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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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My question is about the rule of underage users on the Advicenators website. No need to say that it's for insurance purposes or what-not because I have researched the site for that. What I would like to know, that since you have to be 13, is it allowed to get someone who IS of age to ask the question for you. Everybody has problems, at any age, so I don't get why this would be faulty. Any aditional information is welcomed.
(In case you're all wondering, I am 16.) (link)
I suppose they could have a friend who is old enough ask for them. We have no way of telling they are asking for someone else unless they tell us so.

You would have to get with DN on why we can't have under 13 users. It is probably a federal regulation of some sort.


The people who answer when you call suicide hotline are trained professnials.I want to learn from them by calling suicide hotline and learning how the convince people not to suicide.So please help me come up with a story that would make me comitte suicide. (link)
You will get a lot further by calling them and telling them what you need. They will probably give
you a number to call that isn't an emergency line,
and give you the information you are needing.

Do not call pretending to be suicidal. You are taking time away from someone truly in need of their help. :)


i've had my period for two years, but i haven't had it in the last six months. the last time i got it was in the beginning of june. i've never had sex, besides, after six months i think i would know if i was pregnant. haha. my doctor keeps saying that everything is fine and just to wait..but this is really weird! has anyone else gone through this that could give me any advice?

i got a job in june, and also started a new relationship, that recently ended. i also started running. i figured maybe those could be reasons for me not getting it, but i thought that things should be getting back to normal by now. (link)
Running can sure do it. I had a friend who was a runner and hers just quit. As a matter of fact when she and her husband wanted a baby the doctor told her to stop running. Her period came back and she got pregnant.

Surprised your doctor didn't tell you that. I guess there is more than one reason to run! You will be fine though, just as your doctor told you. :)


okay so..im14/f and my boyufriend is 16. and over holiday break, his family went on vacation. they went on an 10 day cruise on the carribean. jealous? ya, me too. but while he was gone, new years happened. and i did something that i couldnt regret more. i hooked up with his best friend. but i couldnt really help it. we were at a house party. and it got crazy with liquor. and i drank. a lot. i was really wasted and out of it. but the point is, i have a very guilty conscience(?). i know that i wont feel okay untill i tell him. but how do you tell the person that you love with all of your heart that you cheated. how do you cheat on them in the first place. i feel dirty. hes the only person that i have ever been intimate with, and i know that i love him and he loves me back. its so hard to live with guilt. and i feel like a tramp. once again, how do i tell him. btw, hes incredibly strong and im sure he would hurt one of us. most likely the friend. what do i do to stop everything. (link)
Well when people drink they get stupid. That's a fact
and your only defense. Lets hope he realizes that.

I would like to ask if the friend was drinking too?
If he wasn't then he should have known better.

Since it was his best friend you really will have to tell him. If you don't he will or could use it to blackmail you into things.

As a rule I would say don't tell another person something like this just to ease your conscious. It doesn't make it better when you hurt them. But since
it also involves someone he considers a friend, you probably will have to tell him about it.

If you think he will hit you, tell him over the phone and give him time to cool off before you see him. Usually you would want to tell it in person but keep safe if you think he will get mad enough to hit you.

I hope it all works out for you. :)


There is this Jack Black movie where he is a wrestler in Mexico (I think). Can you tell me the name of it? He always seems to be in funny movies.

Thanks a lot! :D (link)
Nacho Libre. Not one of his better movies if you haven't seen it yet. I didn't find it funny at all.
So if you are looking to buy it, watch it first because it was disappointing. :)


ok so im overweight and right under where my fat is on my stomach theres like this weird skin irritation thats been there for a long time. its reddened but towards the center it gets lighter, its along a broad part of my stomach and sometimes it hurts to touch. anyone know what the hell is up with this and how i make it stop hurting?

please, serious answers (preferably no "go to a doctor") (link)
I know what you are talking about. As another user mentioned use Gold bond medicated powder...or the generic medicated powder works just as well.

once it is healed up and no longer sore, keep using the powder. It will help keep it dry and will help keep it from getting sore. :)


i am 15 i have been sexual active since june 28 and i have had sex alot with my boyfriend but all of the sudden we cant have sex that long because it hurts me. and now my boyfriend has noticed that around my clit its really red and under the lips or whatever its really sensetive and it kind of burns when i touch or he does
please help (link)
You need to go to a doctor. If it didn't hurt before and it does now, then something is wrong.

