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Emotional Abuse??
I'm not sure but I may be a victim of emotional abuse. I've been with my guy since high school, more the half of a decade ago, and we have a child together. Now he doesn't call me names and put me down to my face, though he's come close before, but it's like whenever he's in a bad mood he takes it out on me, he blames EVERYTHING on me that comes to his mind. It makes me feel really low. I think he does it to make himself feel better but then I feel like total crap and I hang my head down and sigh for like hours. Sometimes I get so sick to my stomach over it. It's just this vicious cycle that keeps on going. He acts nice again and I love that person that he is when he is nice so I forget everything and am able to relax again for a little while. But when he changes faces again I'm like, "Oh why do I put myself through this, here we go again." I feel like such trash for putting up with it. I just love him so much, and I know he loves me but wonder if there's a part of him that hates me because he has to blame so much on me. And if I say anything when he is angry, ANYTHING, it makes him angrier and he doesn't listen to anything I have to say. His father treated his mother like this and I think he's following in his footsteps. I don't want my son to think this is how a man is supposed to treat a woman. So I'm just wondering if this is considered emotional abuse. Thanks.
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You really need to leave him. You and your child would be a lot better off without him. It could get a lot worse and maybe he could get physical. Right now is about the best time to leave before it gets worse. I see all guys as total assholes give that man a nice hard bitchslap n get the hell outta there. I wouldnt and I dont think you want your child getting involved with his anger. Yes I agree about your son even when you think you wont ever act like it..you always do it was just the way you were brought up. I say you take your son and leave. *good luck hun*
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yes,
if he is giving you emotinal pain is how i would put it yes and your son should not have a role model like this guy. go to couples therpy that should help.
hope this realasionship works
Luv Britt
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What you're experiencing is absolutely emotional abuse and it has the potential to escalate to physical abuse. The way your partner becomes hostile, blames others for his problems and then apologizes later is textbook abusive behavior. His behavior fits perfectly into something domestic violence experts call the "cycle of violence". Over time, he will become more abusive and his apologies will gradually disappear. If your son is witnessing this abuse, he will come to understand it as normal and will likely repeat the cycle later in his life. Most importantly, the abuse will take a serious toll on you emotionally and you simply do not deserve such treatment. I would recommend contacting a domestic violence agency in your area to get some free counseling. They can help you understand the abuse and get you the resources you need in order to move on with your life. Good luck!
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if his words hurt you in any way, then it's emotional abuse. many times in these sort of cases, the abuser does not know what he's doing. the best thing you can do at the moment is try to talk to him. tell him exactly how you feel, say it in an appropriate manner, but don't hold anything back, or it will just build up and make it worse. if he does not change, or the abuse worsens, you need to tell him that he'd better go see a counsler because you don't want your son to turn out like that. there is no reason for what he does, and don't ever try to make excuses for it. if he won't go by himself, then you should probably offer to go with him. i hope all goes well, and i hope this helped you... ~here to help~
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Girl, ofcourse its emotional abuse...why are you still with him? Just because you have a son together doesnt mean you need him...* Yes a husband/boyfriend is suppose to tell his girlfriend things and she's suppose to help him get through his deals n all but he shud never blame her for nethin she didnt do! Even if you have done something, he still has no right to yell at you and make you feel so bad. There are many guys out there that know all this, and you should be with someone who respects you and gives you the love you deserve. How do you know he loves you? Just because someone says sweet stuff to you doesnt mean they love you, I think you should definately leave him, and find someone who respects you. Respect is part of love, if he doesnt respect you, then how can he love you? Yeah couples argue, but this isnt argueing, if he's yellin at u and making you feel bad. I think you deserve better than him , this is definately emotional abuse....verbal abuse.
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if it makes you feel sad then it is emotional abuse. So when he's calm and nice then talk to him about it and make him agree to going to get some help because you don't want your child to be like that do you? so for the sake of your child and your family i would talk to someone about him...hope this helps
xoxo aliya
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Hey, sweetie, anything that makes you feel uncomfortable is probably emotional abuse. I guess what I would do, is like, when he's nice and everything, try talking to him about it. If he cares enough like you say he does, he'll listen to you. And maybe suggest to him about maybe going to a doctor or something, and try to get help, but if he doesn't want to, don't push it. Well, good luck, and I hope everything works out for you and him!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~
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Any situation that you feel uncomfortable is something you should not be in. Any situation like this, where he beats you down emotionally, is definitely emotional abuse--you have a right to feel good about yourself, because you are a wonderful, beautiful girl! Don't let yourself stay somewhere where you are held down. God bless, take care of yourself.
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Well, first of all, don't feel alone. You seem so warm and level headed. I think in your heart of hearts you know the answer to your question. Of course this is a form of emotional abuse. Isn't all of this effecting you emotionally, so yeah. You know it's okay for couples to argue, and bicker, and say things to one another that may hurt, but hopefilly they do not do it intentionally or mean to hurt you fully; only to get a point across. You are absolutely right when you said this is all like a vicious cycle. As hard as it may be and although it may cause even more fighting and anger I think you should try civily talking about all this with your companion and maybe calmly suggest that the two of you seek couples counseling. It sounds like the two of you do have a loving and comitted relationship together, but due in part to the fact that you were originally together in your youth, he has inherrited some of those immature and youthful tactics and actions. I think he also is now so comfortable with you and your relationship that he thinks you are going to tolerate everything he puts in front of you. Maybe bring that fact up to him ( not when he is already angry) Approach him with all of this when he is decent and just express to him how distraut you are feeling over all of this. If the two of you so choose to seek some form of counseling, go for it. Help your guy make changes for not only you and your son, but for himself as well. If he continues all these harsh patterns and shows no intentions of wanting or trying to change, you need to really think hard about your priorities as hard as it may be. Best of luck. :)
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