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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.
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I need an essay on "Televisions were said to ead the end of conversations , telephones the end of letter writing.Write about some great impact on family life in your generation..."
Like solidadvice4teens I too do not generally give advice on homework assignment. This assignment though definitely has made me curious as I could take the opposite view at least on television.
As television has grown and matured I believe it is capable of spawning more conversations than it has in causing the end of conversation. You could take the position that in the advent of television when there were only 2 or 3 channels here belief might have been true as families gathered around the television in the evening. Though wasn't that true of the radio programs. You would have to justify all this by expanding on how as television grew into the cable age and the 24 hour news cycle, the learning and documentary series availabilities on cable spawn discussions.
Your teacher is correct with the telephone. Like the telegraph was for the telephone making it easier for people to communicate with each other. The Internet made communication even more easier. The results of this are right in front of us with the problems of the Postal Service. A hint in the direction you need to take with the justification with this is; we humans can be lazy and if there is an easier alternative we will take the alternative if we see the advantage. You need to expand upon this to about 1000 words to justify.
21/f my boyfriend is turning 21 soon and I want to take him out to a bar, we don't live in a city like area and would only be able to be driven to the bar. I was planning on getting a car service to pick us up and bring us home (we are only about 20 minutes from the bar) but I don't know how expensive it will be! Does anyone have any idea or other suggestion? I read that I can call 1800-TAXICAB but that would most likely be more expensive. Thanks for the insight!
A car service would probably be more expensive than the taxi. Living in an urban area I can only tell you how the car services' here work.
Depending on the day of the week and the type of car you request, they can run anywhere from $75 to $150 per hour with a four hour minimum. Taxi's you pay by the mile anywhere from $1.50 to $3.50 a mile. A 20 min trip would be 10 to 15 miles. A the highest rate and at the higher mileage that would be $105.00 plus tip. A lot less expensive than the least expensive price of a car service car for a four hour minimum of $300.00.
There is another possibility which is; once you get to the bar and you are ready to go home. Ask the bartender if they subscribe to the sober ride program. This program provides free cab rides home to those people who have had too much to drink and should not be driving. It is part of the STOP program to stop drinking and driving. If the bar does provide this service to their customers then all you have to do is pay to get to the bar.
There is one other possibility you may not have thought of. You could drive to town and get rooms at a hotel or motel near the bar. Then just walk back to the hotel or motel and sleep of the night and drive home in the morning.
Happy Birthday to your boyfriend, hope he enjoys his evening with you and your gift to him.
I am a 25 year old female who is trying to get a job at the local Good will that just opened in my town and I got a phone call from Goodwill today telling me that there's a Job fair coming up on the January 28th at the end of the month and I don't know exactly what a Job fair actually is . I also want to know do I have to dress a certain way for the fair and if so what are the requirements of how i am suppose to dress ? I also wanted to know since I receive SSI Income for disabilits even though Goodwill is an organazation where it is there mission statment to help people with disabilities get jobs if I have to report to Social Security that i am working even though working at Good Will isn't suppose affect my income is there a possible chance of Social Secrety decreasing my income since I am working . Thanks for everyone's help .
You have asked three separate questions so let’s take them one at a time.
What is a Job Fair? A job fair is usually held by Colleges or organizations to help Companies recruit people for more than one company. At a job fair different companies can interview a large number of people at one place at one time. Goodwill may be holding a job fair to help companies they deal with recruit people with disabilities as well as finding people for themselves. If this is what they are doing it would be well within their mission statement.
What to wear: What to wear to a job interview is the subject of great debate. Some people feel you should put your best foot forward and dress for success. Meaning full business attire; for a male that would be a suit and tie. For the female a female suit with skirt and jacket or a business pants suit and dress shoes for both.
There are others that feel office casual is appropriate. Office casual would be for male or female a pair of slacks and dress shirt, blouse or polo shirt. Here again dress shoes or loafers would be appropriate.
If you were going to someone's office for an interview my advice would be to dress for success and wear a suit. You can never go wrong by paying respect to someone's office. This though is a job fair where you will have the opportunity to meet a number of future employers.