It could be an allergic reaction to condoms, it could just be an infection, it could be an STD (lets hope not). Get it checked as soon as possible.


How many people here look to get more than one answer to their question(s) or try to get as many as they can. And lets say you get only one answer and that answer is the right one do you wait and see if you get any more responses or are you happy with just that one you got. (link)
I'm sure everyone is looking for more than one answer.

You really aren't supposed to delete your questions
(though some do), so you could get more answers anytime. :)


How many people feel that we should be allowed to post our questions without being deleted, once, twice, or a thousand times. There is another website that allows one to post as many times as you want. MODERATORS YOU REALLY SHOULD LIGHTEN UP. (link)
Well this one doesn't. Feel free to use the other website for multiple question posting. Here we feel if they didn't answer the first time, they aren't going to answer if you post it again.


I've had my permit for a month, I'm a pretty good driver except for a few things I need to work on. One thing I need help with is, at a stop...when the light turns green I press on the gas and it makes a really loud noise like I'm about to go 100 mph. But the thing is I lightly tap it, so whats the problem? Also how do I break without having the whole car/the people in it go forward? I try to break early but then I get yelled at for it. Thanks to everyone that helps :]
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Make sure your foot is off the break before you give
it gas at stop signs/lights. If you have an automatic transmission and are not on a really steep hill, you won't roll.

You should just gently and slowly brake your car when coming to a stop. If it helps just take your foot off the gas to slow yourself down and start breaking early until you get the feel of your car.
All are different. This is something that takes a little practice but you will get the hang of it. :)


well my boyfriend stopped cutting a year ago, and hes getting worried because his scars haven;t gone away. how long does it usually take for them to go away? (link)
Scars may fade but will probably never really go away. Tell him if someone notices tell them what they are and how he quit doing it. Use them to educate others. :)


ok what happens when you want birht control does the doctor examine you with a tube or something or could you just get them please help (link)
You do have to get an exam before getting birth control PILLS. Then you have to have a yearly exam
after that to get it renewed. They are a prescription drug and even planned parenthood doesn't just dispense them without an exam. Not in the U.S anyway.

Here is a site than explains the exam. It does not have to be done by a gynecologist. You can get it done with any family physician.

http://www.coolnurse.com/pelvic_exams.htm


oh my gosh please help me I just cannot sleep hardly at all. it takes forever and ever to get to sleep. and i dont feel tired until when i go to get up the next day. please! help me (link)
Crawl on down to the foot of your bed and sleep. It really works. Just sleep opposite of the way you usually sleep. I do that now and then myself. :)

Edit....
Give it a try it actually works. Wasn't me being creative though. A doctor friend told me to try it and it does indeed work. Don't know why, just a change I guess. :)


My boyfriend chews and he's trying to quit but he's having a really hard time..how are some ways that i can help him or maybe like incourage him that he can quit..(even tho i doubt he really will be able to quit) thanks soo much (link)
Here is a site that may help you out. :)

http://www.cancer.org/docroot/PED/content/PED_10_13X_Quitting_Smokeless_Tobacco.asp?sitearea=&level=


I burned myself on one of those mini-ovens while heating up some pizza. It hurt a lot at first, but went away after a few seconds. Now (about 1 and a half hours later), it's sort of throbbing and hurts. Any advice? (link)
Here is a site of home remedies.

