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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
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Okay this is really weird, and I don't understand it. At random times during the year, for about..3 to 4 days, I wont want to sleep in my bed. I'll just feel like sleeping on the couch. Like, if I was forced to sleep in my bed on one of those days, I'd feel like you guys probibly would about being forced to sleep on the couch.. If you understand what I mean. It's deffinatly not that I'm scared of my room. And I know that for a fact. I love my room, and have no problem sleeping in my own bed. And it's not cause the couch is super comfurtable, cause it's not that amazing! I just don't understand why I do this. It doesn't happen OFTEN maybe like, 3-4 days every 1-2 months. Does this sound really weird to anyone else? It's really weirding me out. Cause I mean, who wants to sleep on a couch when you've got a bed? Well, apperantly I do. Heh, but that's not the point. Why do I do this? Oh, and if it helps I'm 16/f. I don't know what that would have to do with anything but, I thought I should mention it. Please tell me what's wrong with me!
This may not answer your question very well, but the only reason I can think of is that maybe you have moments where it seems more comfortable to sleep somewhere different. Not saying the couch is more cozy than your bed or anything.
I don't think you are weird. As a matter of fact, when I was in high school, I had moments where I slept with my head at the foot of the bed. I didn't sleep that way everyday- just now and again. I would say it was probably because I just needed a little change in my surroundings in order to sleep better (but it wasn't a change that was unfamiliar, kind of like your couch). It was probably a subconscious thing, I guess. It was just comfortable to sleep that way sometimes because it was kind of different from my usual thing.
How hard is it to find a job as a manager of a hotel, resort, or casino? I just want to know if job opportunities are limited.
Thanks.
It isn't hard to find those types of jobs. The catch of it is you have to have some sort of managerial skills to get a manager's job easily. Which means starting at the bottom somewhere and working your way up to a manager position. Once you have that sort of experience/reference under your belt you will have much better luck at finding the job you are after.
The job opportunities are not limited. Hotels, resorts, and casinos are a dime a dozen if you look in the right place, ie: someplace with a lot of tourism such as Branson or Las Vegas for example.
I recently had a spray on tan and now its getting blotchy. I want it of. I tryed scrubbing with soap and water and it just turns me red and hurts. I need to get it off. Help!!
I don't know about the spray on stuff, but I know you can tone the lotion kind way down with rubbing alcohol. Just soak a wash cloth or something with the alcohol and scrub it. But like I said, I don't know if it will work for the spray on, but it could be worth a shot.
19/F
I will admit it. I am a terrible dancer. I have fun dancing, but I look like a dork. I'm going to a Halloween dance thing with my boyfriend, and I'm at a loss as to how I'm going to dance with him, because although I have the slow dance thing worked out, I tend to look a little crazy when I boogie down to fast music.
Anybody have any tips to keep me from looking like a total loser on the dance floor? I shy away from the skanky grinding, but it may be a necessity.
Ok, so you may think this answer is stupid...
It isn't necessary to add "skanky grinding" into your dance routine.
The thing of it is, is that you are there to have a good time and dance how YOU think is fun. So you think you dance like a loser? Not so if you have a good time doing it. I mean, think about it... remember the Macarena? It may have seemed stupid to some, but became a popular dance of it's time. The reason being because it was fun, and people didn't mind looking stupid because it didn't matter as long as they had fun. Have you ever saw your boyfriend dance, or vise versa? He may think he dances as crazy as you...
I really like the guy that i am talking about here.
My friend kept telling me that she will talk to this guy and see if he would dance with me tonight at homecoming.I told her not to talk to him because its not worth it and she was damn sure that he would say yes. So yea she asked him and he said he would dance with a few times. So after school my friend came over and she got on my computer and he had sent her a message through myspace and it was from him so she told me not to look at the computer while she read it. But obviosuly i knew since it was from and she let me read his messages earlier that it was about me so i looked anyways without her knowing and he said something like this: "meet me in the hallway, and i don't really think i want to dance with her"
So she sent him something back and added "will you please just dance with her"
I felt really depressed and my heart like broke at that point. So i went to the dance and she walked away from me and went with her date. I was dancing with a few friends on one side and it happened to be right in front of him so i figured that i would just dance like a mad man to make him kinda jealous or whatever idk.
