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I have a friend that lives quite a way away from me in a different state. We really enjoyed being together at a summer camp, and I really want to stay in touch with her, and "snail mail" goes so slowly. I don't want my parents to find out that I'm constantly sending letters, because she'll think I'm crazy and that I like her and stuff and she'll tell everyone that I know and mess up my life... I know I'm a guy, but how can I just let this be a friendship without people thinkin' I'm serious because I'm not? Thanx in advance!

why dont you guys talk online and email eachother? email is so fast and friendly lol
talk to her over the phone, if you dont want your mom to know, you can buy a long distance card from a store and call her with that. lol but i think it'd be cool if you told your mom...that it was a FRIEND

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'i'm being sexually harrassed by this guy i know, and so is every other girl in myclass except for two. His sexual harrassment is getting me in troubel with some of my teachers. It's cometothe point that i'm afarid to be alone with him because i'm afaird of what he'll do to me. He's grabbed by breast slappmy ass, rubbed on my crotch and other things. he's messedwith other girls in my class but he seems to dothst tome the most.Lately he's stop but i'm afarid he might start up and do it again. I tell him what he's doingis wrong but he doesn't care.Iused to think of himas my friend untill it all started.Now i don'tknow what to do.

omg thats crazy, doesnt matter if hes your firend/boyfriend or whatever he is, GO TELL SOMEONE...go tell your principal, your teacher, your mom, your neighbor, your counselor...ANYONE...that is really wrong whats he's doing to you and the other girls, and its definately not normal! Hurry and go tell someone!

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okay so i went out with this guy for only two weeks...he asked me out ONLINE two days before school ended. he is hela popular and stuff and im not that popular and people said that we were kinda random, but we had soo much in common...and he was really hott. so after two weeks, he tells me that he's moving to a different state, and my bitchy friend told me he was lying so he didn't have to go out with me again, but then he really did move. now, its like 6 months later, i hela miss him and i dunno why....and he visited like last week but he didnt even want to hang out with me, and everyone was al "o ya he's in town i saw him today' but i had no idea..should i just get over him

Yea your friend probably said that because she was just jealous that you had him or something. First decide if you would even still want to be with him - long distance relationships seem to be hard from the stories ive heard - call him up and see whats on his mind, if he's interested in you...and if he doesnt already have a girl , then you could tell him you like him n stuff, and if he doesnt feel the same way, just move on.

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I'm not sure but I may be a victim of emotional abuse. I've been with my guy since high school, more the half of a decade ago, and we have a child together. Now he doesn't call me names and put me down to my face, though he's come close before, but it's like whenever he's in a bad mood he takes it out on me, he blames EVERYTHING on me that comes to his mind. It makes me feel really low. I think he does it to make himself feel better but then I feel like total crap and I hang my head down and sigh for like hours. Sometimes I get so sick to my stomach over it. It's just this vicious cycle that keeps on going. He acts nice again and I love that person that he is when he is nice so I forget everything and am able to relax again for a little while. But when he changes faces again I'm like, "Oh why do I put myself through this, here we go again." I feel like such trash for putting up with it. I just love him so much, and I know he loves me but wonder if there's a part of him that hates me because he has to blame so much on me. And if I say anything when he is angry, ANYTHING, it makes him angrier and he doesn't listen to anything I have to say. His father treated his mother like this and I think he's following in his footsteps. I don't want my son to think this is how a man is supposed to treat a woman. So I'm just wondering if this is considered emotional abuse. Thanks.

Girl, ofcourse its emotional abuse...why are you still with him? Just because you have a son together doesnt mean you need him...* Yes a husband/boyfriend is suppose to tell his girlfriend things and she's suppose to help him get through his deals n all but he shud never blame her for nethin she didnt do! Even if you have done something, he still has no right to yell at you and make you feel so bad. There are many guys out there that know all this, and you should be with someone who respects you and gives you the love you deserve. How do you know he loves you? Just because someone says sweet stuff to you doesnt mean they love you, I think you should definately leave him, and find someone who respects you. Respect is part of love, if he doesnt respect you, then how can he love you? Yeah couples argue, but this isnt argueing, if he's yellin at u and making you feel bad. I think you deserve better than him , this is definately emotional abuse....verbal abuse.