http://www.mothernature.com/Library/Bookshelf/Books/48/30.cfm


I have a very random question to ask everyone. When you read the word advicenators in your head (or speak it out loud) how do you pronounce it? I pronounce it advice-in-ate-ors. I've been apart of this site almost 3 years and never new if that's how it's actually said. It probably is, but for anyone who pronounces it differently, how do you say it? I know it's probably one of the oddest questions you've seen on the site, but at least I'm not asking if I'm ready for sex although I've only been dating the guy for two days or something equally annoying and somewhat common. =D Thanks in advance for answers!
-- S_C -- (link)
Yes like ygsgirl said. I errr the end. I just consider it mispelled. Excellent question by the way.:)


im getting a conure, and i cant decide between sun, blue, or green cheeked. is there any difference with their dispossitions? if so, which is better?and what is the average price of the different species?

also, what size cage would be best?

thanks!=] (link)
Here is a web site you might want to keep handy. Lots of information abut your pet Conure. :)

http://animal-world.com/encyclo/birds/conures/ConuresProfile.htm


Hey younggrandma ; are you a boy or a girl ? just curious

Cause if your a boy you give really good advice ! (link)
I am a girl. :)


Alright, well.
where to start. I've never really told nebody about this, but my best friend knows. alright, well, I met this guy online, and we became great friends, and one day he told me that he loved me. and he gave me the day, and I realized, I loved him too. Well, this guy... has to be the sweetest male alive, I love him with all my heart, we talk about everything, now, the problem is, he lives in South Carolina, and I live in california. I'm a country girl, hes a city boy. well, our diffrences dont bother us. comming in march, will be our 4 year anniversery. another problem, hes turning 20 this month, and i'm only 15. again, we dont view this as an issue.
we talk online practically 24/7, he stayed up till midnight califonria time for me last night for new years. we've sent letters back and forth, talked on the phone, we've done a ton of things. well, he wants to meet the year I graduate. well, theres two problems.
1. My Mother. she is the most over protective thing EVER. though my oldest brother had an online girlfriend in PA, and visited her for his graduation present, but they knew about his gf. buuut they dont know about me and my bf.
2. my religion. I'm mormon, and i'm not supposed to date until I'm 16 (this september) and i know for a fact my mom wouldnt approve of him. he doesnt approve of my guy friends, any of them over the age of 16, little lone 20.

though I do think i'll have some more freedom by then, I dont know if it'll work. plus, after hs, i'm planning college and a mission...and more college. by the time we can really settle down, he'd be like 32, and yes, we've planned all this out, and hes upset with that idea, but I dont know what to do!

well, I have a few questions

1. I want personal opinions, do you think we would last if we tried

2. since hes upset about him being the age he would be, should I just drop off like, going on a mission, or a few years of college? should i just go to an out of state college, and move in with him?

3. Do i keep this stuff from my parents? they once got into my e-mail and found a ton of e-mails from him, and i was practically dead meat, I blocked his sn and deleted his e-mail off my list in front of them, and they stoppped bothering me, so what he did was change e-mails and I unblocked his sn, that was 3 years ago. Do i risk chancing it now? do i wait until i'm 16 or 17 when i'm of age?

I really want to spend my entire life with him, and I know that for sure right now.

please guys, help!! (link)
1. My opinion is that he is a pedophile. You were 11 years old when he started talking to you 4 years ago. He was 16. You don't find it just a little strange that he has to be dating a 15 year old online? Whats wrong with him that he doesn't date girls his own age? You are probably not the only one he talks to online either. He probably talks to many. They are very good at making young girls feel special. That is what they do.

2. Of course he doesn't want to wait longer. You see he has been talking to you since you were 11. He thinks he can control your life because he has you wrapped around his little finger. Go to him and you will not be allowed to do anything unless he lets you. Young girls are easy to train, especially when they think they are in love. I don't doubt you love him but it is not good that you do. He doesn't want you to be any more educated because if you are you might just get smart and see him for what he is. He is not going to encourage anything in your life that will not benefit him. DO NOT move in with him.

3. No do not keep it from your parents. Sit down with them and tell them the whole story. This guy needs to stop bothering young girls. You have to stop him before he destroys your life and others.


Do you think maybe the author of the question was feeling the shape of her cervix rather than seeing it? That's how I know what mine is like.

Happy New Year.

Sabine (link)
I suppose its possible. Never heard of though. :)




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