about

I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






advice

13/guy
ok so the other day i called this guy whos my best girl friends(not relationship just good friends) bestt friend a fag and now she and another girl who knows him are really pissed off at me and i dont know why i called him that i didnt mean it i just said it for no reason so now they hate me
and i was wondering what i should do to get them to forgive me i have already apologised heaps of times and they wont text back or anything since its the christmas holidays i cant see them in person but ive only got a few days till school starts again so
how do i get them to forgive me
i really still want to be friends with both girls
please help

Well, you've apologized, so you've done all you can really do. Its up to them to forgive you. You can't just "get" someone to forgive you. You just have to give it time to hopefully blow over. If they don't let it go, then you just have to live with that.


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This girl and i have been hanging out for awhile and she is pregnant and we are just friends but now we are alittle more than friends but she has mood swings bad and makes me want to cut and run but i dont want to be like the other guys in her life i like her but im lost. i mean its not like she has a kid thats easy to deal with but she has one in her belly which makes everything complicated. im just not sure if its worth sticking around i want to but not sure if she's actually ready to have another guy in her life.

Well, it's all up to you as to whether or not you want to have a relationship with her and a baby. You can't have one with just her.

Personally, I say to just wait it out as friends and see where things go later. Right now, her hormones are all going insane. The bad mood swings are due to that. Most every pregnant woman goes through that. I know I did, because I was an outright bear at times.

Also, because her hormones are the way they are, you don't want her to decide that she wants to be with you on a hormonal whim, just to have her turn around and decide the relationship won't work once her mind and body returns to it's normal state. (Well, as normal as it gets after she becomes a mother...)

Be there, be her friend, don't cut and run on the friendship when she has those mood swings. She can't help it, and right now she needs real friends in her life. Let her have the baby and get adjusted to the fact that her life will never be the same again before you try to become the man in her life.

But that's my opinion.

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I THINK this is tom cruise...am I right?

Anyway, what movie is this from?

Tom Cruise as Lestat in Interview with a Vampire.

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This is not in this catagory but I couldn't find anywhere else to put it. I really want a Nintendo DS Lite. I know, "everyone has one!" Except me. For my birthday, I am begging all my friends for Best Buy gift cards. I think I have a chance at getting the $200 for the system and games, but how can I convince my parents that THAT'S what I want- they would rather I got DDR. I hope that once I get to Best Buy they won't be able to say no if I REALLY want it, which I do, but still......

Ok, I have no clue what DDR is...

It is my opinion that if your friends are giving you these gift cards, they are doing it so that you can go and buy yourself what you want for your birthday.

That's the whole point of gift cards.

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I do not want this earth anymore, i want to go, i do not belong here, I do not like pain, so i have to do it painless.

You know, this is a site where we all pull together to help people with their problems in life. No matter how big or small the problems may be, we do our best.

How about adding information to your question about what's ailing you so we can do our best for you, too? Asking us suicide advice is unrealistic, for we don't give that type of advice to anyone.

Maybe we can help you want to stay on this earth if you just give us a chance to.

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i'm a normal teenage girl- who worries about her weight, as many do at my age (15). I live with my mom and older sister. My sister has been really stressed because of school, and my mom has been going through a lot of stuff and has been also really stressed. At meals, they will both eat very little, and i'm no genius, but in my situation i watch everything that i eat, and when i'm surrounded by a family that is eating a lot less it makes me feel awful if i'm still hungry and go and eat a bit more. or if i go into the kitchen to snack later, you get my drift? Oh, and my dad is on a diet. My mom is slim but she is very anti-diet and anti-teenagers worrying about weight, but it's making me feel bad. I don't want to talk to her about it, but she knows i have obsessed over my eating in the past.
what should i do?

Well, if your mom is facing a lot of stress, it could be that it's causing her to have only little appetite.

I know you don't want to talk to her about it, but perhaps it will make you feel loads better about things if you do.

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so my younger sister never spends any time (out of school) with her friends. she is in 8th grade, and i would think that at least some girls her age are hanging out on weekends, i mean i remember having sleepovers with my friends when i was that age. anyways, i was wondering if this was normal? the last time she did anything with her friends was when she went to the movies one time in the summer...

she's not in fights with any of them either...

