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My name is McKenzie and I'm a freshman at Reedley College, I love to help people out with problems and to write. I want to be a writer someday. I love to make friends. Ask any question and I'll attempt to answer it.

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Yesterday we had a BBQ and me and some of my cousins walked down the the "haunted" house down the street....well my little cousin said she saw something (we were looking at the house and luckily no one was home) me and my other cousin didnt believe her at first so we told her to go bak to the house anyway we looked at it a little longer and both me and my cousin saw a white face with no eyes or mouth appear in the top window! It scared the crap out of us! Then later on my other cousin saw a mouth in the same window...we saw a bunch of other stuff too. Do u think the stuff we saw was real? I felt really weird around that house...and i am really freaked out by it...Plz help! I rate high!

It very well might of been real. It depends on hat you believe. It could of been the Amityville house that is haunted. This sounds scary. Hope I helped!

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Hey i am 14 and I mean i am very flirty its just liek my personality and me my best friend adn her boyfriend were going out to dinner one night and I guess I didnt relize how much i was flirting cuz when she went outside to go call her mom to pick us up, he kissed me and I hate to sound like a slut but i liked it and i am starting to like him more and more but i feel really bad! we have been best friends scince 1st grade, How can I brake the news to her and still keep our friendship, or should I just not tell her? Please good answers only I rate High!

The best thing to do is to not tell her, you'll only ruin a good friendship. And with the kiss, it may of been an accident or he may have just been playing around. Hope I helped!

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I'm not relaying my whole story, but why do girls have to be such whores and bitches in junior high and high school?

Most of them are preps and preps are known to be whores and bitches. Some girls just want attention so they'll do anything to get it. Hope I helped!

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Ok, there is this guy and everyday when I get on the bus he constantly stares at me. when I get to skool in the morings he stares at me! He used to like me I think. But I want to know if he still does. i think he has a girlfriend. Whats something I could just talk about right out of the blue and not sound stupied?

Talk about his day of your day or how school is . Hope I helped!

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So this girl I'm not friends w/ anymore got REALLY SKINNY and she thinks she needs to lose a couple more pounds when she's really tall and is like 20 lbs under weight!!! Her friends (that I'm still friends w/) tell me that she hasn't been eating much anymore and I'm worried about her but I don't want to get involved in it bc technically it's none of my business since I ended the friendship (although the girl doesn't seem to realize this) And her friend told me that a bunch of people tried talking to the girl's mom about her not eating and her mom didn't do anything about it. We're all concered but aren't obsessing over it yet. What should my role in this be? Should I stay out of it or should I talk to her about it???

Well I would talk to her about it becauxe you used to be friends with her and she could hur herself by not eating. Hope I helped!

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omg this is tottally bugging me! theres this one guy in my grade and i think he might like me but i have nooooo clue!!! how can you tell if a guy likes you??? thanks and ill rate lol
mimi

He'll usualy try and spend a lot of time with you and try to get close to you and stuff. Hope I helped!

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my mom went threw my journels and red some stuff about how bad i want to die and details about a time where i was raped and she flipped out at me

i feel so betrayed that MY mother did this because she always talks about how journels are a good thing, and one time i had my friend pamela sleep over and she wont let me have her over anymore because pamela snooped and red one of my journels.. and my sister read my moms journel once and she was grounded for 2 weeks

she doesn't listen to what i say though when i try to explain how i feel she just says im being selfish and just trying to turn this around on her

what can i do to make her see what she did was rong she wont even apoligize..

How would she feel if you got caught snooping in her journal. Ask her to consider your feelings. She will most likely forgive you eventually. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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okkkk im a freshman (high school) and theres this guy whos a junior (in high school)..ive hung out wit him before and talk to him a lot online..but now all of a sudden my parents are like "you cant talk to him, you cant see him...etc" ughh i REALLY like him..and my parents dont no him like i do..and they dont want to no him and said they wudnt want to meet him..!! AHHH so ive been sneakin around..just to see him and its getting harder and frustrating!!! oh my god i really like him and we want to be gf/bf..but i dont no cuz im not suppose to see him!!! AHH
HELLPPP!!!!!!! PLLLLZZZ!!!!


ps...homecoming is coming up and he wants to take me but my moms like no you cant go wit him..but its either i go wit him or i meet him there! but they wont listen! ahhh HELP!




I RATE HIGH!