The last 40 min of the dance he started hanging all over this other girl and a slow song had came on and i sat down and honestly he was all i could look at. Ad he was holding on to that other girl so freakn tight.
i knoe i may sound like a complete idiot but i honestly don't know what to do. I cant stop thinking about him. And the fact the he doesnt like me.
And also how wrong was it to look at her message after she told me not too? And plus she doesnt realize that i did but she was not going to to tell me that he didnt want to dance with me.
please help...
thank you.
First off, your second question... I don't know whether or not it was necessarily wrong for you to look at the message, but what you saw probably hurt your feelings which your friend was trying to avoid. I guess you can say it's kind of like eavesdropping. The old saying is you don't want to eavesdrop because you might hear something about yourself that you don't want to hear.
As for the guy... you obviously have a serious crush on the dude, so yah, you won't be able to stop thinking of him until it passes (and it will in time). Honestly, he probably isn't the kind of guy you are looking for. I know that's not what you want to hear, but if he was interested in you, he would have danced with you and wouldn't have acted as he did at the last of the dance. Really, to me, he sounds like he may be kind of a jerk.
But don't worry, like I said before, you will get over him. Just remember the old saying about there being many fish in the sea, because it's the truth. You will find that someone to dance with and you will probably be much happier with that future fellow.
Just hang in there, because sometimes teen life can really suck, especially when it comes to boys!
There's this girl... and she bothers me... all the time. She trips me in the hallway, and swears at me and stuff. It's getting really old and I'm kinda tired of it. Last year at my middle school (I'm a frosh at high school this year), she bothered me so i went to the school guidnace counsler. Instead of this girl getting in trouble, I did for no reason. This girl was his daughters friend so he didn't do anything about, which really sucked. I really hate her picking on me and her calling me an an ugly bitch and stuff like that. Actually, it's just embarrasing for kids to make fun of you when ur 14. I'm just not sure what 2 do...
Well, I can tell you, I was in the same boat as you alot in school. Plus I went to a small school and there were teachers that had kids in my class. Of course these kids thought they were so much better and could do no wrong!
The way I got past it was to ignore them or laugh at their jokes no matter how embarassing, and eventually they gave up on me. I was no fun to pick on, see? Bullies get their rocks off on getting under your skin.
One of the worst things I found was to go to the pricipal etc, because it made things worse. And that sucks considering that is their job! Especially the guidence counseler. It is sad, but it is true.
However, it is hard to ignore being tripped. That is a physical assault. You shouldn't have to deal with being assaulted by ANYONE. Assault is a crime. I got the following peice on bully assault from this website :
http://www.ncvc.org/tvp/main.aspx?dbName=Bullying
"Assault and theft are always against the law. So if a bully physically attacks you or steals something from you, you can report this to the police."
I don't know that violence will solve the problem, so I won't advise you to learn self defence tecniques, but I have come across this website where you can chat with other teens who are being or have been bullied. Maybe you can get some good advice on how to cope with bullying.
Just scroll down to the teen section and click on "chat sessions."
http://www.njfaces.org/
I know I probably wasn't a great deal of help, but maybe your peers or these websites can be. Just please - NEVER PUT UP WITH SOMEONE ASSAULTING YOU!
i want to talk louder..at school im quiet, i feel stupid if i talk loud. but i dont want to be known as "the quiet person". i think i might be shy, but im not really, i think?? i dont know, but i want to know how to talk louder and not feel stupid after for thinkin i said somthing stupid. i dont know..
Believe me, you would know if you were shy. Shy people tend to not want to talk to others out of fear of what that person may think about what they say.
You could be shy, but I would say if you talk quietly, you may be soft-spoken. But there is nothing wrong with being shy or soft-spoken.
okay!!!!!1 i cannot think of the word...but its been stuck in my head and it is very irritating. it is a word for women who dont like men. not lesbians, but like those weird people that are like ohh men suck and women are so much better men are pigs blah blah.....theres a word for it. just one word. i want to say it starts with like an L or something.......idk!! please help me thiiiiiiiink it is bugging me so bad
LIBERATED-
emancipated: freed from bondage
emancipated: free from traditional social restraints; "an emancipated young woman pursuing her career"; "a liberated lifestyle"
Maybe this is the word you are thinking of?
