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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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If anyone here skateboards, do you know what pushing mongo means? (link)
I didn't know either, but found it in the urban dictionary. Heres the link. :)

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Pushing+Mongo


how can i convice my parents to let my go to a boarding school about 3 hours away? what are some good things i could say at least to get her to consider it?
thanxs (link)
Here is a site that lists the pros and cons of boarding schools. I would read it over and let your parents know the pros, and get prepared with some
some good answers for those cons. :)

http://www.ippmedia.com/ipp/guardian/2006/01/27/58674.html


ok i really like this guy and i think he might like me but i'm too shy to talk to him. wat are some things i could say/do to get his attention more?





(link)
This looks like a page of useful tips. :)

http://www.wikihow.com/Get-a-Guy-to-Notice-You


Can anyone tell me what the name of this song is
--------------------------------------------------
When you make love, do you look in the mirror?

Who do you think of? Does he look like me?

Do you tell lies? And say that it's forever?

Do you think twice, or just touch 'n' see?

I don't wanna touch you too much baby

'cos making love to you might drive me crazy

I know you think that love is the way you make it

So I don't wanna be there when you decide to break it

(link)
This is Love Bites by Def Leopard. :)
Good song.


If a guy asks me, out of no where, if I have a boyfriend... what does it mean? (link)
It probably means he is interested in asking you out. Wants to make sure the coast is clear!


is it bad if you have sex and you havent even started your period cycle yet? will it mess with your horemones? (link)
It won't mess with your hormones. You can get pregnant though since you don't know when it is coming. Beware of that. :)


The "last update" thing isn't updating on my column. I updated today [Feb. 15, 07] and it has [Jan. 28, 07]. What should I do ? (link)
Try hitting the refresh button if you haven't already. Or just leave that page and go back later.
You may even have to leave site and come back to it.
One of those should work! If not let us know. :)



I wore on my acne medicine and my face BURNED! Is that ok? It probably is but on ET Canada long time ago it showed this lady who's face is going to scar for her life from acne medications because she felt her face burning and that's because it actually was! (link)
Don't use it again. If it burns you are probably having an allergic reaction to it. Trust me acne is nothing compared to possible scarring.

If you haven't been to a dermatologist you may want to see one. If you have then call and tell them what happened. They may be able to get you something else without your having to back for a another visit. :)


what exactly is blackmail? (link)


From answers.com

1. Extortion of money or something else of value from a person by the threat of exposing a criminal act or discreditable information.
2. Something of value extorted in this manner.
2. Tribute formerly paid to freebooters along the Scottish border for protection from pillage.


I'm nervous for my period. What should I expect from it? Will I grow any taller after I get it? (link)
Here is a site that should answer most of your questions. You do keep growing for a while even after your period comes. It will not make you grow faster that normal or anything. :)

http://www.coolnurse.com/menstrual.htm


We have a 12 yr. old daughter that we have had to place in a Psychiatric Hospital. She has many problems and is seeing a wonderful theropist in house. As parents what questions should we be asking our daughters theropist? We ask several. I just don't want to miss one we should ask. We're new at all this so any help would be so appreciated. (link)
I'm sorry your family is going through this. I'm glad she has a good therapist and hope will get the help she needs.

I did find one good site that may help you. You need
to have adobe reader to read it. It is usually on most computers. If it isn't on yours it is free to download here.

http://adobeacrobat-8.com/index.asp?PID=02ea59e6-b795-4459-9c62-e26a4f2db084

Here is the site. I think you will find it handy.
Best of luck to you. :)


http://www.childrenshospital.org/clinicalservices/Site1908/Documents/parentguide.pdf


Why do sometimes questions that say "I rate 5's" or "I rate high" make it through the advinetors security?
I would also like to tell people here that you should give a rating, since someone took the time to reply on your inquiries. I see many answers that remain unrated even though you can tell that the advicenator spent a lot of sweat on it. (link)
We do occasionally miss one. When found it is deleted. Questions get sent to the site after so many hours if not approved, so if we are busy some get by. They do eventually get deleted though. Feel free to file an abuse report if you see one.

It would be nice if everyone rated the questions. Feedback is really the most important in my opinion.
Someday maybe we will perfect the ratings system. We may eventually make it so if ratings aren't left in
so many days a moderator will rate the the question.

Ratings abuse is really bad around here. Rating all 5's is an abuse too. When 20 people all give a person the same answer, example song title, and all get 5's...that's ridiculous. :)


Why do some of you get on here just to be nasty and write rude things(when not attacked) that dont even have anything to do with the question... or purposely write wrong answers? no ones twisting your arm to hit the answer this button..if you dont know...then dont answer.Then you want to whine about getting a low rating and pust the abuse link..when you didnt help in the first place...This might sound rude but as another colunmist and a person who asks advice...I think that people who ask question should be able to report abuse to. (link)
You can file an abuse report for anything that is bothering you.

I can't answer why others are rude. I agree that passing a question up is the best thing to do if you don't like it.

