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is this a good thing
My boyfriend and me have been dating for a month. I was a virgin when we met he was surprised that I was. This weekend there was a party at my friend’s house and I invited him to come with me. We both got wasted and stoned. All night he was asking me to have sex and I kept saying no. I didn’t want to loose my virginity well I was drunk and stoned. I wanted to do it when I was ready as well. When I was in my friend room alone he came in and locked the door behind him again he asked me to have sex I was so drunk at that point I was about to pass out and so I said yes. So now I feel really bad is this a good thing?
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Well thats bad you got so Wasted and stonned like that.. thats not too good, but thats bad of your boyfriend to do , because he knew that you didnt want to in the first place, and then he locked you in the room and i know those kind of in the moment things, and its just to bad it had to happen that way, becuase now you dont have a good memories of when u lost it.. If i was you id get rid of ther boyfriend though Because ok.. when you first met him was surpised you hadn't had sex? so he probely thought you were some kind of slut too begin with, and then he knows you didnt want sex and he kind of presusred you into it when he knew you weRent all there. so thats sombody you want to stay away from, becuase it will probely happen again.. other then that dont worry too much abvout it Everyone makes mistakes, Just make sure that it doseNt happen again and stuff, other wise you will become slutish... so just watch yourself!
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no, its not a good thing, but i think you can blame it on the drugs and drinking. the worst is over for now, just as long as theres no rumors around school and he tells everyone about it.
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Technically, it is rape, anytime your having sex with someone when u are either on drugs or drunk, its rape...you should do something about it.
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you know, it's almost really hard to understand where you're coming from. i mean... i guess it's just hard to see that someone who was willing to get really drunk and really stoned would have the wish for enough morality to stay a virgin. if you feel bad that you did it with him and that you were pressured into it, it wasn't a good thing. if you feel like you only did it because you were drunk/high, it was a bad thing.
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Well it depends how old you are. Being a teenager (except for 18 and up) i think its a pretty bad thing, because your so young. Well you really need to stay of the drugs. You need to break up with your boyfriend too, because it seems like he was pressuring you into it. A good boyfriend wouldnt care if your a virgin, and he wouldnt be into sex and everything. So my advice is, find a guy you really like and who wouldn't pressure you into anything. And tell your boyfriend now that what you did was a mistake and never should of happened. And yeah, im serious lay off the drugs, they can do bad things to you.
Hope i could help!!
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wow!! thats deep. well 1) you shouldnt be drinking n stuff 2) you shouldnt have said yes but you no it was your mistake
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If he keeps wanting to have sex and doesnt respect the fact you said NO....then why are you still with him? Its for your best...guys like this arent worth dealin with.
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its not ur fault hunie! like my s/n seys i relly have been there an done that... he odviously felt strong urges becuase he was messed up and thought u would been feeling them too every ones bodies react to drugs an achohol differently.. now.. do u have a best friend ? someone just like u who likes to party? well if not find one find a GIRL it has to be a girl even if yall dont hang out 24/7 and make a pact or promise with her to watch out for each other at parties i have about 3 friends that we all made a promise and every 5 mins or so we check with them to make shure everyhthings ok an plan out how far u want get that night sey i was plannin on goin all the way or jus i would tell them dont worry about me what ever happens tonyte im cool w/ it or.. look ima be drinkin if u see me go n a room with a guy come get me.. i kno the otha guys myte b like ur cock blockin but ignore them friends come first and if u think ur gona pass out or something tell them and they'll put u n a room take care of u an keep an eye on u that makes things easer.. thats for next time.. also .. ur boyfriend took advantage or the situation but u cant b too hard on him beacuse he was just a messed up as you wich it no excuse but the problem with drugs and alchol is that.. people cant control them seleves... so what i suggesst is if u didn want to do it an even tho u have u still feel ur not ready sit down an talk about it.. and then if he makes stupid comments or gets mad break up with him hope i could help..
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Well it really depends. Did you really love this guy enough? I dont know how old you are but maybe it was too early. But whatever feels right, must be right.
good luck!!
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Its terrible.
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