When I was that age, I didn't spend a lot of time with my friends, either. However, I did spend some time with them.
I was just a home body, I guess. Maybe that's true with her.

Have you tried to sit down and talk to her about your concerns? You are her big sister, and she looks up to you more than you surely realize.


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I am a 22 year old Korean/Guamanian woman who has a mom that just doesn't get me...EVER! I constantly get disrespected from my sister, the one person who I thought I can depend on in my life. Since we were little, my YOUNGER sister has always tried to step over me and at first, I was a very passive person, but as I got older, I knew I wasn't going to tolerate it. The most recent incident was when I asked (NOW I MEAN ASKED) my sister to have a little more consideration for my parents when they drive 3 1/2 hours to pick her up from college and take her and her friend home (She asked my parents to take her friend along in front of her friend, so it made my mom feel obligated). I didn't try to be rude, I was being assertive about it and there my sister goes rolling her eyes at me and saying "I didn't come down here to argue with you, this has nothing to do with you!" So what was I supposed to do, let her just say that to me? Hell no! I told her to stop disrespecting me. And all my mom could say was, girls, stop arguing. I asked my mom how can she just let my sister disrespect me like that and all she said was, you guys are grown, what do you want me to do? (I mean, you are the MOTHER!) When I first moved out of my house, I asked the same thing to my mom a few years back and she told me, "well what do you expect, if you act like that" (I have realized my rebellion back in the day was stupid and wrong, but I have admitted to it and tried to make things right from this point) My mom started to yell at me for no reason! She is putting words in my mouth, which I had not said many of the things she claimed I did (claiming I said that she treats my sister better than me). I never said any of that! All I was trying to do was help my mom and dad… My mom just said, “well I let you say what you want to say because I know you were not in the wrong.” So I said, but its okay that my sister disrespects me and you just sit there and watch it happen? Isn’t she wrong for doing that? I don’t know! I was always brought up to respect your elders, even if they are one year older, etc. Especially considering since I am her older sister, I expected more from her. There is so many problems between me and my family and it is catching with me, I think I’m going crazy! I constantly cry about things and I am hurt because I feel like I have no one to be there for me, but myself. I feel lonely! You hope to go to your parents for comforting and support. But I can’t even get that! My parents pay my sisters way through college, but because I moved out, I can’t get help for just books. I don’t know what to do…..

Well, you have to see that your mother is right when she says you're grown. As we become adults, we have to deal with our problems in an adult manner. Meaning, we deal with it ourselves, unless we have no other choice than to seek out the help of another.

As for your sister being disrespectful to your parents, there isn't anything you can do about it. Arguing and pointing it out does nothing but cause even more arguing and fighting and hurt feelings.

You need to realize that your parents are grown, too. They ALLOW her to do these things to them, so she does them. Not your problem. I know you don't like it, but you need to start realizing that it's THEIR choice to let this go on.
So your mom felt obligated to take this friend. She could have also very easily said NO. She CHOSE not to.

As for them not helping you with books, have you ever stopped to think that maybe they have pride in you for your ability to do for yourself? I mean, you've moved out on your own! Do you understand how good it makes a parent feel to know their child is out in the world and making it? You probably don't realize that they are most likely very proud of you, even if they don't say it. And they may feel that buying your books will do your independence more harm that good.

Seriously. Look at your sister and how she is dependent on your parents right now. 10 years from now, she will likely STILL be dependent on someone else; relying on others to get her through her life. You, dear, will be an independent woman in this world. That is certainly something to hold your head high about.

All the stuff between your sister and your parents is something you'd be a lot better off learning to let it roll off your back. Its between her and them, so don't let it get you down. I know it's hard, but give it a shot, ok? There will probably be a heck of a lot less arguing and fighting.

As for comfort and support, rather than asking your parents to help you get books, ask their advice on how you should go about getting them. I'd willing to bet you'd get a better response out of them, because its just a matter of what kind of help you ask of them. They'd surely rather you ask for help in the manner of their advice, rather than asking for help in the manner of money.


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i am a 37 year old male and in financial dire straits. not enough space here to go into details. shame and depression have caused both spouses to lose jobs and any quality of life. we have become reclusive and no longer take phone calls or visits from anyone. mother has known of our difficulties for 1+ yr from other sources, since im too ashamed to speak to her. she hasn't attempted to call in 6+ months. i never thought she had finances to help, but today i learned thru a bank error that she has $62k in savings. should i be upset that she has not offered help?

