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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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I have a boyfriend that i "like." i've been going out with him for a month. And even though he understands my beliefs and opinions, I'm starting to feel that we are more likefriends. But the problem is, i've recently met a guy who i could see actually being with. But he thinks my religion his as he puts it "Bulls__t". Should I dump my understanding boyfriend for my new possible lover? (link)
Not if your religious beliefs are strong.

I say that because the guy you are attracted to and who thinks your beliefs are BS is probably not going to change his beliefs for you.

Once you dump your nice guy, there will probably be no going back. So think good before making a change
that could be hurtful in the future. :)


What normally goes on at a Gynocologist appt? (link)
Here is a site that will tell you everything you need to know. :)

http://www.coolnurse.com/pelvic_exams.htm


I'm looking for a book about the Sound of Music...that is written by eaither Maria, the father or one of the children.

Can anyone tell me the names of these books?

Thanks so much!! (link)
They were written by Maria Von Trapp.

* The Story of the Trapp Family Singers - Maria Augusta Trapp. Philadelphia, Lippincott 1949

* Around the Year with the Trapp Family - Maria Augusta Trapp. Garden City, New York: Doubleday, 1952 New York, Pantheon 1955

* A Family on Wheels: Further Adventures of the Trapp Family Singers - Maria Augusta Trapp with Ruth T. Murdoch. Philadelphia, Lippincott, c1959

* Yesterday, Today and Forever: The Religious Life of a Remarkable Family - Maria Augusta Trapp. Garden City, New York: Doubleday, 1952

* Maria - Maria von Trapp. Carol Stream, Ill., Creation House 1972

* Let Me Tell You About My Savior - Maria Von Trapp. Green Forest, AR : New Leaf Press, c2000


I have an ingrown hair/pimple on the back of my thigh. It hurts really badly. I cant sit i cant walk. My mom already took the pus out of it yesterday. I think she may have to take it out today. What can i do to make it hurt less? (link)
Try putting a hot wash cloth on it. Hot as you can stand a few times a day. It may help draw the pus to the top. Once most of it is gone, it will start to feel better. :)


I see a lot of questions on this site about SEX. I think the weirdest part for me is that the age of the girls asking is like 12 and 13! Im 15 and I havent thought about sex yet..Im just not ready. I think Im MORE mature for it. I dont do it because I dont want to become pregnant. But Im also scared of it, am I immature or more mature than these 12 year olds having sex? Someone just explain to me how they can have sex without any second thoughts. When I was 12 I was like playing with barbies...Im really confused. (link)
Definitely more mature. It takes a more mature person to bypass doing it just because everyone
else and their dog is doing it.

Very smart to think first and be prepared. I often wonder why they wait until AFTER they have done something to write and ask am I pregnant questions.

I have a lot of respect for girls like yourself who use their brains. My hope is that a lot who come on here with sex questions are not really doing it, but just talking a good game. I may be wrong. :)


well i've jsut recently found out that im pregant, i took a test after i missed my last period. but me my boyfriend have had sex since then and really still want to have sex but will it harm the baby? we have a very active sex life and i dont know what to do. how can we keep our attraction to each other without sex? (link)
You can have sex all during your pregnancy so long as you are comfortable with it and there are no complications.

If you love each other there is more to your relationship than sex. If you for a medical reason couldn't have sex during your pregnancy, I would hope he loved you enough that it wouldn't matter. :)


For entertainment purposes I'd rather tweeze the hairs on my legs than shave because it passes the time and also gets the hair at its root. Could this pose a health problem? (link)
Not at all. Mine are Snoooth! :)



I just got one, this is my first pet, and I have the food. The container says feed once, and the food says feed twice, so I dont know what to do. Besides that, how do i care for this kind of fish? (link)
Here is a site that will help you a lot.

http://care.betta-fish.com.ar/


I have two brothers, one is in high school and one is in collage, i am in middle school. Because of the large age gap, my brothers are great friends but i am left in the dust. Even when im talking directly at one, if the other one comes in, he completely looses focus of me totalk to him. Most of the time, i'll be talking and then someone will inturupt me without saying im sorry or anything and just continue with what they are saying. When i do that i get in alot of trouble for being"rude". I just dont think its fair that they can be so rude and inconsiterate to me. Can someone please tell me if i am overeacting? I mean they are my brothers and i love them to death, so why cant they love me back? (link)
No you aren't overreacting. They don't do it because they don't love you though. That much I know for sure!

They just don't see you being older is all. You will have to let them know. Next time one of them interrupts a conversation with the other simply tell them. "Hey, I was talking here. I don't interrupt your conversations so please don't interrupt mine." :)


i know this sounds like a totally weird question- but its for all the mommy's out there. im not exaclty sure what to pack when i leave for the hospital. you all would obviously know what is needed, so please, someone help me out, i dont want to feel rushed when im leaving for the hospital, and i want to be fully prepared when i get there. thanks in advance. (link)
Nightgown, hair brush, toothbrush,toothpaste, undies, a book, makeup. those are the basics. :)

*Edit

You will need a car seat. You will probably just carry baby out to the car in your arms. Where you
will be picked up there may be a line of cars waiting. Probably best to have seat already in car.