Another is Feminist. I've also heard the slang term "Femi-nazi". Some man-haters are hardcore about it and that is where that term comes from.
How long after conception does pregnancy begin to show?
i mean like the bump...
I am pregnant now, and I think it varies from person to person, but in all of the research I have read up for my own personal information says that you will have the infamous pregnancy "pooch" showing by the 4th month, or by 16 weeks. Everyone will probably notice this. However, you may start to show enough for you to notice yourself sooner.
http://www.babycenter.com/memberbenefits/index3.jhtml/?scid=GOO:ADW:CAMP2:PRGNCY&ef_id=1039:3:cd9f5a8756f59b119315f566b9c691d4_840418622:iH0kv0UJuzIAAEh3EtUAAAAH:20060908172814
Check out this link to babycenter. If you sign up (it's free) it will update you week by week through your pregnancy
15/f/uk
Im 15 and from england..
Me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex almost 2 weeks ago. It didnt last very long because we realised what we was doing was wrong. He was only in me for about 5 seconds.
He didnt cum.. but we know about pre-cum and the such..
Last night i pressed on my lower stomache and it hurt a little. And all last night i was worrying about being pregnant. This morning i woke up feeling really sick and had a slightly upset stomache. i still feel kinda sick now. and my stomache still hurts when i press on it. My boobs feel slightly sore every now and again.
Could i be pregnant?
If im pregnant i dont know what to do! if my parents found out they would ban me from seeing my boyfriend forever, i would be grounded and never aloud out, i would be in sooo much trouble!
My period isnt due until around the 17th-25th (it always varies) i cant wait until then to see if i miss it cos its driving me insane with worry! i know i shouldnt worry because it could cause me to miss my period but i really cant help it!
I cant get a pregancy kit because my parents would find out
I cant get in to the doctors
I cant afford an abortion ive heard its really expensive
I really dont know what to do :(
Any advice?
The best thing I can tell you to do is to wait and see if you miss your period. Start to be suspicious if you are a week late or more. Until then (I know it sucks) try not to worry yourself so much.
Just try to take it one step at a time. If you happen to be pregnant, I suggest you tell your boyfriend first. Then (I know it's scary) you need to tell your parents.
Your parents probably won't act as you might think they would. Sure, they are going to be upset- that's a given. But surely they won't deny your boyfriend the chance of being a father to his child. They are going to realize right away that you are carrying a child- their grandchild. Expect them to feel disappointment, but they will get over it and won't hate you for life.
As for abortions- I don't know how you feel about them when you aren't scared about being pregnant, but I, personally, am not for or against abortions. I just know I personally won't ever have one because I know I can't live with myself if I made the decision to "terminate" my pregnancy. (Yes, here in the US they use the word "terminate" and yes I am pregnant.) However, you are a different person than me, so it is your place to make that kind of decision.
Do what you feel is best for you and your baby (remember... this is IF you are pregnant)You may decide to have the abortion, or you may decide to have it and take the "adoption option". Or, you may decide you want to keep it and raise it. Your parents I'm sure will help you out because you are so young. They will also help you make the right decision if you want them too. (Parents are more understanding than you think) But don't let anyone pressure you into doing something you don't want to do, or something you don't feel is right in your heart.
http://www.fpa.org.uk/helpnow/pregtest/index.htm
This site talks about where you can get free pregnancy tests in the UK.
http://www.ovulation-calculator.com/pregnancy/pregnancy-symptoms.htm
Scroll through this site to read up on the early symptoms of pregnancy.
http://www.bpas.org/young/options.html
Here is a link to a place that does abortions in the UK. It didn't give any prices online, so I can't tell you that much. However, click "by contacting bpas" at the bottom of the page and it will tell you how to reach them.
14/f
ok so if i get at least a b- in all my classes this semester i get a "reward" from my mother....what do u think i should ask for?
dont say:
-cellphones or sidekicks or w.e...i got that stuff
-ipods, i have a nano
-digital camera, i got a real nice one last yr
-tvs or laptops or whatever (cause im gettin a pink laptop next semester)
-cash
-giftcards
-any sort of pet
-any video game system or w.e
-and dont say stuff like clothes, purses, shoes, accecories......
sry but i just cant think of something good.........plz help! any advice is appreciated thnxxx xoxo
Sorry you took my advice the wrong way... Maybe you have more than enough junk and don't need anything more. I don't know anyone around me that leads a happy life being a material person. People being obsessed over having more possessions than someone else, or people who enjoy being spoiled way too much are what's wrong with this society today.