You need to look and feel comfortable while speaking with them. So my advice is to dress in what feels comfortable. This would be either office casual or full business attire.
What to do about SSI? Once you are offered a position. If it is a position set aside for the disabled then your new employer should be able to answer this question as there are forms they must fill out for the tax benefit the gain by employing you as well as the wage offset they offer. If they cannot answer your question then it is a simple matter of contacting Social Security and asking them the question.
When I was receiving SSI I know I could earn up to a certain amount and then it was a dollar for dollar return of the SSI benefit. I'm sure in the decade or so since I received SSI payments that the allow amount has changed so I will not attempt to give you a specific figure. I also am not aware if working at Goodwill or one of their supporting companies has any effect on reduction in SSI.
If you want there is no reason why you cannot call social security and ask these questions prior to going to the job fair. In fact I would suggest calling them first. This way you will have the answer and be better informed when offered a position.
I hope this helps you and good luck at the job fair. Just relax, be yourself and you will do fine.
Me and my boyfriend just had sex and he nutted right on myvagina..im freaking out! I wiped it off as soon as he gave me something to wipe it off.. what are my chances ?!
Your chances depend on three things being present.
First: Most important are you fertile at this time. For most women about 80% are most fertile during the middle 2 weeks of their menstrual cycle, form the 7th to the 21st day. It is during this period that your ovary expels an egg into your fallopian tube where it can be fertilized by the boy’s sperm. Sperm lives in the body for 3 days if there is no eggs present you cannot get pregnant.
Second: It takes just one sperm to fertilize the egg out of the millions the male ejaculates. Depending how much actually made it past your lips of your vagina if any plays a big part in whether you will be pregnant.
Third: How high is the boy’s sperm count? While most males ejaculate millions of sperm there are males whose sperm ore not alive, or who have low sperm counts. These men would be considered infertile unable to get a woman pregnant.
Statistically speaking I would say your chances of being or getting pregnant from what occurred, if he never entered you is between 1 and 3 out of 10 or between 70 and 90 percent you are not pregnant.
Now if you did have intercourse and he pulled out those statistics change because of the precum he emitted during the intercourse. Then the chances of you being pregnant are closer to 70 to 90 present as the precum is loaded with enough sperm to fertilize and egg if one is pregnant.
It is too early for a home test but not too early to find a test kit which will allow the earliest test after intercourse. Find a test kit and test as soon as it allows. This is the only way to know for sure if you are pregnant or not.
In the future if you are going to have sex with a boy make sure his penis is capped with a condom.
can you also delete things on here i did read the answers to those MissyMeliss questions for example Rape MissyMeliss Attack MissyMeliss is MissyMeliss Gay and Youre Toast MissyMeliss and Dangernerd says hes not going to delete them and if you cant is there someone else who can also some of the answers were embarrising and also offensive
Dangernerd is the host of this site as far as I know only he can delete a question.
Hi there, im 18 and 2 weeks ago i had unprotected sex with my bf. He came in me but the next day i got my period, at the ryt time.It was completely normal so I didnt bother to get the emergency contraceptive...
Its been a week since my period and for the past two days ive been cramping a lot, more than my usual period pains. My lower back is also sore and i keep getting spasms all over my back... I am a weed and cigarette smoker daily and i dnt drink but this past weeks in December ive had a couple. (it will only take 3 cups for me to get drunk anyway).
So today im bleeding again, its just as heavy as my period, I am 100% sure it is not just spotting. Ive googled the symptoms nd i have both pregnancy and miscarriage symptoms. I dont wana get a test now cos its still a bit too early.
Is there any way you can give me clarity, i feel like this isnt normal for pregnancy, do you think ive miscarried/ destryd the thing already???
We are not doctors and we should not be making any type of diagnoses. Even if we were it could not be done over the web as we cannot examine you.
From what you have written I would suggest you see a GYN as soon as possible. At 18 you are an adult now and there is no need to inform you parents of any doctors’ visit. It is also no longer possible for your parents to see any of your medical records they are totally confidential. In order for your parents or anyone else to see your medical records or speak with your doctors concerning any medical condition they must have your written permission. This is all written out under a federal law called HIPPA.
