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Online relationships.
Alright, well.
where to start. I've never really told nebody about this, but my best friend knows. alright, well, I met this guy online, and we became great friends, and one day he told me that he loved me. and he gave me the day, and I realized, I loved him too. Well, this guy... has to be the sweetest male alive, I love him with all my heart, we talk about everything, now, the problem is, he lives in South Carolina, and I live in california. I'm a country girl, hes a city boy. well, our diffrences dont bother us. comming in march, will be our 4 year anniversery. another problem, hes turning 20 this month, and i'm only 15. again, we dont view this as an issue.
we talk online practically 24/7, he stayed up till midnight califonria time for me last night for new years. we've sent letters back and forth, talked on the phone, we've done a ton of things. well, he wants to meet the year I graduate. well, theres two problems.
1. My Mother. she is the most over protective thing EVER. though my oldest brother had an online girlfriend in PA, and visited her for his graduation present, but they knew about his gf. buuut they dont know about me and my bf.
2. my religion. I'm mormon, and i'm not supposed to date until I'm 16 (this september) and i know for a fact my mom wouldnt approve of him. he doesnt approve of my guy friends, any of them over the age of 16, little lone 20.
though I do think i'll have some more freedom by then, I dont know if it'll work. plus, after hs, i'm planning college and a mission...and more college. by the time we can really settle down, he'd be like 32, and yes, we've planned all this out, and hes upset with that idea, but I dont know what to do!
well, I have a few questions
1. I want personal opinions, do you think we would last if we tried
2. since hes upset about him being the age he would be, should I just drop off like, going on a mission, or a few years of college? should i just go to an out of state college, and move in with him?
3. Do i keep this stuff from my parents? they once got into my e-mail and found a ton of e-mails from him, and i was practically dead meat, I blocked his sn and deleted his e-mail off my list in front of them, and they stoppped bothering me, so what he did was change e-mails and I unblocked his sn, that was 3 years ago. Do i risk chancing it now? do i wait until i'm 16 or 17 when i'm of age?
I really want to spend my entire life with him, and I know that for sure right now.
please guys, help!!
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dear u,
online relationships can be really hard but can be fixed first of all im not even sure that he is 20 he could be older but if you guys really are in love you can talk it over when your older in my opinion when you get out of college and get ready to settle down he will be 32 and age does not matter. You never know you might last long and you should tell your parents.
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i completey disagree with the bottom 2 ppl. if the guy was just wanted to have sex with young girls then he would have been down there wanting to meet. yes it is strange that he stuck around with you for 4 years but he could think that finding a person to love is very important and needs to be handled carefully. (i didnt mean to make that sound stupid haha)
i do not think you should tell your perents until you are legal. because most likely theyll try to stop you from doing what you feel is what you want.
if you love this guy as much as you say then you should go to him when you are legal. and do what you want from there on.
i understand how you are feeling because im in the same position but slightly different.
if you have any more questions just ask
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I'm actually in the same exact situation, but a little worse. I've known this guy online since i was 10, and i'm 17 now (he's 21 now).. The problem is, he left for a while in that time and I met a boyfriend here. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years, but I still love the other guy and we still talk and want to be together. My parents don't know about us either..
Anyway, I totally disagree with the other two. I don't think he's some pedophile, why would he wait FOUR YEARS to do something? If he was some creep he would've tried to find you/meet you right away.
I honestly think you guys could last, if you've been together four years nonstop. You've heard of ematch.com and stuff, internet love DOES happen ok? Don't let any of these people convince you otherwise, he seems like a great guy.
As for your second question, that's up to you. In my situtation, I'm thinking about going to an out of state college to be with him. But mine's worse, because I can't really choose between the two guys yet. Sorry for talking about my problem too, but I'm a little confused myself.
And for question three, I don't know what to tell you either. I haven't told my parents and it's been on and off for seven years.. but if you're serious about him, I would tell them. Maybe not yet, maybe wait a while, like when you're 18, so they can't try to stop you from being with him.
If you wanna talk more, since we have a lot in common, just send me another question! Good luck with everything
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No. I agree with YG that he is a pedophile.
I have been in a similar situation with someone from GA (I, too, live in California). I was crying for hours after he told me he "loved" me.
If he were a friend of a friend, then I could see this working. Otherwise, I can only envision you getting hurt.
He probably isn't telling you something-it's just SO unnatural. My guess is he wants sex, and he will rape you if you meet.
At least wait until you're legal; then it's not against any laws anywhere.
Skip the mission. I'm very, very verbal about people choosing their own religion, and going door to door trying to convert people is a waste of your time.
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1. My opinion is that he is a pedophile. You were 11 years old when he started talking to you 4 years ago. He was 16. You don't find it just a little strange that he has to be dating a 15 year old online? Whats wrong with him that he doesn't date girls his own age? You are probably not the only one he talks to online either. He probably talks to many. They are very good at making young girls feel special. That is what they do.
2. Of course he doesn't want to wait longer. You see he has been talking to you since you were 11. He thinks he can control your life because he has you wrapped around his little finger. Go to him and you will not be allowed to do anything unless he lets you. Young girls are easy to train, especially when they think they are in love. I don't doubt you love him but it is not good that you do. He doesn't want you to be any more educated because if you are you might just get smart and see him for what he is. He is not going to encourage anything in your life that will not benefit him. DO NOT move in with him.
3. No do not keep it from your parents. Sit down with them and tell them the whole story. This guy needs to stop bothering young girls. You have to stop him before he destroys your life and others.
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