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I have this guy friend, we can call him Rob. Well Rob lied to me about something and i got mad and stopped talking to him. He was begging for forgiveness and asked my friend, let's call her Barb, to try to make me forgive him b/c he was seriously sorry. And i could tell that he was sorry, but i don't want people walking all over me, you know? But then he told Barb these things he wanted to tell me like "i'd swim the whole ocean to get to you and apologize" and he said i was beautiful. And no guy has ever said that about me. I've pretty much forgiven him but he tried SO hard to make me forgive him and it sounded like i really meant a lot to him (man that sounded snobby) and i'm wondering if i should ask him out. Does it sound like he even likes me? by the way, i REALLY like this guy! Plz help!

Dont just be with someone because they like you, did you even have any feelings for him before he said all that sweeet stuff to you? If you really think you like him though, then yeah go head and ask him out....you'll never know unless you try right..( ;

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Okay!Well my ex bf and I have been broken up for about 5 months and he completly hates me.I have been doing a lot of bad shit in the past 1 and half months. When ever I come to the point where I want to do something really bad, he is the only one who comes to mind. I just want to talk to him and actually have him listen. I just need him to care a LIL bit about me..Thats what I want for christmas more then any present. What should I do?

There must be a reason why he hates you...and if its something like you cheated on him or something, then i dont think its wise for you try to get him to care. Talk to him and tell him that you still wnat to be friends with him because you miss him alot as a friend...

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Hi
I'm a 13 grl. I have a boyfriend and we've been going out for 5 months.. I really love him and I always want to be with him and he feels the same. We say we r going to get married someday.. well! I have a best friend and we've always kinda've liked each other and our friendship is growing.. my bf is going to high school next year and im going to be stuck behind for a year... he skipped a grade. but he's still my age. well! I don't know wut to do bc i want to kinda give our relationship a break when he goes to high school and get back together when i get there... but he wants to stay together.. and i dont want to break his heart or anything. please help!!!
confused girl

if you love him, why would you want to take a break? and if you really loved you bf, yeah you can have another crush i guess but you cant possibly like someone else...it just doesnt work that way i think....maybe you should take a break with your bf and if you miss him, then that means you really like him , and if u dont miss him- then it wasnt meant to be..

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Okay here's the deal I'm a freshman in high school. I know, I know ugh freshman. Anyway this's the deal I like a guy, and he's kind of a senior. He's taller than me and we... sort of get along. We argue about almost everything, I love it. Only thing, he has a girlfriend and there's a three year age difference. Now I know some of you are going to tell me to move on and try to find someone my age, but I really like him. =(

And I don't want to tell him I like him at least not yet, I love him and his friends, and I like his girlfriend too. So if I say something then they're all going to act ackwardly around me.

If you know he has a girlfriend, then dont interfere , if he likes you, he'll leave her n come to you....but dont come in between them, that'll just make you look bad in front of everyone and make everyone hate you...including his current girl.

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a month now. We dont get to see each other that much because we go to different schools, but im going to his school next month so things will get better. Well this weekend he wants to do somthin, but its up to me to find out somewhere for us to go on our date. We went to the movies last weekend so i want to go somewhere new. So if you have any good date ideas, please help.

umm i think ice skating is really cute, or you guys could go shopping together...to get a chineese place to eat....go eat ice cream....

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im 18 i have a son and im still with his dad but we fight alot the problem is i have a crush on this guy i grew up with he has a kid too and brings his son to my moms daycare i know he likes me but he has a girlfreind they fight sometimes , i want to tell him how i fell but i think that would be tottaly out of place and wrong what do u think ? thanks

First of all, if your going to tell this guy you like him, you should let your son's dad know you dont want to be with him anymore. And second, if you know the guy you like has a girlfriend...then I dont know if it'd be the wisest decision to come in between them, I mean yeah if he loves her he'll tell you but if he says he likes you too make sure you tell him to talk to her bout it all n den get bak to you. good luk

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is it bad to be white and have a crush on someone who's black or darker skinned than you? im not racist but ive always wondered! thanks in advance!

lol no its not bad. sometimes its frowned upon by some ignorant people but otherwise i dont think its bad.

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I am a 13 year old girl. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a while and we are both completely devoted to each other, trust each other and love each other very much. We are thinking about having sex with each other but I am not totally sure whether I should. It isn't my age that is worrying me, it's more the fact that I'm worried about him seeing my body and if I get it wrong or something. What should I do? Should I sleep with him?