The fact that your parents’ health insurance may cover your medical expenses does not give them any right to see your medical records. I could pay your medical bills and this would not give me the right to see your medical records. So go see a doctor now, ASAP as something is not right. Preferably a GYN.
Now as to being pregnant. In order to get pregnant a woman must be fertile. Meaning her ovary has produced and emitted an egg for fertilization into the fallopian tube. In 80% of women this happens in the middle of their cycle between the 7th and 21st day. For the other 20% this can happen at any time, even during their period. So it depends on when during your cycle you are fertile.
The fact that you had your period the next day says even if you were fertile there was little chance your womb was a hospitable place for the fertilized egg to attach.
Still based on the symptoms you have written you need to see a GYN and get checked out. While you are there and since you are now an adult, talk to the doctor about birth control. You no longer need anyone's permission to have sex or to be on birth control.
Even if you do get birth control from your doctor you should, until you are in a very long term relationship, such as living with someone, make the guy wear a condom as well.
Im a virgin.. my boyfriend inserted is penis but only a little bit.. and only for a few seconds.. is it possible to be pregnant?
I have bad news and worse news for you. The bad news is that yes it is possible for you to get pregnant if sperm emitted from him. The worse news is you can no longer call yourself a virgin.
By todays definition of virginity; "A female is a Virgin until her vagina is penetrated by a Penis. It does not matter how far or for how long he was in you. Once his penis passes the lips of your vagina, even if your Hymen remains intact, by definition, you are no longer a virgin.
The possibility you are pregnant are slim. It is possible due to the stress of worrying about being pregnant that your period will be late or missed all together. Stress is the biggest killer of a woman's period.
Since you probably cannot avoid the worry I suggest you go to a pharmacy and find a test. Find one that allows you to test as soon as possible from the date your boyfriend put his penis in you. . Follow the instructions as to when to test and if the results are negative relax you’re not pregnant. If by chance you get a positive result don't panic. Early testing returns more false positives than false negatives. Wait ten days and test again.
In the future when playing around with a guy. Consider his penis a loaded gun. If his pants come off cap his penis with a condom. That way you can relax and not worry. Just make sure he knows how to wear it.
ok sooo a few months ago me and a guy started dating and his best friend keeps asking me out.... he knows i have a boyfriend and still says he likes me... what do i do? PLEASE HELP
I cannot tell you why this is, it is not jealousy, and it is more like envy. But there are guys out there who seem to always want what their friends have. This includes the girls they are dating.
You are dating this one guy and if you have an exclusive type of relationship then it would be wrong to accept a date from his friend. There are two ways to handle his friend. Actually three ways.
1. Tell your boyfriend his best friend is pestering you to date him. Tell him you have no interest in dating him and would like him to stop asking but he will not take no for an answer.
2. Simply ignore him and hopefully he will stop asking.
3. With your boyfriends okay accept a date with this other boy. If he is typical of the boys that must have what his friends have it will be a one date thing. This will give him bragging rights that he too once dated you.
My advice though is to go with suggestions 2 & 1 in that order.
I am in 9th grade and we are doing the swim unit and boys and girls do it together. At first I was thinking of asking to sit out since girls seem to be vicious monsters who enjoy humiliating anyone that is not perfect but now I read that while swimming you can easily get an erection when you are a teenager? Is this true? I cannot risk that happening. If it is true I am definitely sitting out
Actually it should work the other way around if the water in the pool is cold enough. Cold water constricts the blood vessels. A penis becomes erect due to excess blood flowing into the it. If the blood vessels are constricted due to the cold water it makes it harder to get an erection.
Teenage males become erect for many reason and most of them are an involuntary action caused by the hormones of puberty. I read someplace that a teenage male will have some type of an erection several times each hour. These erections will be anything from a semi-erection to full erection and will happen without any visual or manual stimulation. Meaning it is the hormones doing there thing.
I believe this to be true as I can remember myself and other boys in school walking the hallways with or books in front of us to hide our erections from the girls. The girls of course knew what we were hiding and whisper to each other and giggle to themselves. The boys would then stare at the girls breast to see if there nipples were hare, which can also be also an involuntary reaction or reaction to sexual stimulation.