As for baby blankets, the usually give you some of those at the hospital, along with a diaper bag. Of course if you want to bring your own you can. And an outfit for the baby too if you'd like. They give them what they have on as well. :)


okay so im going to see the gynecologyst for the first time and im soo nervous. like i dont know what they are going to do to me and are they able to tell if your sexualy active? (link)
No. They will probably ask and it doesn't hurt to tell them, they won't tell anyone else. Take the opportunity to discuss things with them. Most doctors will give you info on STDs and birth control anyway.

Here is a site that explains your first exam. :)

http://www.coolnurse.com/pelvic_exams.htm


My boyfriend wants a gift.

He wants it to be something that he can carry around.

And he has also recently said he wanted the something to have my name on it... like a bracelet... but something more masculine.

Any ideas?

(link)
How about an engraved pocket watch? :)


What do you do when you want to comite sucicide? I seriously am considering how, but i don't know. (link)
You tell an adult and get help. If you are an adult
you get help. Check your phone book for suicide prevention hot lines and call them.

Suicide is really a selfish thing to do. So sit and consider your parents, your friends, your grandparents, your brothers and sisters. What you do may affect the rest of their lives.

Whoever finds you will be traumatised. Everyone will think it is their fault...If only I had done this or that.

Not to mention that in a few days whatever has you upset at any given moment will seem trivial.

So reach out for help. Call a hot line and talk to someone if you have nobody Else to lean on. Do it now. :)


im really confused about this. When your about ot have sex, like he starts taking off your clothes and you start taking off his when would you put the condom on. I'm really confused

thankss =] (link)
When his penis is hard. In the case described above, probably when you get his clothes off.

Just make it is on at any time BEFORE he enters your vagina. None of that "I just want to see what it feels like without it" nonsense. :)


can anyone sen me a website with brushes for PSP? thanks (link)
Here is a whole slew of brush links.

http://resources.the-protagonist.com/index.php?action=displaycat&catid=40


what is a thespian?! (link)
thes·pi·an (thĕs'pē-ən) pronunciation
adj.

1. Of or relating to drama; dramatic: thespian talents.
2. Thespian Of or relating to Thespis.

n.

An actor or actress.


I started to babysit for money. But there's this evil little kid that is very young (only 6!!) but is verrry perverted. He watches rated R movies, fastforwarding to sex scenes, and he's always trying to touch my parts. I'm 15!! How gross is that?! I told his parents about it, but they wouldn't believe me. He acts like an angel in front of them I guess. I yell at him and everything, but nothing works!!

WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO? (link)
I'm going to agree with those who said stop babysitting for him.

Since you have already told the parents and they chose to do nothing about it, let them find someone else to sit with the little pervert.

Be sure you tell them exactly why you will not be babysitting again. Some parents can't see whats right in front of them, or refuse to. :)


well my bf is getting locked up for something he didnt do should i wait for him or find some one new? (link)
I know you probably love the guy, but its very rare for someone to go to jail for something they didn't do. Prisons are full of "innocent" people, or so they claim.

I don't think you should wait for him. If he cared for your feelings he wouldn't be in jail.


what's a ghetto? the dictionaries all have like scientific words that don't make sense (link)
ghet·to (gĕt'ō) pronunciation
n., pl. -tos or -toes.

1. A usually poor section of a city inhabited primarily by people of the same race, religion, or social background, often because of discrimination.


I told my best (male) friend that I wouldn't sleep with him. We had been friends for 3 years and really cared about each other. I felt that he was my "soul mate". The problem was that he is trapped in a bad marriage- really bad. They have nothing in common and fight constantly. People say they are like oil and water. I almost think he is afraid of her. They have never had kids and she is older than him with two grown kids who are heroin addicts. lt time I saw him he hinted we should fool around. I told him that as long as he were married I wouldnt sleep with him. Now he wants nothing to do with me. So does that mean he was never intending on leaving her and just wanted an affair? Because I think he really did care about me but is too scared to leave her. She is very vindictive. I know how unhappy he was with her because I could see the pain in his eyes when he was with her at social functions so if you think he's staying with her becuase he loves he it's not true. (link)
Weather he loves her or not he is evidently committed to staying in his bad relationship.

Did he ever intend to leave it? Probably not. Good Friend or not a gut wanting something an affair knows how to make it sound oh so terrible at home to get hat he wants.

So stick to your guns on not sleeping with him until
he leaves and stays gone. If not you will be the one who gets hurt. :)




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