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To wed or not to wed
Okay, I know this is a seemingly weird question to ask, but I will ask it anyway, and hope that it is only older individuals who can offer helpful answers who will respond. I dated a guy two years ago and have remained very close friends with him since, but we broke up because he could not be as affectionate as I wanted him to be, which drove me crazy. So now I'm thinking about the bigger picture, and how when I'm around him everything else seems to fit when we're friends, and I'm wondering this. Do I consider marrying him in the future because we get along so well but possibly sacrifice a booming sex life? I have to say, when it comes to girls, I'm about the only one who understands him, or who tolerates him, and I know he cares deeply for me, but I guess I just know I'd be happy spending the rest of my life around him every day, but don't know if that means with him as my husband. He's just a friend I never want to lose, so I can't tell if I want to keep him around intrinsically or just so I have my life planned. I love him a lot, but would that be settling? Help! I can send more info if you're interested too.
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Maybe you guys will just be best friends and maybe it will turn into more. I mean, husbands SHOULD BE best friends too right? So it should be that easy.
These things take time though. Could you see yourself with him for the rest of your life? Could you picture having a family with him?...Carrying home on occasions to your parents? It's not just a 'should i or shouldn't i' situation since this deals with the rest of your life.
Use your head and heart. Maybe you think you LOVE him alot now, but when you meet someone else you fall head over heels in love with that guy. It's not something that happens overnight either. I don't think i can picture marrying one of my best friend (boy) right away. Time determines it.
But to me he just sounds like a BEST friend, nothing more right now.
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"He's just a friend I never want to lose{..}"
When you used the word just, you summed it up. He's just a friend. Would you rather marry someone who is "just a friend" or someone who is your best friend, lover, other half, etc? I don't believe in soul mates, but I do believe love can last forever. Someone who is "just a friend" probably isn't someone you are going to love forever.
With that being said, no one on advicenators can make this decision for you. We can give you our opinion, but whether he is a suitable husband or not is up to you.
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maybe he's gay
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The only thing I can tell you is what I know.
My husband is, outside of my mother, my best friend.
A marriage takes more than a sex life to be healthy.
Other than that, you're on your own in this decision. Marriage is a serious life-impacting decision that you have to think long and hard about.
It's not who are you settling for, it's who is good enough to share your ENTIRE life with.
ygs-30/f
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