mystified73 answered Friday June 4 2010, 11:59 am: Don't do it. My fiancee killed himself,things were going rough for us. Mostly money, he couldn't find a job. Life is sooooooooooo worth living. I miss him so much, and this affected so many people, including his kids. They say suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. It is true. We all have problems, but it always gets better, and we grow from the things we go through. Think about your family and friends. If you are having a really hard time, call the suicide hotline, talk to someone you trust, anything. Please, PLEASE don't do this. [ mystified73's advice column | Ask mystified73 A Question ]
Peeps answered Saturday January 23 2010, 4:35 pm: There is no "best" way to commit suicide.
Every way causes pain.
Pain for you.
Pain for the people that love you.
Pain for the people surrounding you.
Pain for the people that interact with you or see you regularly.
There are many different suicide hotlines that you can call toll-free. Here are a few, varying by state:
In which they have a hotline number (1-800-448-3000). They claim to they can help:
"...with suicide prevention, depression, school issues, parenting troubles, runaways, relationship problems, physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, chemical dependency, anger and much more."]]
The best way to commit suicide is not available. There isn't a painless way to commit suicide. There really isn't a quick way to commit suicide. It doesn't exist because we're not suppose to be doing that sort of thing to ourselves. Many people have suggested that overdosing on things like sleeping pills are effective on a quick, painless death but it isn't so:
"Many people who have overdosed on various pills live later to tell how painful it was. Overdosing is not as simple as falling asleep and never waking up. Many people break out into cold sweats, have seizures, severe stomach pains, and so-on. Overdosing is painful and is not a "quick, painless way out" of life.
Overdosing on any type of pill is definately not painless and quick:
Overdosing usually leads to messy, painful and long-drawn-out consequences, including slow poisoning. There is not really a pain-less way to find death. If you attempt suicide, be aware that you will probably be in pain for the last bit of your consciousness, no matter what method you choose.
Imagine suddenly having problems breathing and feeling very dizzy and weak. You have to sit down in the floor and before you know it, things are spinning around you and you break out in a sweat. You have to lay down on the floor because you're so weak. Your stomach is hurting--it feels like something is going to rip out of your flesh and eat you alive. Your body starts to shake on it's own, but your muscles hurt so bad you just can't stand it. It's hard to breath now, you're gasping for air, but you can't see anything around you. You lay on the floor, in a puddle of your sweat, while you pray the pain stops. You begin to lose control of normal body functions, maybe you just urinated yourself. You slip in and out of consciousness, in and out of feeling jolts of extreme pain throughout your body that you can no longer control. You finally lose consciousness completely.
You wake up 6 months later. Someone, through a miracle of God, had found you in your very unpleasant state. You scared them deeply and they rushed you to the emergency room, where you spent hours of some group of workers time while they prayed they could save your life. A little 3-year-old boy died because they had to work on you before they could get to him but you won't ever know that. You're awake in a hospital bed you've been taking up for the past 6 months. You've lost your job in this time. Your friends and family have became ill from worry, and a couple have begun thinking of suicide themselves for "pushing you" to it. You now have a slew of medications you have to take daily or you become ill. You've lost control of coordination and will have to have physical therapy in HOPES you regain the ability to walk. You have problems talking and your words are slewed--you'll have to go through speech therapy too.
You cannot hold a decent job if you wanted to now. You cannot even walk from to the restroom without falling twice. You cannot communicate clearly enough for most people to understand you. If you aren't up with your medication, you wet yourself, so you have to constantly be wearing Depends. Because of your medications and your physical disabilities now you have lost your license and are unable to regain the privilege of driving. Your friends and family treat you like an infant--afraid of every move you make. You no longer can live on your own because you need physical assistance. You cannot even hold a pot up long enough to get it to the stove so you don't have one at all. Your neighbors have their eye on you now--just in case--and they talk about how strange you are and that they heard this and that from why you are disabled now.
Which is better? Your life now or the possible outcomes of your life after trying to commit suicide?
I'm sure you'd rather be alive and decently well than to wake up in 6 months, alone, confused, and impaired in some way.
Bad times always get better. You don't want to be left in a painful state, even if you got your stomach pumped if a family member found you is not a pleasant experience and you WILL remember it for a long time."
Now, for my advice...
Make your life meaningful.
Many people seem to be having this sort of problem now and I truly think that it's because we have lost the right path in life.
I don't mean this to be bad but I'm not sure how to put it: you need to start focusing on other people other than yourself all of the time. If you make your time useful and helpful to others, you will gain a sense of care about yourself. You will soon realize that you HELP others and that other people need and appreciate you.