Should you be upset with her? No. You should be upset with yourself for having feelings of entitlement over money that she has worked hard at TWO JOBS for. Sure, she may have $62k in the bank, but it is not your money, and she doesn't have to give it to you, whether you ask or not.

She is 66 years old. That could be money she's saving to survive on so she can retire.
She lives debt free, and doesn't have credit cards. Seems to me like she lives well within her means, as wise person would do.

As said before, perhaps since your sister's name is on the account, it is her account. Maybe she just used your mother as joint account member for if in the event something happens to her. If it's your mother's account, well, ever consider your poor judgments? I wouldn't allow my sons to share my savings account if they have shown poor judgment.

How you did as a kid or in school makes no difference in the here and now. Sounds like you're trying to justify yourself and your mistakes rather than learn from them and strive to do better.

As for her not calling, you said yourself you don't answer the phone, and last I heard the phone lines go both ways. You want her to call to ask if your ok... Do you give her that same consideration?

Even though you aren't looking for a free ride, she doesn't owe you anything in this life. You owe it to yourself to stop being reclusive and doing something for yourself.

Poor judgment is not a crime. However, you are responsible for your own mistakes and bad choices. One of the biggest problems in this country is that most people are always looking to someone else to bail them out of problems they have created for themselves. Be self reliant, and take responsibility for yourself.

I have to sink or swim in my life. I say you better start doggy paddling. Even if you have to work at Taco Bell or something. It's an honest pay check that will eventually create $800.

Live your life instead of hiding from it.

Just being honest, because that's definitely what you need to hear.

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Ok my moms boyfriend is about the same age as you are. My problem with him is that he seems to want to know about my business. And when he wants something it has to be done. and whatever he thinks its what my mom has to follow. It gives me a problem cause my life is my life. I dont think that just cause he is around or help us out a little that he can just act like he owns us both. I dont apreciate being insulted and that is what seems to be coming from his mouth. He is a freaking idiot. I accept him very whole heartedly but he makes it bad.

Wow, this guy sounds like a jerk.
Have you talked to your mom about this?
I mean, sitting down and having a calm conversation without either of you getting angry or irritated. (When such emotions flare, people start talking AT each other, rather than TO each other. Neither person actually listens when the whole talking at thing happens.)

This is my opinion.
He is her BOYFRIEND, not her HUSBAND. Meaning, he is not your step father, therefore has no business telling you how to run your life. That is HER place, not his.

If she wants to follow his lead about everything, then that is on her. It's her life to live. HOWEVER. Wouldn't things be that much easier if you weren't expected to play follow the leader with this guy?

Most importantly, you need to make sure your mother understands that he insults you, which upsets and hurts you.
You should NEVER be expected to put up with being insulted by ANYONE.

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I just moved to a new area (for my job). All of my friends and family are a great distance away from me now. A coworker here has invited me to a New Years Eve party that she is throwing. I don't want to show up alone but it seems like that's my only option if I am going to show up (which I do want to go to her New Year's Eve party as a friendly gesture).

I'm not dating anyone and have no male friends that would be suitable for a party of this sort that live nearby. I want to make a good impression at the party but I'm not sure if having a date (or not) influences that.

Do you think it's tacky (or pitiful/sad/overall bad) to go to a local New Year's Eve event by myself? I mean, can I go to a New Year's Eve party alone?

Thanks for your input!

Why on earth would it be tacky? Many people go to such gatherings alone. No one is going to look down their nose about it, and if someone does... Well, such people aren't worth your time to begin with.
So why waste worry on "those people."

Besides, going without a date gives you more time to mingle and meet people. Good way to make new friends in your area.

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I am trying to make some videos off of windows movie maker. my movies are made off of my camera that you use to take pics and not a video camera. i know i need to convert my vids to avi, mpg, mpeg, or something else. i used "Any Video Converter" to convert them. I converted one to avi, mpg, and mpeg. I try to upload all of them from the three different deals to the windows movie maker. when i import them at the end of it it says

The file C:\Documents and Settings\Kelsie\My Documents\Any Video Converter\AVI\Kelse&Kadi- country grammar_xvid.avi cannot be imported because the codec required to play the file is not installed on your computer. If you have already tried to download and install the codec, close and restart Windows Movie Maker, and then try to import the file again.