As an adult, parent and grandparent. My advice to you is not to worry about this as it is something you cannot control. Most likely the school requires you to wear bathing trunks. Bathing trunks unlike spedo's are loose fitting and should hide any erection you may get while you are in the pool. Just remember if you are getting an erection so are the other boys.
If the girls are not wearing padded bra cups on their bathing suits you should see their reaction to you guys being in the pool with them. There nipples will harden and show through the materiel of the bathing suit. Giving you boys reason to stare back at them.
So go ahead and enjoy the swim classes as it is very important not just for recreation that you know how to swim. It may one day save your life or allow you to save the life of someone you love.
I'm having a hard time deciding what to do with my life from here on out. I don't know anyone else to ask and I used to come to this site for advice in middle school, so I thought I'd try again. Here is the situation.
I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 23. We live together in a college town in the midwest. We've been together for 2 years, and have been living together for 6 months. I graduate college in May and the lease on our apartment ends in the summer.
My boyfriend has already finished his degree and has set his sights on a graduate school in another state. I'm really happy for him that he wants to go to grad school. He has worked really hard to get admitted and save money over the past year, and for that I am really proud of him. I know he is going to love the town that the school is in and really thoroughly enjoy the masters program he's been admitted to. He's planning on moving up there when our lease ends in the summer, in time for the fall semester to start. The school is in a different state and a 13 hour drive from where we live now.
Of course, he is hoping and assuming that I am going to move there with him. Like I said, we already live together now, so by most people's standards, you can assume we're in it for the long haul. The problem is, I'm not sure I want to move to the grad school with him. On the surface, there are a few reasons I don't want to move there. First of all, I most likely can't get a job in my field there. I'm about to get my bachelors degree in journalism and there are zero jobs there even remotely related to journalism. Also, its very far north, and therefore cold and dark for much of the year. I know it sounds trivial, but I think I have a light case of seasonal depression disorder and I really don't thrive under those conditions. (As an endearment/pet name, by boyfriend calls me "Sunny" because he knows how happy I get when it's sunny out.) Its also far away from where any of my family and friends live. Living there would only be for a year, but those are just some of the surface-level reasons that this town really isn't the place for me.
But there are some deeper problems that make it difficult for me to decide whether I should move there or not.
The main one is that my boyfriend is very protective and jealous- and this has been an issue throughout our relationship. He got very upset when he found out that I had become particularly close with a male coworker early in our relationship, even though me and the coworker were no more than friends. (and just "work friends" at that- we almost never hung out together outside of work.) Since the coworker incident, my boyfriend has been paranoid about my fidelity. A few months ago, my boyfriend nearly got in a bar fight over a male friend asking me if I wanted to sing a kereoke duet with him. (I wish that was a joke, but unfortunately, it happened.) After the "Kereoke Incident" (as we now call it) I made it clear to my boyfriend that I seriously wanted to break up with him, but the next day, he signed himself up for anger management classes and has been attending them ever since. So I gave him a second chance at our relationship thinking, "Nobody's perfect, but someone willing to put serious effort into being a better person and a better partner is worth sticking around for." A true asshole will not regret being controlling, and an average joe will apologize for it, but someone making an honest attempt to fix a major behavioral flaw is a truly good person, right?
But the way I look at it, this controlling/jealous streak is two sides of the same coin when it comes to deciding to move to the grad school with him. On one side, it is a fair rationale to decide to not move with him. If I decided I didn't want to continue a relationship with someone as controlling/jealous as he is, I could live with that. The way he's treated me thus far has given me plenty of reason to end it, and maybe this move is the natural closing of our time together.
ON THE FLIP SIDE, I feel like moving to a new place with him could be like hitting the reset button on our relationship. It could give us a total second chance together in a town where we don't know anyone. We've got the lessons learned in our first apartment under our belts, and can move to the next one and put those into use. For example, when I told my boyfriend about my male coworker, I had no idea that it was going to absolutely disturb him like it did. I didn't know my boyfriend as well then, and I didn't know he had such a jealous personality. If I were to do it all over again, the obvious lesson learned is "don't rub your friendship with a guy in a jealous man's face." With this under my belt, I can make our relationship at the grad school go much more smoothly. It was a steep learning curve for sure, but I'm over the hump now.
