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I think im pregnant i dont know what to do!
15/f/uk
Im 15 and from england..
Me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex almost 2 weeks ago. It didnt last very long because we realised what we was doing was wrong. He was only in me for about 5 seconds.
He didnt cum.. but we know about pre-cum and the such..
Last night i pressed on my lower stomache and it hurt a little. And all last night i was worrying about being pregnant. This morning i woke up feeling really sick and had a slightly upset stomache. i still feel kinda sick now. and my stomache still hurts when i press on it. My boobs feel slightly sore every now and again.
Could i be pregnant?
If im pregnant i dont know what to do! if my parents found out they would ban me from seeing my boyfriend forever, i would be grounded and never aloud out, i would be in sooo much trouble!
My period isnt due until around the 17th-25th (it always varies) i cant wait until then to see if i miss it cos its driving me insane with worry! i know i shouldnt worry because it could cause me to miss my period but i really cant help it!
I cant get a pregancy kit because my parents would find out
I cant get in to the doctors
I cant afford an abortion ive heard its really expensive
I really dont know what to do :(
Any advice?
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same thing is going on with me
i would go to the store ALONE or with a freind take a pregnancy test and use it in there bathroom.
and try not toworry
i know its hard but just try.
you could be pregnant.
if so go to plantparenthood with a freind.
and they will help you with what to do from there.
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naw, i dont think theres really any way you could be pregnant. you wouldnt feel the effects of pregnancy that soon. its more than likely your mind playing tricks on you.
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The best thing I can tell you to do is to wait and see if you miss your period. Start to be suspicious if you are a week late or more. Until then (I know it sucks) try not to worry yourself so much.
Just try to take it one step at a time. If you happen to be pregnant, I suggest you tell your boyfriend first. Then (I know it's scary) you need to tell your parents.
Your parents probably won't act as you might think they would. Sure, they are going to be upset- that's a given. But surely they won't deny your boyfriend the chance of being a father to his child. They are going to realize right away that you are carrying a child- their grandchild. Expect them to feel disappointment, but they will get over it and won't hate you for life.
As for abortions- I don't know how you feel about them when you aren't scared about being pregnant, but I, personally, am not for or against abortions. I just know I personally won't ever have one because I know I can't live with myself if I made the decision to "terminate" my pregnancy. (Yes, here in the US they use the word "terminate" and yes I am pregnant.) However, you are a different person than me, so it is your place to make that kind of decision.
Do what you feel is best for you and your baby (remember... this is IF you are pregnant)You may decide to have the abortion, or you may decide to have it and take the "adoption option". Or, you may decide you want to keep it and raise it. Your parents I'm sure will help you out because you are so young. They will also help you make the right decision if you want them too. (Parents are more understanding than you think) But don't let anyone pressure you into doing something you don't want to do, or something you don't feel is right in your heart.
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This site talks about where you can get free pregnancy tests in the UK.
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Scroll through this site to read up on the early symptoms of pregnancy.
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Here is a link to a place that does abortions in the UK. It didn't give any prices online, so I can't tell you that much. However, click "by contacting bpas" at the bottom of the page and it will tell you how to reach them.
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Does your boyfriend know about any of this? If not, tell him. Don't freak him out, but let him know that you are worried. Since you can't get a pregnancy test yourself, have your boyfriend get it for you. Having a friend do it is another option, but you probably want as few people to know about this as possible. 5 seconds is a pretty long time. I hope that you now realize how important it is not to get caught up in the moment. Make sure you have protection for next time.
Try not to worry about it too much right now. The first outward symptoms of pregnancy aren't supposed to come out until 4 weeks after the incident. Many of the symptoms you are experiencing can be caused by stress. You're obviously in a lot of stress. Stress can also cause you to miss your period. Don't let that happen, because then there would be a reason to worry. You'd have to get tested at that point.
A pregnancy test can put your mind at rest before you stress yourself out to the point of missing your period. Please do what you can to get one and try to stay as calm as you can. Worrying isn't going to change anything. Good luck and remember never to have sex without protection unless you are trying to get pregnant.
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