I have closed it and reopened it several times. i've even restarted my computer. what do i do?

Follow this link to a similar question I answered:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=552467

It's a free converter program I use, and I've had no trouble with the converted videos with WMM.
Instructions on how to use the program are also listed in the answer I gave at that link.

Good luck! :-)

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so i'm getting my nose pierced this friday (december 19th) and i was wondering on a scale of 1-10, 10 being the most painful, what is it? also, i have my ears, cartalidge, lower cartalidge and belly button done, if you have any of these pierced can you compare the pain to a nose piercing. thanks!

It's about a 1, tongue being a 4.

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Hi Im female and Im 17. The problem is that my mom is choking me and my space. She always wants to know everything...I have a job as tutor and make some money. She always asks me when I get payed and she always gets in my business calling people to scream at them to pay me (which is rude) and i know they´ll pay me later I have no problem with that. She is always going through my backpack too she cant see a paper in my room cause she´ll look at it. She is always asking me questions at the wrong times like when Im doing my algebra homework shell come and start talking and asking me questions which doesnt allow me to think at all. And when somebody calls me she always needs to know who it was and what it was for and if i dont tell her she gets mad saying that im horrible. If I asked her all of those questions she would get really pissed off (I know cause i tried it once) Its driving me nuts she is also so needy she´s always calling me to do a lot of stuff for her like repair the t.v. or other utensils or do my brother´s project because, according to her, "Im the brain of the family" its annoying and it makes me feel bad...like if im supposed to be a full grown up and an expert in everything which im not and when i cant do it...she insults me...really bad...please help me...what can i do?

Don't feel bad that she calls you "the brain."
It's a compliment.
Take it.
Feel good about it.
You obviously deserve it or she wouldn't say it.

I'm sure that you've already realized that she's getting into every part of your life because she cares enough to do it. Believe me when I say that as you get older, you'll look back on that and be grateful. This world we live in can be a very scary place! There are people at every corner who will gladly take advantage of you in some way or another.

Many kids don't have parents who care what they're doing.

I know that doesn't help you, but maybe this will:
Talk to her.
Don't be angry when you do. Don't be defensive.
Tell her that you understand she's just looking out for you, but you need some space. Assure her that if you need her help, or find yourself in a bad spot, you will go right to her about it.

As for fixing the T.V., she needs your help because she doesn't know how. Next time she asks you to fix something, try to get her to observe so she can try to do it herself the next time.
Remind her that one day you'll be off in the world, attending college or whatever you'll be doing, so she won't have you there to fix these things.

When she interrupts your homework, it may be because she just wants to talk to you. When she does that, maybe ask her, "Hey, since you're in here, maybe you can help figure out this algebra problem..." Even if you don't really need the help, it would make her feel good that you asked, which will in turn make you feel good.

Or, you can say, "Sorry, Mom, but I really need to get this homework done. I'll be glad to talk when I get finished." Then make the time to sit down and talk to her.
(That also may help with her smothering behavior. Let her into your life and she doesn't have to quiz you, etc.)

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I was in a parking lot today and hit the back of a car, which resulted in relatively little damage to the car, but a dent in the front part of my bumper. I was so shaken up I drove off, but I realized there was a lady behind me who saw me hit the car. I highly doubt she even had time to take down my license plate number, but I am getting really worried that something might happen...

Any thoughts?? I live in California, btw.

If it were me in your shoes, I'd try to come clean about it.

It's just the right thing to do.

Even though there was little damage, put yourself in that car owner's place. Would you want someone to hit your car and they drive off, not even trying to square up later?

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Ok i have Vocal Tourettes so i make noises, and have hiccups 24/7, I hate it, ppl look at me all the time and sometimes laugh. How do i deal with it?? its hard sometimes

I have no idea what it's like to walk in your shoes, but I'll try to help.

When people look and laugh, you could try to laugh with them. If you're walking down the street when you encounter these people, they have no idea that you aren't making the noises on purpose. They may just think you're doing it to be comical.