Sit down and try talking to them reasonably and try and find an explination. Or just take him home one day and force it on them that you like him and you want to go to homecoming together. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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ok so at my highschool we got a pool and have to go swimming. the problem is i dont feel comfrontable taking off ALL my clothes to wear my bathing suit infront of everyone.. they think just because we are all girls and have the same body parents that it is ok but i personaly dont think that is right.. and another thing is we cant use the "girl problem" to stop us from swimming" but i have NEVER used a tampon and i have heared from my friends that the doctor has told them it is bad for you and can mess up soemthing down there?? what can i do??

p.s

i dont start PE until next term

Well you an wear a wifebeater and board shorts over it. And the tampon can mess up something, but it is very unlikely unless you leave it in overnight or something. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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well i've had this cold for a week it's geting worse. i want to feel better by next week, any help
i will rate high
striperella

Drink LOTS of fluids and don't excersize; that will only make it grow. Just remamber, fluids, fluids, fluids. That should cure your cold. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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sorry, this is a bit long =/
well, i met this guy this summer who lives in my old town, i knew him before but we never talked. anyway, he liked me & i liked him, but nothing ever happened. he said i was shy, but then i admitted my feelings to him and he said he was glad that i was talking to him about it, but he never told me if he still felt that way or not. then i found out he liked some other girl, who also lived a bit farther away from him. he told me he didnt like her or have a chance with her though. then i found out a bunch of his friends did drugs, and i asked him about it and he told me he didnt do them, so i believed him. he has a great personality and is incredibly easy to talk to, and he's SO polite, so i wouldnt expect him to do anything like that. then he & his other friend went over to my friend laurens because his friend likes her, and she told me that he was high. i really dont want to mess with guys who do drugs, but i also still really like him, even though i know i shouldnt. i know hes so much better than that. so im trying hard to get over him, but theres just something about him that makes me feel something ive never felt before.
then we just started school exactly a week ago, and there's this kid in two of my classes, and we dont talk like, at all. which i know is bad. but his locker is two away from mine, and hes reallyyyyy cute, and he seems a little shy, like me. but in one of these classes im a teachers assistant(she has a class at the same time) so whenever i get up to do something for her, he watches me. and i dont think that means anything or whatever. but id really like talking to him and becoming his friend first and hopefully lead to something else.
then my friend, well call him "D", asked me out a couple days ago, and i told him no because i dont like him that way. then he asked me if id give him a chance, and i told him i didnt know. hes really funny & we talk a lot, but i just dont see him like that. last year he got like really depressed over this girl, i dont really know all the details, but everyone was like so worried about him. and he told me he tried slitting his throat, but didnt get that far. hes a really emotional person, and i dont want to hurt him. also, last year, he wrote this poem for that girl and our english teacher read it to our class, and it was the most beautiful thing id ever heard. hes awesome at writing poetry, and everyone knows it. i dont know what ill do if he would write me one. i think i might feel bad and go out with him, which i really dont want to do, but im a sucker for a sweet guy. & i dont know what to do. should i just forget about all these guys & i hope someone better comes along? lol sorry that this was so long, ill definately rate high :)

It looks like you're having some trouble with all these guys. The first one, don't go out with because he may do the drugs and he lives so far away. The second guy just become friends with him and maybe it'll grow into something more. The third guy sounds nice and sounds exactly like my boyfriend. I'd say hope something better comes along. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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how do i get a boy to like me when he already has a gf or at least notice me?

Just go up and talk to him without her there because 9 out of 10 times she will get jealous. Talk to him, ask him about the relationship. If it seems a little rocky then you still have a chance. Stay friends with him and see what'll happen. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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what are the bases..?

not like baseball, like..
kissing
french kissing
making out
sex

etc. etc.

It depends on who you ask but most people put them in these categories:
1-kissing
2-making out
3- fingering,mastrubating together
4- Sex
Good luck! Hope I helped!

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My little brother can be extremely annoying. I dont want to tell him to go away, but somtimes i lose my temper. I hate yelling but he just deserves it so much!!!! How do i get my mom to relize that he's the monstor not me and to start dishing out the punishment to the right person????

He has chased me around with knives, hit me, refused to let me eat, and done countless other things! He really hurts my feelings.

What do i do?

I rate 5's!

~Melissa~

Let your mom discover the little demon inside of him. I mean, refusing to let you eat, hitting you and chasing you with knives!?!?!?! That is not right and you need to talk to someone who can do something about it.This site is just advice you can choose to follow or not but just remember that I'm prayong for you every night. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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Sorry this is soo long.