In general, I really really don't want to break up with him. I love him very much and 99% of our relationship is nothing but true friendship, good sex, and having a hilarious time as roommates. Despite the bad picture I've painted, he is in general, a sweet and pretty selfless guy; he is self-reflective and feels serious regret when I told him he has hurt me. But I can't for the life of me make heads or tails of the decision to move with him next year. There's good reasons to break up and good reasons to stay together. Endless pros and endless cons. Half of me is saying "Move! Whats the worst thing that could happen? You hate it and break up?" and the other half of me is saying, "Are you actually considering moving to a podunk town thats dark half of the year for a man that controls you?" Isn't there something romantic about moving somewhere crazy for love in your early 20s? On the flip side, aren't I too young/wild/independent/good for him and his shit?
I know this is long, so MANY THANKS for reading and responding. Its really tearing me up so any advice is appreciated. THANK YOU.
From what you have written I believe you have reasons to go and to stay. The problem you have is in deciding which reasons outweigh the others. For us to make this decision for you would be wrong as this has to be your decision. All we can do is point out what we believe are the good and the bad points and what we believe are the ones that may out way the others.
From what you have written there are not a lot of really bad points. From what I see the biggest of the down side is: that you think you have a "light case of seasonal depression disorder." This is only a problem if you do not seek treatment for it. This problem like most clinical depressions is easily treatable with medication. Yes there are some side effects to the medication one of which could be a decreased libido. If this is only going to be for a year this is something you could probably deal with.
The problem with his controlling and jealousy could have been a big deal if he wasn't will and did not seek help for it. The fact that he was "visibly hurt" and that he took actions to resolve his problem says a great many things about him and how he feels about you. It is not easy to change something like this as it is a behavioral disorder if you will. It is not mental disorders which are easier to fix. This is something he will be shown how to deal with and will have to work at it daily to control.
Depending how long he has been attending anger management classes you should know or see by now how well he is able to control this disorder. I believe this is something he is not doing for himself but he is doing for you. This again shows how much he respects and yes even his love for you.
As for job prospects; for one year with the Degree you have even though there may not be a Journalism job there will or could be jobs associated with Journalism. You really won't know until you get there. Journalism opens a host of jobs in the field of writing, commercial broadcasting and associated work to those fields. You just need a job for the year he is in Grad school not a career type job.
What I feel you need to do before you make any final decision is have a discussion on what his plans are for after grad school. He is waiting for you to graduate before moving. If you feel it is possible that you and he can make a life together. Then you must look past next year and see how your plans and his plan mesh.
Where does his degree take him? Does he plan to go somewhere where you can also put your education to work or does his plan take him to a remote area where your career remains on hold? You two also need to talk about your relationship. Does he see this relationship moving towards making a life together, is this where you want the relationship to go? Children are also important to talk about at this time if you both see this relationship moving towards making a life together. When and how many. Marriage is a 50/50 partnership. What roles do you each see for yourselves in a marriage?
The pros and Cons you write about workout to be about equal. So I would feel you need to look ahead to where you will go after grad school. Based on those conversations is what I feel is the best way to decide whether or not to end the relationship. Should it be that your plans for life are so different that a compromise cannot be made then it is better to end the relationship now than a year from now when it will be much harder on both of you.
My dad has been and still is a great guy. He loves me very much although he isn't very fond of anyone excluding my Mom, sister, and I. Even though he doesn't "like" much anyone else my friends see him as a happy, sociable person on the outside and he also is very friendly towards most strangers and likes to make small talk with them. He's also successful at his job. This is the side of him that I love so much. But this side of him quickly deteriorates instantly when one little thing comes out of place. He will pout and be extremely aggressive fighting with my mom and storming up to his room to brood for hours. Over the years it had only seemed to have gotten worse. He refuses to think there is something wrong with him and will switch personalities within minutes as if a switch went off in his head. It's as if he's two different people. If you have any idea what could be wrong with him I would love to know. And also some tips on how to get him treated. I'm 14 and female and thanks for reading.