For example, if you walked by me and made noises, I'd probably laugh. Not to be mean to you, but because I'd figure you were doing it purposely to be funny. I wouldn't be laughing AT you. Does that make any sense?

Or you could just explain, "I have Tourettes." However, I honestly don't see why you should feel you have to explain yourself to everyone you pass in the streets.

Or, you could always use your outbursts as props to crack jokes. It makes others laugh, and it makes you laugh with them. I have my flaws (we ALL do) and finding humor in them, and sharing that humor, makes me feel good about myself. It makes me feel good to be able to crack jokes about myself and get a good laugh out of someone.

I don't know. Maybe none of my suggestions are what you're looking for. Like I said, I have no clue what it's like wearing your shoes.

I agree that surrounding yourself with supportive people is a fine idea. However, that also puts you in the position of living your life in a bubble. If you ask me, that's no way to live your life.
Have a support system, but go out and enjoy the world. The world can be a cruel and cold place sometimes, but in the end of the day, you have that warm group of people waiting for you.

I know you hate it, but try not to. Tourettes is a part of who you are. Don't hate who you are at any cost. Try to learn to like everything about yourself. Life doesn't seem so hard when you do.

Hope that was some sort of help to you. :-)

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Okay, I know this is a seemingly weird question to ask, but I will ask it anyway, and hope that it is only older individuals who can offer helpful answers who will respond. I dated a guy two years ago and have remained very close friends with him since, but we broke up because he could not be as affectionate as I wanted him to be, which drove me crazy. So now I'm thinking about the bigger picture, and how when I'm around him everything else seems to fit when we're friends, and I'm wondering this. Do I consider marrying him in the future because we get along so well but possibly sacrifice a booming sex life? I have to say, when it comes to girls, I'm about the only one who understands him, or who tolerates him, and I know he cares deeply for me, but I guess I just know I'd be happy spending the rest of my life around him every day, but don't know if that means with him as my husband. He's just a friend I never want to lose, so I can't tell if I want to keep him around intrinsically or just so I have my life planned. I love him a lot, but would that be settling? Help! I can send more info if you're interested too.

The only thing I can tell you is what I know.

My husband is, outside of my mother, my best friend.

A marriage takes more than a sex life to be healthy.


Other than that, you're on your own in this decision. Marriage is a serious life-impacting decision that you have to think long and hard about.

It's not who are you settling for, it's who is good enough to share your ENTIRE life with.

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Omg,
So since its been getting colder;
My hair is like getting kinda frizzy latley.

It sucks :[
My hair is wavy.
But like ive been thinking of getting like
one of those straight perms.

& like i was wonderig,
if i get it,(the perm)
will my hair still frizz or no?

& also if theres any do it at home ones,
which are TRUElY the BEST ones cos i dont want to f*ck up my hair lol
THANK U!

Perms will cause your hair to frizz more, from my experience.
Whether you perm to curl or perm to straighten, the chemicals have to damage the hair strands to get the desired effect. Damage causes frizz. Hair breakage from heat and chemical damage cause more frizz.

If you are thinking perm to try to end the frizz, I wouldn't do it. I'd get some Frizz Ease or something. (I use John Freida, and it works really well.)

If you are wanting to get a perm just to get one and are hoping to cure the frizz, get your perm, but also get a deep conditioner. They recommend using deep conditioning weekly- I'd use it twice a week at minimum.
Also get some of that Frizz Ease I mentioned.

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hi I am a wife and a mother mother of four great kids. I love my family to death but they say that I am onesided and to hard on them. I however dont see that way. I just think i want the best for them. Now mind you 3 of my kids are handicapped and this puts alot of stress on me. it seems at times that I am the only parent in the house. my husband works and I stay home with the kids. I cook,clean,help kids with their things and try to be a loving wife. but when he comes home if feel i need a break and it is his time with them. we do share so household chores. but when it his day to do something he useally doesnt do or only half way do it. and i feel if you start something you need to finish no matter what. he says that i have to have my way about everything and that i dont care what he feels or how it makes him feel. he also says that I have a way of doing everything and if i see someone doing it diffrent then its wrong. plus he say I have a spot for everything and that the house isnt going to stay clean and I should let it go sometimes and chill.he also state that no matter what he does it doent please me. Now I feel that you should have a clean house and keep it nice but i now its not going to stay clean but if you see something out of place put it away this makes it easier on me.should i chill? i have a very bad temper and we get into fights not hand to hand but yelling matches and sometimes i feel that i am not tiring my best to stop the fights and that im overbearing and out of control what should I do? i feel sometimes that it would be easier to be by myself.

mylife

I fully agree with Nallie... You need a break!