So like I said, you should feel LUCKY to be able to have so much anyhow. Yet then again, are you one of those "Material People?"
BESIDES: YOU SAID " ANY ADVICE IS APPREICIATED"
Don't take this the wrong way, but sounds like you have plenty of junk already. What the hell is a nano? I'm not that old. I don't have a laptop and I'm rolling on 30. Seriously, I got a computer just this year. I just recently got a digital camera. Hooray! I don't have to use the old disposable cameras any more! I didn't have a phone of my own until I was a legal adult. I thought a sidekick went with a superhero?
I guess my life was a little different when I was your age. Didn't get much of anything, so you should seriously feel lucky you have so much material possessions already.
everyone thinks im gay because i dance and hang out with girls...im sure its normal because, well i like girls. what could i do to show im straight to people so they could get off my back about it? -Tom
Hey, man, could be simple jealousy... I mean, seriously now, who has all the girls? There you go...
13/f there is this guy we will call him "Fred". At a party I went to my friend found out that Fred liked me. My friend is really good friends with Fred, but I am not. My friend asked me if i would go out with Fred. I replyed that I would like to get to know him better before we went out. He felt rejected, and interperted it as me saying, get away from me you freak," but thats not how i meant it. I know he is going to ask me out, and i really do want to get to know him, who knows maybe i'll satrt liking him. He does not have a screename and doesn't pick up his cell. He is in one of my classes, and i don't want to talk to him in front of a lot of people, what can i do to get to know him better and convince him that I really do want to get to know him and i wasn' just saying that to get him away. Any tips aprreciated. Thanks
The best way to get to know him is to talk to him, and to talk to him you got to let him know that you would like him to answer his phone to you or meet up after school with you.
Wow okay .. i have a tough love life.. maybe just even a tough life period. Okay i love this boy & we went out like 3 times.. hes new to my school this year but omg he is sooo cuteee !! we went out a few times but when we did we had some PROBLEMS . Like ahhh i went through them all just for him. I really love him. Heres the catch though, i don't think he likes me anymore. Like all the girls like him & i dry every single day over him. Like at school when we went out he kinda ignored me alot but at home hes the sweetest boy ever.Idk why he does that though. Well at school now since we broke up he barleyy looks at me or talks to me.. but i do see him glance at me a few times.He asked this girl out that i don't care too much for & now they ain't goin out cause shes scared of me & i wenyt off on her.. the point is i can't get him off my mind & i love him with all my heart . more then anything. How do i get over him.. ? Sorry this question might be a little confusing but its hard to sort out you know? k thanks
The best way to get over him is to move on with your life and allow him to do the same.
When you can't get him off your mind, just think back to how much of an asshole he was to you by only being nice to you behind closed doors.
okay im going out with this guy names josh. well he's went to rehab and everything and is all cleaned up from smoking weed. well recently he started smoking again. and he gets drug tests every wednesday. and he said hes gonna have his brother pee in the cup for him. but if he gets caught i dont want him to go back to rehab or get locked up again. i made him promise me that he wouldnt smoke again but then he smoked yesterday and i found out about it. he says hes been trying but its rly hard to say no cause its around him all the time with his friends. everytime i call him and he doesnt answer i know hes smoking and i just get so mad. i know its mostly his friend scotts fault. scott is always smoking no matter what time it is or anything. and i know scott is pressuring josh. when im with josh he says that he doesnt feel the need to smoke. and i want to help him. i already told him that whenever he feels the need just to come see me but he never does. i dont know what to do. i know schools coming up in a couple days. and it will be easier to keep an eye on him and make sure he doesnt smoke. i really care for him and i dont want him to go back to rehab.. what should i do?
Ok, so I know you are going to hate my answer, but I don't care because it is the plain and simple truth, and that's what I'm all about.
