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help :-/
my mom went threw my journels and red some stuff about how bad i want to die and details about a time where i was raped and she flipped out at me
i feel so betrayed that MY mother did this because she always talks about how journels are a good thing, and one time i had my friend pamela sleep over and she wont let me have her over anymore because pamela snooped and red one of my journels.. and my sister read my moms journel once and she was grounded for 2 weeks
she doesn't listen to what i say though when i try to explain how i feel she just says im being selfish and just trying to turn this around on her
what can i do to make her see what she did was rong she wont even apoligize..
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How would she feel if you got caught snooping in her journal. Ask her to consider your feelings. She will most likely forgive you eventually. Good luck! Hope I helped!
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This is complicated. Yes, what your mother did was unfair and she did betray your trust but on the other hand, she IS your mother and she has a right to know what's going on so she can be the best parent she can.
Have you asked yourself why she may have read them? You say you wrote about how you wanted to commit suicide and that you were raped. If you were giving off signs that you weren't happy then your mother was probably worried about you and wanted to get to the core of the problem. Yes, she could have asked you straight out what was wrong instead of going behind your back but at the end of the day, her intentions were good.
When you say she flipped out at you, I doubt she did it in anger. It's more likely that she was worried about you and upset that you hadn't told her.
However, reading someone's diary is wrong and she was being hypocritical. Find her when she's in a good mood, sit her down and ask her to listen to you. Tell her that you understand that she needed to find out what was going on but that it upsets you that she went behind your back and read something private to you. If you make her see that you understand both sides of the argument then she will probably apologize and admit she was wrong. But it may take some apologizing on your part too for not telling her about how you felt about your life and that you were raped.
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..Tell her its even her rules no one can read your journal or anyone elses..And if there is something really important you want to say you will go to your mom and tell her..She doesnt need to snoop through you stuff..But im sorry n i hope it dont happen again..Hope i helped`
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I might be wrong about this, because I don't know your mother - keep that in mind. I'm going to say this form a more general mind-set assuming that the parent cares deeply for their child... ok?
While journals are a personal thing, it seems that you are keeping many secrets from her that you should not be keeping. Your mom is only concerned for you. Yeah, she should not be snooping, but honestly, she seems to have had a good reason to go snooping.
You're hiding your life from her. That makes it really hard for her to be the parent she wants to be. Maybe you have reasons for keeping such things secret, but things like rape and thoughts of suicide are not those you should bottle up inside - even a journal isn't going to make them go away, especially not rape.
Being a parent, I can't imagine how horrible it would be for my kids to feel they needed to keep such things from me. How am I to help them if they tell me nothing?
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First thing's first...you are absolutely right. It was wrong of her to read your journal...especially when she was so crazy about the idea and she got mad when anyone else read your journal.
However...remember one thing. Your mother cares about you. If you had a daughter writing about wanting to die and about being raped...wouldn't you go crazy?! I mean, you'd definitely want to know about these things and help her out...and maybe even get some professional help here. Maybe it sounds crazy, but it's the truth and this is very serious here.
I think the only way you two will solve this is by seeing both of you are wrong at the same time. And that both of you are right too.
1) Apologize to your mother for not telling her these serious things.
2) Explain to her journal's are meant to be private, and if that's one place you can't have privacy, what's the point of keeping one? Remind her she got really angry when others read your journal, so what is her excuse for reading yours?
So basically it's a compromise. If you promise to tell her these serious types of things, she promises not to snoop in your journal. Do you see where I'm going? It's not possible to win this argument unless you realize that your mom has to win too. Hope all goes well!
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maybe you and your mother need to have a discussion where u both listen to each other .the first thing you need to understand is that your mother loves you and both of you need to communicate better.and find a safer place to hide your journels where no one will read them.
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wow.. I would hate it if my mom did that. Journels are a personal thing, you should be able to write your feelings down in there no matter what they are. Your mom, however, does have a reason to worry. Can you imagine how devestated she would be if something happened to you? She shouldn't have read it, but now she can try to make you feel better with everything that has happened in your life. Sit her down and have a talk with her. Tell her you really didnt like what she did, and i'm sure you'll be able to get her to listen, if you don't loose your cool and just have a good talk with her.
Good Luck
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