I'm currently a stay home mom of two sons, 21 months and 8 months old. The boys and my home are very demanding of me.
To keep up with them and my housework means I'm constantly moving and going, going and moving. I often feel like I never get anything accomplished, though I know I do.

My suggestion? Tell him you appreciate his help when he helps. He'll do more if he feels he's ACTUALLY doing something to help.

Me? I like things done a certain way. It bugs me if it isn't done that very certain way. HOWEVER. When my husband helps, he does it his way. Though I don't like his way of doing it, I thank him up and down for helping.

See, it's the thought behind it. He does his best to help me, even if I think I would have done it different or better. He TRIES. I appreciate that he is willing to do things to help around the house. Since he knows I appreciate it, he continues to help out, unasked.

I understand he probably wants to come home and put his feet up for a while. He's had a long day at work. Guess what? So have you! If he comes home to put his feet up, put yours up right next to him.

I say you should chill.
Not because I think you are some weirdo, or something, but because I know where you're coming from. Because you work your tail off from the time you get up until the time you go to bed, 7 days a week, 52 weeks a year.
You should chill because you deserve to say, "Eh. That book over there needs to go in it's place. BUT. Today, I'm going to let it go. It's my day off."

Unless someone has walked in the shoes of a stay at home mother, they don't quite understand that we don't have time to sit in front of soaps and eat Bon Bons. That's "Married With Children" TV show crap.

Being someone who has a grand idea of what your every day is like, I know you need some time off work. You need some time for yourself. You need to put your feet up, soak in a bath, enjoy a hot shower, etc.

I also agree that you and your husband need to take time for each other. Call in the sitter, or ask a friend/relative to look after the kids for an evening and go out to dinner and a movie. Or just get take out and rent a movie. Something.

You can keep a nice home without it being a strain on you, your husband, your marriage. You just have to remember that having a nice home is all well and good, but having everything in it's place isn't as important as you and your family unit.

Good luck to you, and I hope that helps out. :-)

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I am 17 years old and I have a child who is going to be 2 in January. Well I have had unprotected sex with no sign of pregnancy neg. tests and everything. Well I have been dating my boyfriend/ fiance for a while now and we have unprotected sex often and if I am pregnant I dont mind but tests are always neg. I havent taken one in a while but I was always tired and smelled onions for a while and that is starting to go away. Now I feel like i am going to throw up but i don't and i have to go to the restroom ALL the time. I dropped my boyfriend off at 8;45 ish and had to go to the bathroom but didnt get to until like 9:20 then one more time by 10. then 4 times from 10-12. and its like i have to go so bad i can hardly hold it. Is it signs of pregnancy? and my nose is bleeding now and I havent had a nose bleed in a while!! PLEASE HELP

No matter what other symptoms you have, the only way to tell is if you are late for your due period and take a test.

Since you are still 17, I'd say wait until you are 2 weeks late. As a teen, your cycle is not likely regulated just yet.

With pregnancy tests, false negatives are by far more common than false positives. Reason being, if taken too early, you won't have accurate results.
By the time you are a week or two late for your period, there would be enough of the pregnancy hormones present in your urine if you are pregnant. (Those hormones are what gives that positive test result.)

That's why I say at 17 years old, play it safe and take it when you're 2 weeks late. Make sure your test results are accurate.

ygs-30/f

P.S.
I also thought I'd add that going by symptoms alone isn't wise. Many early pregnancy symptoms are the same as PMS symptoms.

I can tell you that your worries over it could be causing you to experience symptoms similar to those you experienced during your last pregnancy. Been there myself, not so long ago.

Believe it or not, your brain can be very crafty at tricking your body into feeling a certain way. Meaning, if you worry over it enough, your worries alone can trigger your brain to cause you to feel these symptoms. (If that makes any sense.)

Just like stressing and worrying over it can cause your period to come late.

-ygs

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