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"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love" - Albus Dumbledore

Hi, I'm Laura. I'm a senior in college & I'm slowly deciding what I want to do with my life. I love Harry Potter, coffee, writing, and sleeping (amongst other things). I'll never claim to know everything, but I'm confident in my ability to help people with their problems. Feel free to send me an inbox question; I'll get back to you!




A few thoughts I've gathered from my teenage years (and being on this site for most of them!):
1. If you Google song lyrics, the song will come up 99% of the time.
2. Dress to fit your body type, and buy the size that fits. If you're a size 6, squeezing into a 4 won't make you look skinnier. It makes you look fat when you aren't.
3. You will never regret waiting to lose your virginity.
4. There is such a thing as a stupid question, but we're all allowed to ask them.




BU 2014 :)


wicked awesome conversations

^my forum, liven it up a little?

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I have braces and my senior pictures are coming up. I want to be able to smile, showing my teeth. But I want them to look white. I know brushing my teeth will work. But I was wondering what else can I do to get my teeth to be whiter?
thank you :)

It's usually not a good idea to whiten your teeth when you have braces. The parts of your teeth under your braces won't get whitened, so when you DO get them off, your teeth will be unevenly colored.


A lot of people have braces in their pictures, but you'd NEVER know. Many places offer braces removal photo editing. And I'm sure they could make them look whiter at the same time =) Your senior pictures are forever- definitely worth the price!


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I have been on Birth Control for awhile and it stopped my periods. My last period was January 2008. I just got my period on the 16th of June 2009. I dont understand. Is something wrong with me or is my body maybe geetting used to the BC?

Talk to the doctor who prescribed it to you. It's probably just your body's way of reacting to artificial hormones. Some methods of birht control stop your period entirely (Depo Provera, for example) so I'm assuming that other methods such as the Pill could have a similar effect on some poeple too.


It's probably not something to worry about, but a doctor can reassure you and readjust your prescription as necessary- like a lower-dose pill.


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Is it true that at one time a baby was picked up by a tornado and then placed back down safely a few miles down the road?

I'm pretty sure it's true.


It's also a fact that during the tornado in Worcester (in 1953), some kids were almost sucked up by it but their mothers and fathers grabbed them and pulled them away in time.


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I got my first depo shot on Thursday the 11th, I had been sexually active prior to this, but using condoms. My doctor told me I could have sex without condoms starting 24 hours after my injection. Lately i've been feeling kind of like I have cramps, and I just feel weird "down there"
is this because of depo? or something I should get checked?

Cramps are totally normal. Birth control can make you feel "weird" or crampy/moody/etc for a month or two, as your body adjusts. Your body's currently adusting to a large amount of artificial hormones, don't worry about cramps.


If they get really bad, or you experience other side effects that you're supposed to look out for, I'd give your doctor a call. Otherwise just be patient. Your body will adjust.


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I went to WalMart to buy the Sims 3 but they were completely sold out and I asked the electronics guy in Walmart and he said he wasn't sure when they were going to be getting them back in! :\

So, where can buy the Sims 3 game for the PC? I want it sooo bad but I don't know any other places that might have it other than WalMart! :(

Any suggestion is appreciated, even if it's just specific websites that are trustworthy. I've never ordered from online before but if no store had them I guess I would have to, right? I don't know...help!

There's a ton at Target. Or you could try calling other game stores in your area.

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Why did Martin Luther criticize the Roman Catholic Church?

In layman's terms, he was mad at the Catholic Church. Like many others, he didn't like how corrupt they had become. They had begun selling indulgences, which were "pardons" for loved ones who had died, which, according to the Church, would shorten their suffering in Hell or purgatory.


He wrote 95 theses and nailed them to a church door
- http://www.iclnet.org/pub/resources/text/wittenberg/luther/web/ninetyfive.html


He, along with John Calvin, were the catalysts that started the Protestant Reformation.
- http://wsu.edu/~dee/REFORM/CALVIN.HTM



Aaaand that's the extent of my history knowledge. Hope I helped anyway ;]


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I know this is way stupid but how do you tell your bra size right? I know you have to measure under your bust but I don't know what happens after that :\ My mom says I'm a 34A but she's never measured me or anything. I've always worn the 34A since I figured my mom knew what she was doing but then I watched something on TV that was saying that women really need to have an accurate bra size and that what we think might be our bra size might not be after all.

Anyway...does anyone know how to calculate your bra size properly?

Get a fitting. That'll give you a general idea.
Then pick the size that fits the way you want it to, for example, 34C and 36B are very similar. It all depends on your body type.


You should be able to slip one or two fingers under the band and not have it be painfully tight. The straps shouldn't leave chafing red marks or slip off your shoulders. When you buy a bra, it should fit the way you want it to when it's on the loosest hook. As it stretches out, you can tighten it twice and get more use out of it.