I really strongly suggest NOT TO. Your only 13, it may seem like you have knowledge on all that but trust me, you don't until you grow older.

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Just yesterday i was playing on my computer trying to zone out from my problems and my sisters. Well anyways i'm juast asking for tips to help me out because i cant use my computer anymore and i need to zone out instead of remaining depressed like i have been for a while. I would tell people about my depression but i am very shy and i dont really like to talk. I need any tips to zone out and i will rate high for them............................. please help me out im going crazy!!!

Well, I think you should definately get some help, Depression is not normal. If your depressed, you wont just automatically get undepressed by playing a game or something. Find out if you have a physocologist at your school, if you dont, go talk to your counselor, or any teacher that is close you in private. I would suggest talking to your mom, she is the person who should be most closest to you and will try to help you the most. Also, if theres no reason for you to be depressed, ask your mom for any history of depression in your family, sometimes its not even your fault your depressed, its in your genes. Aight good luck!

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sry i didnt know what to put this under? but plz dont delete this question i need help!!! okay..when im on my period and i have a tampon in it always like "leaks" and i have spots of blood on my panties..and whenever i take it out theirs like part of the cotton that doesnt even have blood on it..it looks like it all just like slid to one side and came out..please help how can i stop this?????

Use a pad...lol haha sorry if it sounds sarcastic

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My boyfriend and me have been dating for a month. I was a virgin when we met he was surprised that I was. This weekend there was a party at my friend’s house and I invited him to come with me. We both got wasted and stoned. All night he was asking me to have sex and I kept saying no. I didn’t want to loose my virginity well I was drunk and stoned. I wanted to do it when I was ready as well. When I was in my friend room alone he came in and locked the door behind him again he asked me to have sex I was so drunk at that point I was about to pass out and so I said yes. So now I feel really bad is this a good thing?

If he keeps wanting to have sex and doesnt respect the fact you said NO....then why are you still with him? Its for your best...guys like this arent worth dealin with.

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What should I ask first?

a)screen name
b)cell number

Shes kinda, quiet. How do I get her to open up a bit? We both play guitar... I dont know if that owuld hlpe at all.

I think screenname because then you can get to know her better online....and den u can ask her for her number...by then you'll already know if shes into u or not ...good luk

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I'm 13 years old and a girl, and I'm about 4'1'', and i think 77 lbs. is this average or what? And also, is there anything I can do to help myself grow faster? or 'mature'? I'm not very large chested; I'm about a 32AA, and fairly skinny.
thanks
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Yea my cousin is 21 and shes 4'11....she just covers it up by wearing like 3-4 inch heels, but at 13, i dont think u need to wear dem, ur still growing...and if u really wanna make ur bones strong n grow healthy, DRINK MILK. that will really help you...being 4'11 at 13 is aight...and when you get lil bit older round 16-17..just wear high heels so you wont look funny.

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Im a 13 year old girl. I really like this guy but the only problem is that hes kinda popular and im scared that it would be embarassing if i asked him out and he turned me down. Can you tell me what i should do? Should i flirt with him...or not?

Just cause hes "popular" ..doesnt mean hes untouchable....if u like him..den go for it...if he refuses u...its all g...it shows that u have the ability to accept refusal...which is good to have.

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my boy friend is always calling my bf a bitch..shes like awsome though and i tell him not to call her that infront of me..but he still does..what do i do?

why doesnt he like her? well if he doesnt like her you cant force him to but just tell him to keep his rude comments to himself n if he doesnt...den it shows what kinda person he is...

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Yea hey,im da same dude who asked u bout da cuzin relationship thing,i aint white im paky...and i dunt know wut else to do!!!!!!!i mean i LOVE her!!!!!!!ill do anything for her!!!!!

haha oh ur paki too aite well den you most likely already know that cousins marrying eachother aint a big deal in our culture,so I guess you dont have to forget about her. If I were you, i would first decide if I actaully would wanan marry this girl u kno? cause if u just like her but dont wanna like actually spend da rest of ur life with her...tehrs no point in ever telling her...it'll just be akward for you and her.Even if you do want to marry her, i dont recommend on confessing your feeligns right now, your both so young and you'll probably scare her or something. Just keep talkin to her and like hint sometimes that you like her and you'll know if she likes you to because if she keeps talkin to u...and doesnt like freak out, that means she probably does like you..you kno? aight well good luck! peace for now

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