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boyfrind or friend
ok sooo a few months ago me and a guy started dating and his best friend keeps asking me out.... he knows i have a boyfriend and still says he likes me... what do i do? PLEASE HELP
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I think you should just go with common sense. Tell him that you are dating his friend and you have no interest in dating him and ask him to stop.
If he keeps bugging you about it, tell your boyfriend and have him talk to his friend about it.
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I cannot tell you why this is, it is not jealousy, and it is more like envy. But there are guys out there who seem to always want what their friends have. This includes the girls they are dating.
You are dating this one guy and if you have an exclusive type of relationship then it would be wrong to accept a date from his friend. There are two ways to handle his friend. Actually three ways.
1. Tell your boyfriend his best friend is pestering you to date him. Tell him you have no interest in dating him and would like him to stop asking but he will not take no for an answer.
2. Simply ignore him and hopefully he will stop asking.
3. With your boyfriends okay accept a date with this other boy. If he is typical of the boys that must have what his friends have it will be a one date thing. This will give him bragging rights that he too once dated you.
My advice though is to go with suggestions 2 & 1 in that order.
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The reason why some realationships during our younger years dont last too long is because we start dating to find out more about a person to see if we really like them beyond the initial attraction we felt with them. If there was never any attraction on your part, then you had no business accepting just because he asked. If you are finding that with what you're beginning to learn about your boyfriends personality and interests, that you are still into him, then stay with him longer. You always stay with any relationship until you come to a point where you discover something about the other that you could not put up with for the rest of your life if in a life-long partnership with them, or you discover something about yourself where this person, as nice as they are, just aren't and never will be able to meet those needs.
If you have learned enough to know you dont have that great an interest in him after all, then stop dating. Just because you stopped dating him does not mean that now that your not dating that you automatically accept his best friend.
You need to feel an attraction there. If you don't, tell him you don't feel any attraction to him to want to explore further by dating.
I dont know your age, but the sooner you can adopt this next strategy, the better your chances of exploring in dating will go.
I have heard the following straight from the mouths of adult males. They are perfectly willing to date a girl who says she is dating around, and she goes out with any guys who ask her that she feels some attraction with. She explains that she is not committing to dating one guy yet at this point but will later. Right now she just wants to discover what she does like about a guy first before she settle on just one. The males said that the guys who can't stand competition are not sure enough of their self image and will not accept that. Its a good indicator that they will not make the best dating partner.
A good majority of males will be comfortable with the challenge, be on their best behaviour, maybe even be more real so the gal can make a good decision on who she will choose to date. This also puts the ball in her court, instead of girls competing other girls to get one guy, the guys have to compete between themselves to get the one girl. that puts her in control of the relationship, something a controller type person will not want and won't be attracted. these guys say not to worry about the guys who can't accept you dating around. They have some major issue or another. Guys are different than girls and the good guys are perfectly capable of understanding a girl dating different guys, sometimes at the same time to determine first which one she will make a commitment to date exclusively. A guy understanding having to be the Best male that she meets so that he will be chosen.
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