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Confused at Work
Hi there
As usual I am confused.
There is a really nice girl who I have been to lunch with and everything was OK. We used to speak of quite personal things. I then went to a party where she was at, and got too drunk for my own good, and one of the effects of this was for me to be honest with what I was saying. Or not saying. On leaving the do, the girl kissed me on the check, and I attempted to do the same... and she must have detected my feelings because she was said "Friends!". I didn't answer, and probably for 30 seconds or more (a long time) stood there in silence. Eventually she walked off (probably hurt) with me still not saying one word.
Now even months later she refuses invitations to go to lunch. The wierd thing that I don't understand is it's like I have been put in a box. We are on talking terms and e-mail each other regularly, but if I walk away completely, for a few days and not speak, she gets angry. What we talk about is completely banal, with little new information passing between us. I am getting a little bored - the frustration and sadness period for me ended a long time ago.
Is this just normal for work relationships to tick over endlessly at this level?
Thanks
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
I suppose it could be considered a good work relationship, but not a good friendship.
A friendship would grow continuously, not be just the usual small talk or chit-chat.
What I find to be quite odd is that if she doesn't hear from you she gets angry about it.
If you are getting bored with your friendship with her and you want to walk away from it, you should do it as soon as possible. The longer you wait, the more upset she will be.
I don't know if I answered your question but I hope I helped anyhow.
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