Ok soo i live with my dad 9 months out of tyhe year ad i really miss my mom. Well i just got back today frm visting her and my dad picks me up at the airport, we get home the house is a complete pig stie like theres his cloths everywere and there liek ants of the counters and the only clean rpoom is his. Rigth after he drops us off( not seeing us for 4 weeks) he leaves and gose to work. He self employed soo like its not like he has a boss telling him- oyur fired- hes the boss! ok sooo also he went out ot party tonite and left us with our aunt!! now am i the wrong one for being kind of mad andsad, likei miss my mom soo much, nd the only thing holding her back from coming here is the money for mthe divorce, she said once he agreess on a price thta i actually acurate which he thinks is too high she bee out here in 5 mis. Now im really buggign my dad ot just give my mom what he owes her, and he slams nad locks his dorr to his room, im starving but im scared ot eat the food b/c of the ants! am i rong for feeling this way, i just had a 8 hours plane ride- boston to las vegas got home and he leaves! withmy mom i feel loved but eith my dad i feel as thought the only reason he has us is ot prove a point ot my mom. I love thme both reallly alot, but i just think me and my sister should be with my mom not my dad. Please i just dnt no i miss my mom and i just dont think i can put up with living with him anymre!!

No you are not wrong to feel this way!!! You have a right to eat clean food and a right to a clean home. Maybe talk to a counselor and tell him or her how your dad's living conditions are and she or he may be able to place you permantly with your mommy. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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Okay heres where ill start. I'm a pretty girl whos fun to be around and nice to everyone. I asked about a guy named A who was new. So him and me are always looking at each other and I can sense chemistry between and attraction. The thing is today i had straightened my hair and it was getting frizzy so I put it up and than took it down and he smiled and said I like it better down and I just giggled and aww thanx. Than my friends were like ask him out but i didnt. soo he starts talking to this pretty girl named Ceci and I was like confussed.

Does this means he likes her or does he like me or should I hang out with him or what?

And the popular tough pretty girls at my school like him so I'm scared of getting beat up too.
What do I do about that

Well it can be hard to get a guy to like you at first. Try to get to know him better and maybe they'll be chemistry between you two. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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Ok me & my friend are 15 & we are still virgins & we havent
even had our first kiss yet! We dont know what to do! Is it a bad thing
all of our other friends have done it all! We dont know if we should do it
now or wait we dont want to wait to long! But we dont want to end up being
pregnant at a young age! But we think its stupid that we havent even had
our first kiss! & we have gone out with tons of guys! tell us what you
think we should do we really need someones help!.

Well you at least have to kiss by the time your 15. Its ok if your a late bloomer. But you're right on the sex. Wait untill you're older, you don't want to end up pregnant at a young age. You have the right mindset for sex. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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sorry if the length is long, but please read it.. 14/f

ok well first off im trying out for soccer..i have practice today,tomm., and tues..for it we have to run around the perimeter of the whole school(with the tree lines and all)and then after we do sprints and stuff like that..theres a lot of running and i can do some of it but get tired after awhile..i really want to make it badly but i have a feeling that im not going to..there is about 46 girls trying out and they only pick about 20-25 and i sometimes have trouble breathing like i feel like im going to faint...i was wondering if you guys have any tips on making it

please dont delete


my second question was that i have never had a b/f ..but people did ask me to 'go out' but most of them i didnt like at the time or they are an ass or they just like me for hmm my chest area..i kno everything and crap but i just kind of wanted some tips on the b/f thing...

To answer your first question, bring lots of water and remember to pace yourself. Its not a race. If you need to, walk it off a little bit after your run and strecth beforehand. You'll be sorry if you don't.

And to answer your second question, most guys like you because of your ass or your tits. Find a guy who respects you for you and stick with him. Trust me, you have to kiss lots of frogs before you find your prince. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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ok.....well this boy asked me out, and i dont like him, i like some one else! but i dont know how 2 tell him that i dont like him.
HELP ME!!!!! plz!

Just let him know that you like someone else and that you want to be friends. BUT REMEMBER: BE GENTLE!!!!! Shockingly, guys have feelings too. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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is there a difference between when...

*a guy and a girl hugging when they say hello

*&& a guy and a girl hugging when they say goodbye??

just wondering thanks!

Not really. Both are friendly and mean the same thing. Hope I helped!

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