I don't think your dad is bipolar though I do think he has a problem. In fact I can identify very well with him as I suffered very much like him until I finally sought treatment. I was diagnosed with clinical depression.
I controlled my depression the same way your dad does by controlling everything in my life. As long as everything was in its place and there was a place for everything I was fine. If something was out of place or I could not find a place for something I quickly turned into someone else. Of course like your dad I never felt there was anything wrong with me; this was just me. This is where the real problem is.
Once I sought treatment I learned that a person will only seek help when they feel they need it. This is usually when they hit bottom. This reminded me of something my brother in-law said. My brother in-law, who is 25 plus years a recovering alcoholic, once told me that before a person can be helped they must hit bottom.
For me that bottom was a nasty car accident where I was the only innocent and the only person injured. My injuries forced me into early retirement. My whole world suddenly was out of control. No matter how hard I tried I could not put anything in a place and one day I had a real depressive episode that scared me into seeking help.
You could get lucky and tell your dad my story and maybe he would see himself in my story. If he does he may seek help. If he doesn't there is not much you can do to force him to seek help.
Clinical Depression is caused by several things. The first is the lack of one or two hormones that control mood. Those can be replaced with medication. The other is stress; stress causes pain, both physical and mental, which causes depression. Depression causes pain and stress. This is a vicious cycle and unless there is some type of medical intervention it continues to revolve.
In order to break the cycle you work with a therapist to identify the stressor or stressors and to find a better way to deal with them. You learn to identify when the stress is moving you towards the place you don't want to be. In order to do this work you have to want to do it, you can't be forced into doing it to placate someone or family.
I know how hard this is on you for I know how hard it was on my family. We missed a lot of years we could have done other things that my depression got in the way of. The only thing I can suggest is your mother should talk to your fathers doctor about screening him for depression during his next physical or visit to the doctor. If the doctor does diagnose him as being depressed then maybe your father will listen to the doctor. I say maybe because I didn't and my doctor is also a close friend.
As I said I had to hit my personal bottom before I sought help. That bottom for me was a horrible event that almost took my life. Hopefully your father will be smarter than I was and listen to you, your mom and his doctor. If you can get him to he can write me via this forum and I will be glad to answer any questions he has.
Hi... 16F
*̩ lost my verginity this weekend. He weared a condom. And *̩ think *̩ have efection now*! *̩ have a high body tempreature and if *̩ pee it burns. *̩ can't tell my mom because se will kill me! Please help...
You're having sex for the first time and the symptoms you have now are most likely not related. As the others have said you most likely have a UTI (urinary tract infection.)
Being 16 years of age a federal law called HIPPA does give you the right to see a doctor any time you experience problems with your reproductive health, without parental permission or Knowledge.
Since the urinary tract is part of your vagina you can see a doctor, any doctor including a free clinic without parental permission.
Since this is most likely a urinary tract infect, women get them all the time, there is really no reason not to tell your mom. If you were to tell her she can be made to stay in the waiting room while you see the doctor by you simply saying to the doctors nurse or receptionist. I want to see the doctor under my rights under HIPPA. The doctors staff will take it from there and tell mom she must wait in the waiting room.
Since you are now sexually active. This same law says you can ask the doctor for birth control medication and the doctor has to prescribe it unless there is a medical reason not to.
topix is responsible for their content but they dont wish to do anything about it they allow what some people call free speech and i cannot report it to my princible becuase i dont go to school anymore also that Entrapment007 was on the John Denver forum she started talking trash to me in 2009 and such but anyway that site has an expiration date which says the the third of march in 2015 i also looked at an expired website in the search engine and one of the images said this site is out of date and i hope that stuff happens to topix after it expires also this is the last question on that website im asking you and i hope its a private one not to the open forum .