It isn't Scott's fault, it's Josh's fault. Josh CHOOSES to smoke it with Scott. It isn't the people he hangs around with, it's Joshes fault. Josh CHOOSES to hang around people who smoke weed. Josh CHOOSES not to say "NO". You making him promise you not to smoke again will never work. Josh has to CHOOSE to stop smoking for himself, not for you, or he will never be able to quit. Keeping an eye on him is a waste of your time. You can't watch him 24/7, and, like I said, he makes that CHOICE. Maybe rehab is what he actually needs- there are professionals who can help him in rehab.
But most of all, blaming his friends or the crowd he CHOOSES to roam with is pointless. It isn't his friends' fault for the CHOICES he makes. Josh it the one who is at fault. Blame him for what he CHOOSES to do.
hi, im looking to buy a new laptop but im confused of all the ones there are to choose from, im NOT gonna be taking it from place to place so weight doesnt matter, i want a really powerful one, and ive got a budjet of 2000 pounds
please hep me out
I know HP is a good brand, but I am unsure of the price.
I do know to avoid DELL computers of any type at all cost. They are cheaply made so you can buy them at a lower cost, but end up costing you more in repair bills in the long run.
I think my granny might have ocd becouse whenever she sees a bed unmade she has to go make it it just bothers her,she freaks out if there's a piece of lint on my nightgown is that ocd?
Your granny sounds like my Grandma. I would say that it isn't OCD, but I'm not a professional.
I tell you it probably isn't because my grandma is bothered by unmade beds and anything that isn't neat and tidy because she grew up in a time where women kept everything clean enough to pass the white glove test and beds were never left unmade. No dirty dishes, no unwashed or unfolded laundry, no dust. When she grew up and when she was raising her children, women didn't generally work because their job was keeping up the house and tending to their children.
My grandma did housework from the time she got up in the morning until after the supper dishes were washed.
That may be the sort of life your granny led as well, and would explain why she is obsessed with making beds, etc.
I'm a 13 yr old girl and really like this 13 yr old guy and he flirts with me a little bit, but everyone says that he likes my bestfriend. Obviously he denies it. He knows i like him and i don't know weather to like him or not to because he might ask out my best friend?!!!
always as sweet as sugar,
candygrlxoxo87
Well, first off, you are the one he's flirting with. Second, he says he doesn't like her.
From my experience, don't listen to what the crowd says, because the crowd doesn't always know the truth.
I say, just flat out ask him if he likes you. Just say, "Hey man, I notice you flirt with me and was wondering what that means? Do you like me?" If he says he does then go for it.
Hi there
As usual I am confused.
There is a really nice girl who I have been to lunch with and everything was OK. We used to speak of quite personal things. I then went to a party where she was at, and got too drunk for my own good, and one of the effects of this was for me to be honest with what I was saying. Or not saying. On leaving the do, the girl kissed me on the check, and I attempted to do the same... and she must have detected my feelings because she was said "Friends!". I didn't answer, and probably for 30 seconds or more (a long time) stood there in silence. Eventually she walked off (probably hurt) with me still not saying one word.
Now even months later she refuses invitations to go to lunch. The wierd thing that I don't understand is it's like I have been put in a box. We are on talking terms and e-mail each other regularly, but if I walk away completely, for a few days and not speak, she gets angry. What we talk about is completely banal, with little new information passing between us. I am getting a little bored - the frustration and sadness period for me ended a long time ago.
Is this just normal for work relationships to tick over endlessly at this level?
Thanks
I suppose it could be considered a good work relationship, but not a good friendship.
A friendship would grow continuously, not be just the usual small talk or chit-chat.
What I find to be quite odd is that if she doesn't hear from you she gets angry about it.
If you are getting bored with your friendship with her and you want to walk away from it, you should do it as soon as possible. The longer you wait, the more upset she will be.
I don't know if I answered your question but I hope I helped anyhow.
i was wondering at what age you got your first kiss. And what you call a first kiss, as in on the lips? guy kiss you on cheek? girl kiss guy on cheek? stuff like that. =]
I guess I would consider a first kiss to be a kiss on the lips. At least that was what I considered to be my first kiss. But really a first kiss to you is whatever you want it to be.
And I was 17 when I had my first kiss. I was so old because I was really bashful around the guys that I liked, and didn't really have a real boyfriend until that age. But I guess my first kiss would have been at a much earlier age if I considered the cheek-kiss, but I didn't so I don't remember when the first kiss on the cheek was.