If someone is bothering you then by all means file a report. There are no rules against questioners filing one. :)


what are some old one hit wonders from like the 60's and stuff
such as

build me up buttercup
do you believe in magic
ain't no mountain high enough

etc

help asp please :] (link)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/One-hit_wonder


I have been dating my boyfriend for 20 months now. I couldn't love him more. There's this little problem though: he doesn't have a job. He quit his job back in November and is barely even trying to get a new one. He used to be a cashier, so he refuses to apply at any job that deals with serving people in general. It bugs the hell out of me that he won't get off his ass, suck it up, and get a job. He needs the money and we both know it. I bug him about getting a job everyday and he just tells me not to worry and he'll take care of it. He told me yesterday he was getting a new gaming system and that just made me thing "Wow. Now you can put off getting a job even longer."

He doesn't ask me for money and I don't lend it to him, but I get upset when we can't go out as much as we used to because he doesn't have any money and I can't pay every time. I'm worried that he'll always be this irresponsible and he won't be able to help support our kids when we get married.

I don't know if I should just leave him and tell him to call me when he gets a job or just sit tight, be supportive, and keep my mouth shut. I love him and I'd do anything to help him out, but this is getting ridiculous. What would you do? (link)
Where is he getting money for a game system? I think I'd be telling that person they aren't helping the situation.

I'm afraid I wouldn't put up with it. You work, he should work. As for telling you not to worry about it? Well, he isn't doing much to ease your mind there!

I would tell him to get off his ass and find work. I'd set a time limit for him to do it. I'd tell him if he doesn't have a job by then you will walk. He isn't the only one. Among my kids' friends, very few feel the need to work. Don't even let him get started.

Good luck. :)


if your bf of one year physically hurts you..like kicks you in the leg..punches you in stomcach..throws you on the ground..pins you down..grabs you by the jaw..you get the picture..well anyway if that happened to you..and you have been together for a year and nothing like that ever happened..what would you do? would you forgive him? after how long? would you make him get help? i mean..we've all done really dumb stuff before...

17/f
he= 18/m (link)
I would send him packing.

I might forgive him after he got some help, but wouldn't even consider being in a relationship with him again.

Punching and hitting are not signs that he cares in any way. They are signs actually that he just doesn't give a shit about you. He only wants to control you.

Get out and do not look back or fall for the old "I will never do it again" line. Hes a loser. Don't know what triggered the change, but hes a loser.


If you moderators have to read the long questions to have them posted then why don't you answer them because no one else will answer them. Do you just post them without reading every detail? (link)
I read them but don't always answer them. If I think
I have something worthwhile to answer I do, otherwise I just let them go.

Sometimes I will go back later and answer. Especially if I want to add something to what has been said, don't agree with whats been said, or the question isn't getting any answers. :)


17/female:
I'm having a confusing problem...

I've been going out with my boyfriend for 11 months (1 year in March). And for a while now I've been kinds thinking like where is our relationship going? Things aren't the same as they were in the beginning and I feel like i'm getting "bored".

I was rushed into the relationship because he fell for me straight away, so I guess I kinda went along with it and then grew to like him later on and hence why we stayed together.

Anyways I went away on holiday with my college to barcelona for a week, and Me and my friend were hanging out with these cool and REALLY good looking guys (that came with us but we haven't really spoken to before because we were new). She told me that she thinks one of them liked me but I thought she was just making things up and I just brushed it off thinking that he was only being friendly.
However when I came back from the trip, I get a text from him saying that he likes me and wants to go out with me. I told him I have a boyfriend and he's still interested.

The problem is that I really like him and I think that he's SOOOOOOO good looking and has a nice personality (really caring etc..). And i'm already going off my boyfriend so what should I do?

Should I dump my boyfriend and see what happens with this guy or what? Because even if I do dump my boyfriend I wouldn't just be doing it to go out with this guy.

Please help, sorry its so long! (link)
If you are bored with your current relationship then by all means move on. You go out with different people not only to have fun, but to hopefully find a life mate. If you doubt there is a future with the guy you are with, don't waste time dragging it out.
Try someone new. :)


I am on Bc, the pill..and i was wondering if it is unsafe to have unprotected sex while on the green inactive part of the pill? I did that a month ago, and im awaiting my period for this month so i'm kind of worried. I don't feel sick or different though
thanksz (link)
Once you have been on the pill for at least 30 days you can have sex anytime and be safe from pregnancy.
Even on the green pills.

Being on the pill usually keeps your periods pretty regular. They can still go weird on you though sometimes.

If you aren't to late I wouldn't worry.
If you are worried give your doctors nurse a call. She will let you know if its normal for the pill you are taking. :)


and i don't know if he likes me or not( i doubt he does..) and the thing is that i dont know if he would like me. He's really close with these other 2 girls..and i get really jealous of them...because idk...he might like them. So how can i get him to like me? I mean i know you can't make someone like you, but can anyone give me tips on how to get a guy to notice you, or like you more? (link)
Here is a website that might help. :)

http://www.wikihow.com/Get-a-Guy-to-Notice-You




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