Yes you are in private question s. You might ask your questions of Dangernerd in private question also. Dangernerd is this sites webmaster and he may have better answers for you. I have nothing better to give you.
i read your advice to me and it really does not sound like good advice what i meant was report a troll online i didnt mean use the actual topix becuase they really dont care on what their content is like so what i meant was report topix itself online for free no registration required and again i hope you get this as a private question and make that jerk Entrapment007 see the errors of her ways .
The only way to report him online is with Topix. Topix is responsible for the content of their site. If someone is harassing you or stalking you online they need to take action to stop them. Other than that I'm not quite sure what you can do, online to stop him.
If you are being harassed online or stalked online you can go to the police as this is illegal. The police will want to know if you have notified the webmaster of the problem. For they will need to go to the webmaster with a Court Order to release any registration information or IP information they may have on this person. This person would then have to reside in your state for them to take direct action. If this person is in another state then law enforcement agencies in that state and laws in that state would be involved.
Unless there is more to this than what you wrote. This person is being childish. Childishness does not rise to the level of lawless. My advice is if you know who this person is that you go to your parents and talk with them. If the person attends the same school as you talk to your principal.
Until he actually breaks a law there is not much else you can do. From what you wrote the only laws he has broken is the laws of decency.
on this topix site there is this scumbag with the uder name Entrapment007 who constantly called me retarded a little liar and used the offensive term mommy if i knew the location of that person i would report her to the police so how can get that person in trouble for acting like a trolling jerk and i hope you get this as a private question to Adviceman .
If you go to home page for Topix, "Topix.com", page down to the bottom of the page. On the right side of the page is a column headed "About Topix". At the. Bottom of that column is the heading REPORT ABUSE. select this and a new page will open, answer the questions asked and thy will handle it from there
Hope you have a better New Year
Adviceman
I am 52 and have decided to 'reinvent' myself. I have been in retail management for 25+ years and have hated every minute. I've regretted both NOT going into the military and NOT obtaining a college degree. Last year, after much debate, I decided to pursue college again (I have taken courses hear and there, but no degree). I want to do something more fulfilling, to help others, and to make a difference. I have chosen social work, specifically in the school systems. My questions are; am I wasting my time? It will take about 3+ years for a BSW and an additional 3 more for an MSW. Not to mention the money. Although there are hundreds of companies listed on the AARP website that seek out employees over 50 (in my case it will be 56), but I am really concerned about having a degree in hand yet no one will give me the time of day.
Furthering your education is never a waste of time. Before I retired my motto was if I did not learn something new each day then I wasted that day. To me learning is power and power extends our abilities to grow and expand. Having a degree, in your case a Masters Degree, in a Field you desire is not a waste of time.
That degree opens a whole field of opportunities for you and not just in the field of Social Work. To be concerned that doors will not be open is a valid concern but should not stop you from obtaining your dream. There will always be doors that are closed to us regardless of our educational background. The object for us is to find and open door that will allow us to use the knowledge we have and what we have learned to its best advantage.
My advice is not to worry about closed doors, you will find an open one if you look hard enough for one. Go back to school and get the degree you have been wanting.
I'm an avid visitor, and user of the site.
I didn't register since I am using a computer that shouldn't be used for non office stuffs. (winks)
I had some questions for which the guys here had given me great advice. I don't know how can I thank them or to tell them further what happened after I followed their advice.
Is there such a way I could do this? To thank these guys for all the things they've done for me? Thanks.
For one thing you have in a manner of speaking thanked them with this posting. If you wish to thank them individually you can do so by rating their answer to you. When you do there is a space for you to write a short reply as to how their answer to you was helpful. Only they will see what you said.
I am in a very difficult situation. At the moment, I am living at home with my parents on some time off from school. About two months ago it was revealed that my mother was having an affair. My parents decided to work things out, and my father in particular has being working very hard to try to improve their marriage. Today, my mother came home from visiting her brother and informed me that she would be going back out later. I asked, out of curiosity, where she was going. She replied that she was "Seeing a friend." It is very unlike her to respond in such a way, as I've met all of her friends and normally she would be more specific. After she left I logged into our cell phone provider's website and looked at her phone records. I know that that is an awful thing to do, but I was right to suspect her. A few hours prior, she made a call, for two minutes, to the man who she had been seeing. They are still out now, and she isn't answering her phone, according to my father, who called her to tell her that he is getting off work early. I don't know what to do. Should I tell my father? Should I confront my mother? I want to move out, as I don't think I can live in this situation, but I simply don't have the funds. I am really lost, and this situation is just awful.
