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Should I dump him?
17/female:
I'm having a confusing problem...
I've been going out with my boyfriend for 11 months (1 year in March). And for a while now I've been kinds thinking like where is our relationship going? Things aren't the same as they were in the beginning and I feel like i'm getting "bored".
I was rushed into the relationship because he fell for me straight away, so I guess I kinda went along with it and then grew to like him later on and hence why we stayed together.
Anyways I went away on holiday with my college to barcelona for a week, and Me and my friend were hanging out with these cool and REALLY good looking guys (that came with us but we haven't really spoken to before because we were new). She told me that she thinks one of them liked me but I thought she was just making things up and I just brushed it off thinking that he was only being friendly.
However when I came back from the trip, I get a text from him saying that he likes me and wants to go out with me. I told him I have a boyfriend and he's still interested.
The problem is that I really like him and I think that he's SOOOOOOO good looking and has a nice personality (really caring etc..). And i'm already going off my boyfriend so what should I do?
Should I dump my boyfriend and see what happens with this guy or what? Because even if I do dump my boyfriend I wouldn't just be doing it to go out with this guy.
Please help, sorry its so long!
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
If you are bored with your current relationship then by all means move on. You go out with different people not only to have fun, but to hopefully find a life mate. If you doubt there is a future with the guy you are with, don't waste time dragging it out.
Try someone new. :)
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Love can be so confusing, cant it?
This is something you REALLY have to think through, and my advice won't solve your problem, but I hope it will help guide you.
You have to really think about this. Do you LOVE your boyfriend? Really, love him? When you think about him does your heart flip or your stomach flutter? Do you get a warm feeling? Or do you just feel friendship?
But you can't base anything on this new guy either. You say your bored, so your heart is seeking out excitement, not nessacarily a new partner.
Could you imagine life without your boyfriend? Do you feel special in his arms?
If your just bored, there are many ways you can add excitement to your relationship. Don't throw away something you've invested in for a year just because your bored.
Talk to your boyfriend before making rash decisions. Does he feel the same way? Than it sounds like you both could use a break. Taking time apart could show you that it was good to break up, or that you truly love each other.
So really, listen to your heart. Dont hold on just to hold on. But don't let go just for an aqquaintance and because your kind of bored.
Hope that helped.
Best wishes
-DearAbby92
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I think, you should dump your boyfriend. Because, if you don't like your boyfriend anymore, & have no attraction for him, then why should you lead him on & let yourself miss out on another new person? So, I'd go out with the new guy that you like. But, when you do go out with that other guy, don't like telll everyonee & stuff.. or like your boyfriend or his friends type thing, because then it will make you look bad, that you dumped your boyfriend for some other guy. I don't think it makes a person look bad,but alot of people do.
So yeah, just go with the person you want to be with.
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i think if your board with him than you should eather spice it up
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dump him if you board than your not meant to be because cuples live together for years in marage and dont get board
its what every you think but i hope you take this to mind
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Don't worry bout it being long trust me I have seen longer about a page and a half so don't worry but this is what I'm going to say I think you should keep your boyfriend cause it seems to me like he really does like you since you said that he fell for you. So thats my advice I hope this helped. I guess I could say this that it is better to go out with someone you really know. But if you really want to go out with this new guy then no one is stopping you. So you have to make the decision whether or not you want to go out with your boyfriend or the new guy. But really I hope this helped. Good luck.
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I would stick with your boyfriend. The problems you seem to have with him CAN be fixed. If you dump him, imagine what you'd be doing to him. He fell for you straight away like you said, and he obviously really likes you. And if you dump him for another guy, or for reasons that can be solved, it's gonna make you look bad. I wouldn't go with this new guy. Yeah, you could miss out, but you've got someone amazing right now, and why would you give that up?
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