i helped!
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