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My friend and I are having a debate on who are the hottest male celebrities in Hollywood right now. I say Johnny Depp but she says he's so out right now. Your opinion?

Robert Pattinson.
I liked him as Cedric, though.
=)

Johnny Depp is alright, but then I realize that he's older than my dad and that's sort of creepy.


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My face is SO dry. I look like a snake shedding it's skin and it's really scary looking. I moved to a really windy place recently and my face went nuts. It's so dry that when I open my mouth it feels like it's cracking open. It hurts so bad and I've had to check a few times if it was actually bleeding! The flakes of dry skin coming off are HUGE! It's embarrassing!

I've tried putting aloe vera gel on it but it seems like it dries it out even more. I bought a vitamin E stick from WalMart and rubbed it on my face but it doesn't moisturize enough and made my face hurt even more. Now I'm putting hand lotion (from Avon) on my face--slathering it on thickly. I'm afraid that the lotion is going to make me break out though since it has all of those perfumes in it.

How can I moisturize my extremely dry face?

Exfoliate a couple times a week to remove dead skin. Use a thick moisturizer before bed. I recommend Eucerin cream (it comes in a white tub). It's a little pricey compared to some other cheap brands, but it lasts a long time.

In the morning, use a regular, oil-free lotion, like Clean and Clear. (wash your face first to remove any residue from the cream; it'll reduce the chance of a breakout) Use a creamy cleanser, it'll be more moisturizing.


Obviously you don't have to order them online (and the products should be cheaper in stores) but if you live out in the sticks or something, Amazon.com's a good alternative.
- http://www.amazon.com/Eucerin-Therapy-Original-Moisturizing-16-Ounce/dp/B001FB5IIC/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&s=hpc&qid=1245114720&sr=8-4
- http://www.amazon.com/Clean-Clear-Morning-Moisturizer-4-Ounce/dp/B001E96LWW/ref=sr_1_13?ie=UTF8&s=hpc&qid=1245114847&sr=1-13
- http://www.amazon.com/Neutrogena-Oil-Free-Cream-Cleanser-6-7-Ounce/dp/B001E96OMO/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&s=hpc&qid=1245114934&sr=1-3


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Is it okay to kiss my g/f on her forehead while we hug? Would she find that weird or ok? I love her a lot and want to show more affection for her. I don't want to make her uncomfortable or unhappy though. What are your thoughts on a guy kissing his girlfriend on the forehead?

My boyfriend does that. I think it's one of the cutest things a guy can do.


Just don't do it constantly... that would be awkward/weird.


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What brand of permenant do-it-yourself hair color is the least damaging?

One of my friends in cosmetology says that anything made by Garnier is the best, because there's something different about the chemicals.


I use Garnier & my hair's never been damaged from color at all.


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ok, i/m turning 14 in like a few weeks.. and my mom wont let me go out w/ this guy i like alot... i liked him 4 like 4 months n now he stared to like ask me to go to the mall n stuff.... n then when i asked my mom she said yes.. and then me and my best friend n i got in a fight... n when me n my bff went to the mall w. a bunch of pple.. shes like.. u'r gunna get raped.. n i didnt get touched!!(only followed) but then shes like.. i would rather you and anthony(the guy) go together.. i trust him more then maddy (my best friend) soo yesterday he asked me to go bowling w/ him.. n i asked today.. n shes like.."sure you can, but i need to talk to his dad so i know that he's going too..." ITS SO EMBARISING!!! PLeaSe help..

Your mom's just looking out for you. Be grateful that she cares. She wants to know who you're spending your time with. Nothing embarrassing about that.


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a friggen 'bitch & moan' section..
where we can go let all our feelings out and complain about all the assholes on this site who try to bring you down and hurt your feelings for no goddamn reasonnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn!.

and sense this site doesnt have one..
ill bitch and moan right here :)


fuck all you fucking assholes who have no fucking lifes or nothing better to do than read peoples questions and fucking be jerks for no fucking reason!. youre so fucking pathetic and low its not even funny. i cant stand annoying FUCKKKKKKKKKKKSSSSSSSS. >:O

goodbye now:)

I'm guessing that you've experienced the receiving end of Matt's sarcasm?

Well, he's opinionated, just as you are! And if you'd like to complain, you can start your own forum and whine to your heart's content. Just make sure it's not malicious.


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Just wondering... But what is a blowjob?

Oral sex on a guy.

We can't really give much more information than that on the site, but Google will tell you everything you want to know (and more)


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I had a dream about my old crush Kyle (we are just friends- I lost intrist 3 months ago)- We were hanging out like normal we fell asleep and when I woke we were having sex, I even ended up getting pregnant. The dream kinda worried me it was all to life like! And just last night I had a similar dream- Kyle & my bf Lidia were making out.... (turned Kyle likes Lidia[he told me]) What's going on? I will admet, my hormones can over-whelm me... Alot of times, I don't know what to do when that urge comes so bad... What are some good ways to fight that urge? What do the dreams mean?
-lily

Sex dreams are normal. Don't worry about them (unless you're always acting on them of course). If you want to dream about something different, think about something totally different before you fall asleep.