This is a damned if you do and damned if you don't situation. Whatever you do you come out on the losing end.
Fact: Your mother is an adult women responsible for her own actions.
Fact: Your mother for whatever reason is fully conscious of her affair with this man and what the results may be.
Fact: As an adult your mother is not responsible to you for any of her own actions nor you as an adult responsible to her for your actions.
Fact: You snooped someplace you should not have and now you know something you should not have known and it hurts you. The question is what to do about it.
The answer is nothing; as much as it hurts you to be knowledgeable of this situation anything you do will only cause you and or your father harm if you tell him. If you confront your mother I foresee and argument you cannot win with her causing you more hurt.
If you normally live at school during the school year then the best thing you can do for yourself is to stay at school as much as possible. In this way at least you won't have to see what your mom is doing. As for your dad you need to be there and be supportive of him for when he does find out.
Should he find out that you were knowledgeable of mom's continuing affair. If I were him I believe I would understand that you withheld this information so as not to hurt me. I might initially be hurt but I would eventually come to understand why you did not come right out and tell me when you became aware of it.
As I see this you are in a no win situation. Someone or all of you are going to get hurt if you discuss with them the information you now have. Of course you are only asking for my advice in the end the decision is yours to make.
How to musterbet
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I have supported my husband through school. I gave him 2 beautiful children and a successful practice (along with his doctor degree). He had affairs with our staff and still blames me for our failed marriage. He's divorcing me and he's taking our kids. I heard his new gf is a lot younger than I am.
I can't afford to take care of my babies and it is because I can't find work for a year now. Since I have supported his career from the beginning for 15 years, my Bachelor in Accounting has become rusty. The feeling of defeat and unemployment is engulfing my hope and self confidence. Up to this point, I feel like a nobody. I feel so worthless as a mother. Every day, I cry because I miss my babies. I want to fight for what's mine but as of now my heart as a mother is broken into thousand pieces. I have tried everything to get myself back up (from meditation, yoga to fitness) and nothing works. Every day I get up, I feel sad, so lonely, scare, and helpless. I have waited and waited. Still, new hope for anything has not come my way. I was googling how "to die easily" and somehow I got to this site. I can't bring myself to go see anyone bc I am so ashamed for what had happened to my life and my marriage. I cannot believe the man I love (yes I still love him) treats me like this. I see now life is so painful to live, even just for 1 more day.
Okay pity party time is over. He is not worth dying over. I'm not sure where you're from but if you are from the USA you do not have to lay down and be a doormat for him. You have rights as the wife and you should avail yourself of them.
DO NOT SIGN ANY DIVORCE PAPERS HIS LAWYER MAY PRESENT TO YOU.
You put him through school, you supported his practice. These two things gives you the right to half the worth of his practice and any retirement fund, stocks, bonds and any other savings he has accumulated as a direct result of his practice.
In most states the laws will award you this if you have your own lawyer. I suspect your soon to be ex husband has knocked you down and threatened to leave you penniless unless you bow to his wishes. Don't do this.
FIND YOUR OWN LAWYER. Most divorce lawyers know what your husband is doing and will work on a small retainer with payment coming from the settlement they get you. If your husband is as successful as you indicate it will be large.
The first thing your lawyer needs to do is freeze your husbands bank accounts, then get an accounting of his worth and the worth of his practice. He also needs to get you temporary support. If you signed a separation agreement that needs to be negated. There should be no problem negating a separation agreement if you did not have counsel.
Dyeing proves nothing. Live and make him pay. Make him pay for what you did for him to make him a success. If you get a real good lawyer the young gold digger he is seeing will leave him for more golden pastures. This is what you need to do and should do.
You need to benefit and you are by law in most states entitled to benefit from the foundation you provided him to become successful. Doing so is far more satisfying than dyeing.
If you need help finding a divorce lawyer, call your local Bar Association for a referral.