Many people now are so busy with their own lives that they lose sight of what it is to be loving and caring. You see, knowing that you are helping others does great things for the self-imagine. You soon realize that you aren't useless and just a blob of flesh bobbing along through life.
It really seems that the problem is our current lifestyles. We no longer "have time" to help others. Nobody volunteers now because they feel that they should be paid money for their time. Nobody goes out of their way to show care for others because that time could be used for something else. Both of these are common and we're taught (it's drilled into our heads) that we are the most important in our lives. This is not true at all: the people surrounding us are the most important.
The people who surround you create your sense of belonging though. Those people help you to see yourself as useful. Those people are the ones that can show care back for you. Without those people, you aren't anything anymore.
The media keeps telling us to only worry about ourselves. Sure, it's find to tend to your own needs--but what happens when everyone is too busy with themselves? What happens when everyone stops worrying about caring for others? They become depressed, wondering why they don't belong somewhere and why they feel lost in society. That is what is happening to you, most likely, whether you realize it now or not.
What's strange is the more we focus on ourselves and stop helping others, the less we feel good about ourselves. As humans, we NEED interaction. We NEED acceptance. We NEED to know we are important in life. Most of all though, we desperately NEED to help others to gain all of that plus more.
I highly suggest that you stop focusing on yourself. Yes, still continue to get help but try to put your excess time/energy/efforts into others. Find places to volunteer regularly at.
Am I right in this? I bet I am...:
*You feel worthless, unimportant, and useless.
*You feel like you simply cannot do anything right.
*You do not feel needed, and maybe not even loved.
*You feel like people wouldn't miss if you if you disappeared, or that they would get over your departure quickly.
*You feel empty inside--like something huge is missing but you cannot pinpoint it.
*You feel like your best will never be good enough because YOU are not good enough.
*You feel like nobody is genuinely interested in you and what you have to offer (though you may feel that you don't have much to offer)
All of this is exactly what I'm talking about. You need to make more of your life. By giving to others, you are creating your sense of worth. You will soon realize that YOU DO make a difference and that people appreciate and care about you. You will realize that when you have to skip a volunteer day for a doctor's appointment that many of the people you have been helping will ask what happened to you--Ah-hah, there's your sense of belonging! You will begin to realize that being involved with the care of others can be very fulfilling spiritually.
Spend time at soup kitchens helping the hungry, volunteer at shelters, visit the elderly in homes so they're not as lonely (not everyone has visitors and just about everyone has neat stories to tell), read Bible passages to younger children, volunteer at local animal shelters, donate your time to what needs you, and do whatever you can with that time. You may even consider doing random acts of kindness:
If you feel like you don't have time now--make time. Alter your daily schedules to fit a few hours in for volunteering. Instead of being on the computer for an hour, log in only for 15 minutes and do what you NEED to do. Instead of sitting at home for dinner every day, take one day a week to eat at the soup kitchen after volunteering there.
Focus on who needs you. In essence, this is all for YOU so this is important. Helping others will help you.
I suggest you grab a phone book and make a few calls. Sit down with a calendar and set up one or more days a week to volunteer your time at certain places. Don't stress yourself out trying to fit things into busy schedules, but move things around so that your schedule won't be hectic but will have the fulfilling volunteer time in it.
It isn't your fault that you feel this way. You have just been fooled all of these years into believing that you are number one. Relax and focus on taking time for others and you will eventually find what is missing, trust me.
I hope that you find your way through this struggle quickly. I know it can be a hard road to travel and if you aren't willing to open up to your friends and family it's going to be a lot harder. Remember that they are there to help you, not hurt you. They may be helpful at giving you advice or finding you some reliable help so you don't have to journey alone.
I hope you take my advice and improve your life before things get worse. If you have any further questions regarding this subject please feel free to ask me!
wolfmoon answered Wednesday January 14 2009, 1:34 pm: Dude, why dont you just turn it around and help people who are in the same predicament as you. Man, i used to feel the same way...I had a favorite song from the band staind "epiphany" lead singer aaron lewis. he has been through so much in his life. Well, my point is that one day i heard that same song, but it was a live version. when he was singing this song so many people were singing with him and cheering and whistling, and i was like holy crap i am not alone! i am really not alone, and so many freakin people felt the same way that i did, and that aaron lewis has been through these same things and he is still here, he beat it he won. You can be selfish dude and think this is only happening to you. If you ever want to type firstname.lastname@example.org [ wolfmoon's advice column | Ask wolfmoon A Question ]
an_injured_poet answered Monday January 12 2009, 11:10 am: Honestly there are many ways to die a painless death. But I'm not crazy and stupid to point it out to you one by one.