It's just a coincidence that Kyle likes Lidia. Maybe you've thought about them as a couple before, and you just happened to dream about it.


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i was just thinking like if you're in the moment and you're kissing the guy then go down on him and then switch to a handjob so you don't get cum in your mouth...what do you do while giving the handjob? i want to give my bf a blowjob but usually when i'm giving him a handjob we're making out but if i gave him a bj he probably wouldn't want to kiss me so what would i do? haha thanks

Some guys would be bothered by kissing you immediately afterwards, while others won't care at all. Ask him =)

You probably won't have to be doing anything else, anyway; he'll be too focused on the fact that he's getting a handjob.


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Hi!
13 1/2 f Sorry it's long..please read?


Well, my ex boyfriend (Joseph )went out with my friend (Taylor)I warned him about her before I told him that she's not right for him she cheats on guys, she does things with guys ,and he's a strong christian and she's really wrong for him.He won't believe me though. My friend told me that she doesn't like him she's in love with this other guy ..Matt(she asked him out) and if Matt says yes she will dump Joseph.If ,he says no she'll stay with him..just for the fun of it. I really want to tell Joseph about it, but he won't listen and he'll think I'm just jealous..and I'm not. I really care about him. I think I love him. We are good friends.Taylor and I talk on the phone together and we 3 way him..she doesn't talk to him at all it's just me and him talking. We get along great. He went out with taylor because he thought I lied about taylor doing that stuff when it's true.On the last day of school we all were hanging out and he was holding her hand and putting his arm around her..it made me feel really bad. I acted like I was ok with it. I even told them that they are a great couple ..and for some reason he frowned when I said it. He gave me a hug,before we all went home. Before that he put his arm on my shoulder..wrote on my arm..lol signed my shorts. lol and my face!:) That same night him and his friend Chris called me and he said that Joseph was stuck in a tree for me. ha ha he asked me that night who my favorite boyfriend was and if it was him, and I hesitated and I didn't say it was him ,even though it was. I skipped the question. :/He also was talking dirty to me. Well, I was joking and I said " Are you a undercover model Joseph "? haha

He said " Yes. I'll give you my signature, but not on pen on paper". ;)

I said "On my face like you did today"?
He said.." Somewhere you would like it."

Than I said "EXCUSE ME"!!!?

chris said " He wants it under the sheets in his bed".

I said " I'm not THAT desperate".. lol I think I hurt his feelings when I said that. He said after that..

"...I'd only do that with Taylor anyway".
So he was joking but..do you think he still likes me?Even if it was a joke who would say something like that if they didn't really like that person? When we were going out he told me he loved me, and he told me it every night on the phone before I went to bed.When I told him that he said it back, when taylor told him that he said" uh.UHH k?:/" We had so much fun..than he started to like both of us. Taylor never talked to him at school and she got mad when he didn't talk to her...he's shy..and well he talked to me. So,I really care for him and I don't want to see him get hurt even though he hurt me. I like him and seeing my friend being so unfaithful to him make me sick. What should I do?

I think that you've done all you can reasonably do. You've warned him about Taylor. Have you told him straight up what you just said to us? If not, go up to him and say "I'm telling you this as your friend. Talyor isn't right for you and I don't want you to get hurt".

If he doesn't believe you, well, he's going to find out the hard way that you were right.

All you can do now, is continue to be friends with him. I don't think the conversation you had was all that meaningful, from what I can gather you were just joking around.


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this summer i wanna get tan. but i dont wanna cause harmful ray's and stuff.

but someone told me about the new Neutrogena Ultra Sheer sunblock..they said it still let's you get tan without all the harmful ray's and stuff.

so to anyone who has used this product..can you leave me a reviewww?

Actually, any sunscreen lets you get a little bit tan. It just keeps you from burning.


I've never heard of a sunscreen that literally blocks 100% of the sun's light.


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i use dove shampoo and conditioner and i wash my hair really well every night and i wake up with greasy hair... is there any type of hair product i can use to make my hair not greasy?? thanks!

I just answered a similar question on here:
- http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=564815


Some shampoos and conditioner just plain won't work on your hair. You'll have to do some experimenting.


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How can I tell one of my friend-girls that I have a crush on her without being very blunt? In other words, how can I tell my friend that I love her?
I'm 13(m)

Just tell her. Jack's idea is really clever. I'm a girl, and I'd think that was such a sweet thing to do.

Well, not NOW, because I have a boyfriend, but you get what I mean. Assuming your friend is single she'll like that you were direct.


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