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am i really weird?
I see a lot of questions on this site about SEX. I think the weirdest part for me is that the age of the girls asking is like 12 and 13! Im 15 and I havent thought about sex yet..Im just not ready. I think Im MORE mature for it. I dont do it because I dont want to become pregnant. But Im also scared of it, am I immature or more mature than these 12 year olds having sex? Someone just explain to me how they can have sex without any second thoughts. When I was 12 I was like playing with barbies...Im really confused.
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according to some of the comments i read in this page, a lot of young girls are thinking about haviengo sex. actually, im 17 and i had never thougth about doing it. i think that this must be a special moment, not as old people say, like, you must find the love of your life or smthing like that. i just believe in thinking that this moment will bein your memory for all your life, and you must be sure about it, if not you could regret, and that is not a good feeling to remeber. you must be sure that it was your own desicion, and that no one forced you or convinced you even thougth you are not 100% sure.
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haha i agree with you completely! i'm the same wayy. i'm 16 and my first real boyfriend was end of my sophomore year & i'm a junior in highschool now with the same boyfriend, i haven't had sex either. basically kids are just growing up way too fast. if they say they are mature enough to have sex at age 12 or 13 chances are they're really not. they don't have any second thoughts yet because they aren't mature enough to realize how serious the consequences can be. don't you worry about yourself not thinking about it yet, it's not something you should be, you should be enjoying your life at the age you are and acting the age you are. why waste your virginity at such a young age when you could find the person you love to share it with. i hope i helped! if you need any more help i'm here! =]
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there are a lot of gross things going on, I agree. just think: why does it really matter to you? some kids are gonna do it that young so they might as well be informed. that, and some kids get interested in sex at a young age, can't ask anyone else so they ask people on here so there's not a million and one messed up idea of what it is rolling around in their mind. you're not weird, you are just trying to save the world from overpopulation and that is a-ok. <3
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I didn't even think about having sex until I was about 16 and I was 17 when I finally did lose my virginity. It's appalling to know that there are so many girls out there who have babies and they are sooo much younger than me. I don't know what this world is coming to, but it's a scary thought. There's a girl in my class who is only 17 and has 5 kids. You are definitely more mature for NOT having sex. It's shows that you have morals, class, and you are intelligent enough to realize that sex should NEVER be taken lightly.
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i tottally agree with you. im 13 but i look around me at all my friends and hear them talking about how they had sex and i see them all sad becuase some of them get pregnant to 18 year old guys and some contract std's. its just wild! i mean i know that i don't want to have sex and im set on that. i tell my self over and over again "no matter what anyone else says im not having sex" i think that it is just weird these 12 and 13 year old having sex when its like rape. i think you are more mature because you know what you want to do. that's how i feel im going to be more mature than the next girl and make something out of my life instead getting pregnant before you even get out of middle school
just thought id say something lol
briana
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well, people mature at many different levels. I'm 16 and i haven't had sex yet either. It just hasn't been right yet. I'm perfectly mature, but i know that i'm not ready for sex. Knowing you're not ready and abstaining is much more mature than just going and doing it because someone tells you to. I'm sure that some of the girls probably believe its right, but i'm sure that some others just did it because their boyfriend wanted to, or their friends were and they were feeling the pressure. If you know its not right yet, then don't do it. Make sure that you're certain before you actually do. We can't dictate how others live their lives, but i do hope that for all those out there having sex that at least its protected so that they can keep some part of their youth. I happen to be close to someone with siblings who have children and are barely 18, and a close friend of mine had a baby when she was 17, so there we go. Things happen, so people just need to be careful. I think that you just need to worry about yourself and not think about these other girls because they will do what they want to do and we can't change that.
<3 Elle
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I agree. I believe that society has changed alot. Not just the fact twelve year olds are having sex but they are also influenced into horrible things like drugs, drinking, bulemia, annorexia, wearing designer clothes, getting cellphones, & expensive electronics just to be "cool". And just to think, it will get worse. :/ ♥
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i comepletely agree!!
i'm 15 going on 16 and i've already had sex.. and believe me.. it was a huge mistake. i have no idea why girls this young who probably havent even hit puberty yet are having sex. When i was 12 i still thought boys had cooties. when i was 13 i was just hitting like grade 7 or 8 and i was experimenting with new friends. society has a lot of problems nowadays. its the media i tell yah. girls are getting ideas into their heads about them having to be pin thin and non virgins by the time they're 13. you're are making an amazing decision and you are more mature then you think you are. i'd be jealous if i was your friend :) ha ha.
hope i helped.
happy holidays.
Sara<3
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Your not weird or anything close to that. You are definitely more mature than they are. Their just doing it because everyone else is or its the "cool" thing to do but its all fun and games until they get pregnant and they start to think why didnt i do this or that? Dont worry about it, i have respect for you and your decision. Im 15 as well and i pretty much have the same outlook as you. Its good to wait until you are 100% positive that your ready. so just ignore anyone who says somethin negative about your decision.
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Definitely more mature. It takes a more mature person to bypass doing it just because everyone
else and their dog is doing it.
Very smart to think first and be prepared. I often wonder why they wait until AFTER they have done something to write and ask am I pregnant questions.
I have a lot of respect for girls like yourself who use their brains. My hope is that a lot who come on here with sex questions are not really doing it, but just talking a good game. I may be wrong. :)
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I agree with you, 12 is deff too early to be having sex. I'm 14 and no I'm not ready for it either. I'm just too afraid of getting pregnant. Sure other people may be doing it but dont ever do anything you don't want too cause you will regret it later. And no I dont think your weird or anything because you havent done it.
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i agree with you..
i'm fifteen also, and i still find it extremly stupid how little 12 and 13 year olds are having sex..honestly, i think we're more mature than them, because they just do it for the fun of it, not really for love. and even if it is out of love, they don't even know what love is, so they can't even go there.. i beleive, they'll just turn out to be sluts..until i get proof that they don't, i'm sticking to that theory..
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i completely agree with you.
im 15 too, and i have friends who have had sex, and i just dont understand how they can do that to themselves. and especially with the younger girls on here! they dont understand the consequences of it, and they just plain dont understand it.
trust me, you are making a much better decision and are more mature than them.
but with WHY they do it, it could very well be because of peer pressure.
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