Life is full of shit, I have to tell you that. We all have our shares of life's cruel jokes and have been victims of its gruelling realities. But it doesn't have to end there! How to survive in this world takes tremendous effort and tedious undertaking. It all depends on how we deal with it.
Brandi_S answered Monday January 12 2009, 9:30 am: You know, this is a site where we all pull together to help people with their problems in life. No matter how big or small the problems may be, we do our best.
How about adding information to your question about what's ailing you so we can do our best for you, too? Asking us suicide advice is unrealistic, for we don't give that type of advice to anyone.
Maybe we can help you want to stay on this earth if you just give us a chance to.
LonelyElf answered Sunday January 11 2009, 11:49 pm: I felt the same way a few days ago and almost purposly freezed to death but then I thought to myself there is no point to die yet I'll go inside
Cuz I remembered my friends would freak out and I haven't finnished everything I wanted to do
So I say think about friends who want you alive and think about what you would miss out on in life if you did die
K? [ LonelyElf's advice column | Ask LonelyElf A Question ]
SilentOne answered Sunday January 11 2009, 11:14 pm: First: I am sorry you feel so bad, so hurt, so shit, so crap, like you have nobody left who is worth staying around for. My answer is late, so hopefully you are reading it, and you have already found a little spark of a reason to wait for a few more days to think.
Second: Nobody here is allowed to give you an answer to what you are asking.
Third: If you are going to ask questions on Advicenators then please ask questions about what is wrong. We won't tell you how to kill yourself. We WILL help you to find how to stop feeling so bad you feel like you need to do so. BUT, we are not mind readers.
dottie4 answered Sunday January 11 2009, 12:14 pm: Don't do it. Seriously I'm sure there are so many people out there who love and care about you. You just have to give people a chance. I know at times the world can seem like an ugly place, but ultimately it has more ups then downs. Killing yourself won't solve anything. Trust me. You need to talk to someone who you love and trust.
BrokenWings answered Sunday January 11 2009, 5:41 am: I just wanted to say that the person who was telling you to snap out of it is obviously a cunt and you should ignore what they are saying.
You cannot be expected to 'snap out' of depressed feelings and suicidal urges. I have spent the last month in a psychiatric ward for these exact things and I know how horrible it is. I also know, through frequent attempted suicides that it does not work. It invariably leaves you worse off and feeling like an idiot for trying. There is no way to force yourself to die pain free. Even lethal injections aren't pain free.
What I'm saying is that while I really do understand how you feel not wanting to be alive anymore because of how horrible it is, suicide is not an escape from this. Sadly, the only way out is much longer and more tiring. It's to get treated for depression. Go to a doctor, tell them how you are feeling, tell them the urges, tell them why you dont want to live. If nothing else, if they agree with you, they could help you die but i doubt they will. They will give you meds, or therapy that will make you not have these feelings and to feel good about yourself. It may not seem what you want or need at the moment but suicide is not either.
jrock_101 answered Sunday January 11 2009, 4:53 am: Okay. First off I want you to take the time and read my answer carefully before you make any rash decisions.
Everyone has their problems and believe me I've had my share and I fight for a better life with every passing breath. But you have to understand something. All the feelings you have of pain, neglect, hatred, or even being afraid of something, lose them fast. I want you to turn all of those feelings into one thought. Now don't you want to take all that wasted energy and push yourself to accomplish a better life?
I mean seriously I've thought of suicide a few times, and almost done it once. Literally I was staring death in the face, but something told me not to do it. And guess what? I went back home and things got worse. But that's how the world works, things always get worse before they get better. Only a coward takes the easy way out.
You have one life to live and that's it, so why throw it away? The fight for something better is never over until you either win or give up? Anyone can win you just have to be persistent. So what do you say, why not win and show everyone (Including Me) that you have what it takes to be the person you want to be.
sousou1234567 answered Sunday January 11 2009, 3:44 am: Sorry to tell you there is no painless suicide.
But i can help you alittle
You only get life once, I DONT CARE WHAT'S GOING ON WITH YOUR LIFE but snap out of it
If your mother is an alcoholic , your dad is an asshole, your pregnant, your inlove w ith someone that doesnt share the same feelings, you feel you dont have friends (ignored), you need a boyfriend, you feel fat and ugly or whatever
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